System-vector psychology. Trust and everything will be fine: when will this happen? Everything will be fine

Of course everything will be fine. We are sure of this. We pronounce such a desire the other day of birth and under New Year... We cheer each other up so much when we fail. Songs with the phrase "Tomorrow everything will be fine" become real hits with us, which everyone knows by heart. And we are confident that this cherished dream will come true. Only life shows something else: we are in conflict with loved ones, we feel dislike and suffer from this, we are nervous and angry, we receive a small salary, and the country is getting worse and worse. And then we ask in disappointment: when will everything be all right? And how long to wait before this cherished "good"?

Hope everything will be okay - why don't our hopes come true?
What needs to be done to make everything really good tomorrow?
When will everything finally be good for each of us?

The other day I was lucky enough to be at the concert of the Okean Elzy group in Kiev. From the upper sector there was a wonderful view not only of the stage, but of the entire Olympic stadium, one glance was enough to see - here it is, a real "full house". Tens of thousands happy people they filled the stands and the whole field - to the famous songs they danced and shouted, applauded and arranged flash mobs. Each song was met warmly, but one - especially.

This chorus was sung by the whole stadium, thousands of hands went up either to the beat of the music, or in a kind of prayer for Ukraine. Looking around and back, I noticed thousands of eyes and many had tears in them, there were also people who cried bitterly. All the spectators, as one, at this moment dreamed and hoped that the time will finally come when everything will be fine for each of us. This song, always perceived by us as personal, this time touched upon the general - the desire for everything to be good tomorrow is carried out to the whole country, because today we are having a real civil war.

The concert ended, everyone went home in a cheerful mood. Many people sang "all will be good" as they walked along the avenues and streets. But what next? Has the situation changed in the country, in their families, for them personally the next day? No. Tomorrow came the same as usual. The war continued, without even thinking to change - news every day reported deaths of both civilians and soldiers. I do not think that someone has radically changed their life and began to feel happier. How can this be? Why is there such a light and simple desire to all was good, does not come true? And on the contrary - is it getting worse?

I want everything to be good - looking for the roots of desires

Belief in a bright future, that "tomorrow everything will be fine" is typical for the majority of our compatriots. It seems that this is just a cliché, picked up by someone once and widespread because of its beautiful sound. But everything is much more complicated ...

Phrase " everything will be fine even if ..."in fact carries huge strata reflecting our mentality, which has been formed for millennia. Difficult weather conditions, an unfriendly forest steppe mixed with swamps and mountains, many wild animals and more large quantity enemy nomadic tribes - under the pressure of all this, a unique mental superstructure was formed on our territory, which is not found anywhere else in the world. We could survive only by working closely with each other, supporting the weak, providing help to those in need. Many years ago, if a house was burning to the ground, its owner could only rely on those who lived nearby, in the same village, on those who could find themselves in the same situation tomorrow. Something always pushed us to do a good deed to the one who suffered, to the one who is weak, who needs help. "Everything will be fine, I believe in it ..." the neighbors encouraged the victim hundreds of years ago, and everyone helped - some with bread, some with a corner in their house, some with clothes. And all this is built not on visual pity and compassion, as in Western culture, but on the urethral sensation of mercy, life's truth and justice.

Although outwardly visual compassion and urethral mercy very similar, in fact, there is a difference. The spectator often, without realizing it, substitutes concepts, confuses where good and evil are, and does "good" deeds, which ultimately lead to a disastrous result. A simple example: humanitarian aid for poor countries in Africa - having flooded African countries with ball medicines, clothing and food, Western countries have achieved a very poor result: instead of development, Africans are demanding new portions of humanitarian aid.

Urethral mercy does not imply zealous help to everyone, but only to those who really need it. We, with our mentality, never try to just feed a person and forget about him (read: pay off), but, on the contrary, we have an inner desire to show deeper help, for example, to give a fishing rod and teach him how to fish. And this is manifested in everything, in our schools it is customary to pull up those who are lagging behind, at work - to help those who are not doing well. "Of course, everything will be fine" we encourage the other, showing our concern for his life and destiny.

