Per hour of commemoration, until the hroptedness was amended, the first thing you need to remember is delicacy. Find out, check out the examples of the words of condolences and. These guides will give an idea of ethics commemoration and prompt faithful words of consolation.

But measurement It has its own specifics. In it you handle To a whole circle of guestswho gathered to console close, to remember the deceased and listen to what friends and relatives would tell about him. Wait for your words, and your Mourning may sound S. B. ABOUTlies PaphosThan this is customary with the personal expression of condolences.

The words of the sorrow directly at the funeral should be extremely brief, but the speech on commemoration may not be limited to a pair of phrases.

Measurement words of grief and mourning speech

First appear and, if it is not obvious to everyone, tell me who you come to the deceased. Many spoke on the commemoration. therefore mourning speech should be laconic, and thoughts are pronounced. Guests will understand if the phrase will be interrupted from a sudden crying. But unpreparedness, verbidity, and even more so drunk, the gathered will be perceived as a sign of disrespect for the deceased. Do not rely on improvisation! Have brief theses with you, and at home or along the way to the mourning ceremony, repeat your memorial speech several times.

Do not retell a biography - enough tell about one bright case, episode of lifeSo that the guests remember this. It is important that the event you described has highlighted one of positive traits The deceased. It is better to tell about the episode, which you yourself highly appreciated. Examine examples, their close (in each necrologist is given an episode of life and condolences).

Accent public attention on the nature of the character that has demonstrated your story. Any negative trait It has a light face. Examples of complimar synonyms:

• You can say about a grumble person "He gave me a lesson of a critical look at the world."
• About the sight: "Caution, rationality and foresight - that's what we all have enough today, and what can be led by the deceased."
• Carelessness in finance: "He was so confident in the best future ..."
• Suspiciousness: "I knew human nature ..."
• Not very smart: "Gulling, naive, so believed people ..."
• Supposed: "I knew myself the price, only the best ..."
• Opened, stubborn: "Principal ..."
• Breakable, without a rod: "Conflict ... His Credo - Compromise."

On the commemoration it is impossible to talk about the shortcomings: " About deceased or good or nothing"- This is the basis of the foundation of etiquetteing. It is not necessary to remember, especially, out loud, about failures, weaknesses, sins and insults. Uncompanying, reconciliation, remembrance of the best - Here is the necessary aura of the memorial ceremony.

Sorrow words It is appropriate to supplement the quote thought of the deceased: ordinary, instructions, commandments or moral Maxim, which he voiced during his lifetime. Then the mourning speech should be summed up to the mention of the benefit that he brought close and society. It is not for nothing to conclude that a person lived life and promise eternal memory in the hearts of the relatives and friends of the deceased.

"Let the land he / her will be a fortune! Everlasting memory!" You can complete your commemorative speech by these words, but many will come. It is better to choose the relevant epitaph, the consonant personality of the deceased:

• If you or the deceased are believing people, look here:, or phrases.
• If, on the contrary, the deceased is consistent.
• For the dead, as well as epitaph.
• Many beautiful ideas of words of sorrow in or in epitaphy.

Protocol commemoration

On the commemoration you need, standing, the honorable a minute of silence. The mission of the lead trust the close family to a person who in a mourning situation will be able to control his emotions. It alternately gives a word native to the degree of proximity - spouse / spouse, children or parents, closest relatives, and then the deceased friends.

The presenter must prepare several phrases in advance to remove the pause and switch the attention of the guests if the speaker's speech is interrupted by tears. Remembered words.

Orthodox Christian tradition of commemoration

If the deceased was a believer, then the commemoration need to be held according to church customs, with compliance with church rituals. Speeches and prayers are the key components of the Christian ceremony of the commemoration. After the leading ceremony, thank all the guests for the fact that they came to commemorate and pray for the soul of the newly represented. Mourning speeches Pronounce when everyone has already gathered at the table.

In the Orthodox Christian tradition, the commemoration starts with 90 psalms and. The furnishings at the table is restrained, it is necessary to talk quietly, half-sew. The first word is provided by the chapter of the family. The head of the ceremony is then leading - a relative family of a person is respected by guests. Mourning words on Orthodox commemorations Pronounce on seniority. All who want to speak can and should get the word.

Mourning toasts * on Orthodox commemorations completed with the words: Let the Earth be [Name] Pooh, and the memory of eternal! Everyone drinks, not choking and putting a portrait or free place The deceased.

* Alcohol is not included in the Orthodox tradition of compensation (see). But practice to remember "not changing" deeply rooted in the people. It is important to observe the measure!

In Orthodoxy, it is known that, thanks to prayers, fans and other Christian rites, the soul of the new-represented becomes easier. A kind warm word from Rodney and friends pacifies the soul of the deceased and dults the mountains of loved ones. At the end of the commemoration, getting out of the table, each i can portrait or towards the place of late. Leaving. It is not accepted for the commemoration.

Poems on the commemoration? Yes, but delicately and in moderation.

Expressing condolences personally, with an eye on the eyes, contact verse is undesirable. Read gathered at a common table You can friends of the deceased - after all, everyone expects mournful spokes, memories and some pathos. Perhaps in verse. The main thing is that the rhyme is not vulgar to reflect the best features of the deceased and corresponded to the moment. And was brief. Or very short.

Example of mourning speech at the funeral

So as not to say "correct", but unsuitable to you by speech, we instead specific example We offer the optimal structure of the memorial word with examples of phrases.

Appeal:

• Dear friends and relatives [Name]!
• Dear guests!
• Brothers and sisters!
• Dear native and friends of our favorite [Name]

Personal positioning towards late (modestly):

• I am our nephew of our revered [Name].
• I am a brother who commemorated today [Name].
• We with [Name] Long / last years worked together / served.

About a mourning event (News of death or memories of funeral):

• Father had a long time; We understood what would be, but when we were called from the hospital ...
• When I found out that [the name] died, this evening I could not think about anything else.
• Although Grandfather lived a long life, the death message struck me.
• Today 40 days, as Mom left us.
• A year ago, we said goodbye to [Name], a man respected and worthy.

Few words about the best qualities of the deceased:

• Grandma was good man, hospitable and hospitable mistress.
• She was supporting and reliable rear for five years ago by the spouse.
• He was known as a joker and an optimist, it was easily and careless with him.
• He gave confidence in the future and was a support for others.

Citizize the melts, advice or moral value, which the deceased urged to follow relatives and relatives. Then in several phrases tell about bright case or episode of lifewhich illustrates the positive quality of the deceased. Well, if this is yours short story Complete the mosaic of opinions of other guests alert. Finish him, remembering the late gratitude or admiration for this personality.

Close your speech by the promise of eternal memory. In conclusion, it is permissible, and if the newly promoted was a believer, and there are many Christians among guests, then complete the memorial word. Be brief: long speech is perceived with difficulty. And you need to give to speak out to everyone the guests of the ceremony.

How to save?

Letter. "Dear Lyudmila Masterina! Women write to you from Severodonetsk. You spent ritual « Wires of human soul into the world of others. "We have long discussed the entire course of the wires, and decided to ask you to keep it. We really liked how surely, as correctly, the words and prayers were chosen, and how touching and with love he was held. We think this is a real sample loyal and correct, as you need to accomplish the soul of the deceased in the world. Everything is clear, everything is correct and everything is clear. We especially liked it, how voted you read prayers and appeals to the soul. And if all people had so much had the souls of their loved ones, they would not have any bindings from the deceased to relatives, and the soul would be calmer. We all want to have the content of this ritual "Wires of the soul into the world of another 40 days". We are very pleased, Lyudmila Masterina, type it on the site, and we rewrite. We think he is needed not only to us, but will be interesting to other people. We are very pleased, and thank you for the moments of the joy that we spent together.
Regards: Zinaida and seven more people. Severodonetsk. Ukraine.

