The right decisions at the right time. How to make a decision
Throughout their conscious life, each person makes many decisions. Every day he faces a choice of how to act correctly in any situation, what to buy in a store, where to go to study or work, what to wear to a responsible or not so important event, how to distribute his finances. Decision making is often accompanied by stress, which is known to negatively affect our psyche. How to make a decision to minimize negative consequences?
"Debriefing" on the simplest example
The longer we linger, not knowing how to take the right decision, the more negative emotions we experience, the faster we lose the ability to choose correctly and quickly desired option.
It's good, of course, to think about the past and analyze your actions already committed. But when we occupy our thoughts, say, for a week with only one issue that is related to making a decision, this is no longer good, but harmful. The more we think, the more solutions pop up in our heads. If each of these options is not bad, we cease to perceive the task adequately, because we are in a suspended state that does not allow us to look at things soberly. There is no right decision here.
Psychologists have developed a set of rules that will make it easier to make a decision, regardless of the nature of the issue. Whether you are thinking about what to wear to a party or deciding whether to continue dating a man or better break up with him, in any case, take these rules into account.
to the title to the titleDo not rely only on yourself
Taking difficult decision discuss it with loved ones. There is a high chance that you will receive from them useful advice. This is first. Secondly, a problem that has been voiced several times ceases to be a problem, but takes on a clear outline of a situation from which there are at least two ways out. But we want to warn you: do not cross the line and do not ask for advice from everyone around you. Trust only those closest to you. After all, everyone can advise, but there will be no sense from this - an abundance of advice, especially from strangers who are unfamiliar with your situation, will simply confuse you.
Do not decide from a moment of emotional stress
Postpone making any decision until the time when you are no longer overwhelmed with emotions and feelings. They are not in the best way affect the correctness of the decision. If you take it at a moment of emotional stress, the consequences may not be desirable. Wait until everything boils inside you, take a sober look at the situation and try to accept the right decision.
back to contentsthink about it tomorrow
Remember how the unforgettable Scarlett O'Hara from the novel "Gone with the Wind" said? Right: "I'll think about it tomorrow." And it is not for nothing that people say that the morning is wiser than the evening. Psychologists are sure: our subconscious mind knows the answers to all questions. During the day, the brain is overloaded with information, it cannot decipher the signals sent by the subconscious. Therefore, do not make an important decision during the day or in the evening. It is better to ask yourself a question that worries you before going to bed, it is quite possible that in the morning you will already know what to do. In such a case, it is recommended to put a sheet of paper and a pen or a voice recorder on the bedside table near the bed. The solution to the problem may come to you even when you are half asleep, and it will need to be fixed so as not to forget.
No matter how much sensible advice you are given, remember that you must make the decision yourself. After all, this is your life, you should not trust even very close people to manage it. After all, each person, regarding the situation, proceeds from his own considerations. What suits this person may not suit you. Consider opinions from the outside, but without fanaticism.
back to contentsListen to your heart and trust your intuition
Remember the anecdote when an inner voice said to an avid gambler who staked his entire fortune: “God, how wrong I was!”. The inner voice is often wrong, so you need to trust either your body or your intuition (everyone is different). One man, signing an important contract, felt an unpleasant tingling in his chest. The contract, as it turned out later, was unprofitable. Another felt headache, the third - slight dizziness. All these are the signals that the body sends us, and this is his request to delay the decision. In this case, we call intuition not an inner voice that can make mistakes, but clues from the outside world - peculiar signs. Phrases dropped by someone in our presence, posters, objects, signs, and so on. Often the world around us helps to ensure that our thoughts are concentrated in the right direction. The main thing is to notice the signs sent by fate.
