What does it mean to take responsibility.

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Stumble upon a call to take the responsibility you can now at every step.

As if it is not enough that she is constantly expected of us in the family and at work, now they also talk about her in various literature on success, they mention her in all methods of working on herself, and in general, unless they write on the fences.

Like, for some reason you must first of all accept responsibility for everything that happens to you. This is the only way you can influence something.

I must disappoint you. It's true.

By the way, it is at this stage that a plugging occurs most often, due to which many quite effective psychotechnics psychotechnics do not work. If you have tried some well-known technique, but what you want does not happen, in 90% of cases it is a matter of responsibility. More precisely, in the fact that you forgot about it.

This is despite the fact that we seem to be struggling to take this responsibility upon ourselves, and we talk a lot about it.

What does it mean, after all, to take responsibility? What do they all want from us ?!

Let's figure out, once and for all, what numerous authors mean.

Let's start with how we generally used to approach responsibility and what we mean by that.

We are accustomed to approaching it as to something external. In addition to what you can take upon yourself, you can shift another, or even divide. "Equally" or "honestly."

All this is true if it comes about formal, official responsibility. About official responsibility for some events. Liability for specific objects. Finally, legal responsibility. That is, where the conditions, risks and penalties are clearly specified.

This is where the subtlety lies. For all this has very little to do with the responsibility that the mentioned books and methods are talking about.

Therefore, when trying to approach personal internal responsibility as a formal responsibility, the devil knows what usually begins.

Namely, the search for ways to replace the criteria of formal responsibility (the very conditions, risks, penalties, etc.) with something so personal that one could present and demonstrate to oneself and others in exchange for official "analogues".

Used for this, whatever it gets. Increased tension. Pretentious seriousness. Proud arrogance. Self-pity. In particular severe cases we so simply immediately begin to tear the shirt on our chest and at the same time exude a sense of our own importance with all the pores at the mere mention of the enormous burden, measure and depth of our "responsibility".

And if something went wrong, guilt overtakes us. Accompanied by a firm decision to fix everything on my own. Not asking anyone for help. Even if by superhuman efforts. Or accept and suffer. Single-handedly. And in every possible way to execute yourself. After all, it is a great RESPONSIBILITY that bears a heavy burden on us.

You’re laughing already, right? Looks strange from the outside, right? However, this happens systematically to most of us.

Do you know what's the strangest thing about that?

Firstly, these games have absolutely nothing to do with responsibility. Secondly, they are completely lacking in practical use. Nobody needs them for anything. Even you.

But this is exactly how most of us imagine responsibility for what is happening. And, more often than not, he does not put anything more intelligible in this word.

For "responsibility" is taken control mania, guilt, increased anxiety. Anything, except, in fact, the very responsibility.

So that's it. In fact, as it usually happens, everything is much simpler. Much.

Imagine that you are sitting in the driver's seat of a speeding car. And wondering whether to take the steering wheel? Or share it with other car drivers and pedestrians? Or maybe give it up altogether? What is the right thing to do? Take control or not?

Whichever choice you make - who is driving the car now? That's right, on you.

Will something change if you decide to accept it or refuse it? Quite right, just the result of the trip.

But you will still be driving. Close your eyes, at least turn away altogether. There is no one else.

I think you understand me. The responsibility for what is happening, of course, cannot be taken or added down. It is impossible to accept responsibility or refuse it. The only thing that can be done with responsibility is to acknowledge the fact of its existence. Open your eyes, grab the wheel and put your feet on the pedals. And whether you panic at the same time or are calm, feel sorry for yourself or pride - absolutely nothing changes.

Responsibility cannot be divided into parts. It has no parts. And if there were, there would be as much sense from them as from the rudder debris resulting from its "division into parts". She's all on you. Always. In any situation.

Think about it without trying to habitually look for allegories and allegories. This should be taken literally. Everything that happens - you do it yourself. Point.

Another question is how consciously you do it.

If you turn the steering wheel with your eyes closed, it is really difficult to understand that it was you who turned towards the pillar, and not "fate brought it", or the harmful pillar suddenly grew up where it shouldn't.

You haven't seen. Boom - that's all. Circumstances of harsh reality painfully hit right in the forehead. Well, such is life, sometimes it hits. We'll blame her for her injustice, scold the vile pillars, and then let's go and pray for improvement - to God, the universe, the subconscious, the universe, nature, or some other unknown garbage.