Conducts of human soul into the world of another 40 days. This soul ritual is held on 40 days, before dinner. It is necessary that there was a lamp, which burned 40 days, and all those present kept a lit candle in their hands. Everyone is obliged to read prayers, hemispot, clearly, clearly, thoughtfully, consciously, personally everyone should pray for the soul, which today (on the 40 day) flies to God. Everyone who prays and reads prayers, personally sends the warmth of their soul to the soul of a deceased person who is present here, but no one sees it. If a person does not read prayers, and just holds a candle, he does not help anyone who does not help the outgoing soul. And it is bitter to see when it is stuck in the room, not to pick up a different word, a lot of people, relatives and other people, and reads prayers only a priest, and it is at best, the rest hold the candle, no more. Tell me why they filled the room that the outgoing soul is very difficult to approach near man. The soul perceives only someone who appeals to her, so you need to know what you can not do while reading a prayer for 40 days.
1. During reading a prayer to think about something bad or bad about the dead, it can be drawn by dark forces that do not mind to enjoy the energy that will come from prayers. But after the care of the soul, it is also impossible to talk or think bad about the dead. Dirty your thoughts and words convey to your deceased close dark forces that will be done with pleasure, since they need the energy of life, and they will take it from the soul of the deceased of your loved one, and this is the strongest pain that you do not feel, but feeling the soul. And know if you send light, warm, good, peace and love to your friends and relatives, then the warmth of your soul not only cleans space, but also helps purposefully, also the soul of the deceased, your prayers, your warmth, your love, your bright The memory of the left soul will be purposefully transferred to the Lord only to her, and it will give her strength and the speedy realization of his mistakes and sins. Think about you left with warmth and love, whatever in life they were not. They really need your prayers and your bright memory of them.
2. Do not, so that in the crowd of prayed people in a drunken state, or very sick, since they are already with their condition not only make hurt the outgoing soul, but also attract dark forces.
3. You can not speak with an increased voice, otherwise you are moving the soul, and she will have to wait for his o'clock outside the house. Only calm, peace and wishes of love of the outgoing soul.
4. Do not include any music and light the candles with different smells, but you can incense. I need a soul fresh air, clean, calm and peace.
5. It is impossible to read prayers quickly, loudly, without pronouncing the words, otherwise the outgoing soul will not understand the words of prayer, and a loud voice, and if an unexpected, she can cross, fly out of the house and wait for its o'clock in a secluded place.
6. Do not invite foreign people to read prayers on the 40th day, as is customary in Russia. It is impossible to do this. You do not know which past these women, and what thoughts and things they have done earlier, and why they decided to walk and read the dead people of prayer. The Lord against this action, and to be true, learn to do everything right. After all, the soul is of a person close to you, and you read prayers with love for him, and what love do you read their strangers with love?
7. According to a fortieth day, only close to the soul of the deceased person prayed for a dead man, who knew him well. Self-sequential people who came to eat, and not help the soul of the deceased, and which with indifference will repeat prayers (if they still repeat). It goes into the world of another soul of a loved one, and she wants to hug their relatives for the last time, and the presence of other people's people can prevent her, it is to do. Therefore, it is desirable that in the last reading of the prayers were only the closest, and those who came to see or just spend the dead on the last path will wait on the street, for example. It is the closests that remain with the soul of the deceased and say goodbye to her through prayers and through heart fellowship.

The priest can conduct a ritual, unfortunately, modern priests are unlikely to agree to carry out such soul wires, but not necessarily he. Maybe someone from relatives or someone from loved ones, who, clear and correct speech. The presenter reads slowly and clearly, and everything is also slow, clearly, consciously and hemispotes are repeated from the first person. Over time, such rituals will be invited truly clairvoyant, so that they can transfer the last words of the outgoing soul to everyone to whom it will turn. I said truly clairvoyant, and not those who are associated with the Astral Plan of the Earth. Truly clairvoyant and clarifying directly mercy with God, which helps a clairvoyant in work, and such a person tells the truth, which you can not tell about those who read astral Plan. So, the lamp is burning, candles are lit, on the table photo of the deceased, in the room relatives and the closest. Calm as possible, and silence.
1. Introducing:

"In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit. Amen! In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen! God Father, God the Sun, God of the Holy Spirit. Amen!" Everyone is baptized.
2. Appeal to God.

"Our Lord, Vladyka Jesus Christ, I appeal to you, to your grand heart. The Lord is our merciful, today makes the transition to the world of your son (name), (your daughter, name). He will have a long way to Parental house In the world of light, love and good. I ask you, Lord, Vladyka Jesus Christ, convey his soul love and warmth of my soul, my heart, which I send through prayers. Let the light of my prayers strengthen into your divine light and give (the name) of strength and confidence on the way to God Most High. God Father, God the Sun, God of the Holy Spirit. Amen! In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen.
3. Prayers.
a) "About the Most High Lord and Your Particle in Me!"3 times. ("Agni Yoga" Elena Roerich)
b) the faith symbol. Jesus Christ. (Prayers "Sunbeam" or website www.masterina.at.ua, on the page "Prayers")
c) the prayer of the earthlings to the Lord. Jesus Christ. (Prayers "Sunbeam")
d) our father. (Prayers "Sunbeam")
e) the Virgin. (Prayers "Sunbeam")
e) Mother Maria Rosary, given for the development of new humanity. (Prayers "Sunbeam")
g) prayer for the dead. (Prayers "Sunbeam") We read twice by inserting only the name of the deceased, for the third time we read for all souls in a different world. Yes, for all the dead, since the soul goes into the world of others and they are waiting for and necessary to come to her the light and help of God).

Prayer for all the dead. Jesus Christ.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ,
In the name of all the ascended Vladyk,
In the name of all the saints not ascended
I ask you to send my prayers to where there are those who have moved to the other side of life. Please send the light of my prayers to the souls who forgot and do not remember, as well as all my left relatives and friends.
I ask the Lord to send the warmth of my soul to them, my respect for them, my love for their souls, as the sparkle of God.
I ask the Lord to forgive them all the sins that they did consciously and not consciously.
I apologize to them to direct the light of heaven as much as they need to realize their mistakes and sins.
Lord is merciful! I ask you, forgive them and hindle! Sorry and nice! Sorry and nice!
They went love their souls, so that they could become stronger and stronger that the awareness went faster. Lord! Forgive them and hindle!
Lord! Forgive them and hindle! Lord! Forgive them and hindle!
Let always all the souls surround the light of heavenly love and the blessing of the Lord.
Kingdoms to all heaven! Kingdoms to all heaven! Kingdoms to all heaven! In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen.

4. Appeal to the soul of the deceased.
(Name), I know that you hear me now, then I have the opportunity to ask you for forgiveness.
(Name), forgive me for all my mistakes, all the insults towards you. Sorry for everything, if ever consciously or not consciously made you badly. Forgive me, I'm sorry! (Silent for a few seconds).
(Name), and I forgive you for everything that ever offended, insulted, deceived me or hurt me. I forgive you for everything, for everything sincerely and forever.
"I forgive everyone who offended me, I apologize to those who offended I" (Reads everyone consciously, three times).
(Name), i forgive you and let go (clear this word and slower) you from myself, sending you the warmth of your soul, your heart.(3 times, clearly, consciously).
And let my forgiveness and my love will free you from all earthly way and make you free. (3rd, clearly, consciously)
You will stay forever in my memory, just we will live in different worlds. (3rd, clearly, consciously)
Your soul will fly to God, to the parent home, and I will stay on earth. (3rd, clearly, consciously).
And let them break through the thread, connecting me and you, but the bright memory will remain forever and the love of each other. (3rd, clearly, consciously).
I let you go from myself with peace and love! (3rd, clearly, consciously and confident).
In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen! (3 times)
May Heaven angels will help you to rise to the home of the Almighty Father!(3 times)
Yes, you will meet you the love of the Great! (3 times)
And let the power of the fiery cross and the love of the Heaven's Father will be with you.(3 times)
Live and know that you love and remember you on Earth!(3rd, clearly and confident)
In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen!3 times.
5. Minute silence.

6. Thank you prayer.
I offer my gratitude from the bottom of my heart, the Lord Jesus Christ, all the lords, the archangels, angels, the Holy Heavenly Light, who help me and all people of the planet Earth. Low you bow, beloved, for love your to us, people and the entire planet. Let the light of love with your will highlight our consciousness and direct us to light, peace, good, mutual understanding and love. In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen. In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen. God Father, God the Sun, God of the Holy Spirit. Amen.(Read this prayer is hotly, cardiovascular, thoughtfully once).

Repeat everything. Yes, it will take up the dawn of love over the entire planet Earth and over every living being! (3rd) with God! With God blessing! With God blessing !

7. Master . And now I will read prayer. She reads before the burial of the body to the ground, and we will all leave the body exactly for an hour.

Prayer before the burial of the body to the ground

In the name of the Lord's father of the Almighty, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we ask the angels of healing to pick up the divine energy from each cell, each joint, of each vessel and the entire bone system of the physical body, in which the soul lived (name), and direct all the exemplated energy soul ( Name), which for many years gave life to this body.

Lord merciful! We ask for forgiveness if the physical body and the mind of the dead (his) (name) committed mistakes and sins. Forgive her (his), Lord! Forgive her (his), Lord! Forgive her (his), Lord!

We know that your soul (name) is now here and you see everything yourself and hear. You (name) have time to say goodbye to your physical body. It is no longer useful for you, and you are alive, and we will always remember you with love and good. Kingdoms to you heaven! Kingdoms to you heaven! Kingdoms to you heaven! Happy way to Father Almighty!

In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen. In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and the Divine Mother. Amen. God Father, God the Sun, God of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

From a minute there are silently, then leave the body alone for an hour. It is impossible that at this time there was noise, screams. Angels will work in silence and with them will be a soul, and noise, knocks, loud voices can interfere with them. While reading the prayers, I saw, and then told the relatives, as the soul was twitched for everyone and said goodbye, and when everyone was sitting at the table, I passed the farewell words of the soul of outgoing relatives. We must know that the soul will be near the relatives and at the table, if the room is quiet, and everyone will talk to a hemispot. After the farewell words, the soul bowed to everyone, said: "It's time for me to leave. Farewell!" She bowed to everyone and disappeared. The clock was shown by 13 hours. To 15 o'clock, everyone went to the cemetery, since it was at least 15 hours every day "Gates" open to the world of others, and they are open to 17 hours. I ask everyone, do not take anything with you on the cemetery. All you need, you have already done, now it is necessary to help your soul to climb the great staircase, which leads to the father of heaven. And we waited for the opening of the gate, and with God, and the prayer helped climb the soul to the Lord. And I saw the angels handed the soul to God, as a gentle light of love surrounded her, and allowed her to wave to us standing on Earth, with her handle. Happy way to world of light, good and love. That's all. Now, indeed, everyone will live in their own world, and bless the Lord all those who live on our land, and all living in a different world. With God blessing!

