What does it mean to take responsibility.

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stumble upon the call to take the responsibility is possible at every step.

As if it’s not enough that it is constantly expected from us in the family and at work, now they also talk about it in various literature on success, mention it in all methods of working on oneself, and in general, except that they don’t write on fences.

Like, for some reason, you must first of all take responsibility for everything that happens to you. This is the only way you can influence something.

Should upset you. It's true.

By the way, it is at this stage that most often a plug occurs, due to which many quite effective psychotechniques do not work. If you have tried some well-known technique, but the desired does not happen - in 90% of cases it is the responsibility. More precisely, that you forgot about it.

This is despite the fact that we seem to be trying our best to take on this very responsibility, and we talk a lot about it.

What does it mean, after all, to take responsibility? What do they all want from us?!

Let's figure out once and for all what numerous authors mean.

Let's start with how we are generally accustomed to approaching responsibility and what we mean by this.

We are accustomed to approaching it as something external. In addition to what you can take on yourself, you can shift another, or even divide. "equally" or "fairly".

All this is true if we are talking about responsibility formal, official. About official responsibility for some events. Liability for specific objects. Finally, legal responsibility. That is, where the conditions, risks and penalties are clearly stipulated.

Here lies the subtlety. For all this has very little to do with the responsibility that the mentioned books and methods are talking about.

Therefore, when trying to approach personal internal responsibility as a formal responsibility, usually the devil knows what begins.

Namely, the search for ways to replace the criteria of formal responsibility (the very conditions, risks, penalties, etc.) with something so personal that one could present and demonstrate to oneself and others instead of official "analogues".

It is used for this no matter what. Increased tension. Pathetic seriousness. Proud arrogance. Self pity. In particular severe cases we so easily immediately begin to tear the shirt on our chest and at the same time exude a sense of our own importance at every pore at the mere mention of the enormous burden, the extent and depth of our "responsibility".

And if something does not go as planned, we are overtaken by a sense of guilt. Accompanied by a firm resolve to fix things yourself. No one asking for help. Even if through inhuman efforts. Or give up and suffer. Solely. And punish yourself in every possible way. After all, it is a great RESPONSIBILITY that lies on us as a heavy burden.

You are already laughing, right? From the outside it looks weird, right? However, this happens systematically to most of us.

You know what's the strangest thing about this?

Firstly, these games have absolutely nothing to do with responsibility. Secondly, they are completely lacking in practical use. Nobody needs them for anything. Even you.

But after all, this is how most of us imagine responsibility for what is happening to ourselves. And nothing more intelligible in this word, most often, does not invest.

For "responsibility" is taken control mania, guilt, increased anxiety. Anything but, in fact, the responsibility itself.

So. In fact, as is usually the case, everything is much simpler. Much.

Imagine that you are sitting in the driver's seat of a speeding car. And you are thinking - whether to take the wheel? Or share it with drivers of other cars and pedestrians? Or maybe abandon it altogether? How to do it right? To take over or not to take over?

Whatever choice you make, who is driving now? That's right, on you.

Will something change from whether you decide to accept it or refuse? Quite right, only the result of the trip.

But you will still be driving. Close your eyes, or even look away. There is no one else.

I think you understand me. Responsibility for what is happening, of course, cannot be taken or folded. It is impossible to accept responsibility or refuse it. The only thing that can be done with responsibility is to acknowledge the fact of its existence. Open your eyes, grab the steering wheel and put your feet on the pedals. And whether you panic at the same time or are calm, feel sorry for yourself or pride - does not change anything at all.

Responsibility cannot be divided into parts. She doesn't have any parts. And if they were, they would have been as useful as the fragments of the rudder resulting from its "division into parts." She is completely on you. Is always. In any situation.

Think about it without trying to habitually look for allegories and allegories. This should be taken literally. Everything that happens - you do it yourself. Dot.

Another question is how consciously you do it.

If you turn the steering wheel with your eyes closed, it’s really hard to understand that it was you who turned towards the pole, and not “fate skidded”, or the harmful pole suddenly grew where it shouldn’t.

You didn't see. Boom is all. Circumstances of harsh reality hit hard on the forehead. Well, that's life, sometimes it hits. We will blame her injustice, we will scold the vile pillars, and then we will go and pray for improvement - to God, the universe, the subconscious, the universe, nature, or some other unknown garbage.

