Anniversary of death: how to remember the deceased and traditions. Funeral speech at the commemoration

People say that a person dies when people who love him during his lifetime stop talking about him and remember. To preserve the bright memory of a close relative is a task that must be understood and accepted, regardless of the transience of our time and the pain of loss. Love and gratitude for all good deeds is difficult to convey in words, and in order to properly honor the memory of the deceased, it is necessary to figure out why and how a commemoration is organized in his honor.

When should the commemoration be held?

It is considered traditional to hold a commemoration immediately after the funeral, on the ninth and 40th days, as well as on the anniversary. The belief says that during the first nine days after death, the soul of the deceased is in the heavenly booths, and then goes to heaven to appear before the Lord God. This date is also dated to the nine "ranks of angels". The 40th day commemoration allows universal prayer to atone for the sins that the deceased managed to create in his life. The date itself - the fortieth day - personifies the ascension of Jesus Christ to heaven after the resurrection. The next day, when it is customary to honor the memory of the deceased, is the anniversary of his death. Only the closest people come to the meal on this day, remembering how he lived and everything that is connected with the earthly life of the deceased. Christian believers also celebrate the birthday and day of the deceased angel. If relatives are inclined to conduct prayers, then the commemoration can be arranged both a few months later and six months after death.

Cemetery visit

The first obligation on the day of the commemoration is to visit the grave of the deceased. They do this both before the start of the meal and after it. They bring to the grave fresh flowers decorate the grave with artificial wreaths and baskets. If regulations permit, a small tree can be planted. Plants at the burial site are symbols of eternal life.

In days special commemoration the deceased should put things in order in the surrounding area, clean up the grave, clear the place of debris, remove excess weeds, paint the fence or renew the cross.

In order for the soul of the deceased to find peace, the Orthodox faith provides for a special ceremony - a meal. Before it begins, those present are held the rite of the requiem - lithium. If it is impossible to do this, it is necessary to read the prayer: "Our Father", Kathisma 17 or Psalm 90.

The memorial meal presupposes a special serving and the presence of a special meal corresponding to Orthodox traditions... Eating food begins with the serving of kutya. Kutia is made from whole grains (rice, cereals), seasoned with honey and sweet raisins, as a symbol of the sweet afterlife, and sprinkled with holy water. Mandatory element meals are pancakes - a ceremonial food that signifies earthly ideas about underworld and the sun. Next, it is necessary to serve the first courses: soup, borscht or cabbage soup, since since ancient times a memorial meal was arranged with the aim of feeding all the participants in the funeral, those who helped dig the grave, carry the coffin, prayed for the deceased, and, of course, it was considered a sacred duty to feed the beggars or give alms ... It was also believed that common prayer during the memorial meal would facilitate the path of the deceased to the Kingdom of Heaven. It is considered a tradition to serve such dishes as jelly, fish (mainly herring), kulebyaki, vegetable and sausage cuts on the table. After the end of the memorial meal, cookies are distributed to all present.

During the meal, those present are prohibited from drinking alcoholic beverages. Unfortunately, many families ignore this rule, which is why unnecessary squabbles and showdowns begin later at the table that are not appropriate for such a significant event.

Memorial etiquette

Even in those moments when it is very difficult to restrain oneself, it is necessary to observe the rules of etiquette. Their basis, first of all, is a dignified attitude towards the memory of a deceased person, respect for the feelings of loved ones. So, if you have become a member of a funeral procession or commemoration, you should not behave defiantly, laugh, make noise, or speak actively and very loudly. Don't wave your arms, don't jump, don't be happy. Behave with restraint and calmness. It is impossible to violate the order of performance, which has developed in accordance with generally accepted mourning etiquette.

A deceased person must be reported only with positive side... Do not insult other participants in the meal, do not enter into conflicts, do not show aggression. You should not come to the commemoration without an invitation. At the table, sometimes, one empty seat is left for the deceased. His portrait is usually placed next to him, framed with a black ribbon. The first to leave the memorial meal should be the acquaintances of the deceased, colleagues, distant relatives. The last to leave the table are the closest friends and relatives.

According to the rules of funeral etiquette for men, it would be appropriate to have a strict classic suit of a straight cut in dark color. A shirt is suitable as an addition light tone and a tie. The presence of a dull and not too defiant pattern on the tie is allowed. A man's headdress should be absent. The exceptions are cases when it is necessary due to a particular religion. In the hot season, it is allowed to take off your jacket. As for representatives of the military service, the presence of a ceremonial uniform of a dark color is acceptable here.

