Individual placement. Systematic consideration of problems

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Each person is part of his family system, which includes all his blood relatives, as well as all his sexual partners. The members of the family system, as well as the processes taking place or taking place in the family system, have an impact on our life. And perhaps we subconsciously finish or live something for someone, without having the vital resources to solve our own problems. Perhaps we cannot accept someone in our family system or begin to receive love from those who can and are ready to give it to us, and this prevents us from achieving in our life what we really want to achieve. what happens in the family system, and also shows the ways out of difficult life situations and achieving the desired results. http://dvizenie.org/ Make an appointment by phone 943-13-82

11 months ago

We're talking about a request. Requesting is a fundamental part of changing our lives. This is a statement to the space that "I am ready to change." As soon as you start asking, space instantly responds with any possible way... The problem may be that you are receiving the wrong information, because you are asking the wrong. How to formulate a request correctly: 1) The request should sound from the client, not the patient. This means that a person is aware that everything that happens to him is the result of his actions. thoughts and so on. 2) The request must sound from I. The laws of our world prohibit influencing another subject. 3) The word - "why", we change - "why". "For what" - the same, "why do I need this." "What does it show to me, in me"? 3) If this request is related to experience, the history of your kind, it is important to ask the right questions about the relationship of those stories with your current situation. 4) We check if the program manifests itself in the context of my statements of the topic, or something similar also manifests itself in other areas of my life. Where am I in my character with this sign, where is it repeated. 4) When you go to the constellation, find out information about your ancestors. After whom you were named. Who had similar situations, problems. What would you first look at this. When everything is properly prepared, formulated, then everything in a person's life begins to change even before the arrangement.

Kinky2 years ago

Get unlimited for everything http://lp.laboratoria.tv/uspexlico/ In family system constellations, the family is a synonym for Rod. We are all in the Rhoda field. Problems do not always come from being active or passive. We are part of our parents and family. Problems depend on family weaves. We depend on how our ancestors lived. The relationship with mom determines our success in life. What is mom in your life? Analyze your relationship with your partner. Analyze where is your success in life and what kind of relationship with your mother. Today we take the first step towards solving these family problems. Messages from all the women of the Family go through my mother. 07:43 What is family to you? 12:35 Events that are kept silent turn into a family secret. 13:38 What role do you play in your family? 17:21 You are in the field of the clan 18:28 What is your relationship with your mother? 53:30 Going to the spiritual constellation "Adopting Mother" 01:41:15 End of practice 01:44:13 Feedback 01:57:32 End of lesson License to play music http://www.mediafire.com/view/p77d7s1. ..

Kinky2 years ago

Many of us have one serious diagnosis called Interrupted Movement to Mother. When we are born into this world, we are connected with our mother so much that it seems to us that we are one. And mom for us is the embodiment of the very love that we expect to see here on planet Earth when we come here. And we have a natural movement, a natural love for mom, which is born much earlier than we are on this world, while we are still inside her. But when something happens and at a young age we cannot be near, even in the maternity hospital, when they are taken away in the first minutes, the child experiences such a shock, such pain that it is very difficult for him to cope with. And when he copes, on a subconscious level he decides never to come close to mom so that God forbid, she will leave again, and I will live that same pain again. The pain of loss, the pain of separation. And there is an interrupted movement to the mother, which affects further on the whole life. Vania Markovich - Rector, Professor at the Academy of Constellations, lecturer at the French University Samadeva, mediator of constellations and expert in human relations. We are always glad to see you at the arrangements in the Samadeva center! Come to the address St. Petersburg, st. Kazanskaya 10 (2nd floor). 945-13-24 We carry out remote constellations if you are in another city and cannot come! The site of the Constellation Academy www.academy-system.com The video was filmed during the constellations.

