A. Demkin
If the soul hurts ... What to do if the soul feels bad?

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What to do if the soul hurts, if the soul feels bad?

10 steps out of the crisis.

10 steps personal experience out of a spiritual crisis. One of the solutions.

"There is no salvation without sorrows, but the Kingdom of Heaven awaits those who endure."
Reverend Seraphim Sarovskiy

Each of us had, is and will have moments or periods when the soul is unbearably ill, when the soul hurts and mourns. I don't want to see anyone, I don't want to talk to anyone. I don't want to eat, I don't want to move... At such moments, I can't believe that someday my soul will get better and learn to be happy again. It is impossible to look into the future in such a state. You see only a blank wall in front of you and bitter losses or mistakes behind you. Do not sleep at night. There is no strength for anything ... It is very, very difficult to get out of such a state of mind. The soul hurts, the soul hurts...

If you hear that someone is trying to enter into your thoughts in a conversation with you - do not answer. Say: " Get away from me, unclean spirit, I don’t want to listen to you, I only believe in my Lord Jesus Christ, I worship, and I serve Him alone». Give thoughts simple and wholesome food - prayers: use simple and short rule St. Ignatius Bryanchaninov: " Thank God for everything! God! I surrender to Your Holy Will! Be with me Thy will! God! I thank You for everything You are pleased to send to me. Worthy according to my deeds I accept; remember me, Lord, in your kingdom!» Feel these thoughts. Read the Jesus Prayer to yourself as often as possible: Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner ". If you are closer to the appeal to the Mother of God, read: “ Holy Mother of God have mercy on me ". You will notice how every day prayers give you more and more strength, how the forces of evil recede from you. In the morning, getting out of bed after reading these simple prayers, turn your face to the west (where the sun usually sets) and say: “I renounce you, Satan, and all your works, and all your angels, and all your ministry, and all your pride yours." Then blow into those in the same direction. The same words must be pronounced in the evening after the prayer "Let God rise again." Before lying on the bed, reading a prayer Let God arise, and let His enemies be scattered, and let him flee from His presence. As the smoke disappears, let them disappear; as wax melts in the presence of fire, so let the demons perish in the presence of those who love God and signify sign of the cross, and in the joy of saying: Rejoice, Most Honorable and Life-Giving Cross of the Lord, drive away demons by the power of Our Lord Jesus Christ crucified on You, who descended into hell and corrected the power of the devil, and gave Himself to us, His Honest Cross to drive away every adversary. O most honorable and life-giving Cross of the Lord! Help me with the Holy Lady Virgin Mother of God and with all the saints forever. Amen. After reading the prayer, cross with your hand all four cardinal directions, and your bed. Ask them to bring you holy water from a temple or holy spring. Sprinkle holy water on your house, your bed, yourself and drink holy water with a prayer: Oh my God, may your holy gift and your holy water be for the remission of my sins, for the enlightenment of my mind, for the strengthening of my spiritual and bodily strength, for the health of my soul and body, for the subjugation of my passions and infirmities, by Thy boundless mercy through the prayers of Thy Most Pure Mother and all Thy Saints. Amen. When you feel strong enough in yourself to go out, ask someone close to take you to. Accompanied loved one whom you trust, try to bathe three times in the waters of the holy spring. The waters of the holy spring have great healing power and are able to drive away the most powerful demons. If there are no holy springs in your area, with the help of an escort, ford a river or stream three times, trying to plunge headlong. If there is no river in your area, pour holy water from the temple on the top of your head. It is believed that demons "sit" there. After washing, it is good to go to the hairdresser: cut off the ends of the hair, where "demons" can sit. When, after washing, you gain more strength, visit the temple for the sacrament of Unction, or Anointing of the Unction or Unction. Through this Sacrament, believers are given the healing power of God, which significantly weakens the action of demons as well. Also, forgotten and unconscious sins are forgiven. The sacrament consists in the sevenfold anointing of body parts (foreheads, nostrils, cheeks, mouth, chest and hands) with consecrated oil, which is preceded by the reading of the Apostle, the Gospel, a short litany and a prayer for the healing of a person and the forgiveness of his sins. During the anointing, the priest prays, lays the Gospel on the head of the person with the letters down and says a prayer of permissiveness from sins. The soul becomes lighter. The pain recedes. Let's move on to confession and communion. It is best to confess in