My friends from Severodonetsk, I fulfilled your request, and I hope that the ritual "Conducts of the human soul into the world of others" will be accepted by people correctly. We told you how baptism will be held in the future across the earth, and now you will know how to properly accomplish the souls of dead people close to you. And this ritual " Wires of the soul into the world of different on the 40 day " It will become common to all shower living on Earth. The time will come when all our prayers will be translated into all languages \u200b\u200bof the world, and this ritual will become common to all. And this is the truth! And in conclusion I want to say that as soon as you start reading prayers, then the Lord himself will read with you. And it is 100%, though. I saw it all with my own eyes.

And returning to the letter, I want to contact the residents of Severodonetsk, and the inhabitants of the nearest villages. Severodonetsk is a beautiful city, I think the inhabitants in it are wonderful, but, with what sadness I looked at your cemeteries, which do not have borders, have no fence, it means that his border is open for many kilometers. But you know, you can not make a cemetery in the forest, especially coniferous. And if the Lord will allow the soul to fly to a memorial day to a meeting with relatives, then she will not be able to find his grave among the trees, and the main thing, she can be born about sharp pine needles, and of course she will hardly want to meet with their relatives on certain days . And wake coming to an empty grave, as you already do some. The cemetery must be open from all sides, but is necessarily fenced from all sides. The residents of the cemetery should know only their territory, they do not go beyond her borders. What do you have? And you have beautiful forests, wonderful pines, but someone, not thoughtful, on the edge of the forest made a grave, and went, and went. Now bury in the forest to whom where he wants. It's scary! This is not true! It is dangerous for living people! Why no one thinks about it? You just imagine a huge coniferous forest, with his mushrooms and berries, turned into a solid cemetery. In this forest, nothing can be rolled, you can not walk, relax, since the entire forest belongs to the residents of the cemetery. I saw their huge amount throughout the forest. I saw in the depths of the forest automobile roadwhere the accident was already occurring, and, as drivers said later, it was happening, as if the disconnection of consciousness for a second. And it is. And this is all the tricks of the residents of the cemetery, they are offended that without their permission you enter their territory. Does it really need to pick up a huge forest from people and give away astral spirits? I think it's just the irresponsibility of the human, and "my hut with the edge, I don't know anything," and maybe the local government really does not know anything? Maybe so, then I sincere them, sorry, as sorry for everyone who is surrounded by such cemeteries.
Learn, people, do everything right, sincerely, consciously and with love. We gave you information that already works on Earth, but to accept or not to accept depends on you.
Bless, Lord, all who will read these lines to the right awareness.
Peace you, people! The world is your home! The world of our land!

Lyudmila Masterina. Full and augmented text in the book "Life Lessons" Tom №3

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40 days after death - how to remember and how to pray for the deceased?

After the death of a person comes to 3, 9 and 40 days and the last date is considered the most important, since the soul falls on the court and its further purpose is solved. A lot of traditions are connected with this day that people are observed to help the deceased person in this responsible day.

What does 40 days after death mean?

The fortieth day of commemoration of the deceased person is considered a certain face that shares the earthly and eternal life. From a religious point of view, it is a more tragic date in comparison with the physical ending. 40 days after the funeral - the date that reminds people that the soul after the end of the earthly life goes to his father heavenly. Commemoration can be considered a certain act of mercy.

Where is the soul of the deceased to 40 days?

Many people point out that the first time feel the presence of a deceased person, which is manifested by the smell, sighs, steps, and so on. It is due to the fact that for forty days the Spirit does not leave the place where he dwells.

How to pray for the deceased to 40 days?

The commemoration of the dead people is the debt of every believer. According to the opinion of the Church, it is necessary to pray for the first forty days after the death. Prayer for 40 days for the shower wires can be pronounced in the church or at home. If a person chooses a second option, then it is recommended to tie a handkerchief on the head and light the candles in front of the Lord. Finding out the rules 40 days after death and how to remember, it is worth noting that the prayer in this period helps to find faith in the soul and easier to cope with the loss of a loved one.

"The Son of God, Lord Jesus Christ. Sorrow, my hearter quench on the deceased slave (the name of the deceased). With a loss of grave I handle help, but grief to stand the forces give. And in the fortieth sorrow, the soul of the deceased (the name of the deceased) in the kingdom of heaven. And it will be so now, died, in the eyelids. Amen".

Is it possible to remember 40 days before?

Life is unpredictable, and often there is no possibility to carry out scheduled events. The priests say that if it is impossible to remember the deceased on the 40 day, it is not a tragedy or sin, because it is possible to do it in advance or even later. It is forbidden to endure a loturgy, memorial and cemetery. Many are more interested in how to count 40 days from the date of death, so the first day - the day of death, even if the cum has happened late in the evening until midnight.

What are preparing 40 days after death?

On this day, it is impeded by a memorial dinner, the purpose of which is to remember the deceased and pray for him. It is important to remember that food is not the main one, so you do not need to try to make a gorgeous menu with a lot of delicacies. The memorial lunch for 40 days, the menu of which should take into account the rules of Christianity, implies compliance with several important principles:

What do you carry in the cemetery for 40 days?

According to traditions on commemoration days, people go to the cemetery to say goodbye to a close man. On the grave with you, you need to take flowers, which should be a paired amount, and a candle. These objects are alive can express their respect to the mustache. It is impossible to talk loud on the grave, arrange snacks and even more so drink alcohol. Another important point relating to what is brought to the cemetery for 40 days, - as a treat for the deceased, you can take a plate of kuts from the house and leave it from the grave.

What are distributed for 40 days?

There are many traditions associated with memorial days. For a fortieth day, it is customary to distribute different treats to people so that they remembered the deceased. In most cases, there are cookies, candy and baking. The customs 40 days after death say that during the first forty days after the death, it is necessary to distribute the things of the deceased person to those who need people, asking for praying to his soul. This tradition is not described in the Bible and is a personal decision of each.

Panhid for 40 days - when to order?

For the fortieth day of remembering the deceased, it is necessary to go to the temple where you can pray and order a panocide and forty.

40 days after death - traditions and rituals

In Russia, a huge number of customs have been formed, many of which they reached the present day. Exist different signsIt is impossible to do up to 40 days, but it is worth noting that many of them are invention and the church does not confirm them. Among famous traditions You can select the following:

Why can not gnaw seeds up to 40 days?

Over the years, various customs have been formed related to the commemoration of dead people and some of them will seem strange many of them. For example, there is a ban on the fact that it is impossible to nibble seeds up to 40 days, because it is possible to braid a soul of a deceased person. There is another explanation of this signa, according to which, those who break this ban will have a long time to hurt their teeth. The third interpretation of the superstition concerns that snapping seeds can be attracted to themselves evil spirits and devils.

Why distribute spoons for 40 days?

Since ancient times, there is a custom handing out spoons of wood, which people, ate on a memorial dinner. IN modern world Such cutlery is not used, so we distribute ordinary spoons. The sign is explained by the fact that when a person uses such a device, he involuntarily remembers the deceased. There is another strange superstition, according to which the dishes used for 40 days should not be distributed. It is believed that she is a participant in the ritual of farewell, and if a person takes her home, he will bring trouble to himself and even death.

Not only the human life, but also the transition to his other world is accompanied by a number of customs and rites, which are extremely important at the funeral and commemoration. Energy of death is very heavy, and disregard for signs and superstitions may entail unpleasant consequences - Loss of failures, illness, loss of loved ones.

Meet

There are several rules when meeting with funeral procession on the street:

• This event foreshadows happiness in the future. However, today will not bring any change for the better.
• The procession cannot be traveled by the road - if the deceased died of illness, it is possible to join this young on itself.
• It is also impossible to go before the coffin - according to the signs, you can get to the light before the dead man.
• It is undesirable to move towards the funeral procession, it is better to stop and wait. Men at the same time should remove hats.
• Out of the catatball - bad sign, promises great troubles or severe diseases.
• If the deceased under the windows of your house - do not look out the window, it is better to pull the curtains. It is also necessary to wake households - it is believed that sleeping people the dead man can pick up with him. If at this time a small child eats - under his crib should be put water.

Before the funeral

Before betraying the deceased land, the following rules must be followed:

• The next 40 days after death, all mirrors and mirror surfaces in the house should be hung with an opaque cloth - otherwise they can become a trap for the soul of the deceased, and it will never be able to go to another world.
• In the room with deceased, windows and windows, as well as doors should be closed.
• A live person must be in the house with the dead man. According to this, respect for the departed, and also keep his things to have taken other people, such negligence or angry intent can turn into negative consequences.
• If there are animals in the house, especially dogs and cats - for the time of the funeral, they are better taken to another place. It is believed that howling the dog can scare the soul of the deceased, and the cat jumped into the coffin is a bad sign.
• You can not sleep in the room where the deceased is. If it still happened, a noodle is offered for breakfast.

