A. Demkin
If the soul hurts ... What if the soul is bad?

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What to do if the soul hurts, if the soul is bad?

10 steps out of the crisis.

10 steps of personal experience of getting out of a mental crisis. One of the solutions.

"Without sorrow there is no salvation, but the Heavenly Kingdom awaits those who have endured."
Venerable Seraphim of Sarov

Each of us has had, is and will be moments or periods when the soul is unbearably bad, when the soul hurts and grieves. I don't want to see anyone, talk to anyone. I don’t want to eat, I don’t want to move ... At such moments I can’t believe that someday the soul will recover and learn to rejoice again. It is impossible to look into the future in this state. You see only a blank wall in front of you and bitter losses or mistakes behind. Do not sleep at night. There is no strength for anything ... To get out of such a state of mind is very, very difficult. The soul hurts, the soul is bad ...

If you hear that someone is trying to enter into a conversation with you in your thoughts, do not answer. Say: “ Get away from me the unclean spirit, I do not want to listen to you, only my Lord Jesus Christ I believe, I worship, and serve Him alone». Give your thoughts simple and wholesome food - prayers: use the simple and short rule of St. Ignatius Brianchaninov: “ Thank God for everything! Lord! I surrender to Your Holy Will! Be thy will with me! Lord! Thank you for everything that you please to send on me. I accept what is worthy according to my deeds; remember me, Lord, in your kingdom!»Imbued with these thoughts. Read the Jesus Prayer to yourself as often as possible: “ Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner ". If you are closer to addressing the Mother of God, read: “ Most Holy Theotokos have mercy on me ". You will notice how every day prayers give you more and more strength, how the forces of evil retreat from you. In the morning, getting out of bed after reading these simple prayers, turn your face to the west (where the sun usually sets) and say: “I deny you, Satan, and all your deeds, and all your angels, and all your ministry, and all your pride yours. " Then blow in the same direction. The same words should be said in the evening after the prayer "May God rise again." Before going to bed reading a prayer May God rise again, and His enemies be scattered, and may flee from His presence. As the smoke disappears, let it disappear; as wax melts from the face of fire, so may demons perish from the face of those who love God and are marked by the sign of the cross, and in joy saying: Rejoice, Most Holy and Life-giving Cross of the Lord, drive away demons by the power of the roost of our Lord Jesus Christ, who descended into hell and corrected power the devil, and who gave us Himself, His Honest Cross to drive out every adversary. O Honorable and life-giving Cross of the Lord! Help me with the Holy Lady of the Virgin Mary and with all the saints forever. Amen. After reading the prayer, cross with your hand all four sides of the world, and your bed. Ask to bring you holy water from a temple or holy spring. Sprinkle holy water on your home, your bed, yourself and drink holy water with prayer: Oh my God, may your holy gift and your holy water be for the remission of my sins, for the illumination of my mind, for the strengthening of my soul and body, for the health of my soul and body, for the conquest of my passions and weaknesses, by Thy infinite mercy through the prayers of Thy Most Pure Mother and all Thy Saints. Amen. When you feel strong enough to go outside, ask someone close to take you outside. When accompanied by a loved one whom you trust, try to bathe three times in the waters of the holy spring. The waters of the holy spring have great healing power and are able to drive away the most powerful demons. If there are no holy springs in your area, with the help of an accompanying person, wade a river or stream three times, trying to plunge headlong. If there is no river in your area, pour holy water from the temple on top of your head. It is believed that demons "sit" there. After bathing, it is good to go to the hairdresser: cut off the ends of your hair, where "demons" can sit. When, after ablution, you gain more strength, visit the temple for the sacrament of the Blessing of the Oil, or the Anointing or Unction. Through this Sacrament, the healing power of God is given to believers, which significantly weakens the action of demons. Also forgotten and unconscious sins are forgiven to a person. The sacrament consists in the sevenfold anointing of parts of the body (forehead, nostrils, cheeks, lips, chest and hands) with consecrated oil, which is preceded by the reading of the Apostle, the Gospel, a short litany and prayer for the healing of a person and the forgiveness of his sins. During the anointing, the priest prays, places the Gospel on the head of the person with the letters down and says a prayer of absolution from sins. The soul becomes easier. The pain recedes. Let's move on to confession and communion. It is best to confess