It’s true, it’s much quieter this way. Is it better to blame yourself?

Marina Nikitina

Responsibility is formed, educated and instilled in a child as a necessary social skill. The kid is taught to understand and take responsibility for the actions, actions, and their consequences.

You have to learn to take responsibility for yourself both in childhood and independently in adulthood, since the number of responsibilities in the process of life increases.

Responsibility as a socially conditioned skill is built into the structure of a person's personality and becomes a volitional quality.

A responsible person is a person who exercises external and internal control, with a sense of duty and responsibility.

A person who has learned to take responsibility:

realizes that life, success, self-realization, happiness depend on him;
is ready to fulfill the promises made to himself and to other people, does it diligently;
knows how to make decisions in crisis situations;
knows how to take care of those who need help and support, or are not independent enough;
is clearly aware of the consequences of decisions. When you take responsibility, interpersonal relationships arise, involving rights and responsibilities, a sense of duty and honor.

Marriage, parenting, guardianship, work, and other spheres of life involve taking on certain obligations.

Limits of personal responsibility

When a person learns to make commitments, he must clearly understand the boundaries and norms of what is acceptable.

Lack of responsibility, inability and unwillingness to take and fulfill obligations is irresponsibility. Excess responsibility is overprotective.

Irresponsible people do not take upon themselves obligations, wishing to simplify life, but suffer from their helplessness, infantilism, frivolity, frivolity, cowardice.

Overresponsible people suffer from anxiety, fears, irritability, suspiciousness, excessive control.

Overprotection is no less dangerous than irresponsibility. Both the lack and the overabundance of responsibility negatively affect personal life, because of them interpersonal and.

Responsibility in its normal form:

regulates, organizes life,
, gives self-confidence,
inspires respect and self-respect,
carries out internal and external control,
fills life with meaning,
gives a feeling.

Ways to Accept Responsibility

Those wishing to learn how to take responsibility are encouraged to act in two directions:

Accept the responsibility provided.
Show initiative and commit yourself.

The first path is passive, the second presupposes activity, but they both develop skill and ability.

In the case of accepting the provided responsibility, a person needs to force himself to complete the task by an effort of will, to overcome reluctance, laziness, timidity and fears. Don't think of it as a hopeless situation.


A responsible situation affecting a person arises on its own or on the initiative of another person and should be perceived as a necessity.

For example, systematically performing household chores on time and at the desired form, a person will learn to take responsibility for the actions taken. As parents teach young children to fold scattered toys, so an adult independently learns to do housework, motivating himself with the need to maintain cleanliness and order.

By independently creating the conditions in which a person takes responsibility, he accelerates. In this case, he gives himself a task, performs and bears responsibility for the result. He artificially creates, simulates a situation of responsibility and learns to act in it, controls his emotions and desires, and motivates himself.

Situations that develop a sense of responsibility

Extreme situations. These are situations when the life of a person and other people depends on the ability to take responsibility. These are difficult, dangerous situations that require willpower and endurance. If a person experiences himself in a similar situation, one must act carefully and wisely.

Example. Relatively in a safe way develop responsibility in extreme situation sports performs.

Situations when it is impossible not to take responsibility. A person has no choice, he cannot refuse for reasons of morality and ethics, a sense of duty, having a desire to help.

Example. A person is trusted to follow someone else's child for a while, while parents are busy with urgent matters, and there is no one to leave the child to.

Situations granting new rights. Since there are no rights without obligations, their acquisition will entail liability.

Example. By purchasing a pet and enjoying the right to play with it and enjoy it, a person takes responsibility for its welfare. Children are given animals in the hope of teaching them to take responsibility for another living creature.

Positive situations. A person easily takes and bears responsibility for what he loves, what is dear and important to him.

Example. When a person loves another, he feels a desire to help him, take care, support - these are manifestations of a sense of responsibility.

An obligatory person loves life, therefore, bears responsibility on his own, manages himself, is free to be that and live as he wants.

