How to find inner peace in yourself. Calm

Yerofeevskaya Natalia.

Tranquility, only calm ... But how to stay calm if inside everything bubbles, unspoken words, accumulated voltage and threaten this is about to pour out at the nearest environment? Familiar situation? But to stay confident in herself, calm and controlling their own behavior of a person want everyone - in this power, this is satisfaction with itself, in this body health and strong nerves.

What to do to remove the tension and do not feel like a barrel with powder, for which there are a lot of sparks? Consider common recommendations and techniques that will give the basis for creating a calm inner atmosphere.

Coffee on the dimension and peace of mind

The first thing that comes to mind is relaxation, meditation and prayer for those in whose soul there are faith. Relaxing regular practice helps to restore peace of mind and internal harmony in short time. And then happens home Error: A satisfied result of meditating techniques Man stops classes, and everything returns to its circles. The same nervousness and the same anxiety in a matter of days delays in grave chains soul and body.

Each person chooses a relaxation suitable for him, making a kind of ritual:

believers read prayers, turning over the rosary;
sports run in winter skiing, and in the summer in parks, sand or mountain paths;
walk before bedtime or dawn meeting, chatting with animals, crop production, fishing or hunting;
needlework playing on musical instruments, creation;
They give the opportunity to feel, hear yourself, find the state of harmony in yourself and your place in the surrounding world.

The main rule: a way to relax individuals, and the habit of giving yourself a rest should be the same daily, how to clean your teeth or take a walk with a dog - by the way, take a walk with the dog too the option.

What is the principle of calm?

Equilibrium of the soul, health and thoughts of a person - the basis of his calm. Emotions that are not included in this list are able to shake any "cold" head. However, this does not mean that it is necessary to be a sugar or a rusty nail, in which there is no shadow of the living, the emotions of any sign, and positive and negative, decorate life, making it brighter, more interesting, more proven. The question is how expensive is emotions for a particular person: I felt the situation and let go or continues to fever the day, two, week? Thoughts in the head are spinning and spinning, without giving thinking about anything, insomnia and fatigue, growing psychosis - these are signs.

Keep equilibrium is not easy, but perhaps. We offer several rules how not to succumb to the provocations of the surrounding world and stay faithful by saving internal source Confidence:

Calm is not a synonym for drowsiness! Sleepiness is apathy and reluctance of actions, which over time threatens to grow into and degenerate from life problems that have nothing to do with the inner harmony of man.
In a state of nervousness, concentrate on the ability to see the situation or life picture as a whole, without detail - this will allow not to be sprayed and not cyclized on unpleasant trifles that pull the balance on yourself.

3. Do not wait for calm from the outside: the world Dynamin and does not stand still in place for a single second - it is ridiculous from him to wait for some stability. Life prevents different surprises: well, if they are exciting, but pleasant, and if the surprise is not so good? They breathed out, exhaled and said to themselves: "I will handle it!" - Of course, cope! At least simply because circumstances sometimes do not give other options.

4. The rule that people know about, but do not use: in all look for the pros. Got fired? - More attention family and chance to find yourself in another direction. ? - No snoring, scandals, in the house order, silence and exceptional pleasure to the rest. Do children study poorly? - Received Nobel Prize Einstein was generally kicked out of school. Over time, this habit will strengthen and earn on the machine: you will not have time to think, and positive sides What is happening here is like here!

5. People are worried about: their own, close, friends, colleagues ... it is necessary to learn how to take it as a given: life is such that no one will remain in it forever - everyone is mortal, and everyone's turn will come in due time. Of course, I would like later, but this is someone who is written - a little fatalist with faith in fate will not hurt.

6. Do not customize the events and people around us: exhaustion by work and life speeds is the main trouble of our century. Exceptional faith in such the necessary resistance to everyone and everything can and impressive - "You are so strong (strong), no circumstances will break you!", But harm from it is much more than good.

Sometimes it is necessary to release the circumstances: perhaps there will be another factor or an unexpected turn, which radically changes the perception of the situation.

Place of calm

This is not about the cemetery - although yes, we will be honest: the most that neither there is a quiet place on the planet. But while the heart beats hotly in the chest, it is worth taking care of the corner of personal privacy. The cherished place in which there is no phone calls, a spooky television television, sucking into their bottomless womb - half an hour on a balcony or on a park bench will help bring thoughts and feelings, curb the sunny emotions.

