I want to change something in my life. Start to appreciate what you already have

Terry Southern

Greetings, my dear readers! Today we will talk about a very important and interesting topic, about how to change your life. To be honest, I am extremely happy for your attention to this issue, because a person who wants to change his life is a real living person with innovative thinking, optimism, courage and willpower, with whom it is very pleasant to communicate and work. Such a person strives for the best, for the sake of interest and development, and does not hold on to the old because of fear of the new. I myself am like this - I do not like to hold on to the old to the last, I do not like conservatism and I can not stand the fear of everything new, so by force of will I suppress this fear in myself and boldly look forward into the unknown, but damn interesting future. I like everything new, I love change and even more I love to be the initiator of these changes, which I am going to teach you in this article, because if life still changes, then let it do it thanks to, and not against our wishes. So in this article, friends, we will definitely find a common language with you.

So, in order to understand how to change our life, it is necessary to ask the question, why should we change it at all? That is, why exactly do we need to initiate changes in our lives? Here we must understand the following: regardless of our desire, our life will still change - for the worse or better side, to a greater or lesser extent, depending on the circumstances. The only question is whether we will control these changes as much as possible, or will be forced to adjust to them, experiencing stress due to the fear associated with these unwanted and often unexpected changes. So your friends' life, in any case, is constantly changing, just most often these changes go unnoticed for you, because they happen gradually. And sometimes they shock people with their unexpectedness, as well as unusualness and novelty, and people do not always manage to properly adapt to them, at least right away, because they are not ready for them. Therefore, you and I need to change our life, including so that someone else does not change it for us. We ourselves must manage our life so that it suits us, so we need to think about changing it constantly, even when we don't want to change anything. There is no need to be afraid of what is natural and inevitable in this world. And the world is constantly changing, for it change is a natural process and inevitable, so you need to treat it completely calmly. And then, as I wrote above, it is interesting to change your life and change yourself along with it!

Pay your attention to how many people, on the one hand, want stability, tranquility, certainty, comfort and confidence in the future, and on the other hand, they want changes, novelty, something unusual and interesting, they want some surprises, preferably pleasant, and in some cases even not very pleasant, but exciting. How is this possible, how can you want mutually exclusive things? And it is very simple, it is only from the point of view of linear logic that stability and changes are mutually exclusive, but if you look at these things more broadly, if you think not logically, but in parallel, allowing the simultaneous existence of both of these processes, then we will see that the whole point is in control and man's management of changes in his life and in what they lead to, and not in the desire or unwillingness of the person to have them in his life. We, basically, of course, need pleasant, positive changes, and, if possible, controlled by us, then we will be glad that our life is changing - for the better. After all, no one will give up the best, even to the detriment of the good, if he knows for sure that the best is actually better. Plus to this - a lifestyle based on constant changes, in itself quite interesting, it allows a person to experience a lot of unusual sensations that we all strive for, therefore, even in those cases when everything is good and calm, people are drawn to change something. We were born in order to change this world, this need is inherent in our genes, so it pulls us towards this. And if you also teach a person to constant changes, then he will strive for them and will be happy with them, despite any, even the most negative consequences of these changes. But at the same time, for some reason we are still drawn to some kind of stability and certainty. I wonder why?

And the whole point is that you and I were taught to be afraid of change, we were taught to live the usual measured life, in which everything is clear and everything is clear, and for many years there are practically no significant changes that would force us to adapt to new conditions, to learn something new, to change oneself, in accordance with the new requirements that life presents. Therefore, most people live in a psychological swamp, which drives them into a state of hibernation, making their life so monotonous that they do almost all their daily activities automatically. Agree, there is no need to remain vigilant when in your life, day after day, everything goes according to your usual scenario, when you don't even need to think too much about what and why you need to do today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow. Home-work, home-work - this chain of recurring events in a person's life is familiar to many, and it is only diluted with various kinds of social rituals [holidays, various traditional events, weddings, funerals, etc.], but in general, it is just like that - for many years. I even know people whose life has a chain of the following type: home-work-work-work-home. And the point is not even that they work a lot, very much, but that they do not like their work, they are not interested in it, and it does not develop them at all. The question is, how can you live such a life? Only being in hibernation, nothing else. A healthy mind of a healthy person simply cannot withstand such a life; it will go mad. And why live like this, friends, why turn yourself into a zombie and live unnatural for normal person life? After all, such a life, it is, shall we say, meaningless. People can live like this for a hundred, and two hundred, and a thousand years, and will not even notice how time flies, because gray and monotonous days in their lives will lay on top of each other and take shape in years and decades of a monotonous, uniform, often gray and a completely meaningless life, the purpose of which is to maintain itself unchanged. But why? Why is such a life necessary? That is the question. Is it just to live? Do you think that there is no alternative to such a life, do you think you will not survive if you live differently? How can you survive!

Thus, friends, the most important thing that you need to do in order to change your life is to give up stability, calmness, certainty, predictability and, in general, from the automatism of your life, for all these are unnatural and unnecessary things to you that make your state unnatural. mind. You need to give up all these stupid habits that you cultivate and cherish as part of yourself. Keyword here "refuse". You need a refusal - a refusal from everything that has long been firmly embedded in your life, but what is the time and what you can change! Without refusal, there will be no changes - you need to let go of the old in order to take the new into them, because you cannot hold both of them in your hands at the same time. Do not be afraid of losses, do not be afraid of unpredictability, do not be afraid of the unknown - believe in your ability to take more of what you now have and what you can refuse. And boldly give up the old for the sake of the new - only in this way will you change your life.