In order for the deceased, there was no harm, in his room all night they put a lit lamp, and fir branches are put on the floor and the threshold. The needles should lie up to the most funeral, and people leaving the house should come to her, thus dropping, thus death from their feet. After the burial, the branches are delivered and burned, avoiding falling under the smoke.

• Buying anything for the funeral, you can not take delivery (trifle) - so you can buy new tears.
• While the body is in the house, they do not remove and do not carry garbage. Sorrow with the dead is remedied - to make all of the house.
• The coffin must be made by the standards of the deceased, so that it was not free. If the coffin is too large - to be in the house of another death.
• Wash and clothed the dead man better than yet cooled so that it appears before the creator clean. Make it should certainly widow. Water after the washing should be poured into a deserted place, preferably not under the tree.
• If a unmarried girl dies, she is clogged into a wedding dress - she becomes the bride of God.
• Put on the deceased red - to the death of a blood relative.
• If the widow of the deceased wants to marry in the future, she should put the late husband in the coffin irrelevant and uncooked.
• Things that the deceased constantly wore in life (glasses, prosthesis, clock) must be put with him to the coffin. There you should also put the measure that the body was measured for the manufacture of a coffin, the comb, which were combing the dead man, and the handkerchief, so that he could wipe off the sweat during Terrible court.
• If under the table with late put a piece of bread with salt - this year no one in the family will no longer die.
• One of bad adoption - If the eyes of the deceased are loosely closed or will suddenly open. It is believed that he is looking out for whom to pick up with him, and it foreshadows a new death.

Signs during and after the rite

• Bring the coff cover in the house of the deceased - to another death in the family. Also, you can also leave the coffin lid at home, going on the funeral.
• To bear the coffin from the house should be men. At the same time, they should not be blood relatives to the departed so that he does not pull them on - the blood stretches to the blood.
• During the end, they try not to hurt the coffin for the door of the door. The body needs to be hunted forward - so that the soul knew where she was directed, but did not remember the roadway, and did not return.
• Following the deceased Rye, the deceased is to close the death, and no one in the family has died anymore.
• On the hand of the coffin, the coffin is told towels, which these men then leave themselves - as a gratitude from the deceased.
• If a person stumbled when the coffin is taken out - this is a bad sign for him.
• Together with the deceased, things belonging to live people should not lie - they acquire mystical power and can pull the owner behind them.

If cremation has to be protected, the coffin does not put icons - they cannot be burned.

• After carrying out the body, the floors in the house need to be selected from the room where the dead was lying, to entrance doorAfter which the broom is immediately thrown away. In the same direction, wash the floors and get rid of the cloth.
• The table or shop where the coffin stood with the body, it is necessary to flip up the legs and leave it for a day - to avoid the appearance of another coffin with the dead. If flipping the furniture is not possible, it is necessary to put an ax.
• When the dead man is carried, it is impossible to turn back and look in the windows of my own house, so as not to attract death into it.
• Forget to close the gate in the courtyard after the detention of the coffin - to another death. If the doors of the house closed until the procession returned from the burial - there will be a quarrel in the family soon.
• If the coffin fell or the dead man fell - this is a very bad mark that foreshadows another funeral for 3 months. To avoid this, family members must negle pancakes, go to the cemetery to three graves with the same as they, name, and each read the prayer "Our Father". Then to distribute pancakes at the church together with alms. The rite needs to be carried out in silence.
• The graveters, a dust pit, stumbled upon the old grave with the preserved bones - the deceased safely enters the afterlife and will lie quietly, not disturbed by living.
• Before omitting the coffin in the grave, there should be a coin - so that the deceased bought himself a place.
• If the coffin does not fit in the pit and it has to expand, it means that the Earth does not accept the sinner. Too big grave - after the departed, his relative will soon go.
• If the grave collapses, one more death should be expected. At the same time, the collapse from the south foreshadows the care of a man, from North - Women, from Eastern - Senior in the House, with Western-Child.
• The native deceased should throw a handful of land on the coffin cover when he sank into the grave - then the dead man will not be and frighten. As soon as the coffin gives the first handy of the earth, the soul will finally break up with the body.

You can put a glass with vodka on the grave - for the rest of the soul. It is also believed that the souls of people turn into birds - they need to feed them, having choking or leaving a chunk of bread.

• If it turned out that unnecessary accessories were bought for funerals - they should be attributed to the cemetery, and not to leave in the house.
• Some souls are tied to things and can disturb living relatives. If it did not work out to invest an expensive dear subject in the coffin, it can be left in the cemetery. Clothes of the deceased is desirable to challenge.
• A bed on which a person died, better to bring out of the house along with bed linen. It is advisable to burn them without falling under the smoke.
• The image that faced the dead, after the funeral, must be attributed to the river and put on the water - this is the only way to get rid of the icon without negative consequences. If there are no rivers nearby - the image must be given to the church, you can not store it or throw it out.
• If an error in the name or surname of the deceased is allowed in the death certificate - to be another funeral in the family.
• If the death of the owner of the house, in the coming year it is necessary to plant a chicken-awareness so that the farm has declined.
• We can't wear a widow or widow wedding ringOtherwise, you can attract a serious illness.
• If in one of the houses on the street funeral, the wedding is not played on this day.

Rules of behavior

At the funeral and after them it is very important to behave correctly:

• It is impossible to swear, arguing and noise in the cemetery.
• The funeral should wear the clothes of dark tones (preferably black). It is believed that this color does not attract the attention of death.

In the funeral procession should not be pregnant women and small children. The birth of a new life and death is diametrically opposite. In addition, the aura of children is still insufficient, and may not cope with the negative impact of death.

• During the ceremony of the deceased, it is necessary to remember only good words.
• It is impossible to cry at the funeral - the tears of their relatives hold the soul of the deceased, it sinks in tears and can not fly away.
• In the bouquets who carry on the funeral, there must be a pair of color - this is the wish of the late prosperity in the afterlife.
• You need to leave the cemetery without looking around, wiping when the leg exit - so as not to take death with you. Also from the cemetery should not take anything.
• After the funeral, it is impossible to visit a visit without remembering the deceased, otherwise death can be brought.
• After visiting the house with the deceased, cemetering or meeting of the funeral procession, you need to light the wax candle with matches and hold your fingers and palms as close as possible to the flame. Then the fire should be squeezed with your fingers without blown. This will help to avoid tightening the disease and death on themselves and their family. You can touch the oven - it symbolizes the element of fire. Well also wash under flowing water - Accept a shower or swim in the river.

Weather

• If the funeral on the day is clear weather, the deceased was a kind and bright man.
• Rain at the funeral, especially with clear before that sky - a good sign, it means that nature itself cries about the care of a wonderful person. Prayers of relatives are heard, and the soul of the deceased will soon calm down.
• If during the funeral on the cemetery thunder thunder - to be in the coming year of another death.

Up to 40 days

For 40 days after the death of the soul of the deceased is still on Earth. So that it easily moved to another world, relatives should adhere to certain traditions:

• After the burial on the commemoration and in the house of the deceased put his photo, and near it - a glass with water and a piece of bread. If water from the glass is evaporated, it should be pouring it. The one who eats the meal of the deceased, is waiting for a disease and death. These products can not be given even to animals.

• While the dead is in the house, it is necessary to put a bowl with water to the window or the table, and hang the towel and leave for 40 days - at this time the soul flies over the ground, cleared and wiping.
• Native to arrange a commemoration - to accomplish the deceased meal. The first time the commemorative feast is done immediately after the funeral - at this time the soul leaves the body. The second time they gather on the ninth day after death - in the period when the soul enjoyed the beauties of Paradise, and she shows hellish torments. Then - in a fortieth day, when the soul finally leaves the world of living to take its place in Paradise or hell.

There are a number of rules for remembered trapes:

• If for the commemoration to lend furniture in other houses, you can pass the death there.
• Before proceeding with the meal, it is necessary to pray for the deceased - prayers help his soul easier to transfer Naitaria and get into the kingdom of God.

The table does not have to be with abundance of dishes, the main thing is to prepare ritual dishes - bunning, memorial pancakes, pies, compote or kissel.

• First of all, pancakes are served on the commemoration. The first pancake and the cup of Kiel is always given to the late.
• During the commemorative feast it is impossible to choose so as not to transfer trouble from one house to another.
• Who will sing, laugh and have fun on the commemoration, the wolf will soon want to swell.
• If a person uses too many hot drinks - his children will become alcoholics.
• The ninth day is called uninvited - a lot of people are not invited to commemorate, and they are going to close their relatives and close deceased.
• In a fortieth day, you need to put a set of devices for the deceased - on this day, his soul finally leaves our world, and says goodbye to relatives.
• On a fortieth day, ladies are baked from the dough, symbolizing the Ascension of the soul on the sky, they distribute alms, ordered prayers.
• After the commemoration, food from the table (candy, cookies, cakes) distribute close and even unfamiliar people, so that as much as possible people wished the soul of the late to gain a rest.