It is not necessary to bypass and your favorite activity: Whatever happens in this stormy world, half an hour per hobby can be allocated to the hobby. Knitting, embroidery, modeling, modeling, drawing - anything, if only in these moments it was comfortable, deceased and disconnected brains from the problems. The place of classes is important in this case: if children urgently needed assistance in homework, I can remember canned food from the refrigerator, the girlfriend remembered that today you have not previously dissuaded the last two hours on the phone, and the husband claps the lids on empty saucepans - the idea of \u200b\u200bspending half an hour fell into his pleasure. Decision? Feed all the hungry, with native to carry out strict instructions, and turn off the phones - any person has the right to several personal minutes of classes of beloved.

Huge shopping centers - Not a place to relax. Bright light, oppressive concrete, glass and crowds of the people - any comfort and solitude can not even be speech. Often noticed fatigue after hypermarkets and hikes in boutiques? - Here it is, the signal of the body is about serious loss vitality. Forest, river, swimming in the pool, in the nearest park - the healing effect of nature will give a feeling of the inflow of forces, energy, allowing you to fully relax and soul, and the body.

Learn to gradually relax and manage the peace of mind, remembering at the same time: it is not worth fighting life - you need to live and get pleasure from life!

January 22, 2014, 18:15

Peace, inner calm - One of the basics of happiness. Inner calm is achieved when the body flies not in that rhythm, which impose circumstances, but in that rhythm, which determines the soul settled in our body for a limited time. And get into the resonance with spiritual oscillations is just a buzz. Kayf, which is as difficult to express, how to tell you that you feel during orgasm. Kaif, who should be felt so to never forget.

By the way, people who are customized with lazy people or lessels, most often not loafers, but those who feel the charm of inner calm and are trying to achieve it with simple actions that are most often unsuccessful.

But what should be done in order to achieve inner tranquility?

It should be armed with patience. You start the fight with yourself. Achievements in this struggle will necessarily, but not immediately.
Calm your Spirit. Try to stop thinking. To do this, sit in silence. Try to free your head from thoughts. To free and clean your mind from thoughts. Learn to meditate, that is, fully focus on one thought, subject or inner feeling.
Get rid of tension and anxiety. The first commandment here is not fussing at either at work or in life. One washthe girlfriend formulated even unexpected: "Do not fuss under the client" Another saying, which also configures on the right way: "The best is a good enemy." Down with perfectionism! Stoy also Stakhanov! Do not try to do everything immediately. How do players say preference: "one you can't make a mistake"
And yes, do not be ashamed to rest more often. Relax in some cozy place, even take it off. Despite the fact that this happens at work
Live here and now. Do not suffer from the fact that something has not happened in the past. We drove! Do not worry about what will happen. As one of the heroes "Soldier Schweik" said: "It will be, what was, because something, yes it was" and therefore we focus on current affairs. And smaller building plans, especially grandiose. One great country Grand Plans were not brought to good.
But do not dwell at the current moment. Use new experience. Down with any bias! And yes, do not condemn anyone for what it acts otherwise than you are used to.
Be happy. Detach the time of classes that you bring happiness. Satisfy your desires. This is not an egoism! This is a reasonable egoism.
Do not run from myself. Be yourself and rejoice in your individuality.
The most important happiness is in the life itself. Be satisfied with where you are, the fact that you are in this moment And what you do.
Be kind and courteous with others. Not for them - for yourself. Kindness warms the heart of the giving.
Strive for beauty. See beauty - stunning pleasure. Develop the ability to see beauty in everything and in all.
All what is happening is calm and joyful. All that happens around happens for you.
Fill your inner world. It will save you from many problems in life, which otherwise will seem insoluble.
Be optimistic. Despite the fact that we will do everything.
And finally, always remember that the search for inner calm is always a process, and not the result. Therefore, it will have to work on yourself every day. But is it difficult if the result is beautiful?

The bittest thing is that most of these tips absolutely does not coincide with the most of our generation "programmed" in childhood. That is, it was originally tuned to life unsuccessful and heavy.

In any incomprehensible situation, calm down, Lagging, hunt yourself, go eat snacks. Take care of the nerve :)

Leave the mistakes of the past.

Appreciate the present.

Smile future)

As soon as they let go of the situation that matches you, immediately the situation will let you go.

Do not go out of yourself. It is not known what can happen in your absence.