And how to give up stability, calmness, certainty, automatism of actions, habits, if they hold you in a stranglehold? After all, this is not so easy to do - it is difficult for a person to give up something and part with something, for him it is a very painful procedure. To do this, friends, you need to stop living in fear, and as mentioned above - start believing in your abilities! And in order to believe in them, they need to be developed. If you have not developed professionally and personally for years, then of course, you will not have any faith in yourself, because this faith will simply have nothing to rely on. You will be afraid of change until you make yourself a strong, independent, self-confident person by working on yourself. And no one bothers you to do this work.

So stop being afraid, stop shaking in front of the unknown, before changes, before everything new, wake up in yourself - a human explorer, a human cognizer, a human discoverer, a human conqueror, a human hunter, a human fighter and a human creator. No one, you hear, no one bothers you to make yourself like that - work on yourself, develop yourself, improve your professionalism, study new types of activities for you that are in demand in society, increase your competitiveness, and then no changes will be scary to you. Do not be, friends, a trembling creature, this role is not for you, since you are reading this article. Become a person, in the fullest sense of the word, who boldly looks ahead and is not afraid of anything. Remember - you have nothing to fear! All your fears are illusory. You just believe in them, so they scare you. You don't need any stability! You need a change. Stability is needed by those who trade it, turning people into their slaves through fear. And you don't need stability and constancy! Discard them. And in order to finally get rid of the fear of change and instability, so to speak, to finish it off - you need to be the initiator of changes in your life, you need, as I call it, to strike first, since the best defense is an attack, and in our case we are even we do not defend ourselves - when we consciously change our life - we command it. Boldly face the fear, and you will overcome it! Throw away everything old and take everything new - your strength and will is your right! When you give up everything, everything old and unnecessary, you will have nothing to lose. And a person who has nothing to lose has nothing to be afraid of! The main thing is that you have yourself - that's all you need in this life.

Just think, dear readers, what does it mean for a person - to give up everything that he is used to, because this also means - to wake up, open your eyes to reality and begin to behave in accordance with it. current state, in accordance with its characteristics and taking into account their real capabilities and needs. This is a deliberate approach to life, this real life, and not life in a dream, like those who are accustomed to getting used to. Life must change in order to be life, otherwise you will exist for your period of time and will not even understand why you lived at all. So do not be afraid - give up everything that you are used to, then you can get a new, even more interesting life! And your abilities that determine your capabilities, I am sure, will be enough to enable you to get more and better. But nevertheless - do not forget to develop them. We live in a time when the world is changing faster than people.

The next thing you need to do in order to change your life is to design your future. You need to understand what and why you are going to change in your life, you must decide what you want to come to, so as not to go blindly. I have noticed many times, including on my own, that the more a person dreams and plans, the more desirable for him are various changes in his life, most of which he himself usually initiates. Today it is difficult for us to be ahead of our time, because the world, as I said, is changing incredibly fast, but nevertheless it is possible. To do this, you need to dream, plan, fantasize, and not try to keep up with other people, copying their lives and themselves. Your dreams and fantasies are the energy that will allow you to get off the ground and start acting if these dreams and fantasies are very bright and beautiful. You understand, the brighter the pictures in your head will be, which will be possible options your beautiful future, the stronger your desire will be to start doing something right now to make these pictures a reality. It is difficult for people with poorly developed imaginations to imagine something that does not yet exist, therefore, when this something appears, they are not only surprised by this, but also afraid of it. And that is why they perceive any changes in their lives very painfully. But imagination can be developed, this is not a problem, you just need to set such a goal for yourself, and then, yourself or with someone else's help, begin to realize it. And when you can imagine something new for yourself, which is not in your life yet, but what you would like to see, you can find a way / ways to come to this. After all, in order to change your life, you need to at least approximately imagine what it should become after these changes. And she should get better, much better. So do not limit yourself in fantasies and desires.

Think right now and imagine - what new do you want to see in your life, and most importantly - what of the old are you ready to give up for this? And then ask yourself another question - what do you need to start doing right now, to see it, to create it, to come to this, to get it? For example - would you like to change your place of residence, or maybe you would like to change your job? Why not? Is the place where you live now the best in the world? Is your job exactly the job you've dreamed of all your life? Just do not say that you are used to all this - for there is nothing worse for the "living", a conscious person than a habit. This is the next and final step that you need to take to finally get rid of the fear of change and change your life. Let's see what it is.

Yes, friends, there is one very important rule life that sounds like this - don't get used to anything! It is especially impossible to get used to comfort, because comfort is very harmful for people, it deprives them of the sharpness of perception and the ability to think. If you want to live - for real, and not like a plant, not like a machine, not like a biorobot - you need to unlearn the habit. It is difficult, I understand, it is not for nothing that they say that habit is second nature. And yet, for a person to change something in this world is as natural as getting used to something. So why not get used to the need to constantly change something? Friends, you need to change your life not in order to necessarily improve it, but for the sake of the changes themselves. You can change your life for the worse, or you can get nothing from your changes, no one is ever safe from this. Will this mean that these changes were unnecessary and even harmful to you? No, it will not. Changes are needed anyway. And that's why. The fact is that a person has an adaptive instinct that helps him, when necessary, to adapt and adapt to any conditions. This instinct helps us survive. And the stronger this instinct is developed in a person, the more viable it will be. And for the instinct to develop, it must work, that is, be used. And for it to work, there must be a need for it. And in order for it to be necessary, you need to change your life as often as possible, even if the advisability of these changes is questionable. Therefore, even unsuccessful changes in life will benefit you, since they will become a kind of training for your capabilities. Therefore, in order to be guaranteed to change your life, you need to be ready for any changes, for any changes, for any results, both positive and negative. In general, I am convinced that any changes are always for the better, it is just that people do not always realize this, especially in the context of time.