It's true, it's much calmer that way. Is it better to blame yourself for everything?

Marina Nikitina

Responsibility is formed, brought up and instilled in the child as a necessary social skill. The kid is taught to understand and accept obligations to be responsible for actions, actions, their consequences.

You have to learn to take responsibility both in childhood and on your own in adulthood, as the number of responsibilities in the process of life increases.

Responsibility as a socially determined skill is built into the structure of a person's personality and becomes a volitional quality.

A responsible person is a person who exercises external and internal control, with a sense of duty and responsibility.

A person who has learned to take responsibility:

realizes that life, success, self-realization, happiness depend on him;
is ready to fulfill the promises given to himself and other people, does it diligently;
able to make decisions in crisis situations;
knows how to take care of those who need help and support, or who are not independent enough;
is clearly aware of the consequences of decisions. When you take responsibility, interpersonal relationships are born that involve rights and obligations, a sense of duty and honor.

Marriage, parenthood, guardianship, work, and other spheres of life involve the assumption of certain obligations.

Limits of personal responsibility

When a person learns to make commitments, he must be clearly aware of the boundaries and norms of what is permissible.

Lack of responsibility, inability and unwillingness to take and fulfill obligations - irresponsibility. Too much responsibility is overprotection.

Irresponsible people do not make commitments, wanting to simplify life, but suffer from their helplessness, infantilism, frivolity, frivolity, cowardice.

Hyper-responsible people suffer from anxiety, fears, irritability, suspiciousness, excessive control.

Overprotection is no less dangerous than irresponsibility. Both a lack and an overabundance of responsibility negatively affect personal life, because of them interpersonal and.

Responsibility in its normal manifestation:

regulates, organizes life,
gives self-confidence
evokes respect and self-respect,
exercise internal and external control,
fills life with meaning
gives a feeling.

Ways of Taking Responsibility

Those wishing to learn to take responsibility are advised to act in two directions:

Accept the responsibility provided.
Show initiative and make commitments on your own.

The first path is passive, the second involves activity, but both of them develop skill and ability.

In the case of accepting the responsibility provided, a person needs to force himself to complete the task by an effort of will, overcome unwillingness, laziness, timidity and fears. Don't think of it as a hopeless situation.


A responsible situation affecting a person arises by itself or at the initiative of another person and must be perceived as a necessity.

For example, systematically performing household duties on time and in desired form, a person will learn to be responsible for the actions taken. Just as parents teach young children to fold scattered toys, so an adult learns to do homework on his own, motivating himself with the need to keep clean and tidy.

By independently creating conditions in which a person takes responsibility, he accelerates. In this case, he gives himself a task, performs and is responsible for the result. He artificially creates, models a situation of responsibility and learns to act in it, controls his emotions and desires, motivates himself.

Situations that develop a sense of responsibility

extreme situations. These are situations where the life of a person and other people depends on the ability to take responsibility. These are difficult, dangerous situations that require willpower and endurance. If a person experiences himself in a similar situation, you need to act carefully and reasonably.

Example. Relatively in a safe way develop responsibility in extreme situation sport performs.

Situations where it is impossible not to take responsibility. A person has no choice, he cannot refuse for reasons of morality and ethics, a sense of duty, having a desire to help.

Example. A person is trusted to look after someone else's child for a while, while the parents are busy with urgent matters, and there is no one to leave the child to.

Situations granting new rights. Since there are no rights without duties, their acquisition will entail responsibility.

Example. By purchasing a pet and enjoying the right to play with it and have fun, a person takes responsibility for its well-being. Children are given animals in the hope of being taught to take responsibility for another living creature.

positive situations. A person easily takes and bears responsibility for what he loves, what is dear and important to him.

Example. When a person loves another, he feels a desire to help him, take care, support - these are manifestations of a sense of responsibility.

A committed person loves life, therefore he is responsible for himself, manages himself, is free to be that and live as he wants.