Do not repeat steps
Many people, when making decisions, are guided by analogies: this, they say, has already happened before, it was necessary to do this and that, and that’s what we’ll do now. Of course, experience is good, and it also needs to be connected when making an important decision. But do not forget that life is not a swamp, but a river, which, as you know, cannot be entered twice. try to find new way problem solving.
back to contentsConsider and plan for the future
There are decisions that affect our future. And there are those who can radically change our life path. These are very important decisions, making which you need to consider all possible options. So, a change of residence may make you lonely, and leaving work will deprive you of career opportunities.
back to contentsPositive thoughts help
Popular psychology books related to positive thinking are of great interest to readers. If you have heard about the methods of N. Pravdina, A. Sviyash, V. Levy, N. Kozlov, then you know that any of our desires materialize and come true. Dreams turn into reality. Therefore, when making a decision, it is better to present a positive picture of fulfilled desires. This helps not only to make the right decision, but also not to go astray. Is it hard to end a relationship with a married man? Do not think about loneliness, but imagine yourself free and dream of meeting with great love. Can't eat after six? Imagine how your figure becomes perfect. Are you afraid to leave a low-paid and unloved job? Save money as a financial cushion and look for a new activity. Imagine how happy you will be in doing what you love.
Man being at a crossroads while making important decision, guided by two extremes - good and bad. What comes after we do or don't do something important? Will the world end or will peace and harmony reign? Why do we go to extremes? Is there no golden mean?
WITH early age, each person regularly faces a choice:
Should I wear trousers today or a skirt?
with a handsome man or spend an evening with a smart and interesting fan?
Go to college by vocation or obey your parents in choosing a profession?
Get an interesting or profitable job?
You can continue endlessly! How difficult it is to make the right decision when the choice concerns such serious things as the choice of profession or workplace.
There are people in the world who do not doubt the correctness of the decision made. They can only be envied.
Fatalists don't care.
This category of people involuntarily. They do not torment themselves with a choice, they go with the flow in the direction where the "finger of fate" points. It is easier for them to reach out, get out of the closet what they grabbed, and put it on without thinking. Go on a date with whoever calls first. Go to the institute to study the one that. What work will turn up first, on that one and stay until the end of life. And, in fact, in their own way they are absolutely right! Why torment yourself with unnecessary doubts, if life itself will put everything in its place?
Intuition.
There is another category of people who never doubt the correctness of the choice made. These are individuals with developed. Or those who believe that they have this feeling. They never doubt the correctness of the decision made. After all, the confidence that intuition will not let you down will not leave them.
But such people are in the minority, the rest suffer, torment and doubt.
When in doubt about the correctness of the decision made, the "square of Descartes" will help
What does a person rely on when he does not know how to act correctly in a given situation? specific situation?
It is possible to calculate the development of events to the smallest detail only if you use the theory of probability. And then, the value will be very approximate. However, few of us know how to do it. Therefore, by trusting to chance, one can achieve better results than when a person intends to "swim against the current" only to prove that the decision was correct.
To learn how to correctly assess the current problem and take a decisive step, use the "square of Descartes".
There are many ways that can show all the "pros" and "cons" as a result of making a decision. For example, you can divide a sheet of paper into two parts. In the first column, write down the benefits that you will derive as a result of the decision made. In the second - cons.
Most effective method considered to be Descartes' square. Now the sheet of paper is divided into four parts, each of which contains a question that requires a detailed answer:
The positive aspects of the fulfillment of the desired. (What awaits if you complete what is planned);
Positive aspects of not fulfilling the desired. (What awaits if you do not complete what is planned);
Negative side of the fulfillment of desires. (What can be avoided if you get what you want);
The downsides of not doing what you want. (Which can be avoided if you do not get what you want).
Answering in each square questions asked, you will quickly come to the right decision. Here you need to evaluate and weigh all the pros and cons that may arise as a result of your decision, and accept the only correct one.