The psychological method of the German doctor Bert Hellinger has earned the recognition of specialists in various fields: pedagogy, psychotherapy, sociology, marketing. The uniqueness lies in the simplicity of the method, the ability to find the root of problems in various spheres of a person's life, as well as to determine the ways of solving the identified negative states and situations. Hellinger's constellations have been used successfully for several decades. but this method has not only admirers, but also opponents who believe that the system harms the participants in the program.

What are systemic constellations

Teaching is an effective practice that was introduced in 1925 by the German philosopher and psychotherapist Bert Hellinger. Systemic constellations is the ability to feel, “scan” the energy and informational field of a problem situation. The Hellinger method is based on the innate ability of humans to sense. Its proof is our feelings after random encounters with people. Some awaken in us exclusively positive emotions, after communicating with others, you want to take a shower and wash off the negativity and irritation from yourself.

Hellinger's constellations involve working with a group of people. Each participant must use the natural ability to "feel" people and a problem situation, which was set by the leader. As a rule, people can easily read information about difficulties in different areas the life of the main participant (the person whose problem is being worked on).

Each of us is a complementary part of a single system. People are connected by generic programs, family relations, religion, national traditions, friendship, business partnership. We influence and depend on each other, we seek mutual understanding and love, but among a huge number of people we often feel lonely. This sense of self is dictated by the state of detachment: a person extols suffering and pain, his own exclusivity.

The Hellinger installation serves simple method helping people to understand the commonality of their problems. With the help of constellations, program participants can get rid of many far-fetched problems, mental beliefs, revealing their root causes. Typically, these are disruptive family programs and unfinished problem situations in the family, having a negative impact on the fate of a person. With the help of Hellinger's constellations, it is possible to reveal the root causes:

• diseases (drug addiction, alcoholism, genetic diseases);
• difficulties in family relationships, in relationships with the opposite sex;
• various phobias, depression, panic attacks;
• childlessness (if there is no infertility);
• business problems;
• unfulfillment in life.

What are the constellations according to the Bert Hellinger method?

Psychological counseling, based on any approach (classical or systemic), begins with identifying the client's problem. At this stage, the specialist determines which placement method is best to apply. The Hellinger system implies several basic types: family, structural, organizational, client and spiritual constellations. What are their features and differences?

Family

The type of constellation involves working with family problems. Family constellations according to B. Hellinger include the development of intrapersonal conflicts, generic messages that negatively affect a person's life. Experts are convinced that many clients' difficulties are attributed to trauma that has been transferred within the family system in the past. Problems are often associated with a failure in the order of the hierarchy or the principle of "take and give" (the desire of parents to take from their children, the children's awareness of their superiority over their parents and the like).

Bert Hellinger believed that family trauma is the main cause of any health problem, in personal life or in the material sphere. The psychotherapist is convinced that the root of any problem is the desire to erase (forget) the participants in the family trauma - both the perpetrators and the victims. This desire to exclude what happened from memory becomes a "causative agent" of various problem situations and wrong mental programs in subsequent generations of the genus. The Hellinger Constellation Method helps to find the hidden causes of the client's unhealthy state and get rid of them.

Structural

This kind Hellinger's constellations helps to establish such areas of life as work, finances, illness, get rid of fears. The method is extremely effective if there is no logical reason for repeating the same problem. Structural constellations help to extract the deep causes of problem situations to the level of consciousness. The program implies the transformation of a person - this allows him to independently change at a deep level.

Organizational

Designed to solve problems among members of work collectives. Special areas of application of the program are working with business consultants, script writers, scientists. Organizational constellations by the Hellinger method imply "playing" roles, main character traits, specific stories. The goal of the method is to build a team to increase the productivity of the team or to resolve internal conflicts. The priority of the organizational constellations is the employees themselves, their community.

Client

Hellinger constellations are aimed at people whose professions involve helping others (doctors, social workers, psychologists, teachers). This type of program helps to consider the relationship between helpers and recipients of help. Through client constellations, it is possible to see how effective this support is, what motives are driving the helpers and, if desired, correct them.