Women should be dressed in a dress of a restrained tone and with a hem that covers the knees. The head must be covered and the headgear may only be removed indoors. A veil or scarf can be used as it. The presence of any jewelry (the exception is wedding ring) in the form of earrings and chains at the commemoration is undesirable to wear. The hair should be matched and the face should be without bright makeup.

How to seat guests at the table?

Regardless of where the memorial ceremony takes place (in the banquet hall or at home), guests must be seated, based on a certain principle. First of all, the closest relatives sit at the table, then those present sit at the table according to the principle of kinship. With regards to the friends of the deceased, they are seated by seniority.

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Funeral speech at the funeral text - parting words spoken in memory of the deceased by his family and friends. They are pronounced over the grave of the buried with all their hearts. The speaker talks about important and significant events associated with this person, his achievements, and also speaks about the character and personality of the deceased from the good side. It is advisable if he says it orally, and does not read it from a piece of paper.

Funeral speech

A lot of people are present at the funeral and commemoration. These are mainly relatives and friends of the deceased, but there are others - colleagues, acquaintances, school friends and others. As a rule, speak first memorial words provided to the head of the family or the oldest and closest person. In the event that he is in a strong emotional state, then the speech at the commemoration can be made by other attendees.

Mourning speech at a funeral example:

“My grandmother was wonderful person with a difficult but interesting fate. Together with her three younger brothers and sister, her mother raised her alone in the difficult post-war years. To say that they lived in poverty then means to say nothing. She had to endure a lot of difficulties and hardships, but she never lost her optimism and presence of mind, constantly helped her mother and took care of the younger members of the family. And later, having married a military grandfather, she steadfastly endured all the hardships of the service. In any circumstances, she always maintained an exemplary order at home and taught all family members to it. My grandmother was sometimes strict, but fair. I am glad that I managed to learn from her neatness and order, the ability to organize my life. And her famous apple pies were simply incomparable, no one else has succeeded! I will always remember you, my dear, beloved grandmother! Your warmth, love and care will remain with us forever. "

If people around you do not know you well, then at the beginning of your speech you should introduce yourself and explain under what circumstances you met the deceased. The memorial speech should contain words of gratitude towards the deceased, reflect him positive traits... You can mention any significant moment that occurred with the participation of the deceased.

Memorial words for 40 days:

“I will introduce myself for those who do not know me: my name is (name). We have worked with (name of the deceased) for the past few years, and I would like to say a few words in his memory. He was a real professional in his field, a specialist with a capital letter. Many of our colleagues, young and not only, learned the basics of skill from him and often used his advice and help. He was very patient and sympathetic, he could always listen to everyone who turned to him for support, advise something, help out, did not refuse requests to anyone. He could perfectly cheer up anyone who was upset, confused or depressed about something. Told by them countless funny stories, toasts, jokes and anecdotes could amuse anyone. We will all miss him very much at our dinner gatherings and corporate parties, where he invariably shone at the table, raising our fighting spirit. There is no other such person in our team anymore. And maybe it won't be in my memory anymore. We will all miss him greatly. Until the end of my life, he will remain in my memory and in the memory of all our colleagues as an example of perseverance, sparkling cheerfulness, activity and professionalism! Rest in peace, dear colleague! "

It is advisable if you prepare the words at the commemoration in advance and memorize them. Because a well-formulated text will sound good and be perceived by others. And lethargic, boring speech with stutters can be regarded as disrespect for the deceased and his family. If you are afraid that you will forget the words, you can take with you a piece of paper with a sample of mourning speech. Pronounce the words clearly and slowly. You need to speak confidently and so that others can hear you, but not very loudly.

Wake speech examples

Memorial words for the anniversary of death (from a colleague):

"Friends! The deceased worked honestly at the enterprise (name) for more than twenty years. We all knew him as a decent, honest and modest person. Appreciated for skillful hands and reliable in nature. We will miss his many inconspicuous, but irreplaceable contribution to the work! The bright memory of him will remain in our hearts! "

Speech at the commemoration 1 year (from friends):

“Friends, the best of us has gone to another world. We all grieve deeply. Our souls bleed from untimely loss. The deceased was our support. He was the first to come to the rescue, did not wait for requests or complaints. His kind heart and wide soul have always been wide open. He was a clear beacon and guide in a complex and dangerous world for all of us, his friends! May the soul of this magnificent person rest in peace! We will always remember him with a feeling of light sadness, mixed with a secret longing! "

Memorial speech for 40 days (from relatives):

“Throughout his life, our father was a worthy example not only to his children, but also to those around him. He showed wise understanding in everyday life. true values, kindness and dedication. Any person left him with an enlightened soul. And to us, his children, the father instilled love for people, a high sense of responsibility and devotion to the Motherland. We consider his departure unfairly early. Eternal to him, blessed memory! "

“Our grandfather was very kind and a good man... His path was long and difficult. He perceived all the difficulties that befell the country as his own. He worked and raised children without complaining about the lack of benefits, lack of food or amenities. He raised children, was a support for his grandchildren. We will all miss this wonderful man very much. Blessed memory of him! "

Condolences are expressed not only during the funeral, but also during the commemoration of the deceased. Speech is spoken at commemoration 40 days, a year after the date of death, as well as during Parental Saturdays and other Orthodox holidays. Speeches can be made both at the cemetery and during memorial dinners.