Come to the tree. Let it teach you calmness.

- What is the secret of your calm?

"In full of the inevitable," the master replied.

Move order in thoughts - and you will see the world with other eyes.

Heart do not forget to clean.

What is peace?

Lack of unnecessary thoughts.

And what thoughts are unnecessary?

(Wei De-Han)

The most important thing is your treasure is the world in the shower.

Chamomile soothes.

Manage your mood, for it, if it does not obey, then commands.

You can find peace of mind, only becoming an observer, calmly discrepaning for a mimoled course of life. Irwin Yal.

Calm is stronger than emotions.

Silence - louder scream.

And what would happen to you - do not take anything to heart. Little in the world is important for a long time.

Erich Maria Relock "Triumphal Arch" ---

Getting under the rain, you can extract a useful lesson from this. If the rain begins unexpectedly, you do not want to get wet and so run down the street to your home. But devoting to the house, you notice that it's still wet. If you decide from the very beginning not to speed up a step, you will promote, but you will not fuss. You also need to act in other similar circumstances.

Yamamoto Tsungomo - Hagakure. Book samurai.

Tomorrow will be what should be

and there will be nothing of what should be -

do not fuss.

If there is no world inside us, it is useless to look for it outside.

Not burdened with concerns -
enjoying life.
Do not rejoice,
losing will not be sad because he knows
that fate is not constant.
When we are not related things
solne knows serenity.
If the body does not rest from the voltage,
it is wear out.
If the spirit is forever in concerns,
he fades.

Zhuang Tzu ---

If you throw a stick of a dog, she will look at this stick. And if you throw a stick of the lion, then it will, without breaking down, look at the thrown. This is a formal phrase, which was told during disputes in ancient China, if the interlocutor began to cling to words and stopped seeing the main thing.

Doing inhale, I calm my body and mind.
Doing exhale, I smile.
Staying in present, I know that this moment is amazing!

Let me breathe full of breasts and do not drive yourself into the frame.

The power of the one who believes in its power.

Work out the habit of monitoring your mentally-emotional state by self-surveillance. To regularly ask yourself: "Is I calm at the moment?" - This is a question that is useful to regularly ask yourself. You can still ask: "What happens to me in at the moment?"

Eckhart Tollet.

Freedom is freedom from concern. Realizing that you cannot influence the results, do not pay attention to your desires and fears. Let them come and go. Do not feed them with interest and attention. In fact, things are done with you, not by you.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

The calmer and balanced person, the more powerful its potential and the greater will be his success in good and worthy things. The imperturbability of the mind is one of the greatest treasures of wisdom.

The basis of all the wisdom is calm and patience.

Stop your anxiety and then you can see a magnificent pattern ...

When the mind comes to peace, you begin to appreciate the light of the moon and the wind of the wind and you understand that there is no need for a worldly need.

Do peace in your soul, and around you will be saved.

In fact, you just want peace and love. Of these, you came out, you will come back to them and they are. Papadzhi.

The most beautiful and healthy people are whose people are not annoying.

SAMI high degree human wisdom - This is the ability to keep calm contrary to external thunderstorms.

You are not connected with our experiences, but what climbed them.

Do not take speaking solutions. Well suspens all "for" and "against". Almost every person has a heavenly guide, the second "I". Think and ask him, and whether it should be done or not?! Learn to observe, see invisible, foresee the situation.

When we contemplate the mountain forests and stronger strengths, the heart, inspired by worldly mud, is gradually cleaned. When you read in the ancient canons and look at the pictures of the old masters, the spirit of worldly vulgarity is not enough. Hong Zychen, the taste of the roots.

Wisdom comes with the ability to be calm. Just look and listen. Nothing more needs. When you're alone, when you just look and listen, it activates inside you free from the concepts of rationality. Let peace direct your words and things.

Eckhart Tollet.

We will never be able to achieve peace of mind in the outside world until they succeed in the inner.

The essence of equilibrium is not to cling.

The essence of relaxation is not to hold.

The essence of naturalness is not to make effort.

The one who does not enjoy and anyone wants evil, reached a balance. For him, the whole world is filled with happiness.

So that again the life bloomed, clowd and filled with exciting joy and happiness, you just need to stop ... stop and afford to dissolve in pleasure ...

Do not worry about your future, be alone now, and everything will fall into place.