Also, friends, you should always remember that if you do not have attachments, then there will be no suffering. Therefore, if you do not like to suffer, do not get attached to anything. Change your life more often, strive for something new and better, and there will be more joy and happiness in your life. That, in fact, is all you need to do to change your life. It seems that everything is simple, you must agree. But some efforts will have to be made. And I'm sure you will attach them.

In general, changing our life is profitable and interesting, because when we do this, we, as I wrote above, really live, we feel reality, we feel the process of life itself, we remain vigilant when faced with a new one, we think, adapting to new life, and, therefore, we are improving. Therefore, by changing our life, we change ourselves, and by changing ourselves, we change our life - the effect replaces the cause, and the cause replaces the effect. Everything is interconnected. And do not forget friends, if we ourselves do not strive to change our life, then it will begin to change itself, which it already does, forcing us to change at the same time. And it’s so unpleasant when your life begins to change without your, so to speak, permission. And it’s not even so much unpleasant as it’s awful, because, after all, who is the master of your life - you, or someone else? If someone else is in control of your life, then you simply don't have it. You do not live, but exist if you do not control your life, if you allow other people to control it. I hope you won't let this happen and live your life the way you want it, because your life is your life!

Good afternoon friends! Elena Melnikova with you. Have you met absolutely happy people? Those that sparkle with a joyful smile and illuminate the world around them with their eyes? There are few of them, but still they are. Hope this article helps you become one of them.

Absolute happiness, which is based (based) on harmony with oneself, peace and the ability to accept everything with gratitude, is not only a gift, but also the daily work of the soul. This is the ideal that we all strive for. But the most important thing to understand is that our happiness is in our hands.

Of course, everyone has their own terms of happiness. But in any case, you cannot do without accepting yourself - your personality and lifestyle.

Does everyone live the way they want? Alas ... Many restrictions dictated by a sense of duty, financial problems, setbacks and stereotypes, regularly build us an obstacle course on the way to a dream. And we, humbling, continue to bend under the weight of discontent.

Humility - good quality... And it, too, is a gift and mental work. But, as the “Prayer for Peace of Mind” says: “Lord, give me peace of mind to accept what I cannot change, give me the courage to change what I can change, and give me wisdom to distinguish one from the other” ... Therefore, do not forget that, in addition to humility, life is given to us for development and change. For the better.

"Man was created for happiness, like a bird for flight" (V. G. Korolenko). "If you want to be happy - be happy" (Kozma Prutkov).

We simply have to hang these words at the head of the bed and confirm with daily efforts to bring them to life. No pessimism. Without disbelief in your own capabilities. No fear of failure.

Phrases about the comfort zone, like a cocoon, entwined from stereotypes and habits, and like a spider's web dragging us into everyday life, have already become commonplace. I don’t want to, but I have to repeat them over and over again so that everyone thinks: “Is this how I want to live? Am I happy? Are you satisfied with the status quo? And what gives me true joy? "

Do not think, I am by no means claiming that our daily life is an annoying routine burden that needs to be dropped as soon as possible. No, the everyday life around us can also be beautiful, if only you merge with it harmoniously.

But, if you still feel that you are at odds with yourself, you do not have the opportunity to realize your potential and as if you are living someone else's life, it is time to act. Boldly and decisively!

So how can you change your life for the better? Remember (what a sad word ... No, don't forget!) Your main dream. Tell yourself where and with whom you would like to live, what to do, what to think about before going to bed. Have you spoken? Now start walking towards your dream in small (or immediately large) steps.

To help you, I will cite three stories from the lives of my acquaintances. These people were able to step out of their comfort zone, challenge habits and go out to meet desires. I have known some of them for several years, some for several months, but well enough to admire their courage and willingness to change.

So, the first story, slightly reminiscent of the tale of Cinderella

Alyonushka was born in an ordinary Nizhny Novgorod village in a friendly large family. Life has never spoiled her, and therefore from the age of 15, Alena got a job. At first, it was a part-time job as an administrator in a children's center, night shifts in a grocery store, then employment in a cafe and, finally, in a beauty salon and a fitness club.

By the age of 23, Alena was the administrator of a large shopping center and had several dozen people under his command. She liked her job, leading people was her vocation. Along the way, she worked as a beauty salon administrator and had the opportunity to look great for little money. But she understood that it was temporary. I wanted more.

Live in Nizhny Novgorod, despite the closeness of relatives and an abundance of friends, she seemed boring. Moscow more and more often attracted our heroine, and one fine day she took a one-way ticket.
This is not a story about how Cinderella conquered Moscow. This is a story about how Alena was looking for herself.

In Moscow, after wandering around friends for a month and eating more than one dog in search of rental housing, the brave girl found an inexpensive apartment in the center and a neighbor with whom they shared the rent. All this time she was looking for a job, but did not grab the first offer that came across. This should be a dream job. Such, for which it was worth going to the metropolis.

Finally, the girl got the position of project coordinator in a website development company. She had a lot to learn new information and join a difficult team. However, if Alena coped with the duties perfectly, then the team was not easy. The higher men made it clear that, in addition to direct, Alena needs to perform some other duties. Alena did not bend.

The desire to change something in her life again bit her desperately. But the wise office worker endured two years to gain the necessary experience, and then changed jobs. Simply put, it passed from customers to their own customers.

The new job gave much more satisfaction, but could not stand the difficult economic situation. Section after section was closed. Alena was laid off.

And then into one wonderful moment circumstances (oh, a great word!) developed in such a way that Alena's skills helped her find. More precisely, the work itself found it. A friend, and part-time partner, recommended Alena to the contractors of the closing company. The salary was two times less, but the opportunity to work without visiting the office attracted more money than any money. Now Alena was engaged in online advertising.