Spiritual

The teaching positions the spirit as something that stimulates development. This Hellinger constellation identifies the therapist and participants as instruments for the manifestation of the spirit. The technique is somewhat in conflict with therapeutic constellations, where the main role is assigned to the therapist seeking a solution to the client's problem. The system does not use the concepts of "problem" and "solution". Spiritual constellations view a situation through the free movement of consciousness.

Laws of the order of love

The family constellation method is based on two main concepts - conscience and order. The psychotherapist in personal philosophy relies on the aspect of conscience, which acts as an analyzer and "organ of balance" of a person. The system will work well only if the conscience is calm - then there is an inner confidence that family life developed. Anxiety means that the person can no longer belong to the system. This concept is a detector of the degree of internal equilibrium.

Hellinger divides conscience into unconscious and conscious. If an individual acts in accordance with the latter, he is breaking the rules of the unconscious. So, a conscious conscience gives us excuses, and an unconscious one makes us feel guilty. The therapist says that the conflict between them often causes problems in the family. The relationship between husband and wife in such a conflict will be destroyed even in the presence of strong love.

Many people believe that the established family order can change under their influence, or that they can be easily overpowered with some effort. However, love is not able to give order, since the latter serves as a fundamental principle, and love is only a component of order. So, love is formed exclusively within any order, and it is impossible to change it through your own efforts.

How the system placement is carried out

Group therapy involves working with each participant, which can last from 30 to 90 minutes. The duration of the system placement is determined depending on the number of requests. The person whose problem is being worked out himself determines which of the group will play the roles of his family members. For example, a woman who has a problematic situation with her husband chooses participants for the role of herself and her husband. The client, under the guidance of her own ideas and feelings, according to the instructions of the psychotherapist, places the participants around the room.

Amazing things happen during the program: “substitutes” (they are also participants) experience the feelings and emotions of family members, whose roles they play, through their own experience. So, strangers immerse themselves in a situation so deeply that they can clearly express situations that are happening to someone. Thanks to this effect, there is no need to talk a lot about the events that took place in the client's family.

What is the danger of the method

Each profession is associated with dangers to some extent. For example, an unprofessional driver can run over a pedestrian, an inexperienced lawyer will deprive a person of freedom, an unskilled doctor will allow an illness to kill a patient. Due to lack of experience or low qualifications of a psychologist, the client can lose personal integrity or mental health. Even psychological work would be dangerous in the hands of a layman.

The benefits of the constellation method are directly related to the professionalism of the facilitator. Only an experienced specialist will determine which version of the system is best suited to the application for a particular person, and which one can cause harm or turn out to be useless. With the help of Hellinger's constellations, participants come into contact with the personalities of other people, getting used to the role. The psychotherapist's guidance makes the process safer for the "actor" who leaves the assigned role without negative consequences.

Features of teaching methodology

The constellation school will be of interest to novice or practicing psychologists, family doctors, psychotherapists, social workers, educators and everyone who works with people. The main teaching methods used in the program include theoretical and practical parts. The first involves studying the basics of constellation, reading philosophical notes, considering the methodological and morphogenetic prerequisites of the system. The practical part contains the analysis specific situations and work through the family constellation method.

During the course, students are introduced to the psychological and philosophical teachings of the constellation method. Students will learn about the basic prerequisites of the system, for example, positive conditions to develop healthy family or work relationships. During the training, it is considered how love relationships develop or break down. Course participants can study their own problem situations through the prism of Hellinger's constellations and see methods of solving them.

Video about systemic constellations according to Hellinger

Modern psychotherapists are convinced that the method is most valuable in practice, not theory. However, to achieve the best results in group constellation work, you need to understand what the basic concepts and principles of the system are. With the help of the video below, you will gain basic knowledge and understanding of psychological method Hellinger.

Very often people have a question after constellations - what should I do to make it work? What can and should be done, what is better to refrain from?

