All people in our life are not accidental, the acquaintance with them was in the plans of God. No person comes into your life by accident

So, why do we feel joy next to some people, irritation with others, attraction with others, longing with others? What causes such different emotions?

Because each of those whom we meet on our way came for a reason. He came to help us. And each carries his own task and emotion for us.

The point is that we are a single organism. Humanity. I was not the first to tell you about this. This is the basis of many philosophical worldviews.

And we attract to ourselves those "cells" of a single human body that we need. Of course, a single human organism is controlled from above, you can call it God, but for the convenience of a theory about an organism, say, a Single Brain.

The organism itself is not aware of this control. Just as our body is not aware of how it breathes and how it digests food. This is controlled by the brain. So in a single humanity, where each of us is a "cell", we do not understand why and how events occur, but the Brain knows exactly what it is doing.

Sometimes these people "heal" the pain. Sometimes with love. It all depends on the "disease". The most painful to heal are getting stuck in illusions and pride. These two diagnoses call into our lives people who begin to destroy our attitudes, principles, outlook on life. It is very painful. The man begins to grumble: “Why do I need all this? What have I done? Why me?" But if you understand the whole process as a whole, pain can be avoided. If you are grateful to those who came to “treat” you, the “treatment” will be faster and more effective.

So, if you have appeared in your life: aggressors, people with opposite outlooks on life, moreover, with an active life position, i.e. they will not be silent, people who hinder your progress, humiliate you, educate, etc. - you are sick with pride. Doctors have been sent to you. And you are wrong to think that "doctors" enjoy their "work". They do it unconsciously, sometimes sincerely wondering why you are so unpleasant for them.

Pride is healed by acceptance. By the way, as a person with a lot of experience in terms of pride, I can say that acceptance even best medicine than forgiveness. I recently released a course half of which is about acceptance practices, and they work just amazing! Moreover, all one has to do is listen to meditations.

Remember that you, in turn, are also doctors for other people. These are our shared lessons.

The second painful lesson, as I said, is illusion. We are used to thinking of life as we invented it for ourselves. Those. in fact, we start to get out of general organism, build a special, fantastic world around yourself. This is how cancer cells behave, by the way. The One Brain will be forced to try to bring you back to reality. It was originally conceived as a state of freedom and love. But we dwell in it only in infancy. Then we begin to actively invent non-existent worlds.

As soon as you invent an illusion for yourself, people are sent to you who can destroy it. For example, you read a lot of novels and believed that people should be loyal friend friend. Moreover, they believed so strongly that you cannot imagine a relationship where at least a shadow of treason could flicker. Everything. A "landing" of traitors has already been sent to you. They will "teach" you until you understand. Anything can happen in life. Life cannot be limited. Relationships are part of development. Anything can be forgiven. And this happens with any illusion if it becomes vital to you. If you cannot imagine happiness without it.

Of course, everyone would like to be happy, rich and healthy. But if these qualities are too important for you, "doctors" will come and destroy your illusions.

Because the world cannot be predicted. It is based on freedom of choice and therefore changes constantly. Freedom of choice is not just yours. You must respect each person's freedom of choice. This means not to experience negative emotions when the other person chooses to act this way and not otherwise. He has the right to do so. And "doctors" will also be sent to him.

And these endless treatments will continue as long as it takes for you to understand - you are being looked after... You are helping to grow the one body of humanity. Grow and develop. You are a cell of a single organism in which everything is going right, despite the fact that it seems to you, the cell, that you could arrange everything much better. Despite the fact that it seems to you, a cell that does not see the whole organism and does not suspect how it works, that you could become different, better, bigger, stronger ... Until you understand that you are already perfection. That you are in your place. That all you need is to follow the voice of your heart, reckon with those who are near you, and love everything that surrounds you, because this is what reality is. When you learn this, then such a desired prosperity will come.

People who are "sent" to us are of several types.

1. Directly doctor. Ambulance... It is called in emergency cases, when a person does not hear any intuition, no signals from the outside, no heart, when he is immersed in his illusions so much that he can only be pulled out by a “blow to the head”. In general, they call an ambulance. The majority of the world's population prefers this particular method of treatment, alas.

2. Castle Man... A person suddenly appears next to you, whom you cannot figure out. It is incomprehensible to you, but interesting. He is not always cute, it happens that the castle man annoys. You are trying with all your might to find a key to him, to understand his motives, his thoughts. Such people are sent to us when the time has come for spiritual growth, new relationships, new achievements. It's time to go beyond the boundaries of your own world.