What do they say at the commemoration? At this event, all deceased relatives and friends are remembered. They remember what they were like during their lifetime, what they were fond of, what they loved. Words of condolence are pronounced, the fond memory of the deceased is honored. It is forbidden to say anything bad about the deceased, to recall old grievances. Either good or nothing - says a popular saying.

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Memorial poems

In addition to the mourning speech, condolences can be expressed in verses or toasts. These options are more suitable for commemoration than for the funeral itself. For example, memorial poems are read for the anniversary of death. They can be written with your own hand or taken ready-made. If you do not have the opportunity to personally attend the commemoration, then you can express condolences by posting the memorial poems in the newspaper.

***
Two tears fell into the flowers
Two big pink roses!
From my tortured soul
Hopelessly tears rolled out!
See my wet eyes
What they don't believe at all
That you can never change
That which is measured by pain and tears!
My heart is beating obstinately
And desperately doesn't want to know
That you can no longer see your beloved eyes,
And don't hug your dear again !!!

***
You have always been an example to us
As a person with a pure soul.
And the memory of you is alive
In the hearts and souls of your loved ones.

***
People close to us are leaving.
Do not realize that - forever,
Do not exhaust all the pain of separation
And he hits backhand - never.

We won't see them, we won't hear them,
We won't ask, we won't talk
Although, as before, we breathe them,
We love them, we wait, we adore them.

Ridiculous, strange, impossible
That dawn has come again
Call, scream or cry heart-rendingly,
And there are no more close ones nearby.

***
We cannot understand and comprehend
Do not survive, do not overcome
That the chariot of life goes round,
As it was before, exactly.

The sun is shining and the air is so fresh
What days stand, but very sad.
Gone is the beautiful hope from the hopes
And again, my heart is sad and empty.
For six months now, the apartment is quiet,
Everything is yours and it's hard to believe in it.
I drank the cup of grief to the bottom,
But it still cannot be measured.
I so want to come to you again
Kiss and just be with you.
With the hope of resisting in the struggle,
Argue with illness and disease.
The further, the more immeasurable depth
The abyss that came between us
As you are now, as in childhood, I need you,
But it is impossible to beg with tears.
I'm strong, you know I can
After all, you and I have experienced so much.
I am forever in your debt,
You are an eternal part of my world.
I'll bring you flowers and stand
And the heart will touch with its wound.
And you will feel how much I love you
My beloved, only mother.

***
Memorial verses for 1 year:
You passed away too early
Our pain cannot be expressed in words.
Sleep, dear, you are our pain and wound,
The memory of you is always alive.

***
We come here
To put flowers
It's very difficult, dear,
We can live without you.

***
Great sorrow cannot be measured
Tears cannot help grief.
You are not with us, but forever
You will not die in our hearts.

***
Where do all the dreams go
And why they have no return
How pain we experience
After all, they were happy once.
Like waking up every day
Understand that this is all reality
How painful it is to remember that day
When everything in life has changed.

***
My soul is anxious without you
Girlfriends and friends are not needed.
Why is it possible without millions?
Why is it impossible without one?

***
I don't rock you in the crib
I come back to the cold fence
I will fix the fallen wreath
And I will sing to you, dear son ...

***
They usually leave without saying goodbye,
Without whispering your last words
Perhaps not going on a long journey,
On that long road of dreams and dreams.
Yesterday they smiled at us sweetly,
Their eyes emitted a bright light,
And as always, waiting for us to visit,
We dreamed of giving our friendly advice.
They, like all of us, really wanted to live,
And every moment brought them joy,
We didn't have time to do everything they wanted to do,
They still had so much strength.
At some moment, everything was cut off,
Someone from above has indicated their term for them,
The soul rushed about in confusion,
That she didn’t have time to tell us a few words.
Even if they are not with us, we love them,
And we remember the joyful days
And our heart will never forget them,
As if they were somewhere nearby.