What influences finding the right solution
What is the right decision? This is the distance between Starting point(task) and the point at which a person will receive satisfaction of his needs and intentions (solution). All components of a person's personality are involved in this process: mind, will, character and motivation. All this both helps and hinders making the right decisions. Evaluate yourself, try to remember what specifically drives you at the moment when you need to mobilize all your efforts in order to concentrate on one task. Sweep away the superfluous, and remove the unnecessary from yourself.
Confirmation.
Being in search of the right solution, a person weighs all the components of the expected success. Choose based on facts, do not be guided by speculation and ghostly "what if". Ignore information that you consider contradictory, look for a rational grain.
Sequence.
Every action you take to solve a problem must be consistent.
The vector of thinking about the problem should be directed to one point. Go the shortest way, without being distracted by lyrical digressions from the topic.
Mobility.
This refers to the ability of a person to change the situation. With the emergence of new facts that contradict the decision you have chosen, you should adequately assess the situation and take appropriate measures.
Concentration.
When making an important decision for you, it is advisable to abstract from other problems. The efforts of the brain must be directed to a specific task, on the fulfillment of which depends peace of mind, material well-being or the future in general.
Selectivity.
Choose facts that are really noteworthy. brush aside extra information, do not consider important what is not worth your attention and effort.
Life experience.
In making serious decisions, you should not rely only on your own experience. consult with smart people, watch programs, look for advice on the Internet or books.
Don't prioritize your ability. The successes that you have achieved in the past are a combination of your contribution, the help of others, and a happy combination of circumstances. Draw conclusions from mistakes, try not to “step on the same rake” in the future.
Concentrate, choose the path that you will take to make a decision, calm down and act. In the matter of understanding and developing an action plan, there should not be excessive haste, fanaticism and overestimated forecasts about the result. These moments reduce the effectiveness of the process and give victory a bitter taste of dissatisfaction.
3 Strategies to Help You Be Sure of Your Decision
The method of Canadian professor Henry Mintzberg will help you make the right decision. According to him, there are three steps to success:
Action.
This process means that you have no time to think. There is such a category of decision-making, which implies that there is simply no time to think. Action must be taken immediately. Then the attitudes laid down by the instinct of self-preservation, personal experience and the mistakes of other people come into force. To correctly assess such situations, learn to learn from everything that life presents you. In a specific situation, it often saves.
The process of thinking about the situation for a long time is inherent in representatives of Western culture. It implies an algorithm from the following actions:
And the problem statement;
Systematization of the received data;
direction correction;
Evaluation of the parameters that affect the result, and the choice of the necessary means for;
Search alternative solutions and options for the development of events;
Assessment of possible outcomes of the development of events;
Decision and action.
Intuition.
People who make decisions on an intuitive level are guided by inspiration, which they themselves characterize as a kind of "enlightenment" that came suddenly. It happens that a person for a long time looking for an answer to a specific question that haunts him. He falls asleep and wakes up with this thought. One fine day, he realizes that there is no problem at all, the solution is already in his head. In the subconscious of each person, a system of knowledge and life experience is hidden. At a critical moment, all body processes are activated, which allows you to quickly navigate in the created environment.
They subdivide four stages of decision-making at an intuitive level:
Identification of the problem and collection of information about it. This process involves thinking, emotional aspect, personal experience and environmental influences;
Focusing all mental functions on understanding the problem in order to feel the depth and possibility of its solution;
Insight (enlightenment), which replaces reflections;
fact checking, comparative analysis results of developments and the final adjustment.
How to make a decision and not doubt anymore
So, what is considered the most important factor for correct acceptance solutions? Of course, a sufficient amount of time for reflection, systematization of factors, search right direction actions and the choice of one solution from several possible ones. To learn how to make decisions that you will never regret, use the following tips:
Time and place.
Don't act spontaneously in acceptance important steps. Schedule a time when you can be alone.
If you wake up the next morning feeling relieved, go for it! If not, then the solution is not correct, or not the only correct one.