in a monastery located away from tourist routes. It is necessary to find out in advance which of the priesthoods is more experienced in this matter, because a lot depends on the personality of the confessor. If there are no spiritually reasonable priests nearby, you will have to find out from the believers where they are and go there. Your future depends on the quality of this confession! It should not be general, but only individual. If there are no monasteries nearby, learn about the quiet rural parishes, where there are no tourists, where there are few people, and the priest has time to take care of you. Prayer to your Guardian Angel: Holy Angel of the Lord, my Guardian, save and preserve my soul from the snares of the enemy. In the Leningrad and Pskov regions, I can recommend for confession: For women: Tvorozhkovsky Monastery and Vvedeno-Oyatsky Monastery For men: Krypetsky monastery Rural parishes: Zaruchye and Pribuzh. The Mental Cross technique for treating anxiety, fears and anxiety We suggest that you familiarize yourself with the drug-free method "Mental Cross", which helps to relieve unconscious and constant anxiety, improve sleep, and process obsessive thoughts and painful memories. To restore a normal night's sleep, use our video or audio lessons "Healing Dreams" . Before your doctor prescribes treatment (if necessary), you can support your strength with one of the most harmless medicines, which simply consists of the metal Magnesium and vitamin B6: Magne B6 (France, more expensive) or Magnelis B6 (Russia, cheaper). This tool helps to quickly relieve internal stress. Clinical studies have shown that therapy with Magne B6 is able to reliably improve mental and somatic (autonomic) manifestations of anxiety with the same efficiency as the use of tranquilizers, as well as the antidepressant effect is comparable to the use of antidepressants. But here it is important to note that therapy with a magnesium-containing drug, and in particular Magne B6 forte, should be long - from 2-3 months to a year. The minimum period of patience with magnesium-containing preparations is 2 months - it can be recommended for young people under the age of 40. Persons over 40 years of age with the drug should be taken from 2-3 to 6 months. People in a state of acute or chronic stress need to take magnesium for the entire period of negative influence of stress factors. In chronic stress in the absence of kidney disease, you can recommend taking the drug Magneroth(With 500 mg magnesium) 1-2 tablets per day. It is possible to take Magnerot for a long time - during the entire duration of the factors that cause stress. Magnerot is cheaper than Magne B6. Another harmless treatment for anxiety, tension, decreased mood, and sleep disturbances is ordinary valerian (valerian extract)... However, for effective use of valerian, it is necessary to use it in the correct doses. Clinically proven effective valerian extract begins with a single dose of 100 mg (these are 5 20 mg valerian extract tablets). With increased anxiety, irritability, neuromuscular tension, 100 mg of valerian extract is prescribed 3 times a day. Before going to bed (one hour before bedtime) take 400-460 mg of valerian (20-23 tablets of 20 mg). Taking valerian in such doses reduces the onset of sleep by 9-11 minutes, makes sleep deeper, and reduces the number of nighttime awakenings. The recommended duration of treatment with valerian is up to 28 days. Valerian extract dose to valerian root weight ratio: 200 mg of valerian extract is equivalent to 1 g of dry valerian root. That is, to prepare daily portions of valerian, you will need 0.5 g of dry valerian root per intake, and before bedtime - 2 g of dry valerian root. Another good medicine sold over the counter in pharmacies is Afobazol... Afobazole reduces the feeling of constant anxiety (concern, bad feelings, fears), reduces irritability and tearfulness, reduces constant tension, improves sleep, gives more strength and confidence, improves concentration and attention. Afobazol does not reduce the speed of psychomotric reactions, does not reduce muscle strength, and its reception can be combined with driving a car or performing other complex operator activities. Afobazole is also not addictive. Afobazole is taken 1 tablet (10 mg) 3 times a day after meals. Relief of anxiety, neuropsychic tension occurs as early as 2-3 days of taking afobazole. A pronounced effect develops on the 5-7th day. The course of treatment with afobazole is 2-4 weeks, depending on the effect. The maximum effect develops by the 4th week of taking afobazole. Side effects: at the beginning of taking afobazole, a headache may appear, which will disappear in a few days from the start of treatment. Allergic reactions are possible. Be sure to consult your doctor before taking Afobazole! To support the body in acute and chronic stress, it is important to eat foods that contain substances that reduce stress. A. Demkin's psychophysiological self-regulation technique "Unloading" in conditions of severe stress. Which saint should pray in what cases?Orthodox prayers for different occasions.