***
We are sad and sad
And there are no other feelings.
Let's remember all the parents
Let's remember all the relatives!

We will remember all those who have gone
In the prime of his years,
Brothers, sisters of the dead,
Friends and strangers!

They once lived
And made us happy
Laughed and loved
They took care of us.

Long ago or recently
They are no longer with us,
And tremulous to the grave
We are bringing a bouquet!

In the fast flowing time
We do not remember other deeds,
But you are dear to us
More than alive!

We ask You, Lord,
About one mercy,
Forgive them their sins, Lord,
Rest their souls!
***
Among lovers - there is agreement
There is only torment among the lonely
Among those deceived by love - revenge
And among the dead - memory and separation

***
Death took you away on a road with no return
And brought him beyond the brink of being.
Here disappeared in the quiet echo of the alarm
The life lived "in Russian" is yours.
And all that was in the heart before was pain and rage,
Dreams, hopes, faith and love -
In the space of space, it suddenly disintegrated invisibly,
But maybe to be reborn in someone again.
And at the grave there are white-trunk birches,
When the moon is silent in the night
Tears-dew drops to the clear dawns of the earth,
That from a mother's eyes did not flow to the bottom.

***
Your watch has stopped. how you didn’t want to leave !!!
But the heart stopped beating, and we cannot return you,
You have experienced a lot in your life,
War and famine, but you survived to spite everyone.
Your clock is ticking in the houses of your friends, everyone loved you! you were always lucky!
Giving life to your family's watches, you poured your breath into them.
You lubricated their hearts and eased the hours of suffering.
But you could not help yourself, and it is useless to lubricate your heart.
He did not win in this struggle, he gave all of himself, gave everything free of charge.
We gave you the warmth of our hearts, and we were always with you,
Our dear grandfather, father-in-law, father and father-in-law,
You were so afraid to be alone, you were so afraid to be with yourself.
But the black hag came to you, swinging a scythe, hit right in the heart.
The clock has stopped, but the soul
Stayed with us, we are always with you, we are together.
February, frost, trees without foliage, and we have not learned to live without you.
You so wanted to be with us, but alas
Your watch has stopped ...

Funeral toasts

It is customary to say funeral toasts at wake at the table. It is not necessary to specify the personality of the deceased in them. You can express general condolences to all the departed:

Grandfather sat in heaven and wept bitterly. A boy came up to him and asked why he was grieving. The old man answered him:
- there is a custom on earth - to drink for the peace of our souls. And then we are always full and with a full jug of wine. We are glad that children remember us. And now I have an empty jug and therefore I am sad.
So let's drink to those who are not with us!

Friends, today is a day of sorrow. There was a time when we were merry and happy with the one who left us. But today you and I are drinking this cup of sorrow ourselves, having spent the last journey of a person close to us. Not everyone in the world was honored with dormition, like the Mother of God and other holy people. But we will preserve in our hearts a good memory of our friend, having the hope for the resurrection and for a new meeting in a new place. Let's drink the wine of sorrow for this!

In a wolf pack, the leader suddenly died without leaving a will. The wolves announced a gangway to elect a new leader. For three days they argued and fought, because everyone was afraid that the new leader would begin to take revenge on those who voted against him. When they were already hoarse from screaming, the wise old wolf got up and said:
“Let's pick someone outside of our pack to be an impartial leader.
Everyone agreed and asked who. Then the wise old wolf suggested choosing a goat as the leader. The wolves began to resent:
- Only the goats were not enough for us yet!
But the wise old wolf explained:
- Although he is a goat, he has one advantage: if he starts to fix chaos, he can always be bullied.
The wolves agreed with a laugh and called the goat. When they brought the goat trembling with fear, he was told:
- Listen carefully! We will choose you as our leader, if you don’t get angry.
The goat got even more frightened and answered:
- I'm a goat. But I renounce my goat past. I swear I'll never be a goat again.
The wolves rustled approvingly and made the goat their leader.
“You are our leader now,” said the wise old wolf. - You can order us whatever you want, and we will obey. Our fate is in your hands.
All the wolves, tails between their legs, nodded affirmatively and asked the goat to make a speech. The goat quickly jumped on the rock, spread his legs wider, fluffed his beard, stuck out his horns, looked around the hushed flock with a slow gaze and bleated severely:
- Well, so which of us is a goat?
So let us remember our glorious leaders!

Also, toasts at the commemoration can be expressed in poetic form:

The bright memory of those who left us,
We will drink to this now.
May it be like granite in our hearts,
The memory of the loved ones of the departed keeps.
May all the good that happened to them
A damp grave will not bury.
How much memory we keep
That is how long he will live with us.