Together with new job the girl traveled to her parents in the village, to friends at the dacha and even to the Netherlands for an internship (yes - yes, internships happen with remote workers). With remote work, Alena was able to organize her working day in accordance with biorhythms, desires and habits. Started practicing yoga and found time for Business English courses.

But the story doesn't end there. Remote work instilled (or, say, finally instilled) in the girl a love of freedom and gave an understanding of the optimal organization of the work process. And Alyonka does not lack organizational skills.

So, our heroine, having calculated all the risks in her mind (and those who do not take risks, you yourself know ...), organized her own company to create websites and related services. The case is developing, but, most importantly, it brings moral satisfaction. And it's worth a lot!

Elena is from a small town Ivanovo region... Her father was a teacher, was very fond of animals and even went on business with a tame pig. Since childhood, Elena dreamed of working as a veterinarian.

But when it was time to go to college, her parents explained to Elena that a veterinarian is an extremely low-profile profession and she would have to settle in the village forever and “twist the tails of the cows on the farm”. Elena went to the pedagogical.

Elena is an excellent teacher. Children love her for her conscientious work and heartfelt attitude. But life in a service apartment in Nizhny Novgorod did not in any way seduce a lover of nature and fluffy animals of all stripes. She and her husband already had a house in a small, half-abandoned village.

Near the hut, which for many years has been rebuilt from something (and gradually turned into two-storey house), unprecedented flowers were already blooming, and future homework was growing. And one day chickens settled there.

And then it went like a knurled one. After the chickens, rabbits started up (it all started with one pair), then the incubator started working, and all this was clearly going to winter. At first, Elena and Alexander visited the pets every weekend.

Each trip was perceived as an exciting journey to your favorite places. And later, when Alexander retired for seniority, the couple decided to permanently move to their beloved village.

The children had already grown up by that time, but the animals demanded more and more trouble. And the zealous owners decided to completely move to the village. Elena did not wait for her retirement. Instead, she made a suitable schedule for herself at work and commutes 120 km to work in the city every 4 days.

The city is tiresome, but at the same time it is a place for the purchase of feed and sale of agricultural products. And it cannot be counted, because sheep, goats and pigs appeared on the farm, and the total livestock has grown to such an extent that the number of “all together” cannot be calculated.

And even if you have to get up, as they say, it’s not dawn, even if you feel a pleasant ache in your body in the evening, but the spouses greet every day with joy, and the children try to come to the village every free minute.

The third story, absolutely fantastic

Sometimes, in order to find your way, you have to deviate abruptly from it.

Anna is a very young girl, she is only 19. She grew up in Tatarstan. At the age of 17 she moved from hometown to the capital of the republic. She began her career from the bottom, but in a large company. At one fine moment (and again an accident?), The manager urgently needed a person to replace. The conditions for Anyuta were set as follows: if he copes, he will remain in office. Anya did it.

By the age of 19, Anna held a high position in a well-known automotive company. The salary was enough to rent an apartment in the center of Kazan and not deny myself anything. But the flip side of the coin - work for wear, almost complete lack of time for sleep and rest - made itself felt. Increasingly, Anna asked herself the question: in the name of what is all this? The neurosis was growing.

One night, Anya turned on the TV and watched a film about a woman who, in a critical situation, went out into the field, shouted everything that had accumulated in her soul, and after that she adjusted her life.

The solution was found!

Without thinking twice, Anyuta threw on her coat, grabbed a handbag and called a taxi to the nearest vacant lot. The starry sky and the cold March night were waiting for her revelations.

At dawn, Anya walked to the house. The road was as silent and deserted as it had been at night, but the silence became the background for the indulgent insights. Anya understood: now she wants to fly away.

The rising sun found Anya at the airport. Anya flew to the Crimea. Without going home. Without collecting things. Without saying goodbye to anyone. And that is why the director's call was so distant ... So far that until now Anyuta has not written a letter of resignation. She just left.

Arriving in Simferopol, literally, what and with what she was (there was a passport, a pack of cigarettes and 5,000 rubles in her purse), Anyuta began to live according to the laws of countless romantically-minded vagabonds: fleeting acquaintances, complete separation from reality and boundless fun.

Having received free time, Anya learned to appreciate every moment of it. Now she began to listen to herself and ponder what kind of lifestyle suits her.

Friends received Anya at times for several weeks. But the moment came when it was necessary to leave the most hospitable houses. This did not frighten Anya. She was free like the wind. Without money. Mom only replenished her mobile account.

About the difficulties endured on the way (and it was rains and cold) Anna says: "I spent the night in the most beautiful and picturesque places of the southern coast and ate healthy food cooked in spring water."

The most interesting thing is that the things that Anya sincerely needed came to her themselves. People gave her summer dresses, a swimsuit, shoes, a blanket and even a tent. At the moment when we met and sunbathed in Foros, swimming goggles came to her (and this is not a metaphor) - this summer's dream.

Anna: “My path was beautiful and unique. Mountains, sea, wonderful people, animals and birds accompanied me. Besides, I was accompanied by music.

I received my harmonica as a gift in Fox Bay, where I learned to play. I played music on the embankments, which brought me enough money to buy food and cigarettes. I did not feel poor and unhappy for a minute.

Six months ago, at the beginning of the journey, I would never have thought that tens of thousands of kilometers of walking and hitchhiking would SO cardinally change my world ”.

Wonderful facts only confirm the idea that with the disappearance of the usual comfort, new opportunities open up for us. You just need to be able to use them.

Anyuta used it until she understood what she wants from life: she will create and share her experience with others.

In August, Anya returned to her homeland. Having correctly prioritized, she thought about choosing a profession (which will certainly be associated with creativity), and is currently going to go to China and India for inspiration. And I firmly believe that she will succeed.