Our society was formed in such a way that the head of the pack was always the urethral person, who took responsibility for everyone. By nature, such a person has a whole range of characteristics that allow him to fulfill his role correctly and without flaw. Introduced to society, its best properties live in the heart of each of our people.

Unfortunately, at the very best of our mentality there are traps for consciousness that distort reality, deprive us right thoughts and action. And one of them is the desire "everything will be fine tomorrow." Muscularly patient, we seem to be stuck in a place where there is no way out. And instead of taking action, we just expect everything to be okay. Forgetting that for this it is well necessary to do something. And the more good you want, the more work you need to do.

The feeling that in the event of a tragedy they will definitely help us, deprives each of us of our personal responsibility. We all subconsciously expect what will come the strong man(the leader) and will do something that will save us, change everything in the world. We expect that the whole society will change, and we - next - will certainly catch up. The horror of the situation is that, having shifted the responsibility to someone else, we ourselves continue to do things that lead to exactly the opposite result, than "tomorrow everything will be fine":

• we do not understand our own children, raising them on a whim, by which we lose a whole generation of young people, simply simply not understanding them;
• we are in conflict in families and the number of divorces is growing so that it exceeds the number of marriages;
• we are dissatisfied with our work, our wealth;
• we take and give bribes, even at the smallest level, for example, to a doctor or a teacher, thereby increasing corruption in the country;
• we are angry and offended, screaming and hysterical, sitting in our fears and depressions ...

And we are looking for an explanation for all this not in ourselves, in our actions, but in someone else. The partner is to blame for the pair, educational system- teachers, in poor health care - doctors, in the situation in the country - the president, corrupt officials or people of another nationality. And so on and so forth. Wherever you look - everywhere someone is to blame, not I. And I am the same husband, father, doctor, teacher, policeman, politician, an ordinary person who blames everyone around, but not myself. And he waits, waits for everything to change and then tomorrow everything will be all right. It simply cannot be otherwise. But the mental superstructure presupposed the actions of the whole flock for the good of the flock, and not just waiting for help.

Collectivist thinking does not allow us to look at the world for real, and after all he changed a lot... The new, skin era dictates its own rules to us, and they are in personal responsibility for everything around. You cannot expect changes from another if you yourself do not change. You cannot expect that everything will be necessarily good, because without your own action, this will definitely not happen. Moreover, while we wait, others act and benefit from our naivety and patience.

What to do so that tomorrow is really good

So, in order to change the world around you, you need to think about what I can do for everyone. As practice shows, not all actions, even with the best intentions, help to make everything go well. This is due to the fact that often we simply do not know what action to take correctly. The roots of our desires are hidden from us in the subconscious, and we are full of our rationalizations and often deluded.

The mysteries of God ... I cannot explain them to you. I don't know how to explain them. I can imagine how you are amazed, frightened, you do not know what to say in some cases. And when you ask me about these boundless and immense secrets - “why is this happening, why is this happening, why God leaves you,” I don’t know what to answer. And more than that: I agree with you. But what could I advise here - let's pray. Let us turn to God personally: “Lord, why are You doing this? Enlighten me so I can understand. Help me to comprehend your secret. "

One way or another, everything will lead to good. Now, perhaps, you are in pain, and therefore you say "but why, but how so." Stop for a while and take your time! Wait a little, a few years. Let several decades pass. Do you see how easily I put it in words: “Let several decades pass”? In a few seconds! And this causes a protest in you. And yet, in the end, things will happen that way. Enough time should pass for you to understand why certain events happened. And then you will feel at some point that there was a "plan" for everything. When I say "plan," I mean "why this or that has to happen." The "plan" behind the disease, the "plan" behind the death of your relative. Or why you had to lose your job this year. There is a wise "plan" for everything, which you, in the simplicity of your heart, should be trusted. If you find another way out, I respectfully accept it. Usually, in such situations, when these unforeseen events occur, one goes crazy, the other does not believe in anything and does not know what to do in life. The man comes to a terrible dead end. But there is, however, a way out: surrender yourself to the love and care of God. And then everything will turn out to be good.