March 1, 2014, 16:30 Take responsibility for your life- this is one of the most important and key moments in a radical change in personality and thinking. And in practice, it is one of the most difficult - after all, many of us are accustomed, and sometimes even so much more convenient for us, to blame someone outside of ourselves for all troubles or to think that everything is controlled by something like, but not by us personally. Agree, it's unpleasant at one moment
feel that only you yourself are to blame for all your failures and realize that it was completely your conscious choice to abandon your true desires... And it is certainly very sad to agree with the opinion that only your laziness and inability to act as a result did not allow you to be now who you would always like to be, while enjoying your success and, and not once again coming up with all sorts of excuses for why you do not have it turned out this or that.

Indeed, for the majority it is very difficult to accept and it is much easier to blame everything on fate, state, karma, unfavourable conditions, circumstances, parents or something else from this repertoire. But if you still want to learn how to control your life and attract as much success as possible into it, then you definitely need to carefully reconsider your attitude towards it and realize that without accepting full individual responsibility for everything that happens to you or will happen, it just won't be possible. It is after the conscious acceptance of full responsibility that global personal changes take place and a switch from the old way of life to a new, more successful image, where you become the full-fledged master of your destiny.

How to accept the idea of ​​responsibility

The idea of ​​responsibility is easily accepted and will enter your life if you realize that the world is your world. That it is you yourself who create it with your own thoughts, feelings and actions. And he, in return, creates you. That every person you meet on your path is a reflection of some part of your conscious or unconscious image. You and the world around you are one.

There you are small example- when they give you gifts and say holiday words, it means at such moments you love yourself and rejoice at the very fact of your stay in this world. But in those times when you are offended and insulted, if you listen more closely to your thoughts, you can clearly hear how you yourself are dissatisfied with yourself, treat yourself badly, scold for something or get angry with others. If you don’t believe it, then take it and double-check it, turn your attention to thoughts and feelings in these moments of life, and you yourself will be convinced of everything.

I think everyone should finally agree with the opinion that any situations in our lives do not occur without our participation. But in fact, you can make a more global statement: "Every event in life we ​​create or attract ourselves together with the world around us." Only this statement for many remains mysterious and incomprehensible, due to the fact that they perceive it with the edge of their conscious mind, forgetting about the hidden subconscious part of our boundless mind. But it is the deep subconscious mind, comparing our life experience with the energy of the Universe, that implements certain events.

In religious circles, this is expressed as: "Everything is God's will." But the Bible says that we are created in the image and likeness of God. And this means the following: in each of us there is full complex divine energies. The only pity is that we are on this moment, I will introduce some factors, have lost their relationship with them, but nevertheless, even now, all over the planet there are unique people in whom these energies are partially present to one degree or another. Science explains this as a phenomenon, but are there not too many of them and why many of these phenomena can be taught to almost everyone?

This is the basis RESPONSIBILITIES... I create all the events that take place in my life myself, together with the world around me, God and Mother Nature. Everything that I at the moment hear, see and feel around my reality, around me is a reflection of my own actions, feelings, expectations, emotions, energy vibrations, thoughts and beliefs.
Realizing this, the desire to scold or accuse someone immediately disappears, and is angry with someone. In religion, this is explained by "humility." You let the situation in without resentment or regret. You suddenly realize that there are simply no guilty ones. People deliberately invented the sense of guilt in order to manipulate each other in their own selfish interests.

By accepting responsibility, you stop playing the role of the victim in this world. And what is very important, you stop punishing and blaming yourself, because you understand that the people around you are also responsible for their world. You create the world together with them, influencing them with the energy of your intentions, thoughts and emotions. And the people around you have a similar effect on you. People cannot, to one degree or another, not influence each other. We are all connected by invisible threads of belonging.

Reviewed by Vladislav Chelpachenko on Jun 14 Rating: 4.5

Hello dear friends!

What is responsibility? Why is it necessary for your growth? What are the methods of training responsibility?

I will answer these questions and talk about how to achieve awareness of your own life.

Are you responsible for your life?

Responsibility is one of the most important human qualities. It means being in charge of your life, which sounds scary enough when you think about it. Responsibility comes from the Latin word respondere, which means to promise or to give in return. Let's look at the main, in my opinion, features of this topic.

What happens when you take responsibility? You fulfill the promise and exchange it for faith and energy. This applies both to you personally and to others.

What prevents us from taking full responsibility for our lives? Self-deception. A person is inclined to convince himself that he is not involved in the troubles that happen to him. Usually they use one of the strategies: to throw the blame on another (boss, colleague, employee, family, parents or the state), an unfortunate coincidence of circumstances and the belief that next time will be different - will not be!