These three beautiful women left a deep mark in my life. Each of them knows what she wants and is firmly on her way to her goal. And, if suddenly the goals change, each will be ready for a sharp turn. But all these goals can be reduced to one - harmony with oneself and happiness.

People who have changed their lives, despite fears, stereotypes and their own insecurity, themselves change for the better. At the very least, they become more open, bold and determined. In addition, adapting to a new situation forces you to change your thinking, improving its flexibility and expanding horizons. So, you should definitely try.

I myself have repeatedly had to unfold life 90, and sometimes 180 degrees. Break your own stereotypes, radically change views and principles and, most importantly, follow them.

Therefore, I developed a certain algorithm of actions for a cardinal revolution in fate:

1. Cast aside all fears. If that fails, reflect on your biggest fear and make sure it's not all that bad. (For example: the worst thing that can happen if I change jobs (move to another area) is that I will have very little money. in general, I write articles (and some of you bake cakes or sew clothes) to order).
2. Not sure where to start? Take the first step. Convincing yourself that this is only the first step, which will not affect anything, does not oblige you to anything, and, in which case, everything can be finished with this. In fact, your first step influences a lot, and when you step, you will go to new level consciousness and achievement of your own goal, which you can no longer refuse. Moreover, if you are on the right way, then see for yourself how everything starts to work out from the first step. In the future, of course, there will be difficulties, but the biggest difficulty - to decide on changes, is already over.
3. Treat the difficulties that come your way as tests and tempering of character. Believe that they are all sent down to you in order to show your true capabilities. In addition, do not forget that overcoming obstacles, coupled with drastic changes, in no time gets rid of depression caused by routine and everything that develops against its background. Proven the hard way!
4. When most of the path has already been covered, there is no point in stopping. But it always makes sense to adjust plans along the way. The main thing is not to break the contract with the dream.
5. Ask the Lord for help in business. Don't believe in God - ask people. Support, advice, small service. Ask and it will be given to you.
6. Praise yourself for small but significant accomplishments. Consider further. Reflect on how things can be improved. And believe in success.

Be happy, dear readers! Don't be afraid of change!

Determine your position in life, choose a goal and boldly move forward. Avoid any negative information and expression of negative emotions. It is good if there are more successful and kind people around.

Temporary failures should not be unbalanced, you should never be upset, it is better to try to learn a life lesson from what is happening. You have to believe in yourself and your success.

Don't get hung up on the question of how to attract luck and success into your life. Start thinking positively (even if it doesn't work right away) and act. Never give up. Even if you get sick, do not despair, do not let the blues get the best of you - this will only make you feel worse.

Never build up anger, resentment, and anger. These are negative emotions that get in the way of happiness. Get rid of these feelings immediately. But just do not throw out your irritation and bad mood on those who are nearby (on relatives, relatives or colleagues), but arrange, for example, a general cleaning. Being active will help you get through any troubles. A walk on fresh air... Ordinary idleness helps someone. Acquiring peace of mind at home - what could be simpler? You just have to lie on the couch or sleep for a few hours, take a relaxing bath, listen to pleasant music, read, watch your favorite movie or TV series - the mood will noticeably improve, and there will be no trace of negativity. Our brain will hide away all unnecessary, while leaving only useful information- this is how we are made.

How to organize your life and inner world

Throw out all rubbish and rubbish from your home without regret. Hold workplace okay, and my head is clean, consolidated from bad thoughts. Try to make work a joy, do not forget to fully rest. Remember your personal space and do not violate the boundaries of others. Respect people. Give up TV and devote more time to reading (but only worthy literature), self-development.

If guilt haunts you, don't be afraid to be the first to ask for forgiveness. And if for some reason this is no longer possible, then forgive yourself.

Buy an alarm clock with a nice melody and don't jump out of bed in the morning like a fire. Allow yourself to spend a few minutes in pleasant thoughts. Reach out, smile, think about the day ahead, imagine good moments that lie ahead. It will take no more than five minutes. Look out the window and try to enjoy any weather - and the bright sun, and snowfall, and downpours. Over time, this will become a habit, and even in bad weather you will leave the house in a good mood, regardless of the wind, cold or pouring rain.

How to fill your life with joy and positive

Radiate joy every day, no matter how hard your soul may be. Positive emotions will return a hundredfold. Despite the burden of problems facing all of humanity, it is important to remain optimistic in Everyday life and share your warmth with others. Try to provide at least the smallest possible help to those who need it. But don't expect huge gratitude and praise in return. People easily forget about good deeds others are not always repaid with good. You have to be condescending to such human nature. When doing good to someone, do it simply because being kind and generous is much better than being mean and greedy.

Anger, envy, hatred are imprinted on our faces. And if you do not change for the better, then soon you can be afraid of your reflection in the mirror. Help others not only materially, but also spiritually. Sometimes simple words support or a sincere conversation means more to a person than material goods. Easily forget the bad, but never the good.

You can't change your life overnight, but you can change thoughts that will change your life forever!

How you want to radically change your life, make it rich, interesting and happy. Each of us has thought about it at least once in our life. And what is the result? Success or Disappointment? Joy or sadness? How to focus your efforts on success and take the path of well-being and peace?

How to start new life and change yourself right now? Let's figure it out, direct our actions and thoughts to a successful result, find mistakes in thinking and try to change the world around. Ready? Then let's get started!

How to change your lifestyle once and for all?

Many psychologists argue that only thoughts within us give rise to reality! Everything that surrounds us today is a figment of the imagination! Our consciousness "plans tomorrow", programs for good and bad deeds.