March 1, 2014, 16:30 Take responsibility for your life- this is one of the most important and key points in a radical change in personality and thinking. And in practice, it is one of the most difficult - after all, many of us are used to, and sometimes it’s even much more convenient for us, to blame someone outside of ourselves for all troubles or to think that everything is controlled by something like, but not by us personally. Agree, unpleasant at one point
to feel that only you yourself are to blame for all your failures and to realize that it was completely your conscious choice to abandon your true desires. And it’s certainly very sad to agree with the opinion that only your laziness and inability to act as a result did not allow you to be now what you always wanted to be, while enjoying your success and, and not once again come up with all sorts of excuses why you don’t it happened one way or another.

Indeed, for the majority it is very difficult to accept and it is much easier to blame everything on fate, the state, karma, unfavourable conditions, circumstances, parents or anything else from this repertoire. But if you still want to learn how to control your life and attract as much success into it as possible, then you definitely need to carefully reconsider your attitude towards it and realize that without accepting the full individual responsibility for everything that happens to you or will happen to you, it just won't be possible. It is after the conscious acceptance of full responsibility that global personal changes take place and a switch from the old way of life to a new, more successful way, where you become the full master of your destiny.

How to accept the idea of ​​responsibility

The idea of ​​responsibility will be easily accepted and entered into your life if you realize that the world is your world. That it is you who create it yourself with your own thoughts, feelings and actions. And he, in response, creates you. That every person you meet is a reflection of some part of your conscious or unconscious image. You and the world around you are one.

There you are small example- when you are given gifts and say festive words, it means that at such moments you love yourself and rejoice at the very fact of your stay in this world. But in those times when you are offended and insulted, if you listen more closely to your thoughts, you can clearly hear how you yourself are dissatisfied with yourself, treat yourself badly, scold for something or get angry at others. If you don’t believe me, then take it and double-check it, turn your attention to thoughts and feelings in these moments of life, and you yourself will see for yourself.

I think everyone should finally agree with the opinion that any situations in our lives do not occur without our participation. But in fact, a more global statement can be made: "We create or attract each event in life together with the world around us." Only this statement remains mysterious and incomprehensible for many, due to the fact that they perceive it as the edge of their conscious mind, forgetting about the hidden subconscious part of our boundless mind. But it is the deep subconscious mind, comparing our life experience with the energy of the Universe, that realizes certain events.

In religious circles, this is expressed as: "All the will of God." But the Bible says that we are created in the image and likeness of God. And this means the following: in each of us there is full complex divine energies. The only pity is that we this moment, I will introduce some factors, have lost their relationship with them, but nevertheless, even now there are unique people all over the planet in whom these energies are partially present to one degree or another. Science explains these as phenomena, but aren't there too many of them, and why can many of these phenomena be taught to almost every person?

This is the foundation RESPONSIBILITIES. I create all the events in my life myself, together with the world around me, God and Mother Nature. Everything that I currently hear, see and feel around my reality, around me is a reflection of my own actions, feelings, expectations, emotions, energy vibrations, thoughts and beliefs.
Realizing this, the desire to scold or blame someone immediately disappears, to get angry at someone. In religion this is explained by "humility". You let the situation in without resentment or regret. You suddenly realize that there is simply no one to blame. People deliberately invented guilt in order to manipulate each other for their own selfish interests.

By accepting responsibility, you stop playing the role of a victim in this world. And what is very important, you stop punishing and blaming yourself, because you understand that the people around you are also responsible for their world. You create the world together with them, influencing them with the energy of your intentions, thoughts and emotions. And the people around you have the same effect on you. People cannot, to one degree or another, not influence each other. We are all connected by invisible threads of belonging.

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Hello dear friends!

What is responsibility? Why is it necessary for your growth? What are the methods of training responsibility?

I will answer these questions and tell you how to achieve awareness of your own life.

Are you responsible for your life?

Responsibility is one of the most important human qualities. It means being in charge of your life, which sounds scary enough when you think about it. Responsibility comes from the Latin word "respondere" which means "to promise" or "to give in return". Let's look at the main, in my opinion, features of this topic.

What happens when you take responsibility? You fulfill the promise and exchange it for faith and energy. This applies to you personally and to others.

What prevents us from taking full responsibility for our lives? Self-deception. A person is inclined to convince himself of innocence in the troubles that happen to him. Usually they use one of the strategies: throw the blame on another (boss, colleague, employee, family, parents or state), an unfortunate set of circumstances and the belief that next time will be different - will not be!