Death is grief and pain for loved ones. Natural consolation is the desire to help, relieve the deceased transition to other faces of being. According to the Christian religion, the 40th day is considered the most important of all memorial days, because during this period the soul for forever says goodbye to earth and leaves it. Many are organized 40 days after the death of the commemoration. What to say on this day and how to behave?

What is the meaning of the memorial rite

It is important to know - the essence of the memorial rite is to make the transition of the soul of the deceased person in another world painless, to help the soul to appear before God, feel peace and peace. And this is achieved with the help of prayers. All that will be said about the deceased person on this day: good words, prayers, good memories and speeches, will help the soul to withstand God's judgment. Therefore, it is so important to comply with all the traditions related to this day, and know how to make a commemoise 40 days after death.

The main thing on this day is to pray. It can be done by yourself, and you can invite a priest.

Christian traditions of remembering the departed for 40 days

The rite of remember is known from the very beginning of the origin of Christianity. The goal of the rite is to give the soul to the rest of the peace and peace, to help know the eternal celestial kingdom.

For this, relatives, close and friends of the deceased must be gathered behind the memorial table. When is it organized 40 days after the death of the avenue, what does it say that? It is believed that the more people will remember the deceased in their prayers, the better the soul of the one for whom they pray. On this day, it is customary to remember the moments of the life of the well, making the focus on his virtues and good actions.

Life does not stand still if previously commemoration Conducted in the house of the deceased, now it can be done in a restaurant or cafe. The traditions of Orthodoxy oblige this day to take more people than on the 9th day, because the soul leaves the land, and with a person not only relatives should say goodbye, and everyone who wants to do this.

40 days after death, commemoration: What to talk to the cemetery?

A visit to the grave of the deceased person is a mandatory part of the memorial ritual. You need to take flowers and a candle. In the cemetery, it is customary to carry a pair number of colors, even numbers - Symbol of life and death. Laying colors is the best way to show respect for the deceased.

Having come to light the candle and pray for the calm of the soul, then you can simply stand up, remember, remembering good moments From the life of the deceased person.

The cemetery does not suit noisy conversations and discussions, everything should be held in the atmosphere of calm and peace.

Society for Society in the Church

Church remembrance is mentioning the name of the deceased during a prayer for the liturgia to save the soul and the eternal benefit of the commemorative. The rite is carried out after the relatives of the deceased will submit a note "about the rest." It is important to know that the names of only those who were baptized in the Orthodox Church are applied in this note.

For relatives of the deceased better view Donations will be a candle for the dead man. At the time of installing the candle, it is necessary to pray for the soul, asking for the Lord to forgive free and involuntary sins of the deceased person.

According to the canons of Orthodoxy, the commemoration (40 days after death) before the established period is not conducted. If still by coincidence, it is necessary to hold a rite in more early Dat, then in the next after Sorokiin, weekend must be defined by alms. On the same day, hold church remembrance.

Organization of memorial table

The purpose of the memorial lunch is to remember the deceased person, pray for the rest of his soul, to provide psychological support to those in need, thank people for participation and help. You can not arrange lunch in order to hit invited and exquisite dishes, boast an abundance of ourselves or feed to the dump.

The main thing is not food, but the union in the mountain and the support of those who are hard. It is important to take into account the main rules of Christianity: a restriction in the reception of alcoholic beverages, the post and availability on the table the simplest dishes.

Do not perceive the commemoration as a feast. Large waste in this case are unjustified, it will be much more useful to send financial investments in the area of \u200b\u200bcharity.

If there is already more than 40 days after death, the commemoration can be listed, if only a commemorative table is transferred. It is necessary to pray for the soul of the dead at the same time.

Main dishes remembered table

Covering on the table, it is desirable to give preference to lean dishes. The head of the table should be Casca. This porridge is cooked from whole grains, with the addition of honey, nuts and raisins. The dish personifies the revival of the soul, symbolizes the benefits of eternal life.

The composition of dishes mainly depends on the traditions of a family that suits the compensation. Traditionally prepare: pancakes, pies, cereals, soup and kissel. Various snacks are allowed: salads, vegetable or meat cutting. Among the first dishes: Borsch, noodles on chicken broth, beetter. Garnish - buckwheat porridge, pilaf or mashed potatoes. Church against alcoholic beverages, in any case, their use should be limited.

If the commemoration coincided with the post, then the meat should be changed to the fish. Salads are perfectly suitable winere. Let the table be mushrooms, vegetables and fruits. The main thing on the commemoration is to reinforce the power to continue to pray to pray for the dead man.

How to prepare a memorial speech

Neither some comment do not cost without uttering a memorial speech. Sometimes it is special for this incident to invite a lead that will help to correctly arrange the order of speeches. If the presenter is absent, his role should take on someone from close relatives.

When 40 days after death, the words pronounced at the table should be distributed in compliance with some priority protruding. First, they say the closest relatives, then friends and least familiar.

Do not hope too much for improvisation. This is a sad event, and listen to you will be people who have grief. Brushes and accuracy are the main criteria for remembered speech. Try to find time to practice at home, so you can decide where it is worth silent, and what to add.

We usually come all the closest on the commemoration (40 days after death). Speech, uttered at the table, should not consist of a biography of a deceased person, because there will be people there, who are so well knowing all the life stages of the dead man. To talk very well about a fact of life, which will serve as evidence of the virtues of the deceased.

When they are preparing for 40 days after the death of the avenue, the verses dedicated to the mourning event can be more than ever by the way. They will help tune in to a lyrical-tragic way, which contributes to the creation of the atmosphere of the alert.

You can add your speech by photograph of the deceased or thing that belonged to him, which will prove those present about what good man was the deceased. Avoid references to the errors of the late, gossip and secrets. Such speeches behind the memorial table is not a place.

Approximate version of speech

Many are thinking when they organize 40 days after the death of the commemoration: "What to say?" ... An established option There is no such speech. The most important thing is to utter words from the soul. But still there are certain rules using which can be prepared and correctly expressed during a memorial rite.

Starting follows from the greeting of those present with the subsequent story about who you have already come to. Tell me a few words about Thurares and go to the story about the good sides of the person who commemorate. If you can, remember the good moments experienced together. It will be very relevant to involvement in the memories of other people so that your story is supplied to good memories. Speech finish the promise forever remember the one who comes.

Nevertheless, you can always remember the deceased person when you want. The main thing is to comply with the basic rules of the memorial rite: prayer, alms and good memories of the dead.

In Orthodoxy, the date 40 days after the death of a person is considered very important as 9 days. According to established Christian canons, it is on this day that the soul of a deceased person in the world receives a final decision on where she will go now. But it is believed if the soul of the deceased cannot change anything or fix it, then it will be able to help her and relatives.

Today we will tell you what is happening on the 40th day according to beliefs with the soul and what should this day make relatives - how to commemorate, what to cook and talk and do when you remember the deceased.

Date value 40 days after the death of man

If you believe the Orthodox traditions, the most significant for the relatives of the deceased dates as the third, 9th and 40th day after death, and they must conduct them according to all the memorial canons. At the same time, the 40th day is the most significant, since, as already mentioned at the very beginning, this is the time when a man's soul is finally distinguished from earthly life in eternity.

From a religious point of view, 40 days is the date more significant than even the physical death of a person. And now let's find out what is happening with the soul of the deceased before and after the 40-day commemoration.

During our earthly life, the soul of a person is in unity with the body, but at the time of death the soul leaves him. But the soul takes away from life many habits, passions, acts and everything else, including both negative and positive. After the death of the soul receives or punish or award, depending on how life was lived.

After the death of the soul passes a serious test, since she must overcome a number of obstacles and report to God for all the deeds. Remember the following:

• it is necessary to understand that up to 40 soul of the deceased will continue to be in place of their habitatbecause it will be in some confusion, as it does not know how to live without a physical shell;
• about 3-4 soul day slowly will begin to get used to the new physical condition And it will cease to fear him, she will harm from the body and is able to perform so-called walks;
• it is worth knowing that relatives and close dead man up to 40 days should not order hysterics and bitterly sufferSince his spirit hears everything and is experiencing strong torment due to this. The best that can be close to do immediately after death is to read the Sacred Scripture.

Now consider what happens with the soul after forty days. After this date, the soul gets the opportunity for the last time to return to Earth to visit the most important places for itself. Many people who lost their relatives often tell stories that it is on this day that they come to them in dreams or visions to finally say goodbye.

In addition, many people who have attended this deadline that the deceased native somewhere nearby, admitted that after 40 days their presence ceased to be felt, they no longer heard their steps, smells or sighs.

What happens to the soul: she goes to God to appear before his court. But, according to beliefs, it does not judge her, and the person will be independently responsible for his deed. It is believed that after staying the soul in front of the Most High, she receives two ways - to reunite with his light or go to the abyss.

This or that decision on the movement of the soul is not taken from the will of the will, but on how the spiritual person was and what his life was.

If you believe the church canons, for forty days, the soul expects what decision will be made about it further fateHowever, this court will not be the last. After all, then she will expect the next, final terrible court. On it, the fate of many people will change very much.