It is very important to understand that what is a problem for us is a solution for the system. That is our problems are a reflection of some violations in the system... If we compensate for these violations during the deployment, then the old solution becomes unnecessary for the system. This is in theory. In practice, we are faced with the fact that after some time we return to the beaten track.

There are many reasons for this, but the most important is inertia. We are used to acting this way, feeling this way, talking this way. And the new can be rejected in a few days. Then we return to the same place where we started, but with a sense of disappointment.

What can be done to ensure that the effect is not lost after a few days? How can you stay in a new state and not slide back?

1. Do some actions after work

Constellators often talk about the Body-Mind-Soul triangle. And it is very important to use all three elements in the work. If the body does not go where the soul needs, then nothing will happen.

Therefore, very it is recommended after the constellations to go to the temple, light candles to honor the memory of those who are no longer there... You can also light candles for the health of all those who are now with you, order services, pray. This is a spiritual level that is able to harmonize all the lower ones - physical, emotional, intellectual.

2. Live the constellation at the level of the soul, not the mind

We can experience the constellation at the level of the body and understand it at the level of the mind. But if we do not feel it with our souls, any stress can nullify the effect. Those who consider psychotherapy from the point of view of the structure of the brain are very well aware of this.

It's very simple - problems usually live in the right hemisphere of the brain. Having lived the constellation at the level of the mind, a decision appears in the left hemisphere of the brain. And between the problem and the solution, a connection is formed that turns out to be too long and unstable. With severe stress, this connection is destroyed, and everything returns to normal again.

If we live the constellation with our soul, then the solution is formed in the right hemisphere of the brain, and then this connection between the problem and the solution is not so long. And it is much more stable.

So so it is important to look at the constellation and see it with your heart... Open your soul to everything that happens and accept. Take everything into your heart as it is. With gratitude and respect.

It is important to experience all the feelings that come. Take them and live. Opening your heart, no matter how hard it is.

3. Observe safety precautions after work

I usually talk about this at the end of the group, and this information is not always fully perceived on the wave of emotion. Therefore, I will outline the main points.

1. Don't talk about your work for at least 36 hours.
   This is due to the fact that together with stories and emotions, we release energy from the field. And energy is much more needed there to complete the necessary transformations.
2. After the arrangements, it is advisable to take a bath with salt so that all unnecessary things go away. And be sure to wash all the clothes that were on you.
3. You shouldn't do repetitive work on the same topic for 3 months. The system takes time to come to equilibrium.
4. Warn loved ones that after the placement, emotions will begin to come out of you. They are very different - someone has anger, someone has pain, someone has joy. It is important that loved ones understand that this is not related to what they are doing.

4. All in good time- and you need to let go of your desire without waiting for its fulfillment. The system takes time to rebuild. We, too, need time to change our way of life, the way we act and think.

For some, changes occur immediately. This speaks of high degree readiness for change. It also indicates that this request could be executed quickly. For example, you can improve your relationship with your husband faster than getting married. Because in order to get married, you need to meet a person, make out, understand whether you want to be with him all your life. And there is no rush here.

Constellations are the way live blocked feelings... They can also help to see the situation as it is. But it is important to realize that they do not guarantee a cure for diseases, restoration of relationships, or a successful marriage.

To solve a problem, you need to pray, ask God about it. Constellations are a way to understand the will of God, to see him in your situation.

And if you follow the rules, then the likelihood that the arrangement will not be in vain is very, very high. This is what I wish all those who will ever resort to the services of a constellator!

I stopped resisting the questions "how to make an arrangement for myself" and began to collect constructive ideas :) Additions and new ideas are welcome :)

Constellations for oneself (as long as we mean without a group, i.e. generally in splendid isolation) are difficult because a person himself cannot feel the excluded dynamics in his system. If he felt them, he would have deciphered them long ago and lived them. But he cannot feel them directly and that is why he lives "someone else's fate."
Nevertheless, it is possible to do something for yourself.
Let's start simple :)

The first idea: "Let's go to the cinema?"