You think that nothing can be changed, you complain about bad people who surround you, insensitive bosses, disobedient children and so on. But, in this way, you doom yourself in advance to failure, do not want to conquer fears, drive them out of your thoughts, look at the world with different eyes, more confident and courageous.

Laziness generates powerlessness, makes you close your eyes to the existing way of life, negatively tunes your mind, plays a bad joke with you. What is missing? Common sense or wise advice?

Yes, you say, talking is one thing, but what practical methods can be applied in order to confidently answer the question of how to radically change your life for the better and achieve your goals. So, wise advice from scientific sources!

Top 5 life hacks that can change your life!

1. In her practical and theoretical instructions, Louise Hay, a well-known psychologist, said: "The strength is within us, and therefore we need to change our thinking, and the environment will adjust to the inner reality!" These wise words can change everything, your intention changes everything.
2. The second rule is that strong motivation is needed in order for the desired to become reality. Many video sources about working with the subconscious carry information that the Universal cuisine is capable of accepting any order, only you need to correctly formulate it and give a powerful message that can change everything around.
3. The third rule is positive thinking, it is important to look at the world in a different way, answer your question - what is wrong, what is the problem, find the root of evil, and try to make every effort to eradicate negative thoughts. You say: no money, no car, no housing, you have already programmed yourself to fail, the Universe hears only the word "NO".
4. The fourth rule - you need to learn how to plan your life, not to leave everything to chance. Only you should be the master of your position and not let go of the reins of power for a moment.
5. Feel happy, visualize the picture, when everything is fine with you, you have achieved what you want, received a lot of positive impressions, let these thoughts firmly sit in your head in order to begin the process of correcting reality.

Attention: it is important to take the first step, not to give up and not give up, go all the way, overcome possible obstacles and be inspired by the thought that all this will lead to a new, long-awaited, happy life!

Let your ideas and actions radically change your thinking, give you a happy personal, family, professional life, in a matter of days, months lead to confidence and fearlessness in the future!

How to find the strength to change your life for the better?

Why do we endure all the time to the last, and do not dare to take a drastic step into the unknown, why we consider ourselves losers in advance, do not change our way of thinking, but after all, everything can be different ... with or without you.

Maybe you should force yourself to become better, change your attitude towards life, turn to your subconscious and overcome your own fears. What are we afraid of? In how many days and nights you can change everything, renounce painful memories and stop living in the past.

You need to look around, decide what pulls you into the abyss, what does not allow you to rise above your fears. If these are the people around you, then it's time to change them to those who love and appreciate you, support you in all your endeavors, and not complain about your disadvantages.

Important! To be happy, you need to start appreciating what is. Yes, you do not own a mansion in Monaco, but you have a house or apartment that hundreds of thousands of people dream about, wandering through rented dwellings.

You need to live in the present, stop for a moment and realize that now can make you successful and prosperous (people, circumstances, knowledge, material aspects, wise instructions of the spiritual father).

If you notice small pleasures every day (a cup of invigorating coffee, the touch of a hand loving person, kitten rumbling), then soon you will feel how much more beautiful it becomes usual life, consciousness changes, laziness disappears, there is a desire to do something more, both for oneself and for others!

It is not for nothing that psychologists confidently speak about one thing - positive instructions and meditations make thinking bright and outstanding, and as a result, actions become bold and decisive!

There are 365 days in a year, take and plan this time for weeks, months, decades, semesters, set small and global goals, take full responsibility for your life and go forward with your head held high!

The story of one life!

“She lived and did not know what would happen tomorrow, her husband completely took control over her actions and even thoughts. He protected me from what I loved, forced me to quit my job, did not give me the opportunity to give birth to a child, because, as he put it: “Children are not included in my plans.” And she endured everything, and there were no more tears to cry over her unhappy life.

And then, one fine day she had a dream, their unborn baby, who said: "Mommy, I want you to be happy and give birth to my brother and sister!" The woman sobbed until morning, and then decided to firmly leave her husband.

Of course, the faithful did not approve of this act, he was angry, shouted, waved his fists, but thinking had already been reprogrammed and launched to implement new, cardinal plans.

Hope (our heroine) is gone. The first time was hard, her husband left her penniless, all her friends turned away, because ex-husband forbade them to communicate with her. The woman found the strength to rise, performed various jobs, traded in the market, washed the floors in the entrance, where she was given a small room, barely made ends meet.

Strength, assertiveness and desire helped her to defeat all the evil that surrounded her. Over time, Nadia found Good work by profession, she rented a cozy apartment with decent living conditions, and after a while she met the one, the only one with whom she is happy to this day, raising long-awaited children - a son and a daughter. "

Life is beautiful, and no matter how much evil there is in it, you need to thank Higher power for the opportunity to be on this earth, enjoy its gifts and not give up, whatever happens! Forgive the offenders and truly love yourself, listen to the wise instructions of the experienced and learn from your own and others' mistakes! By drawing conclusions, mistakes will become a springboard for inevitable success.

How to change your life in a short time?

Any business needs to start with planning, this is a special step-by-step instruction, which will help you not to forget something important and basic. It is best to take a notebook and pen, and write down all your thoughts on paper.

To make it easier to plan, use the following table:

Target	What's in the way?	What will help?	What is it for?
I want to go in for sports, do morning jogging.	You need to get up early.	Special literature.	Improve health.
	Change the diet, make it correct and healthy.	Instructional video.	Get rid of osteochondrosis and associated symptoms.
	You need to get rid of bad habits.	Tips from a trainer and nutritionist.	Lose weight by a few pounds.
	I won't be able to watch the morning TV series and stuff.	Support of family and friends.	Become an example to follow!