a monastery, located far from the tourist routes. It is necessary to find out in advance which of the priests is more experienced in this matter, because a lot depends on the personality of the confessor. If there are no spiritually reasonable priests nearby, you will have to find out from the believers where they are and go there. Your future depends on the quality of this confession! It should not be general, but only individual. If there are no monasteries nearby, find out about quiet rural parishes where there are no tourists, where there are few people, and the priest will have time to attend to you. Prayer to your Guardian Angel: Holy Angel of the Lord, my Guardian, save and save my soul from the networks of the enemy. In the Leningrad and Pskov regions, I can recommend for confession: For women: Tvorozhkovsky Monastery and Vvedeno-Oyatsky Monastery For men: Krypetsky Monastery Rural parishes: Zaruchie and Pribuzh. Methodology "Mental Cross" in the treatment of anxiety, fears and anxiety We suggest that you familiarize yourself with the drug-free method "Mental Cross" which helps to relieve unaccountable and constant anxiety, improve sleep, process intrusive thoughts and painful memories. To restore a normal night's sleep, use our video or audio classes "Healing Dreams" . Before you are prescribed treatment by a doctor (if necessary), you can support your strength with one of the most harmless medicines, which consists simply of Magnesium metal and vitamin B6: Magne B6(France, more expensive) or Magnelis B6 (Russia, cheaper). This tool helps to quickly relieve internal stress. Clinical studies have shown that therapy with Magne B6 can significantly improve mental and somatic (vegetative) manifestations of anxiety with the same efficiency as the use of tranquilizers, and is comparable in antidepressant effect with the use of antidepressants. But here it is important to note that therapy with a magnesium-containing drug, and in particular Magne B6 forte, should be long - from 2-3 months to a year. The minimum period of therapy with magnesium-containing preparations is 2 months - it can be recommended to young people under the age of 40 years. Persons over 40 years of age should take the drug from 2-3 to 6 months. People who are in a state of acute or chronic stress need to take magnesium during the entire period of the negative impact of stress factors. In chronic stress in the absence of kidney disease, you can recommend taking the drug Magnerot(500 mg magnesium) 1-2 tablets daily. It is possible to take Magnerot for a long time - during the entire period of action of the factors that cause stress. Magnerot is cheaper than Magne B6. Other harmless remedy in the treatment of anxiety, tension, depression and sleep disorders is a common valerian (valerian extract). However, for effective use valerian must be used in the correct doses. Clinically proven efficacy of valerian extract starts with a single dose of 100 mg (that's 5 tablets of 20 mg valerian extract). With increased anxiety, irritability, neuromuscular tension, 100 mg of valerian extract is prescribed 3 times a day. Before going to bed (an hour before bedtime) take 400-460 mg of valerian (20-23 tablets of 20 mg). Taking valerian in such doses reduces the onset of sleep by 9-11 minutes, makes sleep deeper, and reduces the number of nocturnal awakenings. The recommended duration of treatment with valerian is up to 28 days. The ratio of the dose of valerian extract and the weight of valerian root: 200 mg of valerian extract is equivalent to 1 g of dry valerian root. That is, to prepare daily portions of valerian, you will need 0.5 g of dry valerian root per reception, and before going to bed - 2 g of dry valerian root. other good medicine, which is sold in pharmacies without a prescription, is Afobazole. Afobazole reduces the feeling of constant anxiety (concern, bad forebodings, fears), reduces irritability and tearfulness, reduces constant tension, improves sleep, gives more strength and self-confidence, improves concentration and attention. Afobazole does not reduce the speed of psychomotor reactions, does not reduce muscle strength, and its administration can be combined with driving a car or performing other complex operator activities. Also, afobazole is not addictive. Afobazole is taken 1 tablet (10 mg) 3 times a day after meals. Relief of anxiety, neuropsychic tension occurs already on the 2-3rd day of taking afobazole. The pronounced effect develops for 5-7 days. The course of treatment with afobazole is 2-4 weeks, depending on the effect. Maximum effect develops by the 4th week of taking afobazole. Side effects: at the beginning of taking afobazole may appear headache which will pass in a few days from the start of treatment. Allergic reactions are possible. Be sure to consult your doctor before taking afobazole! To support the body during acute and chronic stress, it is important to eat foods that contain substances that reduce the manifestations of stress. Psychophysiological method of self-regulation by A. Demkin "Unloading" under conditions of severe stress. Which saint in what cases to pray?Orthodox prayers for different occasions.