Learn to say in your life: "Everything will be fine." “But it’s not good now,” you hear a voice inside you. "Everything will be fine". “And what's bad now? And will it be okay? “Yes, and that. Everything will be fine. Wait and see. You will see how events change. It takes patience. And in the end, something sweet will come out of the bitter. "

One parable tells how a king lived and had a slave. Together they went about all the affairs of the king, and the slave helped the king in everything. This slave kept saying what I told you: "Everything will be fine, everything will be fine." “What will be good?” Others asked him. The weather was overcast, and the slave said, "Good, very good." - "Look: it's cloudy and drizzling!" - "Well very well". The sun was shining the next day. A slave for his own: "And today everything is fine." And then one day they went hunting, something happened to the bow that the slave was holding. And he fired, cutting off the king's finger. “What have you done to me,” the king shouted, “oh, oh, it hurts, it hurts!” And the slave turns to him and again without fear says: "Everything will be fine!" - “How is it all good, madman, do you realize what you are talking about? Since “all is well”, then go to the dungeon for what you have done to me, there you will learn what “all is well” means. " He put him in a dungeon, and he himself was left without a finger. However, he continued to hunt because that was his weakness. Once in the forest, the king went far from the others, he went deeper than usual, and there he was seized by the natives, who had the goal of sacrificing him to their gods and, in addition, eating him. Because these natives ate people. So they led him, and on the way they sang and celebrated with shouts and cries: "We have caught the king, now we will kill him and eat him." And the tsar meanwhile thought sadly: “Look what awaits me. All my subordinates are afraid of me, and these natives will devour me alive, and I do not know how to save myself. " And when they were leading him into the thicket, one native of the tribe noticed that the king had no finger, one finger was missing. The native shouted: "Oh, oh, now we cannot make a sacrifice and eat it because it has physical damage." So their "god" commanded them, so their legend said, that one can make sacrifices to "God" and eat only a person without injuries. And the king was missing one finger. “Oh, oh,” says the native, “what a pity. Okay, come on, get out of here. You are not worthy for us to eat you. " And the king left, crossed himself and thanked God, saying: “Oh, oh, I was saved, I was saved! What saved me was that I didn't have a finger! " He was inspired by this and was terribly happy. And the first thing he remembered about his slave, whom he had thrown into the dungeons. He immediately gave the command to release him. The slave was summoned to the king, who, in excitement, said to him: “Forgive me, my slave, for what I have done to you. I brought you such torment, because of me you ended up in prison. " The slave turned to him and said again: “All is well, all is well, my king! Do not worry!" - "You were in a dungeon and you say" everything is fine "?" “But, my tsar, and you think, if I were not in the dungeon, but were with you in the forest on the hunt, who would they then eat? They would eat me! You were missing one finger and you were saved! And I have all the fingers, and I would not have been saved! " And then the king realized that in fact everything is fine the way it is. God knows how everything happens. And therefore allows that to be. […]

When I was in Cyprus, I went to a monastery, and there I saw a photograph of one abbot, very young man, who died in a plane crash along with the Patriarch of Alexandria, heading for the Holy Mountain. I was very moved by the story of this abbot, told to me by the fathers. I was told that he was a very spiritual and holy man, and the trip ended in misfortune. I think there was one more person who had to go with everyone. But at the last moment something happened, and the other one did not go. And probably to himself, the one who did not fly regretted: “Oh, how I would like to fly with my fathers. Elders, fathers, abbots, Patriarch of Alexandria, I could have such a blessing to be with them. But okay, what can you do! They didn't take me, there is no place, my turn has not come! " You know what happened next: the helicopter crashed, everyone died. That is, you see: they were happy to go and not just anywhere, but to the Holy Mountain. And despite this ...

Everything can happen. We must be ready and open to everything. Sign yourself with the sign of the cross. And continue to live. And to accept whatever the Lord brings us, with the confidence that all this is for our own good. Everything will serve our good. Now someone will say, “Okay, but how do you explain this? You tell us this way, you tell us one thing or the other, in the end you see that everything will be fine. " And some events are inexplicable at first glance. But somewhere in the depths of life there is a blessing. I'm into it.