What is responsible for? Each person is to blame for his troubles and what happens in his life. Responsibility helps to reduce the number of "unpleasant" events and forces you to look at them as opportunities, and be prepared for other circumstances.

Are you a responsible person? Look at yourself from the side. If you were to meet yourself, what would be your opinion of yourself? Whatever your answer, we all have .

How to take responsibility for your life or how to train yourself to be responsible?

I will give you several methods of training responsibility, but I want to warn you right away: do not use them all at once, unless you are sure that you can stand it.

• Set a global mission. Remember the great people: none of them set a goal of a million dollars or to achieve success. They wanted to change the world, and money and status came by themselves. but don't limit yourself.
• What are you doing that brings you closer to your goal? How does it affect you? A person does not stand still: he either moves forward or backward. Constantly check yourself and you will be able to remove all unnecessary from your life. I advise you to do such a check for at least a month, because out of habit you will constantly forget about it. But I'm sure it will change your life a lot.
• What do you do every 15 minutes? I suggest you print it out and fill it out throughout the day. Every 15 minutes you need to record what you are doing. If any business takes you more than 30 minutes (that is, you need to enter it 2 or more times), then the second and subsequent times you enter your business again only if you were distracted by something else. Thanks to this method, it is easy to see what you are spending your life on. You will be able to unlock the potential for realizing your time.
• Keep reporting. Keep a diary in which you will briefly write about your day. It should show your situation at the moment and your emotions.

In one of them, I wrote that in no case should you blame yourself for what you missed, did not write or did not say. Grafting good habits a complex process and you should not waste energy and time on self-flagellation, it is better to go further - forward.

How to report?

I decided to pay more attention to this, because I consider this method one of the most effective and I use it myself, especially in business, where it is critical. I recommend that you use the following scheme for your reporting:

1. Day impression. It is important here to indicate your emotional condition. If you want to "drink", then do it and move on. By constantly watching your complaints, you will get tired of this activity, and you will change your perception of the world. But try to look at life more positively. Try to find positive things in your day.
2. What did (a) do? Write specifically: earned 10,000 rubles, or made a financial report for August, or worked out for 3 hours English language. Write down what has moved you towards your goal today.
3. What did you think? Write here your thoughts for the day and what was in your head. This can be not only a new invention or an innovative method for analyzing competitors, but also negative thoughts towards the state or the boss, thoughts about hopelessness, and the like.
4. What did (a) say? Do you tell yourself that you will succeed? Are you kind to the environment? Write what information you sent to this world.
5. What do I feel about myself? This item will show you your attitude towards yourself. By realizing your problem (uncertainty, laziness, closeness or negative attitude), you can eliminate its root.

It is important to understand that each of these points leads to full awareness of your life. It will open you up and the truth may be hard to accept, but by doing this you will change your life forever. In fact, this is enough to achieve personal and financial growth, nothing else is needed.

I wish success to those who have decided to embark on the path of changing their lives. This is not an easy task, but if you keep moving forward, you will achieve your goals.

It is difficult for each person to take responsibility for their own life in their own hands - and start acting, taking steps to change their own life in better side to implement their plans and cherished desires. Irresponsibility is a disease of modern society. A person blames reality, fate and other people for his troubles. To understand that everything depends on a person, it is very important if a person wants to become truly free and strong - you need to accept that everything depends on a person, just learn to act and live in the moment here and now.

A huge unwillingness to take responsibility and the total irresponsibility of people is a familiar picture of the existence of people in modern society. No one wants to answer for anything and shifts responsibility onto other people's shoulders: the state, an unfair fate, other people or an accident.

Such an attitude towards oneself and the surrounding reality is instilled, as a rule, from childhood, and the comparative majority of people reject the idea that everything depends on a person, accepting, on the contrary, that the root cause of their troubles and problems must be sought around oneself. It all starts small - with unwillingness to be responsible for their actions, shifting the blame onto other people's shoulders. Essentially an innocent question "Who offended you?" cultivates in the child the sprouts of irresponsibility and the desire to snitch on the other at every opportunity. Gradually, a person gets a taste, and already any unpleasant situation or a problem that has arisen switches attention to external environment- and an active search begins for someone who can be blamed and considered involved in what happened.