Making a fateful decision. You get the feeling that there is a wall in front of you, against which you rested your forehead, and there is no further passage. Take a break from the problem for a while. For example, go to the cinema to dispel. Distract the brain from the load that makes it work in time pressure. But as soon as you feel that the feeling of heaviness in your soul has passed, return to the problem with renewed vigor.
Important and necessary.
Think about the necessity of what you are currently doing. Is it really of such value to you that it is worth spending effort and nerves? If you are standing on the right way, then doubts about the need to solve this problem must be dismissed. If not, then you must clearly decide for yourself what benefit drives you.
Having made a preliminary decision, do not rush to act. Evaluate the scenarios again, compare them with previous experience, remember the mistakes of your friends, and only after that proceed with the implementation of the plan.
The moment you realize that your decision is the only possible and correct one, you will feel relieved. Now everything fell into place. It is easier for you, but you have to act strictly according to plan. Do not forget that the result you want to achieve depends on the accuracy in the sequence of actions.
February 24, 2014If you are in doubt about the correctness of the solution, consult an expert in the field. Doka in a certain area will help you sort things out and explain why you should do it one way or another. When you are unable or unwilling to use outside help, you can collect information about the subject you are interested in. The more facts you have, the more fully you can paint a picture of what is happening.
Weigh all the pros and cons well. Try to predict how events might develop under different outcomes. Assess the current situation, think calmly, objectively and soberly. In no case do not make a decision under the influence of strong emotions, both negative and positive. Better wait, calm down, and if your position does not change over time, act. Perhaps then your decision will be the opposite of the first, then you will save yourself from making mistakes.
Will of chance
If all possible outcomes seem about the same to you, you can use old methods. Flip a coin or draw lots. Such methods are good not because they tell you what to do, but because, having received a certain result, you can suddenly understand what outcome you were hoping for in your soul. So do it - in accordance with your own instinct.
In general, some people tend to underestimate the benefits that can be obtained by listening to their intuition. Don't be like them. Trust more own feelings and feelings. It is your subconscious that gives you a signal, and in fact it accumulates all the information, even the one that you considered lost, and all your life experience.
It happens that you cannot decide on some act because you do not trust certain person. Think about what reasons you have for this. If you do not know this individual well enough, it is better to refuse to do business with him, since your instinct stops you from doing so.
Do not be afraid
Perhaps you find it difficult to make a decision because you are not ready to take responsibility for it. If this is really your responsibility, then you should muster up the courage and take matters into your own hands. And when they try to force you to make a choice for someone, you do not need to be a puppet in the wrong hands.
Maybe you are afraid of the changes that can be expected immediately after you make a certain decision. In this case, it is worth calming down and realizing that changes lead to improvements in almost 100 percent of cases, and stop hesitating.
A person is constantly faced with the need to make one or another choice. This situation accompanies him literally at every step: in the store, when you need to decide what and how much to buy, at work, in family life. Well if we are talking about some minor problem that will not entail serious consequences in case of an error. So what if it's really important? If the price of an erroneous decision can be high? Some people in such a situation may be confused, delay in making a decision. How to act correctly?
Instruction
First of all, inspire yourself that the fact that you, under all sorts of pretexts, evade a solution, are playing for time, the problem will not disappear. The decision will still have to be made, so it's better to do it sooner rather than later.
Of course, "earlier" does not mean "hurriedly." Think it over well. If there are several options for solving a particular issue, problem, carefully consider them without missing a single one. Try to objectively analyze both the pros and cons of each option, and choose the best one.
If the issue is really complex, especially if you yourself feel and admit that you lack the knowledge or information to make a decision, seek advice from specialists whose opinion you can trust. And in general, if possible, in such situations, you should consult with knowledgeable people. As the saying goes folk wisdom, "One head it's good, but two better".
Every day we have to make dozens of decisions - to do this or that, to agree or refuse.
And almost every time this is accompanied by doubts, worries and postponing the decision.
So how make the right decision and learn how to make the right choice?
Here are 10 ways.