Life is not always colorful and happy, there are times when even an optimist gives up. Around it seems that everyone is against you - close, strangers, bosses, even nature is crying with you pouring rain. There is a feeling that it will not be worse than it is. How to deal with this situation? First of all, calm down, figure it out, perhaps you are just winding yourself up.

Is it possible to cope with your emotions?

Every person has a changeable mood. Sometimes we ourselves cannot figure out why it happened that way and appeared. You need to be patient here! Not all days are good. No wonder they say that life is an alternation of white and black stripes. But if you think about it, in fact, life is a chessboard, it all depends on the correct move.

You got up in the morning and started to get away with it? Do breathing soothing exercises that will put your thoughts in order, tune in to a positive mood.

Often the cause of bad mood, apathy, is idleness. Sometimes it's boring, you don't know what to do with yourself. I'm tired of the computer, the TV too. Tell yourself stop! Why are you living and wasting your time. Do something useful.

Many women on maternity leave constantly break down on their husbands in the evening, because they are bored with sitting at home all day. As a result, it disappears, problems arise in the relationship. And you have not tried to occupy yourself with something interesting, try to develop, do what you like. Some women immediately find an excuse: "I have a small child!" So what? Life does not end there, but only begins. If you set an example that you are constantly working, actively moving, you and your children will grow purposeful, active.

Almost all experts say: “ It is bad for those who do not want to do anything to make it good. You can never give up. Life is a struggle, a kind of overcoming obstacles "... Take advantage of such valuable advice.

Think of something good

Often all problems appear because of. Do not escalate the situation, you do not need to constantly inspire yourself that bad things will happen. Remember a good moment in your life or dream about something pleasant. It gets easier immediately.

Smile

Are you depressed, sad? Go to the mirror, look into it and smile. You are beautiful, bad mood does not suit your face, so get rid of it.

Appreciate what you have

Many people are egoists, they demand from others what is not clear. The mistake is that egoists do not appreciate what they have, they want to conquer the heights. Dreams and aspirations are good, but sometimes you need to sink to the ground and think about those closest to you that you hurt. Some can easily lose love, friendship, at first they think that there is nothing wrong with that. And then they understand the mistake, but it is no longer possible to return the person.

This happens not only to people. Let's give a simple example, you dream about something for a very long time, wait, and when it comes true, everything is not as you wanted. As a result, there is emptiness in the soul, a feeling of anxiety, apathy appears. Often this feeling is faced by people who have. They constantly want to achieve their goal, but achieving the goal does not bring them joy.

Remember! Rejoice in the present, not the illusory, invented. Dream, but don't forget about real life.

Adhere to the principle: "Everything that is done is only for the best."

Having problems? Try to model the situation differently. If this happens, then it must be experienced. Do not immediately panic, pull your hair out, try to change something. Just calm down, wait, maybe you need to rest, and after a while you will already laugh at your problems.

How to break the deadlock?

First of all, remember that "the night always ends and the day comes." Learn to endure all trials with courage, be wise. Experienced psychotherapists pay attention to the following methods:

• Organize your life. Get rid of everything that makes you uncomfortable. Tired of constantly repairing your sideboard? Throw it away and buy a new one. Worried about getting wet and ruining your hair? Call taxi. Constantly quarreling with your husband or wife, relationships do not bring joy, only torture you? Consider divorce. Remember, the end is always the beginning of a new life.
• Do not give up... Some people think that the way out of the situation is to get drunk, get high, use stimulants, hang out all night in a nightclub. Why rush headlong into the pool? Always remember that drugs are temporary happiness, which later leads to dangerous consequences.
• Sign up for a gym ... Throw away all negative energy during exercise. In addition to improving your mood, you will look great, which will give you confidence in life.
• Try to do good, it will definitely return to you ... If something always goes wrong with you, you do not think that you have harmed someone, made a mistake.
• Drive out negative emotions ... You can go far into nature and scream with all your might. If it is very bad, cry, all the mental pain will come out with tears. Write about all your problems and then burn the paper.

Can't cope with yourself on your own, have you fallen into deep depression? See a psychotherapist, he will help you find a way out of the situation. You may need to drink sedatives for a while. For example, it is often prescribed tincture of valerian, motherwort. But do not get carried away with antidepressants, tranquilizers - they only exacerbate the situation.

