Female manipulation "I have a bad temper." A complete list of negative moral qualities of a person with a description
For some time now I have been attracted by people who, in the opinion of others, have a bad character. Probably, this is because I often hear such statements in my address.
You have a bad temper, my friend tells me, you often go to the break. But this did not prevent her from working for my company and persuading me to open a joint business with her. Weird?
You have a bad character, my daughter tells me, and she never ceases to be surprised at my great patience.
You have a bad character, my parents told me, and at the same time they always trusted me in everything. And according to their own words, they never felt ashamed or scared of me.
Well, back to the TV show, it was the most ordinary one, its hero told about the history of the Bravo group, or, one might say, about the business that he created.
In short, it all started with the fact that he met Zhanna Aguzarova, wrote songs, assembled a team, and success was not long in coming. She was a bright soloist and her departure, which over the years he was able to overestimate, then became a ruin for him. They promoted her, she was the face of the group, and with her departure everything ended in a moment. Yevgeny Khavtan came out of this state for a whole year.
As a consultant, I can say that, in fact, the initially incorrectly built business model could then destroy it forever, of course, if the founder of the group did not have a “bad character”.
Then it will be repeated with him more than once, and apparently all because of his bad character. I will not go into details, I am not a historian of this group, but just a person who loves to be aware and for me this is just one example of attitudes towards people with a bad character or maybe a strong character. To be fair, I would like to note that not one of the former soloists of the Bravo group has achieved greater success than in cooperation with Yevgeny Khavtan.
If a person has the audacity to want something, and even does something, then those around him will certainly rush to devalue everything with the help of a banal personality assessment, saying he has a bad character.
Why? Maybe this desire to make society more homogeneous?
Bad character traits poison the life of not only loved ones, but also their owner. After all, if your own character brings problems one after another, then it is difficult to love yourself. Because of this, self-esteem falls and a lot of related problems arise. In this case, it is difficult to find a more logical way out, how to correct the bad character. It is not very easy, but with regular self-control it is possible.
So what bad character traits can and should be corrected?
Unjustifiably overestimated self-conceit, narcissism
Loving yourself is very important, but it’s important not to flaunt it. Self-love is like underwear: it should be chic, but no one is wearing it for show. If you honestly consider yourself smarter than others and make it clear, soon there will be no one left in your environment. Can a bad character be corrected? Easy. Tell yourself every day that everyone is entitled to their opinion and respect on your part.
Rudeness, irascibility, hysteria
The inability to control your own emotions and the habit of throwing them out on other people is the worst character trait. It is because of this that families break up, and children grow up with a damaged psyche. In order to control yourself, you can mentally count to 10, drink a glass of water before continuing to speak or taking time out. Learn to vent your emotions elsewhere: go to the gym or go jogging.
The habit of lying, embellishing situations, not admitting your mistakes
In the list bad hell the character of a person will always be present in the leading positions of the lie. Why do people lie? To seem better, to hide their flaws, so as not to receive the punishment they deserve. In general, a lie is a manifestation of banal cowardice of character. Learn to take responsibility for your actions, words and behavior, and the need to lie will go away by itself. If your words cannot be trusted, then they are empty. And if you say empty words all the time, then you yourself are an empty person.
The habit of whining, taking offense, complaining
If you have a habit of talking about bad things all the time, then you have a bad character. In fact, it is very difficult to stay near a person who only does that in everything he sees problems and obstacles, depresses, worries about any reason. Help yourself: include bananas, dark chocolate, nuts, citrus fruits in your diet - these foods contain serotonin, the hormone of joy. Make it a rule in any difficult situation find at least three pluses - and life will change!
There are many good and bad character traits - choose for yourself only what will help you to be a happy, easy person!
For example, because he has his own point of view. And if this person sees that there is pressure on him, and not a request, he begins to rebel.
If you have seen such a person, then you can imagine that it is difficult for him to re-educate himself. And all third-party attempts to remake it - do not bring any success.
Teamwork ===
Work is a special place when the final result of the work depends on the activities of the whole team. This is especially evident in business. When everyone receives something, then he does something with it and transfers it to another worker.
It's like on a conveyor belt. Let's say this is a factory. And you work in the sales department already finished products... It depends on you whether what the plant manufactures will be sold, whether the workers of the plant (turners, security guards, storekeepers, drivers, technicians, ...) will receive the salary they expected on time.