You see the poor who are tormented and suffering. One blow of fate is followed by another. A blow, complete hopelessness. And you say: "Well, how is it - such good man! And all the cuffs on his poor head! How to understand this? " And next to you you see another: he lives a prosperous, worldly and sinful life. God does not exist for him. He is as healthy as a bull. He is getting old, he lives up to a hundred years, and he would have nothing to do with it! People look at him and say: “What will he become? He does all iniquity, lives far from God, and everything is good with him. And the other, still very young, already suffers from cancer. Another one: he lives up to eighty years, smokes all day, swears and nothing! " It depresses you, and you say: “How can all this be explained, what kind of God is this! Where is He looking? How does one tolerate all this? " But God, as far as I can see, and you probably noticed it too, is not affected by what you say, me and all of us together. He tells you: “Say what you want. I am silent. I cannot tell you what are my secrets. "

I just remembered that this was exactly what God said to Saint Anthony the Great. Once, when he asked Him: "Lord, why do one thing happen to some and another to others?" God answered him: “Antony, stop asking. But I will tell you something before you continue your questioning. Do not try to penetrate the secrets that relate to Me. All that you ask about is absolutely My affairs. Divine works that exceed your understanding. They are beyond your mind. You better do Antony and do not do what God does and how He does it. It's my business". God did not say this to the saint out of contempt or indifference. It was as if He were saying: “Antony, you cannot comprehend this. I have many different stories to tell you. I have to tell you a long story so that you understand the path of each person, and all the “how” and “why”. I, who know and have greater wisdom than you, "- God says to him," and I have both love and strength, and all divine, holy properties, I know more than you. " And one more thing: know that these people, who have everything, but have no connection with God, despite the fact that as long as everything is going well for them, this does not mean that their life has ended in complete prosperity. Because they are still alive, and you do not know their end in all the details. After all, there are people who, although they are rich, but if their wealth, their well-being, their health does not serve as a reason for gratitude to God, for peace of mind, praise, alms, everything that they have will turn into a catastrophe for them.

There are rich people who are ruined by their own wealth. There are people who are drowned by the talents given to them by God. Therefore, you should not draw such conclusions when you meet "injustice" in life, and you should not be surprised. There is beautiful women or handsome men to whom God gives this gift of charm and bodily beauty. But this charm, this external beauty of them sometimes becomes for them what destroys their life. They get involved in there, they get involved here, they get carried away easily and do not have permanent connections. They develop bad tendencies, and this torments them. And when you ask such a person, "why do you live like this," he will answer you "this is all because of my beauty." And although beauty is a gift, but it leads to destruction. And you look and envy: "And why am I not so beautiful?" You do your best to become beautiful, and even more beautiful (or beautiful). But maybe this is your external imperfection - is the protection of God in your life. Think about it a little. Because if this handsome man does not have humility, but brings suffering and grieves people with his behavior, then it remains to be seen whether this beauty will lead him to paradise.

(The ending follows ...)

When you wake up in the morning, you immediately start worrying about what you will eat, what you need to do, what kind of people you should meet, and so on.

You worry about what others - family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers - might think of you. You walk by people on the street and, without even realizing it, worry about how you look in their eyes.

You worry about your job responsibilities (emails, appointments, documents, etc.) and your personal obligations (family, food, bills, etc.). It constantly seems to you that you are not good enough at anything, you do not live the way you “need”, but the moment when you are satisfied with everything will never come.

You worry about comparing yourself to other people, about how much is left behind, about what lies ahead - good or bad, what you are missing out on, about feeling guilty about being, do not seem to you to become better, slimmer, stronger and smarter - about all those things that, in principle, you should not worry about.

And time goes by ...

But you are not alone in this. We all sometimes get stuck in our own thoughts.

You must realize one thing: no matter what is happening in your life now, everything will be fine, everything will work out.

We are constantly worried that something might go wrong, what other people will think of us, and so on and so forth. In short, we only focus on negative options. However, they represent only a small part of all the possibilities available to us. The chances that they will become reality are slim. But even if your fears come true (say, someone will think badly of you), they are unlikely to significantly affect your life.

The truth is that even if your fears become reality, 99 percent of the time, everything will be fine.

Remember what you were worried about in recent times... You've probably experienced all this before, haven't you? Yes, you were forced to solve the problems that arose, but your life did not collapse; on the contrary, you learned useful lessons that ultimately made you stronger.