What does responsibility affect? Each person is to blame for his troubles and for what happens in his life. Responsibility helps to reduce the number of "unpleasant" events and makes you look at them as opportunities, and be prepared for other circumstances.

Are you a responsible person? Look at yourself from the outside. If you were to meet yourself, what opinion would you have of yourself? Whatever your answer, we all have it.

How to take responsibility for your life or how to train yourself to be responsible?

I'll give you several methods of training responsibility, but I want to warn you right away: you should not apply them all at once if you are not sure that you can stand it.

• Set a global mission... Think of the greats: none of them set a million dollars as their goal or to be successful. They wanted to change the world, and money and status came by themselves. but don't limit yourself.
• What are you doing bringing you closer to your goal? How does this affect you? A person does not stand still: he either moves forward or backward. Constantly check yourself and you will be able to remove all unnecessary things from your life. I advise you to do such a check for at least a month, because out of habit you will constantly forget about it. But I'm sure it will make a big difference in your life.
• What do you do every 15 minutes? I suggest you print and complete it throughout the day. Every 15 minutes you need to record what you are doing. If a business takes you more than 30 minutes (that is, it must be entered 2 or more times), then the second and subsequent times you re-enter your business only if you were distracted by something else. Thanks to this method, it is easy to see what you are spending your life on. You will be able to unleash the potential for realizing your time.
• Keep records. Keep a diary in which you will briefly write about your day. He should show your situation at the moment and your emotions.

In one of my articles I wrote that you should never blame yourself for what you missed, did not write, or didn’t say. Grafting good habits a complicated process and you should not waste energy and time on self-flagellation, it is better to go further - forward.

How to keep records?

I decided to pay more attention to this, as I consider this method one of the most effective and I use it myself, especially in business where it is critically important. I recommend that you use the following scheme for keeping your records:

1. Impression of the day. It is important to indicate your emotional condition... If you want to "whine", then do it and move on. By constantly observing your complaints, you will get bored with this activity, and you will change your perception of the world. But you yourself try to look at life more positively. Try to find positive things in your day.
2. What did you do? Write specifically: you earned 10,000 rubles, or made a financial report for August, or worked for 3 hours English language... Write down what moved you towards your goal today.
3. What did you think? Write here your thoughts for the day and what was in your head. It can be not only a new invention or an innovative method of analyzing competitors, but also negative thoughts towards the state or a boss, thoughts of hopelessness, and the like.
4. What did you say? Are you telling yourself that you will succeed? Are you friendly to the world around you? Write what information you sent to this world.
5. How do you feel about yourself? This point will show you how you feel about yourself. By realizing your problem (insecurity, laziness, closeness or negative attitude), you can eliminate its root.

It is important to understand that each of these points leads to full awareness of your life. It will open you up and the truth may be difficult to accept, but by doing so, you will change your life forever. In fact, this is enough to achieve personal and financial growth, nothing else is needed.

I wish success to those who have decided to embark on the path of changing their lives. It is not an easy task, but if you keep going forward, you will achieve your goals.

It is difficult for each person to take responsibility for their own life into their own hands - and begin to act, take steps to change their own life in better side to bring your plans to life and cherished desires... Irresponsibility is a disease of modern society. A person blames reality, fate and other people for his troubles. To understand that everything depends on a person is very important, if a person wants to become truly free and strong - you need to accept that everything depends on a person, just learn to act and live in the moment here and now.

A huge unwillingness to take responsibility for oneself and the total irresponsibility of people is a familiar picture of the existence of people in modern society. Nobody wants to be responsible for anything and shifts the responsibility onto other people's shoulders: on the state, an unjust fate, other people, or an accident.

Such an attitude towards oneself and the surrounding reality is instilled, as a rule, from childhood, and the comparative majority of people reject the idea that everything depends on a person, accepting, on the contrary, that the root cause of their troubles and problems should be sought around themselves. It all starts small - with unwillingness to be responsible for their actions, shifting the blame onto other people's shoulders. The essentially innocent question "Who hurt you?" cultivates in the child the sprouts of irresponsibility and the desire to fool another at every opportunity. Gradually, a person gets a taste, and already any unpleasant situation or a problem that has arisen switches attention to external environment- and an active search begins for someone who can be blamed and considered involved in what happened.