Commemoration 40 days: the order of

Many are often confused in the question, how to count down after the death of man 40 days. So, the calendar death death date is taken, it is her first day since death, even if she came in the evening. Accordingly, that 9 or 40-1 the day of death will be considered ninth and forty, taking into account the day of death.

On the fortieth day after the death of the soul again returns to the native house and there is about a day, and after the end of the commemoration it is already out of forever. Among the believers people are believed that if you don't remember this day on all canons, then the soul of the dead will be forever to suffer. That is why it is very important to spend this date correctly.

The procedure for performing the following:

• remember that the first thing to do is pray. It should be praying not only during the commemoration, but also in previous days. Thanks to this, you will alleviate the fate of your loved one, thereby persuading the highest strength to change the decision regarding his soul in best side and show mercy;
• to save the soul of the deceased, when you need to dwell from a certain sin. So, if you even sometimes eat alcohol or smoke, then to save the soul, you should refuse your harmful preference for some time. If you do not smoke and do not drink, then for your own benefit, prayers and for consolation of the soul of the deceased at least to give up for several days from watching TV or Internet;
• highly an important point It is both exactly the commemoration. All those who will gather behind the memorial table must be Orthodox Christians. After all, if the person does not believe in God, his presence will not be an assistance to the soul of the deceased;
• you can not perceive the commemoration for 40 days as a reason to meet with old friends or relatives, because it is not a simple feast;
• orthodox Church It categorically prohibits When you serve to have fun, drink alcohol or sing songs. You must give a report in this.

This commemorative date is recommended to prepare such dishes on the table:

• bucket (required);
• pancakes feathers;
• sandwiches with fish, for example, with sprats;
• vegetables based salads;
• salad of beets with garlic;
• vinaigrette with herring or Olivier;
• cutlets baked with mushrooms and cheese;
• pepper stuffed;
• fish jelly;
• cabsows lean from vegetables with mushrooms;
• baked fish with vegetables under mayonnaise;
• pies with filling from fish, cabbage, rice and mushrooms, potatoes or apples.

• bread kvass;
• lemonade;
• shooting;
• morse;
• raspberry, plum, currant, cherry, apple, oatmeal or cranberry.

Almighty for people on commemorations in 40 days

According to Orthodox christian traditionswhen this date comes after the death of man his things must be able to go through and distribute those who need itAnd also ask for these people to pray for the soul of the deceased.

This ritual is considered good thingwhich is necessarily taken into account during a decision on where the soul will live after death. Therefore, it is better to do this, especially when there are a lot of things.

Relatives can leave after the late only those things that represent the greatest value as a memory of it. Part of things can be given to close relatives and friends. The rest take into the temple, but throw out things categorically forbidden.

What to talk to the commemoration of 40 days?

Quite often during the ritual, not only the deceased person, but also of all the deceased relatives, the very same thing represents as if he sits at the table with everyone.

The commemorative speech is definitely talking standing, do not forget to honor the memory of the late minute of silence. You can choose the lead commemoration from among the family friends of the family. He must control his emotions, despite the emotional severity of the situation. The task of the leading will be that he will take turns to give the floor to his native deceased, depending on how close they were with him:

• spouse or spouse;
• children or parents;
• close relatives or friends of the family.

The presenter is obliged to prepare several phrases in advance for the discharge of the situation and distracts of the guests when someone will have tears during the pronouncement of speech.

It is very important to commemorate for 40 days as for their deceased and to calm his soul. And it is very important to do everything correctly according to the installed canons and Orthodox traditions.

Silence during compensation is a normal phenomenon. Do not try to fill out the pause with empty words. But sometimes it is still worth paying the tribute to the departed. In this case, it is necessary to choose the right memorial words - those that will not sound too pathetic, but will be able to truly characterize the person and honor the memory of it. Listen to what they speak at the funeral, and create your memorable speech.

Measure words are not just banal expressions peculiar to some holiday. You are expected of respect and conciseness, as well as words that have been spoken from the heart. It is not necessary to memorize the text of the house, but it is preliminarily desirable to at least think about our words. Add some improvisation to be sincerely, but the basic theses prepare in a quiet environment. Think about what you want to say.

Ideal words on the commemoration should be:

• laconic, accurate;
• positive (anyone even well-known poor quality can be presented from an unexpected side or beat it, but better to lower it);
• specific - Say only when you have something to say.

You will be understood if mourning speech on the commemoration will not be told in one breath with an expression set. If the feelings overflow can be purchased or allowing additional manifestations of emotions. A person left his life recently, and you, naturally, are depressed - this is a completely adequate condition. It is unfair to demand ideal remembered words from the mother who lost the child, or from the newly-made widow.

The main purpose of the memorial speech is to resurrect warm memories of the past. Therefore, pick up a special case from your life associated with this person. Try to accurately recreate all the emotions that you felt at that moment. It will help you pass personal qualities The deceased.

Ideal people do not happen. But you can always turn even controversial well-known qualities in positive:

• About the strict person they say "helped me become the best of the best";
• About careless: "I knew the price of life and sought to live it so as never to regret the boring and gray life";
• About greedy: "It sought to ensure a decent old age for himself and his loved ones";
• About trusting: "He saw only the best in people, he always helped them and never denied anyone - this is what we all should learn from Him";
• About the stubborn: "Always went only forward, did not bend under the weight of the circumstances."
• About the Dreamer: "I wanted to see only the best side of the world, gave people a good and hope that someday everything is worse."

Remember that mourning speech on commemoration is commonly pronounced. It's not scary if words at the funeral will interrupt tears or take the legs to tremble. No one will condemn you for it. The most important thing is to convey to people the importance of the mission of the departed on Earth. Make so that you believe that everyone understands how you were close. But at the same time not "Treat the blanket" on yourself. Give everyone the opportunity to speak - the guests have the same right as you.

1. Add words to your story, which often uttered the deceased.
2. It will not be superfluous to recall the favorite book of man and quote from there several phrases, which, as you think, best describes his character.
3. Pick up the most correct and restrained expressions.

It is possible to finish speech on the commemoration (40 days) by epitaph, which reflects the personality of the deceased. Select the most relevant phrase. If a person was a believer, then you can mention God, but for atheist this option will be inappropriate. By this, you not only insult the memory of the deceased, but also hurt those present - close and relatives who respected the choice of man.

If you have a tendency to writing poems, then use them. But the rhymes should be a moderate amount. If the remembered words are pronounced alone with someone close, the poetry is inappropriate. At the table it is possible to mention a few lines, which are also suitable for character description.

But the smaller the rhyme - the better. She often sounds what spoils the ceremony. If you so want to hit all the talent, help come up with an epitaph to the monument. Or you can successfully set the rhymed rods into the text by performing a comparison.

If you want to help your relatives and closest late (for example, materially), then do not declare it at the table. First, it sounds vague. Secondly, all sincerity disappears right away. People will be much more pleasant and more important if you personally come to them and offer help.

Personally, you can say much more, mention what you can not speak for a guest for some reason. In addition, you may not pull with similar statements about help to the ceremony itself. Most likely, your help will be needed for helping. Close warmth will appreciate your care for you.

Features of compensation

The first is usually expressed by a person who was closer to the mustache (husband / wife). Next are the parents and children, grandchildren, other relatives, close friends, buddies. If for some reason a person cannot speak, then says the following.

Leading acknowledged should also be close to the departed. This will allow him to be on one emotional level with other guests, and if necessary, to maintain and fill in pauses.

Examples of memorial words

Remembering on the anniversary or 40 days should go from the heart. Only so you are worthy of honor of the memory of the past. Therefore, no specific speech on the commemoration (40 days or year), which can be learned, but only an example. Pay filling out and expanding the plan provided several evenings. Think carefully: right speeches At the funeral is not born instantly.

Try first to make a psychological portrait of the deceased on paper. Write all the qualities of the character that come to mind, and then add them associations. Based on this, you can create theses with unique comparisons appropriate for such a case, because they will go from a pure heart. But remember that it is better to pronounce about the commemoration, and not read it from the sheet. So you will show respect for the departed, you will look more sincerely.

Start with the appeal:

• Dear guests / colleagues!
• Dear relatives, friends and relatives [name of the deceased]!
• Dear brothers (sisters) native for us / our favorite [name of the deceased]!

At the beginning, a small amount of pathos is permissible. Remember the modesty when imagine yourself. The emphasis is on your relationship with the left person, and not just on your person:

• I had the honor to serve with [the name of the deceased] in one military unit for more than 20 years;
• I am the younger brother [the name of the deceased], which was always and will be the main example for me;
• I am my wife [the name of the deceased], which will always be a ray of light illuminating my road;
• [The name of the deceased] was my teacher in high school.

It is permissible to make a small pause and get together with thoughts. Pronounce farewell toasts on the acknowledged, it is not necessary to chase somewhere. However, the funeral speech should be concise and, if possible, brief. Do not repeat the template phrases. Let you look no standard. Measurement is 40 days - this one is your opportunity to sincerely declare the most important thing that you were dear to the man and how you will remember it forever.