If the water is not tortured, it by itself will be disappeared. If the mirror is not dirty, it in itself will reflect the light. Human heart can not be done clean. Eliminate what he contaminates, and its purity itself will manifest itself. Joy do not need to look for yourself. Eliminate what concern gives you, and the joy itself will reacted in your soul.

Sometimes just leave all alone ...

In the center of Hurricane is always quiet. Be this quiet place in the center, even if the vortices are raging.

You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather.

Only in calm waters, things are reflected in undischarged.

Only calm consciousness is suitable for the perception of the world.

When you do not know what to do, - wait for a while. Hide. Live as living. Sign will sooner or later appear. The main thing is to know that you are waiting and be ready to meet with what you are waiting for. Louis Rivera

Do not worry about your future, be alone now, and everything will fall into place.

Calm deprives you of your enemies. In peace there are no fear nor an excessive anger - only the reality, purified from distortion and interference of emotional explosions. When you are calm - you are truly strong.

Therefore, your opponents will always try to bring you out of this state - to inspire fear, sow doubts, cause anger. The internal state is directly connected with breathing. What situation would you hit, immediately soothing your breath - the Spirit calms down next.

The main thing in spiritual life is to keep a heart in the world.

Need to trust life.
Needless to entrust her stream without fear, because life is infinitely wiser.
She will still cost you in his own way, sometimes quite hard,
but ultimately you will understand that it was right.

Be alone now, and everything will fall into place.

Your spirit should not worry, the evil word should not break off your lips; You must remain benevolent, with a heart, full love that does not contain a secret malice; And even dislikers, you should cover with lovers, generous thoughts, deep and limitless, purified from all anger and hatred. That's the way my disciples should act.

Only calm water correctly reflects heaven.

The best indicator of the level of consciousness is the ability to relax in vital difficulties.

Unconscious person they pull down while conscious man Elevates more up.

Eckhart Tolna.

Sitting calmly, and you will understand how vigorous casual care. Sorry a little and you will understand how empty is everyday speech. Excuse ordinary hassle, and you will understand how many strength people squint in vain. Chen Jizhu.

Calm helps us find a way out of the most difficult situations.

I burst into patience? ... I am influence again!)

3 calm seconds

Quite calmly think about three seconds to understand everything.

But where to take them, these truly three calm seconds? We are too excited by our own fantasies to stay at least by a moment.

Have you ever seen an oak in a state of stress or dolphin, staying in the gloomy arrangement of the spirit, a frog suffering from a low self-esteem, a cat, which cannot relax or the bird burdened by the offend? I will learn from their ability to put up with the present.
Eckhart Tollet.

Do not hurry. Each bud flashes at one time. Do not force the bud to become a flower. Do not flex the petals. They are gentle; You will pour them. Wait and they will reveal themselves. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Do not worship a bearded man in the sky or an idol in the book. Worship inhale and exhale, the winter breeze caressing your face, the morning crowd of people in the subway, just feeling that alive, never know what is coming.Notice God in the eyes of a stranger, providence in the destroyed and ordinary. Worship the earth on which you stand. Make every day the dance, with tears in my eyes, contemplating Divine at any moment, notice the absolute in everything relative, and let people call you crazy. Let them laugh and rally.

Jeff Foster

The highest strength is not the ability to defeat others, and the ability to become one with others.

Sri Chinmi

Try, at least in small, do not bring your mind.
Look at the world - just look.
Do not say "Like", "do not like". Do not say anything.
Do not pronounce words, just look.
The mind will feel inconvenience.
Mind would like to say anything.
You just say the mind:
"Silent, let me see, I'll just look" ...

6 wise Soviets From Chen Jiju

1. Sitting calmly, and you will understand how vigorous concerns.
2. Sorry a little and you will understand how empty is everyday speech.
3. Excuse ordinary hassle, and you will understand how many strength people squint in vain.
4. Claw your gate, and you will understand how the burdensive bonds of dating.
5. I have little desires, and you will understand why such numerous diseases of the human race are so numerous.
6. Be humane, and you will understand how soulless ordinary people.

Free your mind from thoughts.
Let your heart calm down.
Calmly watch the turmoil world
Watch how everything falls into place ...

A happy person is very easy to find out. He seems to radiate the aura of calm and warmth, is moving slowly, but he has time everywhere, speaks calmly, but everyone understands him. Secret happy people Simple is the lack of tension.