Memorial notes

You can also honor the memory of the deceased with the help of memorial notes. In the churches there is a special table where there is a memorial note, a sample on which you can write it. A cross is placed at the very top of the sheet and marked "of repose." Then they write full names deceased in the genitive case and in the church spelling (for example, Ivan - John), neatly and legibly. Usually about ten to fifteen names are written. Moreover, everyone who is written there must be baptized in the Orthodox Church.

In addition to the names, the note indicates which deceased: the newly departed - the deceased for forty days after death or the ever memorable (worthy of constant remembrance) - the deceased, who has a memorable date on this day.

When going to a funeral or memorial service, it is important to remember about etiquette. You need to behave delicately and tactfully. It is worth preparing words of condolences, which can be expressed with the help of a mourning speech, memorial poems or toasts. An appropriate and competent presentation will be appreciated with gratitude by the family and friends of the deceased.

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The day of death is considered the first day, that is, the day on which a person died, and will be considered the day of his memory in a year, and in 10, and in 20 years. On this day, you must visit the church in order to pray for the deceased, and after the end of the service, ask the priest to serve a panikhida.

First of all, you need to pray for the deceased, and only then celebrate a memorial meal, which is not so important, although it is not superfluous.

One should always pray for the departed, but especially on the days of their memory. By church tradition days of remembrance of the dead - it is customary to celebrate the birthday and the day of death annually. On the day of remembrance, it is imperative to pray at the Divine Liturgy for the repose of the deceased, serve a panikhida for him, and then you can celebrate a memorial meal.

When to celebrate the anniversary of death?

It is better to celebrate the anniversary of death in due time, however, in the life of every person there may be many reasons why you have to postpone the date of the memorial day. In such cases, it is possible to postpone the memorial day, but it is imperative to honor the day of death by visiting the temple, serve a requiem and celebrate the smallest memorial meal in the home circle of the closest people.

On big days church holidays it is not customary to commemorate the dead, since nothing sorrowful should distract from such holidays. Therefore, the day of remembrance is usually transferred to another close day after the holiday. And if the years fall on Easter, then they are spent after the end of Bright Week.

In a number of tragic cases, the day of death has to be set conditionally, which greatly worries those close to the deceased. However, the church advises not to attach too much importance to dates. There is nothing terrible in establishing a conditional starting point, because, for example, the exact date of death of many saints is unknown, and how many are missing who have not been found.

The duty of the living, according to Christian beliefs, is to pray for the deceased (and this must be done not only on memorial days, but also on ordinary days), the forgiveness of his sins is also called upon to ask for the dead church services, and then there is an opportunity to change his afterlife fate by forgiving even grievous sins.

On the anniversary of death, people close to the deceased pray for him, thus expressing the belief that the day of death is not the day of destruction, but the new birth of the deceased for eternal life, the day of the transition of the immortal human soul in completely different conditions, where there are no earthly sorrows, diseases and hardships.

And yet, the days of remembrance must be met and seen off, only in a state good location spirit, not to hold a grudge against anyone, and even more so against a deceased person. On memorial days, it is also customary to distribute alms to people in need, to commemorate the dead at a meal, and also to donate to monasteries so that they can pray there for the repose of the soul of the deceased.

Each person comes to this world to fulfill his destiny. But the time comes when you have to leave the earthly world and go to eternity. gives life, he also takes it. In Orthodoxy, there are basic customs and traditions of how to commemorate the deceased on the anniversary of death.

Wake. Rite history

Such a ritual as a commemoration is carried out by the relatives of the deceased. It arose a long time ago on the basis of Christianity. Moreover, he combined several rituals from several religions. However, this ceremony can only be performed with those who have been baptized. The Church does not pray for those who have taken their own lives, unbaptized people and people of other faiths.

Orthodox Christians hold commemoration 3 times: on the 3rd, 9th and 40th days after death. The basis of this ritual is as follows:

Relatives or friends are preparing a memorial table.
Everyone who knew the deceased can come and take a seat at the table.
Eat and commemorate the deceased good words, tell interesting cases from his life.
The rest of the food is distributed to all guests so that they still think about the deceased.

For 40 days after death, the soul is in search and ignorance. The first 3 days she visits all her native and familiar places, being close to those who were close during life. Until the 9th day, he gets to know the places that are called paradise. Until the 40th day, he sees the suffering of people who are in hell.

On the 40th day, God's judgment pronounces a verdict where the soul of a person should find peace. The anniversary of death is considered the beginning of this eternal life.

The most dear people are invited to the anniversary. They try to call those whom the deceased would like to see during his lifetime. Preparation for the meal begins in advance.