Life is not always colorful and happy, there are moments when even an optimist gives up. Around it seems that everyone is against you - relatives, strangers, bosses, even nature is crying with you in the pouring rain. There is a feeling that it will not be worse than it is. How to act in such a situation? First of all, calm down, figure it out, maybe you are just winding yourself up.

Is it possible to deal with your emotions?

Every person has a different mood. Sometimes we ourselves can’t figure out why it happened that way and appeared. Here you need to be patient! Not all days are good. No wonder they say that life is an alternation of white and black stripes. But, if you think about it, in fact, life is chessboard, it all depends on the right move.

You got up in the morning and everything started to fall apart? Do breathing calming exercises that will put your thoughts in order, tune in a positive way.

Often the cause of a bad mood, apathy, is idleness. Sometimes it's boring, you don't know what to do with yourself. The computer is tired, the TV too. Say "stop" to yourself! Why are you living and wasting your time. Do something useful.

Many women on maternity leave constantly lash out at their husbands in the evening, because they are bored of sitting at home all day. As a result, it disappears, problems arise in relationships. And you did not try to occupy yourself with something interesting, try to develop, do what you like. Some women immediately find an excuse: “I have Small child!" So what? This is not where life ends, it just begins. If you set an example that you are constantly working, actively moving, you and your children will grow purposeful, active.

Almost all experts say: It is bad for those who do not want to do anything to make it good. You can never give up. Life is a struggle, a kind of overcoming obstacles.. Take advantage of these valuable tips.

think of something good

Often all problems appear because of it. Do not escalate the situation, you do not need to constantly inspire yourself that bad things will happen. Remember good moment from life or dream about something pleasant. It will get easier right away.

smile

Fell into depression, yearning? Go to the mirror, look into it and smile. You are beautiful, a bad mood does not suit you, so get rid of it.

Appreciate what you have

Many people are selfish, they demand from others what is not clear. The mistake is that egoists do not appreciate what they have, they want to conquer the peaks. Dreams and aspirations are good, but sometimes you need to get down to earth and think about your loved ones that you are hurting. Some can easily lose love, friendship, at first they think that there is nothing wrong with that. And then they realize the mistake, and it is no longer possible to return the person.

This doesn't just happen to people. Let's give a simple example, you dream about something for a very long time, you wait, and when it comes true, everything is not as you would like. As a result, there is emptiness in the soul, a feeling of anxiety, apathy appears. Often this feeling is experienced by people who have. They constantly want to achieve their goal, but achieving the goal does not bring them joy.

Remember! Rejoice in the present, not in the illusory, invented. Dream, but do not forget about real life.

Adhere to the principle: "Everything that is done is only for the better"

Any problems? Try to model the situation differently. If this happens, then it needs to be experienced. Do not immediately panic, tear your hair out, try to change something. Just calm down, wait, maybe you need to rest, and after a while you will already be laughing at your problems.

How to get out of the impasse?

First of all, remember that "the night always ends and the day comes." Learn to endure all trials, be wise. Experienced psychotherapists pay attention to such methods:

• Get your life in order. Get rid of everything that makes you uncomfortable. Tired of constantly repairing the sideboard? Throw it away and buy a new one. Worried about getting wet and ruining your hair? Call taxi. Do you constantly quarrel with your husband or wife, relationships do not bring joy, only torment you? Consider divorce. Remember, the end is always the beginning of a new life.
• Do not give up. Some people think that the way out of the situation is to get drunk, get high, use stimulants, party all night in a nightclub. Why jump headlong into the pool? Always remember that drugs are temporary happiness, which in the future leads to dangerous consequences.
• Sign up for a gym . Throw away all negative energy during physical activity. In addition to improving your mood, you will look great, and this will give confidence in life.
• Try to do good, it will definitely come back to you . If something constantly goes wrong with you, you didn’t think that you harmed someone, you made a mistake.
• Get rid of negative emotions . You can go far into nature and scream with all your might. If it’s very bad, cry, all the mental pain will come out with tears. Write about all your problems, and then burn the paper.

You can’t cope with yourself on your own, have you fallen into a deep depression? Consult a psychotherapist, he will help you find a way out of the situation. Perhaps some time you need to drink sedatives. For example, they often prescribe tincture of valerian, motherwort. But do not get carried away with antidepressants, tranquilizers - they only aggravate the situation.