External manifestations of the "absence" of an employee at his post ===
It happens that some employee falls out of the general rhythm of the team. Take a look around. Take a close look at those in your group keeping aloof. He does not show initiative. There is no interest in his eyes. Speaks monotonously only when asked to say something. In the workplace, he is often distracted from his duties.
Even if this person could do a lot, even when he needs a lot of money, he will not be able to force himself to turn on at full power.
You can expect anything from such a person, even the fact that he will give up everything and leave his workplace. It doesn't matter if he works as a lathe operator, as a security guard, or even as a shop manager. Fortunately, the legislation allows the employee to drop everything and leave in the middle of the working day. He will not incur any material and, moreover, criminal liability. Except for some professions, such as a doctor or firefighter.
How the world of obedience works
Suppose this happened to you. You have no interest in work. When your well-being depends only on you. Because even if you force yourself to go to this job by force, the time will come when you will be replaced by another worker.
And this will not happen because your boss will change, or he will begin to treat you worse. You keep going to work. Just every year requirements to productivity in the workplace are getting tougher. Productivity is the amount of product produced in your workplace. For a turner, this is the number of Parts delivered to the warehouse. For an employee of the sales department - the number of received and paid Orders from customers. More and more activities are required from the worker to be completed and fully completed at his workplace.
And this presupposes an increase in labor productivity. Illustrative example accounting work. Where up to 10 accountants worked 20 years ago, today only one or two do it! Where 20 employees of the sales department worked - 2–3 remained.
What should you do?
If you are not lucky at this workplace. You do not like the very idea of getting up in the morning and going to this hard labor ... Change your boss, or become a boss yourself. Why spoil the nerves for yourself and people? It is not your boss's fault that you have such a character.
But, with subordinates you will have to train yourself to communicate. You may need to take training in "resolving communication problems."
In any case, there are no hopeless situations. The people inhabiting the Earth before us have already gone through all this and left us the rules of normal communication.
Almost any situation is solvable with a successful coach.
Is it possible to become a coach for yourself
We know many cases when a person performed surgery on his own body. They like to show this in action-packed films. Although today, even a GP is forbidden to sew up small wounds. He is obliged to call an ambulance and apply a bandage.
Of course, the training specialists will tell you that you cannot bring yourself into working order yourself, you need a specialist in psycho-training.
However, if you really want to, although you can't, then you can do it. And here are some tips - how?
1. The same books can be read in different ways. You can go over the whole book with your eyes and say - okay, I understood everything. Or feel that nothing is clear and discard this book.
2. The next thing is to observe the work successful people, the result in the work of which you would like to achieve yourself. For example, you saw how quickly a manager approves the work plan of his subordinates for the week. It's not a sin to ask what allows you to quickly sign a work plan.
3. All successful, passionate people love to count, write down the results. If a person is strongly turned on or hurt, he will keep records. The athlete has a diary of achievements. A person with high blood pressure will regularly measure and record a pressure reading. Create your own system for recording income receipts by day and week. Get yourself or your accountant to do this without missing a beat.
Conclusions and Decision Making on Credentials
If you see that, according to your credentials, your interlocutors have begun to listen to you more attentively, for example, the average amount of time you watch your videos has increased from 3 minutes to 5, then you are going in the right direction.
If your income has fallen, quickly find the source of the falling income. Do not listen to those who talk about the economic crisis.
The crisis is for the bad employees to go broke, and the good ones take away the bad customers and increase the number of customers and paid orders.
How to tell a bad temper from a good one
Character is the individual identity of a person, what characterizes its in basic personality traits. In the specialized literature, you can find, for example, the following phrase: "Gas with a characteristic odor." That is, this characteristic smell alone can distinguish this gas from many others. It's the same with the character of a person - he, if any, shows well distinctive features this person, as it were, "betrays" his master.
1. Character makes a person predictable. But this predictability applies only to some situations, not all. If a person does not like to lie, then he is predictable only in the fact that he will not lie (or will, but extremely reluctantly). We will not be able to foresee what exactly he will tell us. If someone is prone to verbal aggression (angry with the tongue), then we can be sure that sooner or later he will attack someone with reproaches or insults, but at whom we cannot know for sure.