So, go or not go to the cinema? Should I go to the seminar of Professor Preobrazhensky? Stay in Verkhnyaya Pyshma at the Sheraton or Hilton hotel?

Today at 19-00 at the cinema. The Mossovet is showing the film "The Elusive Avengers". Should I go there?

In a room where (preferably) there is no furniture and enough free space, we mark the place "I am in the Mossovet cinema on the Elusive Avengers today." You can mark it, for example, with a sheet of Whatman paper. Just put the Whatman paper on the floor. Better not an A4 leaf, because in the cinema you are surrounded by space, and in the arrangement it is better to also be surrounded by space. Smaller furniture is better so as not to catch extra speakers in chairs and tables, both from the cinema and your own.

We get up at a distance from whatman paper, look at it and walk slowly. We observe our condition. Sometimes, even at this stage, one senses, for example, an "insurmountable barrier". You can put it on a chair or stretch it with a rope.

Sometimes it suddenly becomes clear that "there will be no kinetic", i.e. there is simply no object of our movement. If this event is really announced on the billboard and it is today (and not six months later), then this is very strange. There are two options - either it really will not be (you looked at the wrong poster), or you have fallen into some kind of dynamics with this movie and are simply not able to stage and see "just a movie". For example, in the cinema. Mossovet 20 years ago, Mitya said that this is your last date. You have forgotten this for a long time, but the body remembers ... Or the groom told your grandmother.

Just in case, you can put "where it really leads me" (also with a chair) and see if this figure is visible. If the figure evokes strong sensations and another barrier rises, we have arrived. Keane will not be. You to a professional constellation.

The difficulty with this arrangement is that the target of the "movie" is rather difficult to set. For example, if the building of the cinema them. Raiders from Truba LLC are attempting to assassinate the Mossovet, the owners of the building and these raiders emit such trash into the space that it can score anything. If the film is "cult" and a million people have already watched it, then it already has an "egregor" and it can sound so that you will not find yourself there. All the girls are already in love with Lanovoy, and on the spot "in the cinema" you feel the energy of the girls touched by the head, and not yourself in this cinema today.
A professional arranger could clean up the trash and put the configuration cleaner, but we don't want to use it ... :)

And yet: "I'm at the Mossovet Cinema on the Elusive Avengers today."
We stand on a Whatman paper, we feel. How are you doing there today? :-))

You can complicate the task and divide the object into (for example): "what is the film", "what the people are", "how they feed", etc.
It is possible that the film is bullshit, then there you will meet Petya ... Or classmate Masha and she will say that ...

Important addition: If it comes about whether to go to the cinema with Vasya from the parallel class, the arrangement should be completely different! About this next episode of our radio program.

For a hotel, I put, for example, "silence". If there is no silence, then I needlessly "comfort", "location in the center" and so on.
Seminars can be separately set as "personal benefit", "benefit in learning", "people", "status / for a piece of paper", etc.

How often do we hear not entirely clear terms. For example, "Hellinger constellations" - what are they? To begin with, the author of this method, Bert Hellinger, is a famous German psychologist, philosopher, teacher and practitioner. His writings are relatively young and aimed at solving human problems.

What did Hellinger study?

The scientist formulated some laws and patterns that lead to undesirable events, conflicts between spouses or colleagues. Hellinger worked for a long time on such questions: “How is the adoption of feelings? How does conscience (personal or family) affect a person's lifestyle? Is there a system that manages relationships? " In fact, these are just a few of the topics from Bert's entire list of teachings.

Today, his constellations are becoming more and more popular. With this method, a large number of people have been able to find the origins of their troubles and root them out. Many practicing psychotherapists are increasingly using the Hellinger constellation in their work with groups, couples or individually with a personality.

"Arrangement" is the place of the individual in space. The method itself resembles a game of chess. That is, each participant is assigned a specific role that reflects his subconscious image in a situation that requires elaboration. This can be not only a family situation, but also problems in the team, business failures.