1 - Just make the decision that you like.
According to statistics, 7 decisions out of 10 leaders of large companies turn out to be erroneous. 40% of companies that were in the top 500 20 years ago the best companies the world no longer exists.
Even the most successful and experienced people make mistakes very often.
So relax, make a decision and start acting.
You need to understand that while you are thinking, you are standing still and wasting time.
You are not a sapper for whom any mistake is fatal.
Even if you make a mistake, you have a second, third, and any number of attempts. Plus, every time you do something, you gain knowledge, experience and better understand how to make the right choice.
2 - Determine the price of your solution.
What happens if you do this or that and the choice is wrong? Write down possible outcomes and make a decision based on that. But you should know that a decision with minimal consequences often produces weak results.
And therefore...
3 - Determine the best result - What decision will move you the most forward? In life, those who strive for more win. And those who are afraid to take risks are content ordinary life. Think it might be worth the risk sometimes. Yes, you can lose more. But you can get more. And even if you fail, you can always go back to another solution. So hold on. Success loves the brave.
4 - Ask your subconscious - most people try to make a decision based on logic. But its capabilities are limited by the amount of information that is in the mind.
Use your subconscious. In the evening, think about your problem and possible solutions. And before going to bed, ask yourself - Which solution to choose?
And in the morning you will wake up with a clear understanding of what needs to be done.
All our experiences are stored in our subconscious. And we get access to it only in a dream. Plus, the subconscious can connect to a single information field universe. Remember, Mendeleev opened his table in a dream.
So ask your subconscious mind and go to sleep. Learn more about this technique in this video.
5 - Do something- to make the right decision you need to have certain information. But where can I get it? Books, videos, articles are just theory. The information you need will be given only by practical experience, which can only be obtained by doing something.
When in doubt or choosing from multiple options, just do something about each option. And you will immediately understand which solution is best for you.
6 - Ask more successful person - Such a person can help you in just 5 minutes. He knows and knows more than you. Look for successful people in your environment. Sign up for training. Ask your question on a thematic forum or group. The only thing is you don't have to ask everyone. Listen only to those who really solved problems similar to yours and have real life experience of overcoming them. But if there is no such person, then
7 - Imagine being a super hero- Put yourself in the place of a person who is a symbol of confidence and success for you. And think about what decision he would choose.
Often, internal fears and doubts interfere with making a decision. When you imagine yourself as a super hero, all this disappears and making a decision becomes much easier.
8 - Expand the number of options - Often people choose from 2-3 options. But there are many more solutions. Collect information, ask friends, think about other solutions. Such work will allow you to better understand the situation, expand your consciousness and allow you to choose the most balanced decision.
9 - Let your brain sort things out - modern man decides a lot on the run, on emotions, in the mode of lack of time.
But if you take a day of rest, calm down, stop thinking a lot, then a lot becomes clear and the decision is chosen by itself.
There is good expression The morning is wiser than the evening. So just switch off from the problem, do something pleasant and make a decision with a fresh mind.
10 - Write down the pros and cons and compare
Choose 2-3 options and write each one on a separate sheet. And make a list of pros and cons. This clarifies a lot and it immediately becomes clear to you which solution is more profitable for you.
That's all.
But remember, a decision is not a decision until you act on it.
And to make it easier for you to act, here are 50 step-by-step instructions
The life of each of us is an endless stream of decisions. You constantly have to choose: what to buy, how to spend the evening, which profession to choose, which deal to accept and which to reject, etc.
Fortunately, in most cases, making the right decision is fairly easy. Our subconscious does not have to spend a lot of time choosing one of the options, since it is definitely better. But there are situations when it is not clear which of the chosen options will bring more benefit and less harm.
Remember the legendary movie "The Matrix" when Morpheus offered Neo to choose one of the pills. From the outside it may seem that choosing freedom and life in reality was easier and more correct than forgetting everything and continuing to exist in a fairy tale. In fact, most people choose the other side in their lives.