If you sit somewhere in the Himalayas and silence surrounds you - this is the silence of Himalayas, not yours. You must find your own Himalayas inside ...

Wounds caused by thoughts, heal longer than any other.

Joan Rowling, "Harry Potter and the Order of Phoenix"

Wisdom comes with the ability to be calm.Just look and listen. Nothing more needs. When you're alone, when you just look and listen, it activates inside you free from the concepts of rationality. Let peace direct your words and things.

Eckhart Tolle "What Silence says"

James Allen.

When you live in consent with you, you are able to get along with others.

Eastern wisdom -

Sit - and sit yourself; You go - and go yourself.
The main thing - do not fuss in the back.

Change the attitude towards things that you are worried, and you will be safe from them. (Mark Azeri)

Move attention to solar plexus. Try to imagine that a small sunlight lights up in you. Let him flare up, become more and stronger. Let his rays be ill. Let the sun strengthen the whole body with its rays.

Harmony is evenness in everything. If you want to quarrel, pick up to 10 and "run" the sun.

Calm, only calm :)

Interested in what happens inside you, no less than what surrounds you. If in inner world Everything is in order, then in external everything will fall into place.

Eckhart Toll ---

A fool and ignoramus have five will take:
shame no reason
speak without need
change unknown for what
interfere with the fact that they do not concern
and they do not know how to distinguish who wishes to them well and who is evil.

Indian proverb ---

What leaves, let him go.
What comes, let it come.
You have nothing and never had, except yourself.

If you could simply store internal silence, not contaminated with memories and expectations, you could see the wonderful pattern of events. This is your anxiety creates chaos.

Nisargadatta Maharaj ---

There is only one way to happiness - this is a cessation of anxiety about those things that are not at the power of our will.

Epicate ---

Having lost their senses of own importance, we become invulnerable.

To be strong, you need to be like water. No obstacles - she flows; Dam - she will stop; The dam will break through - she will flow again; In a four-degree vessel, it is quadrigilane; In Round - she has rounded. Because she is so compliant, it most likely and most and most.

The world is similar to the station, where we are forever we are waiting, then we hurry.

When your mind and feelings slow down their move before the heartbeat, you are spontaneously entering harmony with cosmic rhythm. You start to perceive the world with divine eyes, watching everything happens in itself and at one time. Having found that everything is already adorated with the law of the Universe, you come to understand that you are not different from the world and his gentlemen. This is freedom. MUGA

We worry too much. Too seriously perceive. It is necessary to apply to everything easier. But with the mind. Without nerves. The main thing to think. And do not do nonsense.

What you can perceive calmly no longer manage you ...

Nowhere to find peace of one who did not find it in itself.

To be angry and annoyed - there is nothing but to punish yourself for other stupidity.

You are the sky. And the clouds are what happens, comes and goes away.

Eckhart Tollet.

Live, keeping peace. Come spring, and the flowers bloom themselves.

It is known that the man looks like, the less other people contradict him and argue with him. Conversely, if a person defends his point of view with hotness, he is argued and violently to resist.

Do not rush. Eat for an hour of food, and the hour will come- Go on the road.

Paulo Coelho "Alchemik"

Save - it means to accept what is. So you are open to life. Resistance is an inner clamp .... So you are completely closed. What would you do in the state of internal resistance (which can also be called negativity), it will cause even greater external resistance, and the universe will not be on your side, life will not help you. The light cannot penetrate inside through closed shutters. When you are internally inferior and stop the struggle, a new measurement of consciousness opens. If the action is possible ... it will be accomplished ... Supported by the creative mind ... with which you become one in a state of internal openness. And then circumstances and people start helping you, become with you at the same time. Happy coincidences occur. Everything adds to your favor. If the action is impossible, you are in pacification and inner peace, which come with a refusal to fight.

Eckhart Tolna New Earth

Appeal "Calm down" for some reason it is always annoying.Another paradox.Usually after such a callno one thinks calm down.

Bernard Verber Mirror Cassandra

Whoever humbled himself, he defeated enemies.

Siluan Athos

Clear one who keeps God in himself.

When you argue with a fool, it is most likely doing the same.

The true power of man is not in the gusts, but in the irregular peace of mind.

The highest degree of human wisdom is the ability to adapt to the circumstances and keep calm contrary to external thunderstorms.