You sit and think why everything is so bad? Look around, and maybe someone is much worse, and you just came up with your tragedies. Learn to calmly take all the troubles of life, do not give up, always fight to the end. The main thing is not to succumb to various temptations, negative influences. Be yourself in any situation. Be happy, enjoy life and do not pay attention to different little things!

Even the happiest people have moments in their lives when their souls are hard and they want to cry. Sometimes it's blues, and sometimes it's natural depression. In the latter case, one must not neglect the treatment under the supervision of an intelligent psychotherapist. Otherwise, everything is within your power.

How to find the beginning of everything

This will help you figure out what to do. First of all, try to remember step by step what caused this severity. Find the maximum of serious, precise, and ... funny in this. Much also depends on the reason why it is so hard on the soul.

If you yourself are to blame, for example, you offended someone or committed some kind of misconduct, you should not suffer too much. Just remember that you have the right to make a mistake and try to forgive yourself. For example, do a little training:

First, name your offense with the word "Mistake". This is not a deadly sin, it is just a mistake. then remember that you are still good. That's right: say to yourself, "I'm good," and hug yourself. And only after calming down, ask yourself what to do. Now that you have cooled down and understood, you can start correcting the mistake.

Be sure to ask forgiveness from the one you offended. Do not hesitate with this, because both of you can boil a lot in your soul and ask for forgiveness, and forgive, it will be more difficult. And nerve cells regenerate slowly and sadly. But only ask for forgiveness when emotions have already subsided and you can reason and react to any words sensibly and calmly.

Or it may be that it is not you, but someone who is to blame for the fact that you have a heavy heart. What to do if offended you? Likewise, understand that a person has the right to make mistakes. Most likely, he did not set himself the goal of offending you, he just stumbled. if it's hard after parting or the departure of your best friend to another city (country), then you just have to take it for granted. Remember all the beautiful things that you had and remain grateful to this person. And get ready for the fact that in later life you will have many new and wonderful people and acquaintances.

Think and speak only good things

This is the simplest answer to the question of what to do when your heart is hard. Thoughts and words are material, therefore negative thoughts will not allow you to get rid of the heaviness on the soul and blues, but will tighten even deeper. This is the most difficult, but try to keep track of all bad thoughts and forcefully replace them with good ones. This will not help solve the problem at the root, but it will help here and now.

Unleash your feelings

Do not believe that you cannot help grief with tears. Can. You will release all sad thoughts if you erupt well, and after that you will probably understand that life has not ended yet and will see it in a new light.

Here and now

The most vague and annoying advice for any difficult situation is: "Live here and now." This can be done with small training and exercises.

• Do something with your hands: wash, weave, tie, sew, write, connect. You just achieve simple completeness and integrity in something small. Just give free rein to the fine motor skills of your hands, which will definitely distract you from your thoughts. If this is not possible, go to the store and sort something with your hands;
• Having found an unexpected point on your body, imagine that you are drawing it in the air and describing circles;
• Imagine that you are a comic strip or a running picture. Try as a comic book superhero to get out of all difficult situations;
• If your soul is cloudy, imagine yourself as a piece of furniture or something else from your household or part of nature (for example, a tree outside the window or a bush). Share the monologue on his behalf. Firstly, this way you can better understand what bothers you and causes severity, and secondly, fuse negativity into something inanimate;

Remember that once you felt good

If so, it will be again. You definitely had happy times, because it was not always hard on your soul. Try to send yourself a letter from yourself during the happy period of your life or from the place where you had the best in life, for example, from the place of the happiest vacation in your life.

Try to recreate as accurately as possible the situation in which you felt good. Assemble it from the smallest parts. If you fail to fully experience bliss, then at least simulate it. You can restore the happiest moment in your life by a grain of sand.

Do good to your neighbor

Think about how you can please your family or friends. You can give them small but cute gifts or cook something delicious. If you can make people smile and positive emotions, then they will come back to you.

Give thanks

Try to thank what has led you to such a dead end. Think about the lessons to be learned from this, as well as how to push off from this bottom.

Simple Tips

• Go to bed... Maybe it's a matter of banal fatigue. In general, try to relax by changing your surroundings. You don't even need to go anywhere, you can just go out and go shopping. Take a small amount of money and buy what you want, however small.
• Go in for sports. You don't even need to go to the gym - just move. You can turn on a video set of exercises that gives an active load to the body. Or work out outside - that's ideal.