3. Key Man... These are people with whom you open new horizons in yourself. You suddenly discover that, it turns out, you are not shy about singing loudly in the street. That you can think outside the box. That you have goals and dreams. That you, it turns out, know how to be brave (cowardly, aggressive, etc. - no matter what exactly you discover, the main thing is that it is new to you). Such people are sent to us when the time has come to know ourselves more deeply.

4. Alarm clock man. People of a high spiritual level. Not necessarily gurus or saints. But these are people who are highly vibrating. You feel uncomfortable around them. You are then lost, as in front of a teacher at school. Either you feel good next to him, then he begins to annoy. And the longer you are near the "alarm clock", the more transformations are triggered in your personality. Insights dawn upon you. You suddenly understand something that you seem to have always known - in a new way. You change your attitude towards ordinary things. You start to look at many things differently. You wake up. Moreover, the “alarm clock” does not always do something for this. He may just live next door. But more often the "alarm clocks" are those.

I hope you find my thoughts useful. Please share your impressions in the comments.

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We came to the conclusion that Networking is needed not only for, but also for ordinary people... In short, Networking helps you get out of your comfort zone, that is, it helps you change your life. What exactly is life changing for? At a certain stage in his life, a person understands (maybe he does not understand or does not try to understand) that something needs to be changed in life (change the place of work, change the place of study, or come to a new relationship). It is impossible to change something in life if you do not take concrete actions aimed at changing your life. In some cases, people or people appear in your life who secretly help change your life. The most important thing is to understand that this particular person did not just meet on your life path, namely, that it was you who made the decision. In general, there is nothing in our world, since a person on the planet is a unit of the whole (the world, the Universe). I will not go into the order of the universe in detail now, since this is a completely different topic.
V Everyday life we have a certain circle (acquaintances, friends, colleagues) with whom we communicate on certain topics. In the process of communication, close social connections, which in some way are a minus. If you ask what is the minus of close social ties, then there really is a minus. Yes, close social ties create a comfortable environment for communication, since no one will point out your disadvantages, since no one will show something you need to move forward. It is close social ties that do not allow us to develop in a particular area, and also do not allow us to establish. So, Networking just allows you to establish new social connections. Networking is the art of establishing, maintaining and developing social connections in order to achieve a particular goal.
So, when a new person appears in your life, it is important to understand what exactly this person came to in order that your life has changed. By itself new person is not able to change a person's life (if only purposefully), but is able to influence a person. It can manifest itself in some actions, deeds. For example, by chance (most likely not by accident) you have newer acquaintance... New relationships (new acquaintances) are always an exchange of the internal energy of people, since people influence each other with their energy. Relationships can be friendly or light flirting, so it doesn't matter how serious the relationship is.
The main thing is to understand that a person appeared in your life for a reason, but for something. For what? In order to understand through communication or specific actions of the "new friend" what is to a particular problem or to change the attitude towards life. Only " new friend”Can indicate (directly or indirectly) that you do not need to live like this, that is, you do not live your life. However, all this is not easy to recognize that a new person is given to change your life. Why? Yes, because the appearance of a new person with a different outlook on life, with a different temperament, with a different character, with a different energy, simply brings discomfort when communicating. With an established outlook on life, a different opinion on your own life, it is very difficult to objectively perceive. In fact, if one wants to impose other views on life, a person perceives it very critically, since he is “in the comfort zone”.

If we talk about the "Comfort Zone", then this is the usual state (place of work, or personal life) in which a person is. Perhaps he is not satisfied with the state of life that is, but he does not want to leave the "Comfort Zone". So, the appearance of a new person in your life can cause different emotions in the process of communication, including irritation, anger, despondency, or, on the contrary, a feeling of delight. Such a variety of negative emotions arise because a person is closed to something new, that is, to change his life. Thus, it is important to read the signs (for example, the appearance of new people in life), which suggest that something needs to be changed in life.

... Usually we do not pay attention to the number of lonely people until we ourselves somehow suddenly fall into their number. Here you lived, you didn’t grieve, and all the time someone was around you: now your parents, then children, friends, acquaintances, loved ones ... And suddenly ...
How long can you survive without communication? All alone? Hour? Two? Day? A week? So that it does not weigh you down, does not crush you and does not make you unhappy ... I do not stand it for long ..