Responsibility for your life fades into the background, instead of it a person learns to play in the search for those to blame for their troubles already at a more conscious age. The government with its "unjust" laws, the surrounding reality with its "laws of meanness", the superiority of the rich over the poor, the one-pointedness of the laws of society in general, the injustice of fate, fate or fate and life in general are also used. You will no longer surprise anyone with endless debates in the media about who should be blamed for a particular social institution, event, incident, or problem. Offered different options, but few people come to a single conclusion, because in the distribution of responsibility, no one wants to put it first of all on their own shoulders.

An irresponsible attitude towards oneself, thus, is gradually consolidated in a person from childhood and throughout his life, because it is "convenient" not to be responsible for anything and present himself in the best light, putting forward another responsible in place of himself. However, all people want to live happily and have more freedom in their thoughts, actions and actions. And for this they do not need to seek the protection of the mighty of this world, otherworldly forces, or just sit and hope for a fluke. As practice has shown recent years, such an attitude to oneself and to the world is fundamentally wrong. And a person who has finally decided to become freer and stronger needs to take the first step - to take responsibility for what he has at the moment, on himself and start acting .

All thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, laws (including a huge number of real laws of society and applicable law) are mental material stored deep inside each person. This material is used by a person as a guide to action, and also forms his perception filters, with the help of which the events of the surrounding world are assessed in accordance with the standards, attitudes and rules inherent in a person.

Human irresponsible(especially if we consider an extremely neglected option) will assess each situation with striking unambiguity: the state for it is enemy number one with its stealing government, which clearly does not work in favor of the "common" person by laws; surrounding people and reality are the source of enemies and envious people of the second order. It is convenient to recognize neighbors, passers-by, parents and other relatives, heredity and fate “guilty” - lack of money, failures in personal life, state of health, and other life difficulties, including even a falling sandwich, by all means, “butter down”.

To understand the true reasons for human total reluctance take responsibility for your life, you need to turn to that very mental material that he has accumulated over his life: all his thoughts, false beliefs and his limiting conclusions as to what and whom in life should be considered the cause and what the effect. This material is not stored on the surface, i.e. you will not be able to look for it in the conscious area - you have to go deeper, into the subconscious.

It is the subconscious that stores all the mental material that a person has accumulated over his life. You can get rid of this material using a special procedure - deprogramming the subconscious - which allows you to remove the importance, "charge" of this material, thus eliminating the most subconscious roots of a great human problem called irresponsibility.

In the human psyche, this material is so intertwined and confused that you will have to work through everything in order to gradually get rid of it. Such a study is needed, of course, for those who have finally decided to be free and strong, who do not want to shift the responsibility for life onto others' shoulders and who want, finally, to be the one who will independently change their lives in the desired direction and see the root cause of everything that happens around him events - in himself. Such a person, no longer attached to his mental attitudes (which once dictated to him the position of sacrifice and disbelief in his own strength), will look differently at the world around him - as an arena of wonderful opportunities, and not a conglomeration of enemies and dangers; he will accept free independent decisions and learn to simply act to realize their intentions.

It is possible to carry out deprogramming of the subconscious with the help of special psychotechnics aimed at working with the mental material of a person. Such an effective psychotechnique is the system Turbo gopher giving tools for transition from state " tyrant victim"in the position of freedom, strength, desire live here and now.

Turbo gopher is not a pill that you can swallow and wait quietly for all problems to resolve by themselves. This is a system that shows AS and with what INSTRUMENTS you can find - freedom and the opportunity to finally start living here and now, how to learn to live with responsibility for your life and how to start acting , to change life in the direction in which you want to change it.

System for practitioners those who understand, it's time to act that any result (including deprogramming their subconscious from unnecessary mental material) is achievable by independent efforts, who do not hold on to their "unique" beliefs, thoughts and do not want to continue life in an irresponsible sleep. You just need to act when everything unnecessary leaves, then new sensations, a new taste of life awaken. If this is about you, then you should download the book Turbo Gopher to begin the process of your personal transformation from an irresponsible victim to a free and strong man with great opportunities in life.

The information on this article is the result personal experience its author, all articles are written based on their own results of using the system and are not intended to convince anyone of anything.

This site is a personal initiative of its author and has nothing to do with the author of the Turbo-Gopher technique Dmitry Leushkin.