People without character, on the contrary, are either completely predictable, or completely unpredictable. Predictability is a consequence of a passive life position, and unpredictability is a consequence of a "mess in the head" and (or) complete dependence on third parties. Remember this: passivity betrays in a person only a lack of character.
2. Good character or bad is a lot of a matter of taste. Learn yourself (as they say, at your own peril and risk) to understand people, in their characters. If you are looking for a friend or spouse, then a person with a constructive, harmonious character will suit you. But if suddenly you want to suffer, experience many unpleasant adventures, then a person with a destructive, disharmonious, selfish character is quite suitable for you.
A person who has a constructive character, is aimed, is disposed to cooperate. He is confident that both of you will benefit from cooperation. He will not oppose his interests and yours.
A person with a destructive character is constantly looking for personal gain, over and over again he makes the same mistake: "The best is the enemy of the good." He sees only his own personal benefit, as soon as he notices that he has not squeezed everything possible from the relationship with you, he “tightens the nut” of the relationship even tighter. Sooner or later, the thread breaks down in a relationship, and the egoist then looks for new friends.
If you are just starting to look closely at a person, then give him some checks(tests, so to speak). Try to find out the degree of willingness of this person to cooperate.
No wonder they say that "You can't even cook porridge with such a person." So try to start by combining efforts to cook something: cook borscht together, stick dumplings, etc. If a person calmly and judiciously gets down to business and completes it, this is one thing. If he starts fiddling around, constantly twisting himself, looking for personal gain, putting unpleasant work on you, showing off, blaming you, that's another thing.
V joint activities bad temper will show itself very quickly. Therefore, arrange other checks as well. You can, for example, go camping or take care of a sick grandmother. If a person immediately abandons this or that idea, this does not mean anything. If he took it, but then could not do anything, while making you guilty, then on the contrary, it says a lot.
3. The constructive character of a person develops his abilities. After all, it takes a lot of time, diligence and others to develop abilities. positive qualities... Even if a person just has pleasant manners, this already says a lot. This means that a person loves and knows how to work on himself. If he has sports or intellectual achievements, then this is even better.
If all the "abilities" of a person consist only of the ability to lie and adapt, then you definitely cannot cook porridge with such a person. Sooner or later he will deceive you too. He will wait for the most opportune moment when you least expect deception and when it is most profitable to deceive you, and will deceive.
Therefore, always pay attention to the person's ability, they are not only a consequence of some natural inclinations, but also the result of the work of character.
Studying the personality of a person, be it a woman, a man or a child, you can always identify a bad tendency to unseemly behavior due to, for example, mistakes in upbringing, psychological trauma. But even bad heredity can be protected. Consider the main negative traits of a human character.
Authoritarianism
Striving to dominate in everything, ignoring any needs of other people. Explicit or implicit demand for obedience and discipline from everyone with whom a person intersects. Someone else's opinion is not taken into account, any insubordination is suppressed without trying to find mutually profitable solution... It is believed that this is a typical negative trait of the Russian character.
Aggressiveness
The desire to conflict with others. In early childhood, this is a mandatory negative character trait of a child who studies ways to protect his interests. For an aggressive adult, provocative, sometimes deliberately false statements, raised tone, and insults are typical. Sometimes attempts are made to influence the opponent physically.
Gambling
Painful desire to achieve the set goal, regardless of the size of the risks, ignoring their own and others' logical arguments about the excess of the amount of spending over the value of the desired result. Often becomes the cause of situations that lead to lethal outcome loss of health or significant financial loss.
Greed
Pathological desire for personal material gain in any situation. Getting profit at any cost becomes the only source positive emotions in life. At the same time, the duration of the pleasant sensations from the benefits received is extremely short-term - due to the uncontrollable constant desire to get enriched even more.
Apathy
Lack of an emotional response to most external stimuli due to a particular temperament or as a result of the body's defensive response to stress. It is one of the reasons for the impossibility of achieving even simple goals due to the inability or unwillingness to concentrate, to make volitional efforts.
Carelessness
Careless fulfillment of obligations due to unwillingness to act according to the rules already known to all or a lack of understanding of the algorithms necessary for the quick and least costly achievement of existing goals. Often this is a typical negative character trait of a woman who has just escaped from excessive parental care.