If you always tell yourself that everything is fine, you can gradually release from worries and anxieties and learn how to prevent their occurrence.

You can improve the quality of your thinking and life in general ...

Start your day calmly, with a sincere smile on your face, and only then proceed with all your business ...

It's worth practicing.

What to do in difficult times, when real trouble has come into your life?

How to deal with it?

“Today, on my forty-seventh birthday, I was rereading a suicide note that I wrote exactly twenty years ago, two minutes before my girlfriend Carol walked into the room and said she was pregnant. Her words were the only reason why I didn't commit suicide then. Suddenly my life took on meaning, and I began to gradually change it into better side... It was not easy, but now Carol is my wife, with whom we lived together in happy marriage already nineteen years old. My daughter is twenty-one, she is studying in medical university... She has two younger brothers. I reread my suicide note every year on my birthday - I am grateful that I was given a second chance at life. "

This is an excerpt from an email I received from a student in my class named Kevin. His words reminded me that sometimes you have to go through an “inner death” in order to be reborn and become stronger and happier.

Circumstances and people will sometimes break you. But if you focus on the positive, open your heart of love and continue your journey, no matter what, then you will certainly be able to collect yourself in parts, recover and become stronger and happier than you were before.

Angel and I also had to deal with the upheavals in our lives - we lost loved ones and best friends, experienced a financial crisis, the collapse of business ideas, and so on. We've been writing about this over the years. But today, let me remind you of some clear signs that everything will be fine, even if you don't think so now ...

1. Changes are happening right now. There is nothing definite. You are free.

Everything in life is temporary. Nothing lasts forever. Every moment gives us a new beginning and a new end. We get a second chance every second.

The sun always shines after the rain. Dawn always comes after the night - we are reminded of this every morning, but for some reason we refuse to notice it.

People from all over the world are constantly telling me similar heartbreaking stories of how their whole life turned into an attempt to cope with one unfair event from the past. All the opportunities that are given to them, they burn at the stake with a fiery obsession with what cannot be changed. The main thing is to realize that YOU don't have to be one of these people.

You are a product of your past, but you should not be held captive by it. You become a prisoner when you cling to something that no longer exists. Show courage and say goodbye to the past, and then life will reward you with a new Hello! No matter how difficult it is for you, you CAN, you MUST let go.

You must let go and accept that you do not know how your life will turn out further. Learn to love and value this freedom. Only when you are in the air, not knowing what to do next, can you spread your wings and fly towards the future. Yes, you don't know what awaits you, but it doesn't matter. It is important that your wings have finally opened up, which will carry you only forward.

2. You have a variety of amazing options.

Typically, we strive for only a tiny range of life experiences - good times, comfortable situations, experiences that make us happy. However, what we face every day in reality is completely different. Life gives us a wide range of various experiences that cause anger and love, grief and joy, disappointment and delight, loneliness and confusion within us ... These emotions continuously replace each other. They are part of our reality - our collective state of humanity.

The question is: how will YOU react to this?

You can rebel against injustice because you fail to get what you want. You may be angry with the whole world because of the pain and suffering you are facing. You can try to resist and deny sadness, frustration, embarrassment, and so on. Just remember that choosing negative will ultimately only exacerbate the situation and lead to even greater despair.

A more effective option, perhaps, is to fully accept reality and the wide range of life experiences that you are faced with. This includes all your emotions, all your ups and downs, all your happy and sad moments, as well as what happens in between. Life is not only rainbows and colorful butterflies. It is complex and unpredictable.

Embracing life fully means discovering unimaginable opportunities, being ready for unexpected changes, showing compassion and kindness to yourself in difficult times, giving love no matter what happens, and being grateful for the opportunity to experience it all.

This means not expecting that life will always be calm and measured, but accepting reality as it is, accepting yourself as you are, and striving for the best.

3. You can take a small step towards changes for the better at any time.

You don't need to build mountains in your head. There is no need to try to conquer the whole world at once. When you seek instant gratification (significant, rapid change), your life becomes painful and frustrating. When you perceive every moment as an opportunity to make a small, rewarding investment in yourself, the result will not be long in coming.