• Today, I was exactly 1 year old, as [the name of the deceased] is no longer with me. That evening, I could not think about something else;
• The worst thing that could happen to me happened in the morning. Like snow on the head ...
• As I remember - it rained rain. The phone rang, and a few minutes later I learned the terrible news;
• I often visited [the name of the deceased] in the hospital. I suspected that this should happen, but still was not ready morally;
• Grandma barely was able to support me after I found out about the care of [the name of the deceased]. I thought for a long time, what words to pronounce today, and finally decided.

Do not worry if your toasts on the commemoration sound somehow strange and unusual. Try not to use well-established revolutions and expressions. Believe in what you are saying. Transfer your sincere emotions.

• [The name of the deceased] was a famous joker. I still can not forgive him for that leaving during the service ...
• [The name of the deceased] always sought to help others. "Save the comrade - save yourself," the grandmother said;
• You will never meet a greater optimist than [the name of the deceased].

Complete the story another memories if it is appropriate, or detail what you said earlier. If your speech complements the statements of others, it is good. You can speak immediately after your classmates if you remember the teacher - school Stories will be in the subject.

You can finish speech with a special prayer (special epitaph) or simply memorable words that we really have weight. Remember creativity, but be enough. Long speech is perceived much worse. In addition, you can get tired or confused in your memories because of surpassed emotions.

Memorial words on the anniversary of death or 40 days are not just suggestions, and theses supporting the memory of the left in your heart. Share warm memories with others, create cozy atmosphere And remember only the best qualities that emphasize the significance of the deceased. Examples of the words given above will help you correctly express your feelings and make a worthy speech at the funeral or commemoration.

Mourning At the funeral, the text - the farewell words expressed in memory of the departed of his relatives and close people. They are pronounced over the grave buried from the bottom of his heart. Speaker talks about important and iconic events related to this person, his achievements, and also expresses the nature and personality of the deceased from the good side. It is desirable if he says it orally, and does not read from the leaflet.

Mourning

There are many people have enough funerals and commemorations. These are mainly native and close late, but there are other - colleagues, acquaintances, friends in school and others. As a rule, pronounce the first memorial words provide the head of the family or the oldest and close to the person. In the event that it is in a strong emotional stateThis commemoration speech may say other present.

Mourning speech at the funeral example:

"My grandmother was wonderful person With difficult, but interesting fate. Her together with three younger brothers and sister her mother brought up one in the difficult post-war years. Say that they lived then poorly - it means nothing to say. Many difficulties and deprivation had to be taken out, but she never lost the optimism and the presence of the spirit, constantly helped her mother and took care of the younger family members. And later, coming out married grandfather-military, she resistantly tolerated all the services. In any circumstances, she always supported at home an exemplary order and taught all family members to him. Grandma sometimes had a strict but fair. I am glad (a), that I managed to learn from her accuracy and order, the ability to organize your life. And her famous apple pies were simply unmatched, no one had anything else! I will always remember you, my dear, my beloved grandmother! Your warmth, love and care forever will remain with us. "

If you do not know others well, then at the beginning of your speech it should be introduced and explained under what circumstances you met late. Remembering should contain words of gratitude towards the departed, reflect it positive traits. You can mention any sign moment that happened with the participation of the deceased.

Measurement words for 40 days:

"I'll see for those who do not know me: My name is (name). We worked together with (the name of the late) for the last few years, and I would like to say a few words in memory of him. He was a real professional of his business, a specialist with a capital letter. Many of our colleagues, young and not only, learned from him as mastery and often used his advice and help. He was very patient and responsive, could always listen to everyone who appealed to him for their support, to advise something, to help, did not refuse to help anyone. He could greatly raise the mood to everyone who was sorry, confused, or depressed. Told by countless funny stories, toasts, jokes and jokes could cheer anyone. We all will be very missing him on our dining sites and corporate countries, where he invariably shone at the table, raising our martial spirit. There is no more such person in our team. And maybe there will be no longer in my memory. We all will be very missing him. It will remain in my memory and memory of all of our colleagues until the end of life as a sample of persistence, sparkling cheerfulness, activity and professionalism! Divide with the world, dear colleague! "

It is desirable if you prepare words in advance on the commemoration and memorize them. Since competently formulated text will sound well and perceived by others. And lethargy, boring speech with stuffing may regard as disrespect for the late and his relatives. If you are afraid that you will forget words, you can take a leaf with a sample of mourning speech. It is necessary to pronounce words clearly and slowly. It is necessary to say confidently and so that you hear others, but not very loud.

Speech on commemoration examples

Memorial words on the anniversary of death (from colleagues):

"Friends! The late twenty years honestly worked at the enterprise (call). We all knew him as a decent, honest and modest person. Appreciated by skillful hands and reliable character. We will not have enough of him to many invisible, but indispensable contribution to work! The bright memory of him will remain in our hearts! "

Picks on the commemoration of 1 year (from friends):

"Friends left in another world the best of us. We are all deeply mourn. Souls are our bleeding from untimely loss. The deceased was all the support for us. He first came to the rescue, did not wait for requests or complaints. His kind heart and wide soul Always twisted. He was a clear light and conductor in a complex and dangerous world for all of us, his friends! Let him be resting with the world of the soul of this magnificent man! We will always remember him with a feeling of light sadness, mixed with a towing longing! "

Measurement on 40 days (from relatives):

"All my life, our father was a worthy example of not only his children, but also around. He demonstrated a wise understanding in everyday life true values, kindness and devotion. Anyone leaving him with an enlightened soul. And we, to our children, the father departed the love of people, a high sense of responsibility and devotion to the Motherland. I consider it unfairly early. Eternal to him, bright memory! "

"Our grandfather was very kind and a good man. His path was long and difficult. All the difficulties that have fallen at the country, he perceived as his own. He worked and raised children, without complaining about the lack of good, lack of food or amenities. He raised the children, was supporting grandchildren. We all will be very lacking for this magnificent person. Bright memory! "

The words of condolences express not only during the funeral, but in the days of the mercy of the deceased. They talk on the commemoration of 40 days, a year later from the day of death, as well as during the parent Saturdays and other Orthodox holidays. Clean speeches can be used in the cemetery, and during memorial lunches.

What do they say on the commemoration? At this event, everyone remembers all the dried relatives and friends. They remember what they were in life than were fond of what they loved. The words of condolences are pronounced, bright memory of the deceased is revered. It is forbidden to talk about the deceased anything bad, remember the long-standing offense. Or well, or nothing - the people's saying says.

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Memorial poems

In addition to mourning speech, condolences can be expressed by verses or toast. These options are most suitable for compensation than for the funeral themselves. For example, remembering poems on the anniversary of death are read. They can be written their own or taken ready. If you do not have the opportunity to personally attend the commemoration, you can express condolences to the messenger poems in the newspaper.

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Two tears drunk in flowers,
In two big pink roses!
From my exhausted soul,
Roll out hopeless tears!
See my wet eyes
What they don't believe at all
What you will never change
The fact that pain and tears are measured!
Knocking stubbornly my heart
And desperately does not want to know
That your favorite eye is no longer see
And native no longer hug !!!

***
You were always an example,
As a person with a pure soul.
And the memory of you alive
In the hearts and souls of your loved ones.

***
People close to us leave.
Do not realize that - forever,
Do not exhaust the whole pain separation,
And beats typical - never.

I will not see them, we will not hear
We will not ask, let's not talk,
Though, as before, they breathe,
They love them, wait, bastvine.

Ridiculous, strange, impossible,
What came again dawn,
Call, shouty Ile crying is treated
And there are no more close.

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We do not understand and not comprehend
Do not survive, do not overcome
What is the life of the chariot,
As it was before, exactly in-point.

Shines the sun and so the air is fresh,
What days are standing, but very sad.
Gone beautiful hope from hopes
And again on the heart is sorely and empty.
Already half a year as in the apartment silence,
Everything is yours and hard to believe it.
I drank burning bow to the bottom,
But still it is impossible to measure it.
So I want to come to you again,
Kiss and just be with you.
Hopefully confront in the fight,
With illness and negligence arguing.
The farther, the immense depth
That abyss that rose between us
How are you now, as in childhood, I need,
But it is impossible to pour with tears.
I'm strong, you know, I can,
After all, so much we survived you.
I am before you forever in debt,
You are eternal particle in my world.
I will bring you flowers and stand
And the heart will touch its wound.
And you feel like I love you
My favorite, the only mother.

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Memorial poems for 1 year:
You left life too early
Our pain does not express words.
Sleep, native, you are our pain and wound,
The memory of you is always alive.

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We come here
To put flowers,
Very difficult, native,
Without you live.

***
Great grief do not measure
I do not help with tears.
You are not with us, but forever
In the hearts you will not die.

***
Where all the dreams leave,
And why they have no refund,
How pain we are experiencing
After all, they were happy once.
How waking up every day
Understand that this is all reality,
How hurts to remember that day
When everything in life has changed.

***
Without you my soul is anxious,
Do not need girlfriends and friends.
Why with no millions possible?
Why it is impossible without one?