How to prepare a memorial meal

First of all, you need to determine on what day the anniversary of death falls. If it is a day of fasting, it is necessary to prepare meatless meals. If it's a normal day, you can include in the menu those foods that the deceased loved. It is forbidden to put any alcoholic drinks on the table.

It is imperative to prepare kutya and consecrate it in the church. As a rule, Orthodox Christians cook it from rice or wheat with raisins.

Much attention is paid to table setting. Everything should be modest, forks are not put on the table on memorial day. They sit at the table even number guests, set the same number of appliances.

But the main point is reading prayers and kind words about the deceased. You need to light a candle or an icon lamp, put a photograph in a mourning frame.

For the deceased, a glass of water is placed on the table, which is covered with a slice of bread, a spoon and a small cup of salt are placed next to it.

Cemetery visit

Before you sit down at the table, you must visit the grave of the deceased. If for some reason this cannot be done on the day of the commemoration, you can come to the cemetery on another day. Just be sure to come to the burial place before noon.

You should take a candle with you, which you need to put and light in a special glass. Flowers will not be superfluous: live or artificial, depending on the season. According to pagan rites, many people bring food with them, leave sweets on the grave or what the deceased loved: apples, cigarettes, pies.

True believers remember the deceased only with prayers and the laying of fresh flowers.

The Christian faith believes that memory can only be honored with prayers. In this case, even the most serious sins can be forgiven. Therefore, it is necessary to order the Panikhida in the church. You can also order the Sorokoust about the deceased, which will be pronounced for 40 days, 6 months or a whole year.

Be sure to put a candle for the peace of the soul. You can invite a priest to the grave, who will read the akafest and perform the litiya.

Is the deceased commemorated on his birthday?

In some families, it is customary to commemorate the deceased on the day he would have a birthday. Is it correct? According to ancient beliefs, the birthday of the deceased ceased to have any meaning, since now the date of death is the date of birth of a new life. Therefore, our ancestors did not remember this day in any way and did not go to the cemetery.

The priests, on the other hand, believe that one can remember him at any time, including on his birthday on earth. Only this remembrance should take place in prayers and thoughts about the deceased.

How to remember the deceased on the anniversary of his death, if he voluntarily passed away or was unbaptized? The answer can be found in Paul's letter to the Colossians, which says that for God everyone is equal. Therefore, regardless of how a person died, at least close people need to remember him on his anniversary. After all, only prayers will help him to cleanse himself from the sins of worldly life.

Commemoration for 1 year after death rules of conduct

Let us consider by the numberological (numerical) method an event that is associated with the departure human being from life, i.e. a state of death. Staying in the invisible world takes some time, which in the conventional language of earthlings of the visible world is designated as forty days. This number 40 has become an important symbolic number for us; we attribute it to the Soul of a person who continues his existence in another reality.

Let's pay attention to the actions we perform in memory of the departed loved ones, friends, acquaintances, called - commemoration.

What we do.

Returning from the cemetery (or from the crematorium), we get together to honor the memory of the deceased person on this day.

This is the first commemoration.

On the ninth day we gather for the second time and this is the second commemoration.

The third commemoration falls on the fortieth day.

Using the numerical language (the method of cognition), we will try to explain the correctness of our actions during the death of a person close to us, an acquaintance or any other.

Numberology is the science that explains the meaning of events. It indicates accuracy, identifying errors, delusions (which comes from ignorance) in something. This accuracy allows you to correctly perform any actions consistent with Nature, so as not to shy away from harmony.

Explanation.

Death is a state of transition (from life to another state of being), which takes a certain period of time. By analogy, we can find the semblance of death in our lives. The time of death will fall on the nighttime part of the day, when the last Day "dies" (morning, day, and evening - the trinity). Night for us will be the time of transition, and sleep will be death.

We can take the morning for the beginning of our life, if we consider the whole life in this way; day is our whole life until old age, and evening is our old age and the end of life. Night is our death and departure from life.

Numbering the parts of the day in order, we get: 1 - morning, 2 - day, 3 - evening, 4 - night. The number 4 will turn out to be transitional: from one day to another, and therefore from one life to another.

Our dreams, which are a symbol of death, will be a "commemoration" for us, because most often in dreams, events of earthly life are recalled, and this is morning, afternoon and evening. These commemorations are performed in a state of transition from one day to another, which is the night.

The transition received its symbol from us - this is the number 4. Thus, what precedes the transition, i.e. old age, end, evening - will be symbolic of the number 3.

A deceased person goes through his mortal path in the invisible to us, but not to him, the world also from 1 to 4. And there is the beginning of the path, like morning, the continuation of the path - the day and the end of it - the evening. Further transition - night.