When everything has collapsed, you can find many small things that need to be restored. When things seem to be going wrong, even the smallest positive effort can make a difference. Times of great adversity are times of great opportunity. There are no problems that you cannot deal with. When everything is going well, it is very easy to fall into a complacency routine. It's easy to forget how incredibly capable and resourceful you can be. Remember to take one small positive step after another to change your life for the better.

If you want to start right now, don't hesitate, challenge yourself. Choose a specific area of ​​your life that you would like to improve, and ...

Write down specific details of your current situation. (What worries you? What happened? What do you want to change?)

Write down the answer to next question: What daily rituals will help resolve the current situation? (Be honest with yourself. Are you this moment Any actions to help solve the problems you encountered?)

Write down the specific details of your ideal situation. (What would make you happy? What is your current situation?)

Write down your answer to the following question: What daily rituals will help you get where you want to be? (Consider this. What small, daily steps do you need to take to move forward?)

The bottom line is that every moment in your life determines the next. This moment is the bridge between the reality of where you are now and the vision of where you want to be.

Reality really comes to you every second. The most amazing thing is that you can change it. You just have to decide what you want to do with it. The greatest mistake of all is to do nothing just because you are only capable of the smallest thing right now. And, again, it is much more effective to take small steps in the right direction than taking a huge leap to stumble, fall and never get up again. The path to what you most want in your life is made up of thousands of small steps that you take every day. Decide where you want to be, take the first step and do not stop. Only hard work and perseverance will help you achieve your goal.

Everything will be fine! Statuses, quotes, poems, wise thoughts, wishes to friends.

Everything will be fine, the main thing is to believe!

Stop wasting time worrying!

Smile! Everything will be alright, I've asked.

Everything will be fine, because it cannot be otherwise!

Everything will be fine wherever you go!

Everything will be not only good, but much better! Necessarily! Don `t doubt!

As spring comes after winter, so sadness will be followed by joy. Everything will be fine!

Man is a product of his thoughts. For he becomes what he thinks about most of the time!

Sometimes, in some strange ways in life, everything works out by itself!

Everything will be fine: theoretically ... logically ... deductively ... anyway!

Let it be bad now, but then everything will be fine. You just need to go through, wait, and then everything will work out. Necessarily!

Everything will be fine! Live actively, thoughts positively!

If you wake up thinking that something good is going to happen today, it will.

And you know - there will still be. The south wind will blow still and will conjure spring and the memory will turn over.

Never regret anything - everything is for the best!

When it seems to a person that everything is going awry, something wonderful tries to enter his life.

Believe it will come true! Everything will be awesome!

There is always a sun behind the clouds. Yes! Everything will be fine!!! No matter what...

To see a rainbow, you have to survive the rain! Everything will be fine!

If you are offended, use the magic rule of three Ps: understand, forgive, bury.

Never take revenge on anyone. All will be! It is good with us, but with them - they deserve it!

Believe me, all troubles will go away ... Misfortunes also get tired, and tomorrow will be a happy day!

The train follows to the terminal station "Success" with all the stops: Failure, Apathy, Betrayal, Mistakes, Actions ... Success.

Everything will be as it should! Everything passes ... it will pass and this ... everything will be ho-ro-sho!

Happiness is when you don't have to lie that you feel good.

A strong person is not someone who is doing well. This is the one who is doing well no matter what. You are stronger than you think!

Everything that happens - happens on time. This is the best that could be!

The end of something bad is always the beginning of something good.

Don't be sad ... everything will be fine, life is full of pleasant moments!

Do not grieve and do not be sad! All the best is yet to come!

Everything will be fine in the end. If it’s still not good, it’s not the end.

Everything will be as you dream, just wait. Remember, sugar is at the bottom.

No eclipse lasts forever. Don't be discouraged, everything will be fine!

The sun in the sky is good, but the sun in the soul is more important. Take care of your sun!

Look at your problems from a different angle! Relax, everything will be fine!

Everything will be fine! And even yesterday's mistakes will do you good!

I found myself in the mood to be lucky. Yesterday everything was good, but today it is better!

Business for today: stand in front of the mirror, straighten your shoulders, raise your head, smile and say to yourself: "Everything will be fine!"

Go to the "Settings" of the soul, open the folder "State", put a tick on "Happy" and forget the password!