You can recall old physical skills, such as standing on your arms or brushing up on your stretch. It will also raise self-esteem.

Do not withdraw into yourself

Be sure to share your difficult thoughts with loved ones. You can ask two people for advice at once: sharp and unrestrained in words and affectionate and kind.

If the soul is hard, the usual blues may be to blame. What to do with it? Just do not let him close, because she can tighten her head.

We have already written about depression and apathy, but what to do when your heart is simply bad, and you seem to understand that this will pass, but you want to somehow speed up the process? First of all, accept this state, do not try to reject it - absolutely all people are subject to blues, to a greater or lesser extent. This is due to the change of seasons, and with a lack of sunlight, and with hormonal shifts in the body. In order to quickly return to a good mood, use our advice on what to do when you feel bad.

1) Eat positive! The first thing to do to combat blues is to reorganize your diet by adding mood-boosting foods. These include milk, tomatoes, fish, blueberries, broccoli, red peppers, bananas, cottage cheese, whole grain flours, all kinds of cereals and almonds, and citrus fruits. Do not forget about the visual component of nutrition - when the food looks beautiful, mood and appetite increase by themselves. It will be great if you are fascinated by the preparation of a new dish, for example, curd cake with almonds and banana. Breathing in wonderful aromas in the kitchen and enjoying the results of your labors (better not alone), you will quickly forget about all your worries.

2) Joy injections. Imagine that your feeling of “bad at heart” is a disease that responds perfectly to treatment, and follow the prescribed recipe for the most positive films, books, TV shows and magazines you can find. Review your favorite comedies, films about love, in which a happy ending invariably happens, re-read positive books, in general, remember everything that has ever amused, touched you and lifted your spirits, and take it in shock doses!

3) Surround yourself with care. Very often, a depressed state is a sign of fatigue, thus your body reminds the owner that he is not a machine, requires rest, care and affection. Give it to him urgently! Go for a massage, take a fragrant bath, stop pushing yourself at home, let someone else cook for a few days, for example, or go out with the whole family to eat out. It is imperative to reduce your stress level, and for this, forget about problems and worries for a while and focus on yourself. The sooner you get out of the present state, the sooner you can return to your life with its sorrows and joys.

4) Get rid of the old. There are two wonderful and accessible to everyone methods for those who do not know what to do when the soul is bad. One of them is a general cleaning of your archives and mezzanines. No, we do not force you to wash the windows and vacuum the distant corners: your task is to get rid of all unnecessary old junk that completely unreasonably takes up space in the apartment, not letting new positive energy into it. Haven't used the item for the last six months? This means that you do not need it in principle. Give and throw away everything: old notebooks, clothes, broken furniture, unnecessary books and interior items. Pay attention to how much easier it becomes to breathe with each discarded bag or box - still, because you get rid of the ballast, the burden of the past, which does not allow you to move forward.

5) Create a new one. The second practical technique, which is a logical continuation of the first, is creation. Draw the sun or flowers on the wall, repaint (re-paste) the wallpaper in a bright color, enliven the room in which you spend the most time with flowers, fabrics, something new. This will help to breathe new energy into you, so that your soul becomes easy and joyful.

Life is beautiful, but your soul is still bad? Life has nothing to do with it

You probably thought that I would suggest you purchase rose-colored glasses and see through them how much life is Beautiful?

No, I will not offer pink glasses or blue lenses. It is not that simple.

Today, in a conversation with young people, one can easily meet the objection “we are not like that, life is like that”. Those who are older express the same idea in a slightly different way: “you can go crazy from such a life”.

Well, and pensioners usually blame the authorities (former or current). Some of them go even higher and blame Satan, and some - God.

So, throwing everything into one "pan", people wonder why the received is not digested and i feel so bad, more than ever.

Identify the real reasons for your fear and help people root it out of their souls.

You don't have to associate closely with someone who is undermining your faith in yourself.

To deprive others of confidence is a property of petty souls. You, being a generous person, on the contrary, instill in people a sense of confidence and inner conviction.

It's all in the hat

More precisely, in its own. Scan your character for fierce laziness, bitter selfishness and paralyzing fear.

Let you be filled with completely different qualities and then in my heart it will be easy. After all life is Beautiful!