Minding feelings and thoughts will disappear, if you do not pay attention to them. Lama Ola Nidal

You will never regret what they managed to tear.
--- Eastern wisdom ---

It is worth striving for such a state of consciousness in which all events will be perceived neutrally.

Everyone happens to moments in life when he is experiencing emotional discomfort. It depends on the external factors, for example, the situation in which he got, or internal state His souls.

Testing dissatisfaction with their own life, a person literally loses peace, cannot focus on work and personal relationship, faces the loss of appetite and sleep.

If you know this condition, learn its reasons, and ways to gain internal harmony with you and the outside world.

Causes of loss of inner rest

Every person has its own reason to worry and worry, but he boils down to one of the following:

Fears and doubts. They overcome us every day, but not everyone knows how to effectively cope with them. The reason for it acts anything: fear of losing close man, work, property, doubts about their forces, fear of failures.
Guilt. It is imposed on the surrounding people who want to manipulate you, or arises due to self-vaccination.
Obligations. If you feel that you do not cope, or have taken over the unbearable wear, then you will probably lose peace.
Offense. This destructive feeling leads to depression, obsessive thoughts and losing soul equilibrium.
Anger, anger, hatred and envy. These emotions are so strong that they threaten not only the loss of rest, but also sleep, appetite, efficiency. Find out,

All these reasons will certainly lead to the fact that a person loses its mental balance, will experience emotional, and not rarely and physical, discomfort.

The loss of internal equilibrium, negative installations, and destructive thoughts lead to the emergence of real physical diseases. Such patterns studies the science, which we have already told earlier.

How to gain mental equilibrium

Awareness of the problem is the first step towards her decision. To find the internal harmony and peace will help the following recommendations.

Admit your not ideality And the right to make mistakes. Excessive ambition and demanding to themselves, not only remove from mental equilibrium, but also forced a person to be in constant stress. Perceive perfect missions like life lesson, and the opportunity to get valuable experience.
Live here and now. This will help get rid of fictional fears related to the future. Often a person is worried about what can happen, and forgets that this may not happen. Calm your focus of your attention on the present, and solve problems as they arrive.
Learn no talk. Stop shifting out other people's problems, and your life will become much easier and harmonious.
Build internal borders. The loss of your mental calm may be associated with experiences about another person, or by boaring his duties. Do not let others impose the rules of the game, and let's clearly understand the boundaries permitted in communication with you.
Do not hold all experiences in yourself. A great psychological reception Get rid of the loss of tranquility - it is to speak out loud what you are worried about. Expressing his feelings with words, you will come to the conclusion that everything is not so bad as it seemed to you. Do not stay alone with your experiences and problems. Divide them with a close person who will understand and help.
Regularly let out your emotions. Do not keep everything that has accumulated. Throw out the negative outward, and you will feel much better.
Learn to forgive and forget. It happens, it's not so easy to do, as it seems at first glance. If you are not able to cope with the offense yourself, seek help to a psychologist.
Concentrate on the final result, And temporary difficulties perceive as the steps on the way to the realization of your goal.

If you are well adding self-sufficiency, then practice reading prayers about mental peace and meditate. But remember that it is possible to find harmony and rest only by eliminating the reason for the loss of equilibrium, and changing your stereotypes of thinking.

Each of us has days when, it seems, everything is fine and nothing foreshadows troubles, and then overnight - once! - And everything becomes bad and gloomy. Externally, everything is the same, but the volcano begins inside, and you realize that it was at the very bottom of my soul.

What happened for this? Someone's remark? Smell? Sound? What exactly forced to enter the peak to determine difficult, but in total one - peace of mind is broken. Something very insignificant sent you to rage, anger, despair or insult. And so quickly that you yourself can not realize how and why did you get here.

How not to get into such situations? How to gain peace of mind? Is it possible to make the body and soul always in harmony, and there were no disruptions? Can. You can become solid personAnd then no minor injections and even big blows of fate will not bring you out of equilibrium.

First lesson

If you are constantly taking place when there are "last drop" - and it can be a fled milk, and a discharged phone, and broken heel, that is, those things that, in principle, are not even worth the discussion, but they plunged you In the bunch of pain, then take your childhood. Most likely, the beginning of everything is laid there. Maybe ignored you or insulted. Maybe they were contemptuously or, on the contrary, they wanted too much. Children's injuries forgets consciousness, but the subconsciousness remembers them and they are like a shrapnel, looking for exit. And very often this happens in this way.