Indifference
Real or deliberately demonstrated lack of interest in a specific subject, object, event, duties due to innate emotional coldness, experienced severe stress or, instilled from infancy, a sense of superiority over people with a different social status, different faith, nationality, race.
Irresponsibility
Deliberately chosen, imposed during upbringing or due to moral immaturity, the position of refusal from real awareness of the consequences of their own actions, unwillingness to make decisions that affect their own and others' quality of life. In complex everyday situations no active action is taken due to the expectation that the problem will resolve on its own.
Facelessness
Lack of individual traits, which is why an individual subject is easily "lost" in the general mass of people like him. In the process of communication, the "gray man" does not arouse sympathy because of his obsession with uninteresting topics, in a team he is lacking in initiative, boring, fears innovations and opposes them in every possible way.
Ruthlessness
Emotional indifference to other people's troubles, inability or unwillingness to condole, sympathize with people in particular and living beings in general, experiencing physical or emotional pain. Sometimes it is intentional inhumanity in actions that lead to suffering and even death of the objects chosen as victims.
Unceremoniousness
Intentional or unconscious violation of norms, the sequence of actions taken in a given society in relation to some specific situation... The reason for intentional swagger may be the desire to provoke a conflict or draw attention to one's own person, unconscious - errors of upbringing, emotional immaturity.
Talkativeness
Painful need to constantly participate in a dialogue with one or more interlocutors, regardless of the meaningfulness of the conversation, the degree of enthusiasm for the rest of the participants, the relevance of the conversation. The main purpose of such an interlocutor is not to receive new information rather the role of a storyteller in contact with someone. At the same time, he can spread the information that others would prefer to keep secret.
Windiness
The inability to keep any promises and take into account other people's interests, the lack of the ability to move for a long time in order to achieve one goal, the desire to constantly change the circle of friends, partners. Lack of principles and clear behavioral boundaries, rapid fading of interest in a particular occupation, person.
Lust for power
A passionate desire for control over everyone and the expectation of unquestioning obedience, the desire for unlimited power, especially over the more educated and skilled. Delight in their own superior position in situations when others are forced to seek help or seek protection, material support.
Suggestibility
In a pathological form, this is a subconscious tendency to perceive behavior imposed from the outside without one's own conscious comprehension and weighing the results from one's actions performed under the influence of someone else's authority. However, decreased suggestibility can cause learning difficulties.
Vulgarity
The inability to find a balance between originality and vulgarity in communication, when choosing clothes, social guidelines, and so on. For example, during a dialogue, the interlocutor communicates in a raised tone, manners, does not disdain greasy jokes. When choosing an outfit, he prefers catchy things, and constituent elements often do not go well with each other.
Stupidity
The inability or unwillingness to determine logically correct conclusions even from the simplest everyday tasks, the tendency to see a healthy grain in pseudoscientific and populist statements, the inability to subject information from sources that are independently elevated to the status of authoritative reasonably critical analysis.
Pride
Confidence in the social, moral, mental insignificance of others, inability to forgive for personal and other people's mistakes, denial of the possibility of having worthy features in other subjects of society. It develops against the background of imbalances in education, personality degradation due to illness, immaturity of the personality, coupled with a high social status.
Coarseness
Unwillingness to adhere to the polite format of communication with interlocutors, accepted in normal society, due to personality deformation due to illness, injury, stress, or the frequent need to take a defensive position when encroaching on territory and rights. Typical manifestations: communication in a raised voice, rudeness, obscene language.
Greed, stinginess
Striving to minimize costs even at the expense of health, basic hygiene and common sense. The pathological pursuit of material stability can manifest itself in the form of refusal to get rid of garbage, trash, ignoring justified requests loved one on the acquisition of essential items.
Cruelty
The desire to cause discomfort to living subjects for the sake of personal moral satisfaction. The impact on the victim can be both intangible - in the form of insults and refusal to satisfy some important emotional needs, and physical - through infliction of pain, torment, encroachment on life.
Forgetfulness
Failure to remember any data necessary in everyday life, a combination of actions to achieve a specific goal, an algorithm for starting or shutting down the device. It occurs due to age-related changes in the brain, information overload. May be a consequence stressful situation that you want to forget.