Sit and think, why is everything so bad? Look around, maybe someone is much worse, and you just came up with your own tragedies. Learn to calmly perceive all life's troubles, do not give up, always fight to the end. The main thing is not to succumb to various temptations, negative influences. Be yourself in every situation. Be happy, enjoy life and do not pay attention to various trifles!

Even the most happy people There are times in life when your heart is heavy and you want to cry. Sometimes it's spleen, and sometimes natural depression. In the latter case, one should not neglect treatment under the supervision of an intelligent psychotherapist. In other cases, everything is in your power.

How to find the beginning of everything

This will help you understand what to do. First of all, try to remember step by step what led to this heaviness. Find the maximum of serious, accurate, and ... funny in this. Much depends on the reason why it is so hard on the soul.

If you yourself are to blame, for example, you offended someone or committed some kind of offense, you should not suffer too much. Just remember that you have the right to make mistakes and try to forgive yourself. For example, do a little training:

First, call your offense the word "Mistake". It's not a deadly sin, it's just a mistake. then remember that you are still good. That's right: tell yourself "I'm good" and hug yourself. And just calm down, ask yourself what to do. Now that you have cooled down and understood, you can start correcting the mistake.

Be sure to ask for forgiveness from the person you offended. Do not hesitate with this, because both of you can boil a lot in your soul and ask for forgiveness, and it will be more difficult to forgive. Yes, and nerve cells are restored slowly and sadly. But only ask for forgiveness when emotions have already subsided and you can reason and respond to any words sensibly and calmly.

Or maybe it’s not you, but someone is to blame for the fact that it’s hard on your soul. What to do if you are offended? Similarly, understand that a person has the right to make mistakes. Most likely, he did not set himself the goal of offending you, he simply stumbled. if it's hard after a breakup or departure best friend to another city (country), then it remains only to take it for granted. Remember all the wonderful things that you had and remain grateful to this person. And get ready for the fact that in later life you will have many new and wonderful people and acquaintances.

Think and speak only good things

This is the simplest answer to the question of what to do when it's hard at heart. Thoughts and words are material, therefore, negative thoughts will not allow you to get rid of heaviness in your soul and blues, but will drag you even deeper. This is the most difficult, but try to keep track of all the bad thoughts and forcefully replace them with good ones. This will not help to solve the problem at the root, but here and now it will help.

Let the feelings go

Do not believe that grief cannot be helped by tears. Can. You will release all the sad thoughts if you roar well, and then you will surely understand that life has not ended yet and you will see it in a new light.

Here and now

The most vague and annoying piece of advice ever difficult situation sounds like this: "Live here and now." This can be done with the help of small trainings and exercises.

• Do something with your hands: wash, weave, tie, sew, write, join. Just achieve simple completeness and wholeness in something small. Just let go fine motor skills hands, which will definitely distract from thoughts. If this is not possible, go to the store and sort through something with your hands;
• Having found an unexpected point on your body, imagine that you are drawing it in the air and describing circles;
• Imagine that you are a comic book or a running picture. Try as a comic book superhero to get out of all difficult situations;
• If your heart is cloudy, imagine yourself as a piece of furniture or something else from the house or part of nature (for example, a tree outside the window or a bush). Tell a monologue on his behalf. Firstly, this way you can better understand what worries you and causes heaviness, and secondly, fuse the negative into something inanimate;

Remember what once was good for you

If it was, then it will be again. You definitely had happy times, after all, it was not always hard on your soul. Try sending yourself a letter from yourself during a happy period of your life or from the place where you had the best time in your life, for example, from the place of the happiest vacation of your life.

Try to recreate the situation in which you felt good as accurately as possible. Assemble it from the smallest details. If you can't fully experience bliss, at least simulate it. It is possible to restore the most happy moment in your life.

Do good to your neighbor

Think about how you can please family or friends. You can give them small but cute gifts or cook something delicious. If you can make people smile and positive emotions then they will come back to you.

give thanks

Try to give thanks for what got you into such a dead end. Think about the lessons that can be learned from this, as well as how to push off from this bottom.

Simple Tips

• Go to bed. Maybe it's just plain tiredness. In general, try to relax by changing the environment. You don’t even need to go anywhere, you can just go out and walk around the shops. Take a small amount of money and buy what you want, no matter how small.
• Go in for sports. You don’t even need to go to the gym - just move around. You can turn on a video set of exercises that gives an active load on the body. Or work out on the street - this is ideal.