Such a program works, because you actually see that you are being pulled down and does not give you the opportunity to achieve what you want. When there are changes in life, there is no room for a bad mood and depression, the main thing is not to stop there, use meditation in order to improve the quality of your life!

Positive affirmations can turn your world upside down, and in order to master the art of meditation, you need to consciously take the righteous path, throw away everything bad, take control over yourself and your life. For clarity, you can watch a fragment of Elena Gorbacheva's webinar on how to improve your life in all directions!

Important: the documentary "Secret" will be able to answer many of your questions that will arise after deciding to radically change your life. Let this film become your support and support for the first time!

How to change consciousness?

Is it possible to manipulate your mind in order to tune your thinking on a positive wave and improve your lifestyle? Where do you start? First you need to change the picture of thought in your worldview, spend whole line useful meditations that can affect the cognitive sphere of a person.

You may need the help of a psychologist to reprogram an unsuccessful life scenario, but if you yourself are able to improve your life, then go for it. Top 5 Legal Ways to Eliminate Bad Thinking:

• bright visualization - presenting what you want in reality;
• correct meditation is to speak in the present tense, not to use the particle "no" (for example, I want to be healthy, not - I don't want to be sick!);
• learn how to enter a trance state, yoga lessons will help in this;
• thank the Universe for the gifts received;
• do not give up, even if at first nothing works, you need to discard negative thoughts and create a positive image of reality.

When reprogramming thinking, you need not be distracted by secondary factors, and various circumstances, people with negative thoughts, incorrect meditations, and so on can injure the core of your essence.

Every person up to 12 years old receives a set of standard ideas about the world, creates his own way of life, realizes what is bad and what is good. Sometimes these are false beliefs, and they have nothing to do with your worldview. So that's why you need to stop and look at the world with different (your) eyes!

There is nothing difficult in changing your consciousness, only laziness and indecision prevents us from taking a responsible step into a better future. Meditate every day, tell yourself: “My life is beautiful and perfect, my thoughts are pure and open. The Universe protects me and protects me from all troubles! "

Problems in the professional sphere - how to fix them and improve your life?

Answer the questions in front of yourself - what exactly does not suit you at the previous place of work, salary, attitude of the boss, colleagues, subordinates, kind of active and so on. Tell yourself, now I'm changing the rules and making my life bright, financially stable, interesting and happy.

1. Talk to your boss about the salary, is there a chance of getting a bonus or a raise? Focus your efforts on maximum return in order to become an irreplaceable employee, then the boss will definitely have no doubts about the increase in wages!
2. If your colleagues are unpleasant for you, then stop wasting your time and emotions on them, ignore them, look for a smarter and more adequate team, where you will be respected and appreciated for your efforts.
3. Is the field of activity not suitable? So what are you doing here! The richest people made their fortune not at work, but by pursuing a coveted hobby that brought them success, fame and material wealth.

If visible problems no, but you invented them for yourself, which means that you are still deprived of something, try to spend your free time usefully, read more, develop, discover the spiritual world, do charity work, find like-minded people and completely change not only your life, but and the world around you!

Top 10 life hacks from those who have already managed to change their lives for the better once and for all!

1. Need to step out of your comfort zone more often- do things every day that are frightening, contradictory and unusual. Try to do the opposite things - like to argue - keep quiet, wake up late - get up early tomorrow, change the route of work, do bright makeup, and so on.
2. Give your brain one task, and do not dissipate energy over trifles, do one important thing, and do not grab several at once.
3. Ask yourself what will happen in 5 years if I don't change anything now? Are you satisfied with this answer?
4. Write down all the little things, and keep priority tasks in memory, do not deviate from the set course. Visualize, imagine the end result, use meditation correctly that will help change your life for the better.
5. Take the risk do not be afraid of anything, learn from your mistakes, go forward, not stopping there!
6. Do what you like, not others! Enjoy your little joys, thank the Almighty for your care and help!
7. Get rid of unnecessary things, projects, thoughts that inhibit consciousness, stop complaining about life, thereby making it even worse.
8. Ask others, instead of guessing who thinks what, in order to avoid disastrous consequences. They don't take money for demand!
9. Plan your time and do not take away someone else's!
10. Love yourself and your life, create warmth and comfort, try to realize yourself in your favorite business and then success will be guaranteed!

Have you been able to realize what to do when everything around is bad and joyless. Or maybe you have been experiencing this state for many years and you yourself do not know what you want? Even if your ideas cannot dramatically change your family, professional, personal life, then you should not be upset, the process of self-awareness has already started and there is no turning back.

Correct meditations can change thinking, improve the quality of thought, overcome inner constraint and fear, remove laziness and passivity, give independence, boundlessness and faith in a wonderful future!

Conclusion!

Now you know for sure that you can do everything, if you really want it! The power within you can transform your thinking, get rid of laziness and negative attitudes. Be kind, polite, purposeful, so that no one can lead you astray.

Joy to you and fulfillment of all innermost desires!

It often happens that a person seeking to change their life focuses only on certain areas of life and neglects others.
For example, if he is interested in finding himself and self-realization, he may not think about physical development. If he is interested in his figure or personal life, he may not think about career or finances, etc.

But, as practice shows, this approach is a mistake.
In order to achieve results in any of the areas of life, one must not forget about both the entire personal strategy and those specific areas that do not seem important to you, but in fact play a significant role. This is the only way to solve a specific issue and change life as a whole.

If you don't know where to start, start by improving your appearance.

Here's what a renowned plastic surgeon and psychiatrist says:

❝When you change a person's face, you almost always change their future. By changing his idea of ​​his appearance, you in almost all cases change the person himself - his individual qualities, behavior - and sometimes even talents and abilities❞

This statement applies not only to a cardinal alteration of oneself by means of plastics, but also to all positive changes in appearance. Having lost five kilograms or having made new hairstyle, you begin to perceive yourself differently, you feel more confident and attractive.