Addiction
The desire to enjoy the performance of actions or the use of a certain substance, even if the source of pleasant emotions is harmful to health, relationships with others, leads to large financial spending, pushes to a crime because of the desire to achieve a "high", in the absence of legal access to it.
Envy
Inability to enjoy any personal benefits, achievements, qualities. A tendency to constantly compare the values of oneself and others. Moreover, the "crumbs" on the foreign side always seem larger, tastier and more desirable than their own "placers". In a pathological form, it deprives of cheerfulness, the ability to soberly assess one's own and other people's dignity.
Complexity
Constant belittling in their own eyes of their own natural talents, trained abilities, denial of the value of personal achievements, inability to force oneself to declare personal achievements in the circle of authoritative persons. Formed by overly strict parenting, trauma or illness nervous system.
Tediousness
The habit of lecturing everyone and everywhere, discussing the same topic repeatedly, despite the obvious lack of interest in it among people who are trying to draw into dialogue. The reason lies in the pathological love for attention and endless conversations on any topic, even if the instigator of the conversation is a complete layman in the topic under discussion.
Anger
An emotional manifestation of strong dissatisfaction with something, a landmark indicating the presence of clearly uncomfortable conditions for a person. In the absence of actions that eliminate the cause of the formation of feelings, over time it can push you to commit an offense, so you should not ignore the manifestations of anger.
Spoiledness
It is a bad habit to demand the fulfillment of one's desire as soon as possible, without taking into account the possibilities of the person to whom the claim is made. Refusal to control and restrain one's own needs, endure the slightest inconvenience, and personally make emotional and physical efforts to achieve what one wants.
Laziness
Lack of desire to strain for personal needs, a tendency to spend days idle. The behavior shows the desire to obtain comfort at the expense of the work of others, a deep aversion to useful activities, even in minimal volumes. When applying for a job, this negative character trait for a resume should not be indicated.
Deceit
Deliberate systematic statement to the interlocutors of inaccurate information with a defamatory purpose, for their own benefit or masking personal mistakes in some activity. The pathological form is inherent in insecure individuals trying to impress others with fictional stories about themselves.
Hypocrisy
Feigned assurances of love, sincere admiration and goodwill towards the interlocutor during a conversation with him. The purpose of such behavior is ingratiating themselves and the desire to flatter for their own benefit, while hiding the true, perhaps even spiteful, moods in relation to the participant in the dialogue or the object of the conversation.
Flattering
The tendency to excessive constant praise out loud of other people's real and imaginary virtues, virtues, for the sake of their own self-interest. The object of exaltation can be and knowingly negative actions, the actions of an influential person, specially whitewashed by the flatterer and voiced by him as the only correct decision in the situation under consideration.
Curiosity
In a pathological form, this is the desire to find out the information of interest, regardless of decency, personal feelings of the questioned and the situation of the situation in which communication takes place. The cause of unhealthy curiosity is a painful desire to be aware of even those events that are not related to the interested person.
Pettiness
The habit of giving great value their insignificant statements, actions. The widespread protrusion of their imaginary achievements in contrast to the really important and heroic deeds surrounding people. Attention to ordinary details to the detriment of values, the desire to obtain reports on household expenses up to "one thousandth".
Vindictiveness
The tendency to focus personal attention on all small and large troubles, everyday conflicts, far-fetched grievances, so that over time it is imperative to pay back a hundredfold to each of the offenders. In this case, the duration of the time interval from the moment of receiving a real or imaginary insult does not matter.
Impudence
Impudent behavior in any situations, the desire to achieve what you want with minimal cost and "over the heads" of others. Such behavior is formed with the wrong upbringing, because of a difficult childhood, or, conversely, because of pampering, which has consolidated the habit of always getting what you want at any cost.
Arrogance
The perception of the majority of those around them as subjects of a deliberately lower category due to an invented difference in social status or a real discrepancy in material, national, racial or other grounds. The reason may be a defensive reaction to the wound of self-esteem in the past or distortions in upbringing.
Annoyance
Inability or unwillingness to independently deal with emerging problems, to have fun or rest. The reason may lie in emotional immaturity, fear of loneliness, a desire to increase self-esteem through active participation in the lives of other people, even if they experience obvious discomfort from this and openly declare it.