Responsibility for your life fades into the background, instead of it, a person learns to play the search for those responsible for their troubles already at a more conscious age. The government with its "unfair" laws, the surrounding reality with its "laws of meanness", the superiority of the rich over the poor, the unidirectional laws of society in general, the injustice of fate, fate or fate and life in general are also used. No one will be surprised by the endless debate in the media about who should be held responsible for this or that social institution, event, incident, problem. Offered various options, but few people come to a single result, because in the distribution of responsibility, no one wants to place it primarily on their own shoulders.

An irresponsible attitude towards oneself, therefore, is gradually fixed in a person from childhood and throughout his life, because it is “convenient” not to answer for anything and present himself in a better light, putting forward another responsible person instead of himself. However, all people want to live happily and have more freedom in their thoughts, actions and actions. And for this they do not need to seek the patronage of the powerful of this world, otherworldly forces, or just sit and hope for a fluke. As practice has shown recent years, such an attitude towards oneself and the world is fundamentally wrong. And a person who has finally decided to become freer and stronger needs to take the first step - to take responsibility for what he currently has on himself and begin to act. .

All thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, laws (including a huge number of real laws of society and existing law) are mental material stored deep inside each person. This material is used by a person as a guide to action, and also forms his perception filters, with the help of which the events of the surrounding world are evaluated in accordance with the standards, attitudes and rules laid down in a person.

Person irresponsible(especially if we consider an extremely neglected version) will assess each situation with amazing unambiguity: the state for him is enemy number one with his stealing government, laws that clearly do not work in favor of the "simple" person; the surrounding people and reality are the source of enemies and envious people of the second order. It is convenient to recognize as "guilty" neighbors, passers-by, parents and other relatives, heredity and fate - in lack of money, failures in personal life, the state of one's health, other life difficulties, including even a falling sandwich without fail "butter down".

To understand the true causes of human total unwillingness take responsibility for your life, you need to turn to the very mental material that he has accumulated over his life: all his thoughts, false beliefs and limiting his conclusions regarding what and whom in life to consider as a cause and what as a consequence. This material is not stored on the surface, i.e. it will not be possible to look for it in the conscious area - you will have to go deeper, into the subconscious.

It is the subconscious that stores all the mental material accumulated by a person during his life. You can get rid of this material with the help of a special procedure - deprogramming the subconscious - which allows you to remove the importance, "charge" of this material, thus eliminating the most subconscious roots of a big human problem called irresponsibility.

In the human psyche, this material is so intertwined and tangled that you have to work through everything in order to gradually get rid of it. Such a study is necessary, of course, for those who have finally decided to be free and strong, who do not want to shift the responsibility for life onto other people's shoulders, and who finally want to be the one who will independently change their life in the desired direction and see the root cause of everything that happens around his events - in himself. Such a person, no longer tied to his mental attitudes (which once dictated to him the position of sacrifice and disbelief in his own strength), will look at the world around him differently - as an arena of excellent opportunities, and not a conglomerate of enemies and dangers; he will accept free independent solutions and learn to simply act to realize their intentions.

It is possible to carry out deprogramming of the subconscious with the help of special psychotechnics aimed at working with the mental material of a person. Such an effective psychotechnics is the system Turbo Gopher, which provides tools for transitioning from the state " tyrant-victim"to the position of freedom, strength, desire live here and now.

Turbo gopher is not a pill that you can swallow and wait quietly for all problems to resolve themselves. This is a system that shows HOW and with what TOOLS you can find - freedom and the opportunity to finally start living here and now, how to learn to live with responsibility for your life and how to start acting , to change your life in the direction you want to change it.

System for practitioners who understands, it's time to act, that any result (including deprogramming your subconscious from unnecessary mental material) is achievable by independent efforts, who does not hold on to their "unique" beliefs, thoughts and does not want to continue life in an irresponsible dream. You just need to act when everything unnecessary leaves, then new sensations, a new taste of life, awaken. If this is about you, then you should download the book Turbo Gopher to begin the process of your personal transformation from an irresponsible victim to a free and strong man with great opportunities in life.

The information in this article is the result personal experience its author, all articles are written based on their own results of using the system and are not intended to convince anyone of something.

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