You can remember old physical skills like handstand or brush up on your stretch. It will also raise self-esteem.

Don't lock yourself in

Be sure to share your difficult thoughts with loved ones. You can ask for advice from two people at once: sharp and unrestrained in words and affectionate and kind.

If it’s hard on the soul, the usual melancholy may be to blame. What to do with her? Just do not let it get close, because it can tighten with your head.

We have already written about depression and apathy, but what to do when your heart is just bad, and you seem to understand that this will pass, but you want to somehow speed up the process? First of all, accept this state, do not try to reject it - absolutely all people are prone to blues, to a greater or lesser extent. This is due to the change of seasons, and the lack of sunlight, and hormonal changes in the body. In order to quickly return to good location spirit, use our advice on what to do when you feel bad at heart.

1) Eat positive! The first thing to do in the fight against blues is to reorganize your diet by adding mood-enhancing foods to it. These include milk, tomatoes, fish, blueberries, broccoli, red peppers, bananas, cottage cheese, whole grain flour products, all kinds of cereals and almonds, as well as citrus fruits. Don't forget about the visual component of food - when food looks beautiful, mood and appetite increase by themselves. It will be just great if you are fascinated by the preparation of a new dish, for example, cottage cheese pie with almonds and banana. Inhaling wonderful aromas in the kitchen and enjoying the results of your labors (better not alone), you will quickly forget about all your worries.

2) "Injections" of joy. Imagine that your feeling of "not feeling well at heart" is a perfectly treatable disease, and follow the written prescription for the most positive films, books, series and magazines you can find. Review your favorite comedies, films about love, in which a happy ending invariably happens, re-read positive books, in general, remember everything that has ever made you laugh, touched you and cheered you up, and take it with shock doses!

3) Surround yourself with care. Very often, a depressed state is a sign of fatigue, so your body reminds the owner that he is not a machine, he needs rest, care and affection. Give it to him now! Go for a massage, take a fragrant bath, stop overworking yourself at home, let someone else cook food for several days, or go to catering with the whole family. It is imperative to reduce the level of stress, and for this, forget about problems and worries for a while, and focus on your loved one. The sooner you get out of the current state, the sooner you can return to your life with its sorrows and joys.

4) Get rid of the old. There are two wonderful and accessible to everyone techniques for those who do not know what to do when the soul is bad. One of them is a general cleaning of your archives and mezzanines. No, we do not force you to wash windows and vacuum the far corners: your task is to get rid of all unnecessary old rubbish that completely unreasonably takes up space in the apartment, not letting new positive energy into it. Haven't used the item in the last six months? So you don't really need it. Give and throw away everything: old notebooks, clothes, broken furniture, unnecessary books and interior items. Pay attention to how much easier it becomes to breathe with each discarded bag or box - of course, because you get rid of the ballast, the burden of the past, which does not allow you to move forward.

5) Create a new one. Second practical technique, which is a logical continuation of the first - creation. Draw the sun or flowers on the wall, repaint (re-paste) the wallpaper in a bright color, enliven the room in which you spend the most time with flowers, fabrics, something new. This will help to breathe new energy into you, so that your soul becomes light and joyful.

Life is beautiful, but the soul is still bad? Life doesn't matter here

You probably thought that I would suggest that you buy rose-colored glasses and look through them how much life is Beautiful?

No, I will not offer rose-colored glasses or blue lenses. It is not that simple.

Today, in a conversation with young people, one can easily meet the objection “we are not like that, life is like that”. Those who are older express the same idea in a slightly different way: “you can go crazy from such a life.”

Well, pensioners usually blame the authorities (former or present). Some of them go even higher and blame Satan, and some blame God.

So, throwing everything into one “pot”, people are surprised why the received is not digested and so bad at heart, more than ever.

Find the real reasons for your fear and help people root it out of their souls.

You don't have to associate closely with someone who undermines your self-confidence.

To deprive others of confidence is the property of petty little souls. You, being a generous person, on the contrary, inspire people with a sense of confidence and inner conviction.

It's all about the hat

More precisely, in their own . Scan your character, see if fierce laziness, bitter selfishness and paralyzing fear have sprouted there.

Let you be filled with completely different qualities and then in my heart will be easy. After all life is Beautiful!