Arrangement method according to Bert Hellinger. Session start

So, a man comes to a psychotherapist with an urgent problem. To begin with, the specialist conducts a short conversation with him, during which it is decided whether he needs a constellation or everything is much simpler. After all, you can send a person to the usual life advice- and his life will return to normal. But when the situation is complicated, a more detailed conversation is conducted with the client.

To begin with, the problem itself stands out. For example, in this case - a man drinks, his wife "nags" every day and believes that all family problems are associated with alcoholism. The man, in turn, does not think so. After all, before his marriage, he did not drink so much alcohol.

The therapist asks the client to talk about their lifestyle. Hellinger's constellations require a systematic consideration of the problem. That is, it is important to understand what each of the spouses is doing all day, what kind of relationship they have in general, because of what conflicts occur. Finally, individuals are themselves in family life or play someone else's role.

The specialist considers separately the parents of the husband and his wife. How did they behave with each other in the family? If it turns out that on the part of the man, the father and mother lived in perfect harmony and there were no problems with alcoholism, then the greatest attention is paid to the wife's relatives.

Having previously sorted out at the first conversation, the specialist recommends the man to come to the next appointment with his wife. After all, the root of evil is most likely in her, and it is impossible to get rid of it without her participation.

After all, that family life did not work out, and she kept asking her daughter the following line: “Look, all men are the same. Your father is like everyone else. Drinks, brings home a penny. " With imposed thoughts, the daughter grows up and involuntarily notices only negative traits in the surrounding men.

Nevertheless, the girl begins to date a guy she likes. Soon our heroine marries him, but after a while it seems to her that her husband is not "her man" at all. Whatever he does, she sees everything as negative.

It would seem that the chosen one is not so bad, his positive features outweigh the disadvantages. But the woman continues to maintain internal aggressiveness and sends him negative energy at the energy level. The man catches this signal, realizes that his partner despises him, and gradually begins to seek solace in alcohol. This helps him to forget for a while, but the problem remains.

The following actions

The Hellinger method of constellations involves playing roles. The psychotherapist invites the couple to replay a certain situation. For example, he asks a woman to describe how she behaves in the workplace. The patient comments on her work behavior, communication with colleagues, and it is found that at work she is "white and fluffy."

What changes when she crosses the threshold of the house? Why one of his appearance husband irritates the woman? The couple replay the scene in front of the therapist. The wife says to her husband her usual phrase: "I would stop drinking and everything would be fine."

From this point on, the specialist asks the couple to stop. Systemic family constellations according to Hellinger, they require time to concentrate on important moment... In the case of this couple, the time has come.

The therapist says to the couple: "Let's try to understand the source of the problem that is forcing one of you to drink." Further, all the reasons contributing to this are deleted. For example, excluded are: big money problems, conflicts in the workplace for a man, health problems. What remains?

The patient frankly admits that he is oppressed by the eternal discontent of his wife, who constantly finds fault with something or, on the contrary, is silent and avoids marital intimacy. In this case, the partner suffers from a lack of feminine energy.

Often, due to a lack of love for a partner or out of a feeling of resentment, the female representative punishes the chosen one in this way. They actively sublimate their energy into caring for children or load themselves with household chores. While the spouse is trying to get some positive attitude drinking alcohol. A vicious circle arises.

In the future, Hellinger's constellations imply a deep study of the problem. In this case, the psychotherapist will try to inspire the woman with the idea of ​​the need to eradicate the attitude that her mother unwittingly set.

By her behavior, the wife provokes a man to drink alcoholic beverages, in fact, makes him play the role of her alcoholic father. If, along with this, the woman still has some kind of resentment against her spouse, then during the session it is proposed to get rid of her. “It's important to free yourself from negativity,” emphasizes Bert Hellinger. Family constellations offer many techniques in this regard.

In fact, the whole process is not as simple as it seems at first glance. In the history of this married couple, the specialist will have to endow the heroes with new "roles", and so that an even exchange of energies takes place between them.