It's strange: when someone is next to you, you somehow see, feel, feel everything around you in a different way ... And the snow seems to you somehow special, and the rain does not wet, and the wind invigorates ... And when nobody - not even the sun pleases ... And dark spots on it they become somehow flagrantly ugly, and the head hurts, and the heart aches, and the mood does not rise above zero ...

Why do we necessarily need someone to brighten up these agonizing moments of inner turmoil and fill our life with meaning? Why can't we figure out our states ourselves? After all, according to by and large, the world is our ideas about it. Change ideas - the world will change!

I change them, change them! But for some reason I definitely need a witness who would record these changes, or was simply present ... Why?

I don’t know why! Needed, and that's it! Without it, everything is somehow dull and gray, and I don't need it at all. Laziness or what? How can you cook a three-course dinner when you are alone, and there is a sausage and a glass of yogurt in the fridge? You will get another crust of bread, and that's it, sweet business. Why strain, boil, fry, steam. Grabbed something on hastily and ready for labor and defense.

It's another matter if someone is nearby. At this point, God himself ordered to cook something delicious. You can cook the borschik or fry the cutlets. Rejoice and enjoy the joint eating of some delicacy.

So it is in life. This "someone" is necessary to cook something, strain, bungle out of your own life, because he is a witness, he can appreciate, he can share with you joy and sorrow, if necessary. From his participation, sadness becomes less, and more joy. Have you tried it? You all know that! And of course, internally, do not at all be proud of your loneliness, if it happens to you sometimes.

But it is also not worth falling into panic and hibernation, giving up on yourself and indulging in despondency over your imperfection. Because the point here is not perfection, but the fact that during this period of your life you need loneliness! “That in the above is destined advice ...” But why do you need it now - figure it out for yourself!

Maybe so you learn to be yourself. Or maybe so that they knew how to appreciate others, and would not be scattered with real feelings and friends. Surely, it is given to you for self-improvement and self-examination. Dig deeper, and suddenly you will find a treasure in your soul, which you did not even suspect, carried away by the pursuit of imaginary values ​​...

To find something, you have to lose something. You can't say more precisely. What do you miss most in life? Right now there is a chance to understand this. Just don't be in a hurry. In a hurry, you will make yourself laugh ...

We are in such a hurry to return to the state of "with someone", we are so afraid of the uncertainty and inconsistency with the general statistical standards of life, where someone should always be near us, dear and warm, that we are ready to take for him any more or less identifiable for "His". Similar and recognizable.

Just before we had time to fill a new salt shaker in order to comprehend our half, we suddenly realize that this is not a half at all. And the joint pood of salt, which we definitely need to eat with it, we simply cannot master.

We also love to sort through. We sweep aside any unsuitable connections without even bothering to taste them. We invented ideals for ourselves and we rush with them as with a written sack. But ideals, in principle, do not exist, because we are all living people, and nothing human is alien to us!

Any person who comes into our life is necessary for us for something. And accepting his presence in our lives with gratitude, we will learn to understand why he came. Perhaps to bring us joy or self-confidence, information or a lesson, to help or hinder, to strengthen our character and develop our soul, or maybe to test our strength and try to destroy? Deal with it! To do this, you have a head and a heart, a body and intuition. But in any case, this gift must be accepted from life with gratitude.

We buy into our fears and fall into our own traps. And we think, proud people, that we learn from the mistakes of others. In fact, a person can only learn something by stepping on his own rake.

Other gardeners - lovers of such rakes in the same enviably constant version will have to experience more than a dozen on their cast-iron forehead until it comes to them true meaning events happening to them.

And if you free my speech from allegories and put it easier, then in order to reduce trauma in such an important and necessary for every person business as the search for "someone", you need to follow only a few simple rules:

1. Be yourself.

2. Don't rush.

3. Be grateful to life for what it gives him at the moment.

That's all! It seems that it is so simple, even elementary, banal and everyone knows. Try it in practice! How many reservations, conditions, various obstacles will immediately creep out in abundance from various cracks in order to complicate everything, ruin and vulgarize everything.

And yet I will try. After all, no one can do it for me. And if there is no one next to me now, it means that I have not yet learned how to apply these elementary rules of life in practice ...

I know that you are somewhere, my only, dearest man in the world. I am coming to you, I am waiting for you. For a long time. Patiently turning over the beads of events and dates, faces and touches. Peering into the quivering space of our invisible interaction, saturating it with the light thirst for our connection, I am filled with confidence and love. And I burn like an asterisk in the sky. To make it easier for you to see me. And you are still not there ... Where is you, my sun?