Narcissism
Unreasonable and baseless self-praise, self-admiration under any circumstances, the desire to embellish the results of one's actions and the actions taken, selfishness, indifference not only to strangers, but also to loved ones, interest only in personal comfort and benefit.
Negligence
Unwillingness to fulfill the obligations taken or assigned, disregard in behavior with people in everyday or professional relationships, insufficient attention to entrusted values, inability, due to poor education or personal deformation, to understand the importance of diligence when working on something.
Resentment
Increased negative reaction to everyday troubles due to hypertrophied selfishness. It is because of him that you want the world to spin at your feet, and those around you, forgetting about their own needs, meet expectations around the clock and all year round: they are polite, generous and caring, striving to ensure the comfort of others.
Limitation
The confidence that the true picture of the world is available only to you, and other explanations for the structure of the universe and the principles of human interaction with environment- a solid invention of narrow-minded dorks. It arises from insufficient education, a congenital developmental defect that prevents adequate assimilation of educational information.
Alarmism
The tendency to accept as reality the imagined catastrophic consequences of any, even insignificant, incidents in one's own life and the world as a whole. It is a manifestation of a bad upbringing by a reinsurer, an excessively violent fantasy or a disorder of the nervous system due to stress or illness.
Vulgarity
A penchant for pretentious outfits, demonstration of real or ostentatious material security through the acquisition of unnecessary luxury items. Or, and sometimes in combination, a fascination with greasy jokes, obscene anecdotes, often voiced in an absolutely inappropriate setting for the sake of arousing feelings of awkwardness in the bulk of the audience.
Irritability
A negative reaction to a stimulus, expressed in an excessive manifestation of emotions, the saturation of which does not correspond to the strength of the influence of an unpleasant factor for some reason. The cause of irritability can be external or internal, caused by an overload of the nervous system or exhaustion of the body by a disease.
Extravagance
Inability to rationally spend income, including the desire to systematically or constantly make acquisitions for the sake of the process itself, and not for the purpose of exploiting the purchased item or thing. It is based on the desire to feel like "the ruler of the world", to correspond to the status of a materially secured person.
Jealousy
Expression of dissatisfaction or distrust in a subject that has a certain value for the jealous. It is expressed by a suspicion of infidelity or of a greater emotional predisposition to another person (in the place of the accused, not only a spouse may be, but also a mother, sister, friend - the list can be endless).
Self-criticism
The habit of justifiably and unreasonably incriminating oneself in a multitude of sins of various sizes. For example, insufficient attention to the fulfillment of duties, although in reality, at work or in a relationship, a person gives all the best. Possible reasons: low self-esteem, actively supporting the concerned environment, perfectionism.
Overconfidence
Unreasonable exaltation of their abilities, supposedly allowing them to cope with a certain or any task. It is the cause of bragging and risky behavior, often committed in defiance of safety rules, the laws of physics and the arguments of logic. It is based on inexperience, dependence on the desire to live on the brink of a foul.
Weakness
Lack of the ability to perform a volitional effort for the sake of a desired goal or to resist dangerous, illegal temptations, morally degraded individuals. The tendency to submit to other people's decisions, even when they require serious sacrifices. Such a negative trait of a man's character can make him the object of ridicule in the team.
Cowardice
The inability to resist the opponent due to insufficient developed strength will, susceptibility to phobia. It can be expressed in flight from the scene of some events because of an imaginary or real danger to own health, life, despite leaving in danger other possible participants in the accident.
Vanity
Desire to receive praise for real and perceived merits. Striving to have a positive image in the first place, and not be complimentary. Indistinctness as voiced endorsements - flattery is also perceived favorably. Moreover, there is not always the ability to distinguish it from sincere statements.
Stubbornness
The desire to act only according to their own ideas about the fidelity of the chosen path, rejection of authorities, ignorance of well-known rules purely because of the habit of acting as he himself decided. Lack of the ability to be flexible when interests clash, unwillingness or inability to take into account the goals and capabilities of others.
Selfishness
Conscious self-love, the desire to live in comfort, regardless of the possible inconveniences that result from this for others. Their interests are always exalted above the desires of other people, the opinions of the latter on this and other reasons are never taken into account. All decisions are based only on their own benefit.