The impact of egregor on a person

After the constellation session, one may wonder: “How did it happen that I began to play a role other than my own? Why did I speak with other people's thoughts? " In fact, few people think about whether he really does what he wants, and whether he lives the way he wants it.

In most cases, it turns out that everyday thoughts, feelings and actions are borrowed by us from the people around us: our own family, collective and society as a whole. In other words, a certain energy-informational space (egregor) exerts its direct influence on the personality.

Each society (collective) is subject to a certain value system. The influence of egregor can be both positive and negative. Everyone develops their own value system. For example, the church egregor seeks to influence people through sermons.

And any terrorist organization creates its own egregor by manipulating the consciousness of the participants with a certain theory. Sometimes stronger personalities can create their own egregors and influence others. Such an individual should be the most energy-intensive, since his task is to lead and influence, that is, to manage many energy flows. The egregors are described in detail in one of Bert's works entitled "Constellations according to Hellinger". The book tells that often the root of the problem can be found in the values ​​of life, which are transmitted by family.

Life stories

The family clan is a system that has its own specific tasks. And family members (mother, father, son, daughter) are elements that must fulfill their functions. What happens if someone gets knocked out of the system? For example, the son did not want to become a military man in spite of the family dynasty. And my father really wanted it.

In this case, the function of the son may be redistributed among other family members, or it may be overplayed: the daughter marries an officer. The father is insanely happy, he is trying to establish a lasting contact with his son-in-law and shares his plans for the future to continue the military tradition.

The method of the German psychotherapist deeply touches upon the problem of the older and younger generations. Can the Hellinger constellation help everyone? Reviews about this are different. However, most agree that generic egregors can have a negative impact on offspring.

For example, a young woman is deeply unhappy in her marriage. It would seem that all methods of resuscitation of relationships are ineffectual, rudeness and violence reign in the family. There is only one way out - a divorce. But the older generation of this woman unanimously reiterates: “There were no divorced people in our family. This is not accepted in our country and is considered a shame. "

That is, the generic egregor of this woman dictates its foundations to her and requires submission. Only a complete rethinking and rejection of the role of "victim" will help such a person to accept important decision and start a new life.

Aggression by inheritance

Hellinger systemic constellations help many married couples and individuals deeply understand the origins of evil. Let's give a simple example of a problem with which men often turn to psychotherapists.

So, a conditional young man came to see a psychologist. He could not understand his behavior towards women. After numerous divorces, he faced the fact that the chosen ones leave because of his unmotivated aggression.

In all other areas of his life, the man seemed positive. During a conversation with a specialist, it turned out that the man had once "unconsciously" tuned in to a revenge program. How did this come about?

As a rule, in such a situation, it turns out that the patient grew up in a family where the father was constantly humiliated and depressed by his wife. The boy could not resist his mother in order to protect his father. Thus, as he grew older, the young man worked out his own plan (the program of revenge).

This led to the fact that, being in relationships with girls, he periodically felt fierce hatred for them. As soon as the right opportunity came, he took out his anger at them with his fists. Bert Hellinger's constellation should show the man that these feelings do not belong to him. They are inspired and fixed in consciousness from distant childhood. And the client has a different situation, and the girls have a different character than his mother.

And most importantly, he can become happy only when he realizes this and begins to change. This is a gradual process. Much depends on the natural temperament of the individual. One is enough 2 sessions, while the other will need several. Bert Hellinger's constellation method is unique in that knowing family systems (orders), a person can not only avoid failures in life, but also protect the future generation from them.

How does the group method work?

It's about group sessions. The phenomenon of these activities is that a group of people experiences the roles of actors in the client's problem. Situations can be different: a person cannot find a match, is constantly sick or has financial difficulties, although there is no good reason for this.

The method of constellations according to Hellinger is difficult to explain in detail, but it happens according to the following scenario: the corresponding roles are distributed among the participants. And they begin to feel similar emotions of the person who asked for help. The phenomenon has received the term "displaced perception".