***
I do not shake you in the crib
I come again to the cold fence
I will correct fallen wreath
And sleep, cute son ...

***
They usually leave not passing goodbye
Without whispeting its last words
Perhaps in the distant path is not intended,
In that far road, Gree and Dreams.
Yesterday they smiled sweetly
Their eyes emitted bright light,
And as always, waiting for us to visit us,
Dreamed to give their friendly advice.
They like all of us, really wanted to live
And every moment, they brought joy,
All that they wanted to do did not have time,
They still had so much strength.
In some moment, everything broke out,
Someone has specified more than them
The soul in confusion has noticed
What did not have time to say and a few words.
Let them not with us, we love them,
And remember joyful days
And our heart will never forget them,
As if somewhat next to them.

***
We are sad and sad
And there is no feeling of others.
Mother all parents,
Mother all your relatives!

Mother all the departed,
In the flourishing of their years
Brothers, sisters of the dead,
Familiar and strangers!

They once lived
And pleased us
Laughed and loved
Care about us.

For a long time or recently
There are no more of them,
And the grave is thrifty
We bring a bouquet!

In a fast-goal of time
Do not remember other things
But you are native for us
More than alive!

We ask you, Lord,
About the grace of one
Forgive them sins, Lord,
Their souls rest!
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Environment loving - agree
Medium Lonely Flour
Among the deceived love
And the average of the dead - memory and separation

***
Death helped you dear without refund
And brought out of being.
So dissolved in the quiet exhaust of Nabath
Lost "in Russian" your life.
And all that in the heart was before - the fury,
Dreams, hopes, faith and love -
In space space, invisibly suddenly broke out,
But, maybe revived in someone again.
And the graves of tetvolnny birch
When the moon is silent in the night,
To the clear dawn of the earth drops dew tears,
What the mother's eye did not expire to the bottom.

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Your watch stopped. How did you not want to leave !!!
But the heart stopped fighting, and we will not be returned,
You survived myself a lot in my life,
War and hunger, but you survived everything.
Your clock goes in your friends, everyone loved you! You have always been lucky!
Giving life for hours of your relatives, you poured your breath in them.
You lubricated the hearts from them, and facilitated the clock of suffering.
But you could not help themselves, and smear the heart is useless.
I did not win in this struggle, I gave all myself, I gave everything free.
We gave you the warmth of our hearts, and we were always with you,
Native our grandfather, cooler, father and father-in-law
You were so afraid to be alone, you were so afraid to be with myself.
But the Black Karga came to you, waving obliquely, got along the heart.
The clock was stopped, but the soul
It remained with us, we are always with you, we are together.
February, frost, trees without foliage, and without you we have not learned to live.
You wanted to be with us, but alas
Your watches stopped ...

Measured toasts

Measurement toasts on the commemoration are called at the table. They do not need to specify the identity of the deceased. You can express a general condolence to all the departed:

The grandfather was sitting in heaven and cried bitterly. A boy approached him and asked why he flashes. The old man answered him:
- There is a custom on Earth - drinking our shower. And then we are always fed and with a full waters. We are glad that children remember about us. And now I have an empty jar and therefore I am sad.
So let's drink for those who are not with us!

Friends, today is a sorrow day. There was a time when we had fun and rejoiced from us. But today we drink this cup of grief themselves, spending a person close to us in the last path. Not everyone in the world has encouraged by Assumption, like the Mother of God and other holy people. But we will keep in our hearts a good memory of our friend, having hope for the Sunday and a new meeting in a new place. Let's drink for it to the bottom of the wine sorrows!

In the wolf flock sustainable, without leaving the will, the leader died. Wolves declared Skhodnyak to choose a new leader. Three days they argued and gnawed, because everyone was afraid that a new leader would take revenge to those who voted against him. When Ohriuple from the scream, the old wise wolf rose and said:
- Let's choose someone from our flock to be an impartial leader.
Everyone agreed and asked who. Then the old wise wolf offered to choose a goat in the leaders. Wolves and began to indignant:
- Only goals we still lacked!
But the old wise wolf explained:
"Although he and a goat, he has one advantage: if he starts to repair chaos, it will always be possible to screw it.
Wolves with laughter agreed and called the goat. When they led the goat trembling from fear, he was told:
- Listen carefully! We will choose you to your leader if you walked goat.
The goat was even more frightened and answered:
- I am a goat. But I repent from my goat past. I swear that I will never be a goat again.
Wolves are approvingly awesome and devoted a goat into their leaders.
"Now you are our leader," said the old wise wolf. - You can order us all that you want, and we will obey. Our fate in your hands.
All the wolves, pursing the tails, said the apprusively and asked the goat to say. The goat quickly jumped on the rock, put her legs wide wider, waved his beard, put the horns, rushed her silent flock with a slow eyes and sternly swayed:
- Well, who of us goat?
So in the same way of our glorious leaders!

Also, the toasts on the commemoration can be expressed in poetic form:

Bright memory left from us
Let's drink for this we are with you now.
Let in the hearts of our as if granite,
The memory of the closest youth kept.
Let all the good, what was with them,
Does not bury raw grave.
How many memory will be stored
So much and they will live with us.

Memorial notes

It is possible to honor the departed memory and using memorial notes. In the churches there is a special table where there is a memorial note sample for which you can write it. At the very top, the leaf is put a cross and marked "about rest." Then they write full names The deceased in the parental case and in church spelling (for example, Ivan - John), neatly and picking up. Usually they are written about ten - fifteen names. And everyone who is written there must be baptized in the Orthodox Church.

In addition to the names in the note, it is indicated as deceased: the new-added - the deceased for forty days after death or confused (worthy permanent memories) - the deceased, which has a memorable date on this day.

Going to the funeral or commemoration it is important to remember the etiquette. It is necessary to behave delicately and tactfully. It is worth preparing the words of condolences that can be expressed by mourning speech, remembered poems or toasts. Relevant and competent performance will be assessed with gratitude to relatives and closest late.

Another important tradition for 40 days is a commencement. 40 day received everything that is supposed. Prayer 40 days can be both home and church. Do not perceive the remembered 40 days as an opportunity to get together with friends and relatives. And one more popular belief It was on the 40th time the day of the commemoration for the whole day of the soul returns to the native house, and takes out only after it is carried out.

The most important memorial meal was usually held on a fortieth day of sound. Until the 40th day of the commemoration, the deceased is referred to as the newly promoted, and in the commemoration itself for 40 days, they additionally order in the church of Sorokoust or Panhid, for which money is required. It was done because there are large divine liturgies and memories on weekends on weekends.

Sometimes this wineglass with vodka was left up to a 40th day of death, and when vodka declined, they said that the deceased she drinks her. They also sometimes left vodka with a snack and on the grave itself. In theory, such a "secret" alone obliges the neighbors to pray for the deceased, and even those who took this alms took part of the sins of the deceased. Sometimes with the same goal at the funeral, the shawls were heard, which they had to keep in memory of the mustache and recalling his mentally goodwaliness.

It was also considered a rule not to establish a permanent monument on the grave earlier than a year since death. At this, the holding of the commemoration confined to death often ended, and then they were mainly carried out by traditional commemorations on common parents and equal church holidays. We doubly rejoice even negative reviewsThey allow us to get better every day and make more and more for you.

How to spend 40 days after the death of a loved one?

Good afternoon Svetlana, I sincerely sympathize with you. And now it will be 40 days. I was told that someone would need to give all the clothes from the head to the legs, please tell me.

That is, he, at least, should then make a cult of reading and remembering in his house and then cry for all day and remember the departed. It will be very bad on all sides, as he and the departed. It's good or bad to judge you already, etc.

According to Orthodox traditions, the fate of the soul of man is solved on the fortieth day. About what needs to be done and how to spend this day, tell me in this article. And if the soul itself is no longer able to change anything and fix the sake of the best fate, then relatives of the deceased can do it.

The first and most important thing that you need to do not only specifically on this day, but in all the previous ones, is to pray. However, in this case, there may be exceptions. The fact is that even numbers are a symbol of life and death, that is, the beginning and end, but the odd denotes the continuation and movement.

Therefore, all these days try to wear a simple, strict and closed clothes without pieces. In the preparation and holding of a fortieth day, first of all it is important to think about the mustache and his soul, and the details of the menu, the number of colors and other similar things is a minor matter.

Sometimes it was even thoroughly preparing for such a parish of the soul, they drove the bed of white sheets and covered the blanket. And the memorial days, which were first week after Easter (the Light Seventh) and on Monday of the second Easter week, were transferred to the special day of Radonitsa's comment.

Comment on 3 and 9 day after death

Often, at the table, I remembered at the same time and all the dead ancestors and relatives, and the recently deceased recently presented as the inclined and all over with all the common table. Often, the owners even bowed and appealed to a free place for the dead man with the words "Kushai-ka, the Pozpinsky".

Therefore, especially if the dead did not drink alcohol, and did not eat black bread to perform this ritual in this form just strange and not even adequately. Sometimes guests acknowledged wooden spoonsAnd when, in the consequence, people eating with these spoons, they involuntarily remembered a person when eating, in honor of which acknowledged. Sometimes on Mourning, all the hours in the house also stayed and the mirrors were launched.

40 days from the day of death - a very important and responsible date, because it is on this day, according to Orthodox canons, the soul of the deceased is the verdict regarding its further location.