About the human body.

On such "night-transitions" we can remember people who have passed away from our lives.

In order to understand what these periods represent, one must know the structure of a human being. In this world where we live, we have a Body that is visible to everyone. But it is only quality reflecting invisible number... it number- there are three invisible bodies: etheric - vital body, astral - sensitive body and mental - thinking body. Together with the physical visible Body, all bodies make up one human being. (1 + 2 + 3 + 4 = 10, and 10 = 1 + 0 = 1 - one).

With the end of life (and the end is number 3), the deceased begins to say goodbye to his Body of Flesh, which has four bodies: three invisible quantitative and one visible quality(begins to "say goodbye" to each body in turn).

The first body that the deceased leaves is physical, qualitatively-visible Body. Because it quality, then it is not divided into parts and not measured separately. Living parts of the Day (morning, afternoon and evening), the Body remains one, but the fourth in a row, and three are counted quantitative bodies of the invisible world.

Likewise, the time of night, being the fourth part, is the same for dreams, where everything happens in turn: morning, day, and evening.

This means: that three bodies are three units (1 1 1), which are displayed in the four by their trinity. In order to represent this, we need to imagine a triangle (semi-square), which is reflected in exactly the same triangle, while we already get a new quality in the form of a square, and not two triangles.

The number four - 4 differs from the number three - 3 by one unit, which is added as the "unity" of two triangles. (Two triangles connected is a square, or quadrilateral at different angles of the triangles.)

At the moment of death, the deceased, leaving the Body, loses first quality physical Body (square) and functions (a triangle that reflected another triangle). Life begins without a Body, but it is already short-lived, tk. without visible body quality cannot exist quantitative body (consisting of three). This life is determined by the number 3, because the trinity of the things of the world is the basis, the first brick of all life (a triangle is the first closed figure after a line and an angle, which are considered numbers 1 and 2).

In Numberology, all the constituent parts of something considered are connected by the plus sign (+), and the function of the parts (action, work, force ...) that produces any result is the multiplication sign (x). These signs will have to be used to explain what happens after the deceased leaves the physical Body.

What's happening.

Once in the etheric world - the first in a row, a person begins to perceive the world with etheric vision. Unlike quality the physical Body, where vision is not quality, and changes to the opposite - quantitative, alternately, this body gives the advantage quality perception: all earthly life is here "in the palm of your hand", that is, viewed in its entirety. On Earth, it was lived in time, where events replaced one another (in parts).

According to earthly time, this occurs for three days (three days). On the fourth day (night-transition), the deceased leaves the first etheric body, remaining in the second - astral body. In this segment of the path, sensory perception occurs (shame, pride, torment, conscience, joy, admiration, grief, calmness, etc. - all this arises from the contemplation of a past life; this is like the Court, where good and bad deeds are distinguished in distinction ). This perception takes place for nine days (as 3 x 3, i.e. double three, since the world and the body are the second in a row).

What we don’t do, but what we should do.

Thus, we can commemorate the dead for the first time on the day of the funeral, i.e. on the fourth day (4 - transition).

The second time we will add (+) stay in two worlds (the first etheric - 3 days and the second astral - 9 days), while receiving the time of the second astral death, i.e. 3 + 9 = 12 (12 = 1 + 2 = 3). And not on the ninth day from death physical body, and (after nine) - already on the thirteenth, we can remember the departed person, tk. life limit astral body- these are 12 days (3 + 9), and the transition will take place in the next earthly time, i.e. on the day of four (13 = 1 + 3 = 4).

The third body still has to live, and this life takes the time of three triplets (3 x 3 x 3) of three worlds, i.e. twenty seven days (27).

At this time, a person understands with his mental body (body of thought) everything that concerns life on Earth. He understands why he was incarnated at all, and is disappointed if he did not remember his cosmic task, having lived his life only satisfying his Body (with sex, money, food, work, raising other people or children), without working on himself, on his Soul.

The limit of stay in the mental world, the third - 27 days, and in total with other worlds (adding the parts - the "+" sign) the number 39 = 3 + 9 + 27 is obtained (and the number 39 is 3 + 9 = 12 = 3). And on the next earthly day, there will be a transition to another reality, where the Soul of a person dwells, freed from four bodies. This is the third four - the fortieth day (40).

Writing in one line the path of the deceased according to the days of transitions, we get:

(3) + (3 x 3) + (3 x 3 x 3) = 3 + 9 + 27 = 39,

or 3 + 3 (squared) + 3 (cubed) = 39,

and, adding quality –1 (unity), we get the number 40, as the total number of the realization of the process of death.