That is, there is a transfer internal images from the client to all participants and to the space in which the arrangement takes place. The people chosen for specific roles are called “surrogates”. During the session, they aloud assess their condition, trying to recover the problem situation.

Systemic constellations according to Hellinger help the main person to unravel the tangle of his conflict situations, build the correct hierarchy and restore energy balance. The work is built by moving the "substitutes" in the field of arrangement through various rituals.

A session can be considered successful if all participants do not feel discomfort. And - most importantly - there should be physical and psychological relief for the client. Bert Hellinger's Spreading Method makes you fully activate different levels perception: emotional, mental, audible, tactile.

What does this method give?

As a result, the individual receives A New Look to your problem, acquiring a different model of behavior. By far the most The best way to evaluate the technique - to take part in a group session yourself. It is real experience that will help you find out how it works in practice.

Nowadays, many have already heard of such a method as the Hellinger constellations. There are also negative reviews about him. Despite this, the popularity of this method is growing. After all, the range of sessions is quite expanded - this is psychotherapy, and medicine, and pedagogy, and even esotericism.

All information obtained during the sessions is confidential. In order to participate in group work, there must be motivation and a conscious desire. Today it is not difficult to find a Hellinger constellation group. The number of fans of this method is constantly growing in Moscow, since it is recognized as a professional one.

Tarot card placement

Finally, we come to the part that leaves an esoteric imprint on the method of the German psychotherapist. The fact is that not every person can come to a group of people and openly talk about their problem. In this case, the person can participate in the group session, but at his request, a hidden placement takes place. That is, the client himself doses the openness of information. An excellent way out of this situation is the placement of Bert Hellinger with the help of Tarot cards.

The deck in this case serves as a tool for diagnosing the ongoing process. The client is asked the question: "What is the essence of your problem?" A person chooses, without looking, a card, and describes what he saw on it. "Substitutes" are also chosen by following the chosen lasso.

According to his problem, the client, with the help of the facilitator's prompts, shows each participant where to stand and what to do. The next stage is emotional living of the situation. "Deputies" exchange their impressions: "I just thought that ...", "I got the feeling that ..."

At this point, the client is also included in the process. He listens to the opinions of all participants and takes the place of the one who touched his emotions the most. And, already based on the new role, he utters the words that he considers important.

The placement ends with a survey of each participant. Despite the fact that the client's problem is being played, the “substitutes” are also under the close scrutiny of the psychotherapist. It is important for him to know how this or that person felt in someone else's role, what he experienced and what conclusions he made.

Also, a specialist can assess by diagnostics on maps - was it fully possible to provide assistance to the client or the system did not fully disclose the situation? After all, the customer is not immediately able to objectively evaluate the session. It will take him time to do this.

Individual placement

Is it possible to conduct such a session yourself? It is not excluded. After all, not everyone has the opportunity or desire to work in a group. In this case, it is possible to arrange according to Hellinger independently.

True, for this one should closely get acquainted with the theory of Bert Helling's method. And it is important to understand the interpretation of Tarot cards at a professional level. So, the problem is identified, and the role of "substitutes" will be played by cards. The work is divided into three stages.

The first one is to choose cards: yourself and "deputies". Next, you need to lay out the rest of the cards as your intuition tells you. Then, one by one, open and collect information from each, adding it to the big picture.

The second stage - depends on the question posed. If it concerns the family, then the ancestor cards should be laid out on top, the descendants - below. If necessary, you can take additional cards if in doubt. During the process, it is necessary to move the "substitutes", as would happen with real people... It is recommended to listen to your physical and psychological sensations.

The third stage is completion. This happens when a person is satisfied with a lost situation. Based on the result of the interpretation, it is only for the client to decide whether he has worked out his problem.

It may seem to a little-ordained person that it was a fortune-telling session. But this is far from the case. Individual method Tarot constellations are only shown to professionals. Others are encouraged to use this method under the guidance of a qualified psychotherapist.