Analyze your habits

The next item is habits. Our character is based on our habits. Remember the famous aphorism of Aristotle, which is familiar to many from childhood:

❝ You sow a thought - you reap an action; sow an act - you reap a habit; sow a habit - reap character; sow character - reap destiny❞.

Habits are the patterns of our behavior that govern our lives. Are we really going to let them decide everything for us, following their lead?

Method: Carefully analyze each of your habits and their impact on your life. Root out those that hinder your success, replace them with new, healthy habits.

For those who really decided to work on themselves, I offer the Success Diary - a classic diary with applications for achieving success and working on yourself

4. Conditioned reflexes
No wonder the scientist Pavlov tortured dogs: conditioned reflexes are the basis of the foundations. With this key, you can form any habit you need.

Method: Repetitive reinforcement activities develop new skills and habits. When a new skill is fixed, it will go into the subconscious and you will do everything automatically, unloading your brain for new achievements.
Reward yourself for success, or deprive yourself of something if you backed down from your plan to change yourself. Let your new quality be necessary and desirable for you.

5. Eradication
What cannot be turned into a plus, just eradicate.

How to identify your negative qualities and how to see yourself from the outside, read the article. There you can also download a table of negative human properties.

6. Double life
The technique is suitable for developing new character traits and more significant changes in oneself.

Method: Imagine yourself as you want to be. Rehearse the new role mentally over and over. To be more convincing, buy things that will help you get into the image and highlight your new qualities. Only wear them for your second life.
Your environment is unlikely to immediately accept you new, so communicate with those who do not know you! Rehearse your new qualities on them. How much will they believe in your image? And if something doesn't work out, you can always change the place and environment, and try again.

7. Use your imagination

In the course of the experiment, it was proved that if a person spends a certain period of time every day in front of the target, imagining himself throwing darts at it, then his results will improve as much as if he actually threw darts at the target every day.

Mental imagery allows us to "practice" new relationships with people and character traits that would otherwise be unattainable. Our nervous system unable to distinguish reality from what our imagination has vividly drawn. When we picture ourselves doing something in some special way, it is almost the same as actually doing it. Mental practice helps to achieve perfection.

Method: Every day, in the morning and before bed, mentally imagine yourself as you strive to be. How you speak, how you move, what you are wearing, how you react to situations. Do this over and over. This imaginary picture will have a profound effect on your behavior. And remember, how you see yourself from the inside largely determines how others see you.

8. Shock
If you want to change yourself but still don't find enough motivation to get started, let failure be your motivation.

Method: Communicate with people who will openly despise you. Use other people's taunts to your advantage. Prove to them that you can be better, prettier, smarter. This method has never failed.

9. Alien
Often with our loved ones, we behave just like a pig. Hamim, we neglect them and do not respect them at all. Whereas with strangers we are completely different, especially with the authorities. If you want to change your behavior, try this method.

Method: Imagine in the place of a father or mother a completely stranger to you, whom you want to impress. Treat them like the boss on whom your salary depends. Try to look at them distantly, as if you are seeing them for the first time.

10. Tune in to the wave

Method: Change your environment and interact with the people you want to be like. Take over their habits, their way of thinking. In every book, on achieving success, communication with successful people how does it work?

In the course of communication with another person, we are tuned in to his wave - to the mentality of the interlocutor and his worldview. Without this, communication is impossible. As a result of this adjustment, we temporarily change our ideas, stereotypes of thinking and behavior, to those of others. And the more often this happens, that is, the more often we communicate, the more we adopt, until someone else's picture of the world becomes ours.

11. Cold shower of the "future"
When you really grow up and think about the future, you suddenly realize that it's time to get rid of many habits and character traits. The thought that soon you will have to build a new life with your family is sobering. I no longer want to waste money, be unnecessary, drink all night with friends.

Method: Think about the future and the life you want to have, and understand for yourself how to change and what habits to eradicate.

But I want to warn you - don't take on too much. Inborn temperament is poorly amenable to change.

An introvert (a person deep in himself), of course, can change and become his opposite - an extrovert. But he will very soon get tired of this "role" and will be unhappy, being in sight, secretly wanting to be alone with himself and his thoughts. There will be a feeling of emptiness. It arises from the loss of energy, because introverts draw it from within themselves, and only spend it in communication with others. It becomes clear that leading such a life for a long time is difficult and exhausting.

Be sure to record your victories and defeats in a Success Diary, which is definitely worth keeping if you are aiming at getting serious results.

Or maybe you don't need to change?

Find your circle where you will be accepted as you are and there you will be happy. Everyone has their own value system and it is quite possible that your dream will change and become more popular, successful, etc. will not bring the desired joy.

Or sublimate your energy into creativity. How can this incomprehensible Freudian term help us? The fact that we can redirect ourselves, life, others into creativity, using the protective mechanisms of our psyche.

Leonardo da Vinci, the great painter, scientist and engineer, did just that. For whatever he undertakes - he brought it to perfection. At the same time, it is reliably known that he had no interest in sex. A similar sublimation can be traced in many creative people. They simply cannot create when they are happy.

Sublimate (redirect) your energy and desires into creativity, new hobbies. Are you bespectacled with a bad figure and therefore have difficulties with the opposite sex? There are two ways out - to change, working on yourself: exhausting workouts plus pickup courses. Or - find the hobby of your whole life and create. We miss your talent so much!

While changing yourself, do not forget to change the space around you. Tidy up a messy apartment and change your wardrobe, how to do it quickly and easily - in Erin Doland's motivating book "Make Your Life Easy" ().