Thus, fours take part in the memorial days - 4. But our ignorance leads to distortions like a "damaged phone", and we fall into "inaccuracy", which is characteristic of our life (and accuracy is given by the knowledge of Numberology!), And when "Inaccuracy" the time of the commemoration will move (which is happening) from the thirteenth day (13 = 4) to the ninth. This means that we seem to remember the living, and not the dead, we perform actions earlier than the set day.

Number 13.

However, the "transitional" number 4 has come down to our times in the form of three fours together with one, their unity: 4 - the fourth day of the commemoration, 4 - the thirteenth day of the commemoration and 4 - the fortieth day, i.e. 4 + 4 + 4 = 12 + 1 = 13. The number 13 is "dangerous" for us for a reason. It remained in our memory (no longer from a damaged phone) from ancient times, when knowledge about the secret and invisible world was revealed to people.

But the number 13 (4) is transitional not only in death, but also in birth. Forty (4) weeks - and a person is born into the visible world, therefore the number 13 is dual in nature (the direction of the path is important: to visible world, or to the invisible).

How does a born person know that it is not only the number 13, but also other numbers that “live” with us? Who thought about the questions "why" and "how" something happens? Many people accept the world in the form of the question "what is this?" and they receive in response only the name of things and phenomena, sort of like an acquaintance with what one has to live with.

(Information about the number 13 can be found on the Forum page of this site: http://nomer7777.ucoz.ru/forum/2-4-1).

Looking at this Circle of the Universe, one can understand about the days of the Transition, this is every fourth Circle:

If we want to find ourselves a life partner, then it is not enough for us to know only his name. It is important for us to manifest it, i.e. the manner of his behavior, the properties inherent in the Soul, which are only reflected through the Body. The Soul is more important to us, because The body is beautiful, but the behavior resembles moral ugliness. The body can only sympathize with us (to be pleasing to the eyes - sight), but we love for the inner quality, which is expressed by the number of symbolic expressions through the body, (manners of movement - gait, gestures, expression of thought, manner of speaking - everything that is personal dignity a person, his qualities of the Soul - all these are signs that reflect it).

Commemoration for 1 year after death rules of conduct

The commemoration is the embodiment of a living Idea, for which we only know the name - the ritual. Repeating meaningless actions answering the question “what” (should be done after the death of a person), we are like a robot, like some kind of thoughtless creature.

In many things we repeat after those who were born before us, because we do not ask questions: “how” (correctly) and “why” (something must be done that could be posed by the question “what is this in front of us?”). We follow thoughtlessly, and then we ask “why do we dream of the deceased?”, To which we receive an answer in the form of advice: “Put the candle down!”. So with the help of the dream and the deceased, the question "why" is born in us. You can already understand this as a sign of absence connections since memory is a connection of times: that which has gone into the past and carried away loved one, and that which comes from the future, which we, who live today, perceive as the present.

The ritual of seeing off.

Wake as an event has its own inner life since what we do is an external manifestation (ritual). But manifestation can be perfect (good) and imperfect (bad). And if we are already performing our actions in the name of Memory, then it is desirable to achieve an effect in what we have done. communication with the deceased, who is either accompanied by us on our further journey (with the number 4), or not accompanied (with the number 3).

In the meantime, it turns out: we came to see off a man whose train will be tomorrow. The person is not near the train, but we blindly perform the ritual of seeing off. And tomorrow he will go alone ... Without saying goodbye on time, he will be saddened by our absence. This sadness can unconsciously (in the earthly world and in the body) feel the Soul of living people (although in its own world it feels it consciously). But do we have organs to see something inner and hear it, if we are blind and deaf? We are what we can say about - "having no eyes to see" and "having no ears to hear." We need a healer so that we can gain enlightenment in many things.

New topic.

For me personally, such a healer was Numberology, tk. this is the science of the Integrity of the World, of its not divided into parts, Nature.

We must always remember that the ultimate Goal (wholeness) of our life is death. But death is not the End (not the number 3).

Death is a transition (number 4), but where?

The Numberology method will answer this question, but it will already be new topic... In it I will try to illuminate the path along which our further existence, associated with the number 5, will continue, since we celebrate the fourth commemoration a year later, and a year later equal to the number 365 as the number of cumulative consecutive days. This number indicates the number 5, as the sum 365 = 3 + 6 + 5 = 14 = 1 + 4 = 5.

Wake as a word (the sum of the ordinal numbers of the letters of the alphabet) indicate the number 4, because P 17 + O 16 + M 14 + I 10 + H 15 + K 12 + And 10 eventually give the sum = 94, and this is 9 + 4 = 13, or 1 + 3 = 4