We all have such pits. Some of them are small, they can safely get around, others have just an American canyon left by the environment - relatives, acquaintances, teachers, friends, neighbors.

Serious reasons are very rarely throwing us into such pit. You feel and eat prepare. Or dodge. Only little things can be held in such a soulful pit. Psychotherapists advise to deal with such pita to have a personal salvation card. What does this mean: you make up the credentials for yourself, in which you indicate all the evidence that you are an independent, adult, self-sufficient person. Write in it age, education, all your regalia, including school commendable diplomas, scientific degrees, what you know how to drive a car, to have children, vote and all that other things have the right to make an adult full-fledged person. When you find yourself on the edge of the soulful pit, get this card and read. Secure yourself in adulthood, realize that childhood has already passed. This will give you some support.

On the back, write addresses and phones of those people who are ready to stretch your help hand to you. This is your personal salvation service. Write here only those who really love you as you are. Those who are not afraid of your inner and darkness and will do everything possible to pull you out.

Lesson two

Never compare your life with how other people live! You do not even have the concepts, as they live, but draw conclusions only on the basis of the external factors that they show you. You are trying to compare incomparable - what you have inside with what they have outside. Believe me, you just think that others live easier and easier.

Do not want someone else's life, live your own. So it will be calmer.

You came to this world so, not the other. And the universe wants you to remain, and not trying to live someone else's life. Yes, life kicks us like a football ball at the World Cup, try to find your beauty in this - enjoy steep turns, descents and shaking. Enjoy this journey. This is just your trip - your life.

Third lesson

Our life is very short. And only from you depends, to do it or do death. If you are all the time in a state of mental scatter and do not take anything to get rid of this oppressive feeling - you do not live, you are engaged in your death.

Life very often displays us to the development of "Life - Death", and only depends on us, on what path to go.

If you are in the pit, then as quickly as you can choose from it until it has become a grave.

Four lesson

We live very little real. Most lives past, a small percentage - the future, and those who enjoy the present time can be counted on the fingers. You can withstand everything that disadvantaged your life, if you can't look into the future and constantly scroll through the past. An important rule In working on how to gain peace of mind, it is always to remember that:

Can not be bad Life. There are bad moments.

And these moments need to go through and send them to the past. And never remember.

So get rid of deaths. Those who won the fight against cancer, say: "I just lived today and never looked at the calendar. My task was one - to live today. And I got it. "

This approach is applicable to any situation. Just live now. Andre Dubyu said very well about it:

"Desperation appears because of our imagination, which lies, as if there is a future, and persistently" predicts "millions of moments, thousands of days. It devastates you, and you can no longer live in the present moment. "

Do not waste for fear before the future and do not regret the past. Live today.

Fifty lesson

This is perhaps the most cheerful lesson, which is not difficult at all. It is necessary to go back to a little ... in childhood.

Inside each of us remains a kid. We try to look like adults and are doing this successfully, while someone or something does not click on the "favorite corn" and we instantly turn into a frightened offended kid.

Remove bad children's memories - make yourself a second childhood, which will be much happy first.

Remember what you would like in childhood, but you did not get it. And let it yourself right now.

Did you want to have small pink booties? Go and buy. Have you dreamed of a car designer? Go immediately to the store. You wanted, but were afraid to climb on a tree? Who prevents this right now?

Here are some more ideas that will help you gain peace of mind:

Go to the planetarium and make a desire for a falling star;
Break the wallpaper in the bedroom;
For a whole day, see cartoons;
Narvit a bouquet of dandelions;
Ride on the swing;
Take a walk in the rain without an umbrella;
Ride a bike on puddles;
Arrange a picnic right on the floor in the living room;
Build a fortress from tables, stools, sheets and blankets;
Pour in chalk on asphalt;
Type in the glasses of water and try to play some melody on them;
Arrange a fight with pillows;
Pour on the bed until you get tired and do not fall asleep.

What to do - your choice. This list can be complemented and complement. Come up with your own, return to childhood. Remember that it's never too late to make yourself a happy childhood, which depends only from you.

It is still possible to talk about how to find peace of mind. But even these five lessons, if you begin to implement in your life, add you peace of mind and inner harmony. Try. Choose a full life, not gloomy pits, and you will gain so long-awaited peace of mind. Happiness to you!