But we digress a little from the topic. So, there are situations when it is not easy to make the right decision. Each of options has a lot of pluses and even more minuses that we would not like to receive. In addition, each of the options will have a lot of consequences that we could not even imagine.
2 approaches to decision making
There are two ways that can help us make a choice. We have used each of them in our lives, simply, someone chooses one more often, someone uses the second more often.
1. When to enable logic?
Careful consideration of possible options and their consequences is characteristic of making logical decisions. Using this approach, we can weigh the pros and cons, analyze the possible benefits and losses of each of the possible options.
The logical approach is best used in situations where there are many inputs and most of the consequences are easily predictable. As a rule, this approach is better applied in business and in any other business areas life, in cases where the possible risks are very high.
2. When to use intuition?
Often we find ourselves in a situation where it is almost impossible to imagine further development events. There is no past experience corresponding to such situations, and there is no way to extract and analyze information from other sources. And you need to make a decision quickly, because "delay is like death."
In this case, there is nothing left but to listen to your intuition and not make a quick and unambiguous choice. Still, we will not be able to build any accurate forecasts.
The need to make such decisions almost always arises in personal life and in everything related to human feelings and emotions.
Regardless of which approach you tend to take more often, I recommend following these five principles to help you make the right decision:
Principle 1. Never rely on "maybe". Always make your own decision.
Don't wait for things to work out on their own or for someone else to do it for you. Indecisiveness is also a decision, but in this case you are no longer in control of the situation, therefore you are not in control of your life. Often people put off making a decision until there are no alternatives worthy of attention, and this is no longer a decision.
Consciously making a decision, however unpleasant, will prepare you in advance to accept its consequences and, most likely, it will be easier for you to cope with its negative consequences. Or maybe you can even find a way to get rid of some of the problems associated with it.
Principle 2. Make a decision quickly.
Postponing the decision for later, we tend to raise our bet in this game. As a rule, intuition tells us the best ways, but intuition only works for a short time, then all your past experience, fears, doubts and other nonsense that the brain is loaded with comes into play. All this only clutters up our consciousness and encourages us to make mistakes.
The sooner you can make your choice, the more time you have to prepare for its negative consequences. There will be time to “lay straw”, as a result, you will be able to get more out of the path you have chosen.
Principle 3. Once you've made your decision, take action immediately and don't stop.
Nothing delays the achievement of goals like procrastination. Once you postpone the implementation of your decisions, it will not be difficult for you to postpone them in the future, and this is fraught with the fact that you will never achieve the goals for which the decision was made. Often, what we thought about and decided to do is forgotten after a few days. The long box has not been canceled yet - it is in it that all our greatest achievements are stored.
Principle 4. Do not change your decision half way to the result.
Achieving any result takes time and effort. It makes no sense to expect that the result will come easily and quickly. And if you constantly change your decisions, then all this will look like Brownian motion (chaotic movement of the molecules of a substance, in which the substance itself does not move anywhere) and no result will definitely come.
Drive it into your head - you can get the result only by reaching the end.
If you have made a decision to become rich, then act to the end. If you decide in a week that it is difficult and it is better to become healthy. Stop saving money and start eating right. After another week, you will stop eating vegetables, because. you want a barbecue, and decide to be beautiful by playing sports. Then you can continue on your own.
Principle 5. The most important. Never regret your decision.
Often people believe that they made the wrong decision. It was necessary to act differently. The trick is that you can never know if you did the right thing, because. check is impossible. Always consider your choice as the only correct one.
For example, you bought a car, and a week later its engine broke down. The first thought - it was necessary to buy another, but, on the other, at the most inopportune moment, the brakes could fail. What would be better?
In fact, it is not difficult to make the right decision, it is much more difficult to take responsibility for its consequences! Follow these rules, they will help you and get outstanding results.
Good luck, Dmitry Zhilin
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