I think all of us know the expression “there are no random people in our life”.
And everyone has heard more than once that "the other person reflects us ourselves."

But few of us understand the meaning of these words and their deep meaning.

Each person has several different parts of it, often very contradictory.
All these parts that are in the depths of our unconscious, as a rule, are not noticed by us, and we are not aware of the influence of these parts on our life in reality.
A person very often does not even understand, and even more so does not realize the influence and presence of these parts within himself.

Other people who come into our lives, with whom we have a close relationship, reflect precisely our hidden parts within us, so the expression is very fair; "There are no random people in our life."

But due to the fact that we are not aware of their presence within us, the behavior and actions of other people seem alien to us.

One woman who came to me for consultation complained about the betrayal of a close friend. She told in detail how her friend simply didn’t just use their friendship for her own selfish purposes.
From the point of view of my client, she treated her friend very well, with open heart and she did not understand how she could do this to her.
In the course of our work, we found inside her an unconscious part very similar to this friend.
This part of her also tried to find people beneficial for her life and business, and this part tried to use other people in the same way for their own purposes.
Yes, my client may have been very sincere towards her friend, but her friend was her own part within her.

Another client of mine really wanted children, but could not get pregnant, and then she married a man who, for physiological reasons, could not have children.
Her husband was an exact copy of her unconsciously repressed part, who did not want to have children or could not for her own reasons, known only to her.
Her husband was a reflection of that hidden unconscious part of her that did not want to have children.

A client who really wanted to get married and was very upset because the man who was next to her was not eager to start a family and was very emotionally closed.
When working with her, it became clear later that in the depths of her unconscious there was a part very similar to this man, and she could manifest with completely different men.

A young meek lady, who at first glance has great patience, complains that her husband treats her very rudely, allows rude words and phrases in relation to her.
At further work with her it became clear that inside her there is no less anger and aggression than her husband.

A young woman at the age of 25 converted to Islam with all the necessary customs, she appealed about her husband's betrayal, in the course of working with her it turned out that converting to Islam was a way to suppress her sexual desires in herself in relation to other men.

From all these examples, only one follows that the people who come into our life are our internal parts and come into our life for a reason.

It is not easy and difficult to accept this fact, because we cannot see these parts and very often we do not even feel them.
They live in the depths of the unconscious, creating reality and attracting relevant people into our lives.
Each person who comes into our life is not accidental.
Studying the people who came into our life, you can get a lot of information about yourself and your deep life.

You can study knowing yourself not only in a psychologist's office, you can study yourself by observing the attitude and behavior of people close to us and significant to us.

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We do not meet people by accident. There is always some reason why someone comes into our life and leaves it. And the hardest thing to realize is that some people are destined to be with us only for a little while.

People who come and quickly leave our lives are usually those who open us up to new opportunities and ways of growth and development.

We do not want to let go of such people, because we are starting to get used to them. But we do not understand that some people are destined to be temporary in our lives, no matter how much we want the opposite.

“Not everything has to become something beautiful and durable. Some people come into your life to show what is right and wrong, to show who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better, or just to be someone you can walk with at night and pour out your soul. Not everyone will stay forever, but we must keep going and be grateful to them for what they gave us ", - writer Emery Allen.

I remember my most vivid acquaintances and now I understand why each person came into my life, and how he influenced who I am today. I have shared my deepest thoughts, fears, secrets and dreams with people who are no longer in my life. I do not regret it, because at that moment it was exactly what I wanted to do.

It always seemed amazing to me that our lives intersect with the lives of so many people, and even if you know someone for a very short time, you can influence their life and their history. Looking at all this from this point of view is very exciting.

The sooner we understand that not everyone is destined to be a part of our life, the easier it will be for us to plunge into new relationships and appreciate the time with a certain person by letting him go when the time is right. We need to make the most of the time we have with each other and focus on the present. Letting go of expectations, assumptions and saturation with as much communication with people as possible.

“I see a lot of people in non-stimulating relationships - not just between boys and girls. Many find themselves in stagnant friendships. If people were less afraid to finish something, they would get more out of life ... You meet the right person at the right time and it fills something in your life. You fill something into it. But there is a limit to this, ”- singer Laura Marling.

If you are losing someone in your life, do not lose yourself.

Always remember that just because some people are temporary in your life does not make your memories and experiences with them any less important.