How to find inner peace in yourself. Calmness

Erofeevskaya Natalia

Calm, only calm ... But how to stay calm if everything is bubbling inside, unspoken words, accumulated tension and threatens to spill over into the immediate environment? Familiar situation? But everyone wants to remain confident, calm and controlling their own behavior - this is strength, this is self-satisfaction, this is the health of the body and strong nerves.

What to do to relieve stress and not feel like a barrel of gunpowder, for which there are many sparks? Let's take a look at some of the common guidelines and techniques that will provide a foundation for creating a calm, inner atmosphere.

Attitude for regularity and peace of mind

The first thing that comes to mind is relaxation, meditation and prayer for those whose souls have faith. Relaxing regular practice helps restore peace of mind and inner harmony in a short time. And here the main mistake occurs: a person who is satisfied with the result of meditating techniques stops practicing, and everything returns to normal. The same nervousness and the same anxiety in a matter of days pulls the soul and body into heavy chains.

Each person chooses a suitable relaxation method, performing a kind of ritual:

believers read prayers, turning over the rosary;
sports people run on skis in winter, and in parks, sand or mountain paths in summer;
a walk before going to bed or meeting the dawn, talking with animals, growing crops, fishing or hunting;
handicrafts, playing musical instruments, creativity;
give an opportunity to feel, hear yourself, find a state of harmony in yourself and your place in the world around you.

The main rule: the way of relaxation is individual, and the habit of giving yourself a rest should be as daily as brushing your teeth or taking a walk with the dog - by the way, taking a walk with the dog is also an option.

What is the principle of calmness?

The balance of soul, health and thoughts of a person is the basis of his calmness. Emotions that are not on this list are capable of shaking any "cold" head. However, this does not mean at all that you need to be a cracker or a rusty nail in which not a shadow of a living is left - emotions of any sign, both positive and negative, decorate life, making it brighter, more interesting, more exciting. The question is, how expensive are emotions for a particular person: did you feel the situation and let go or continues to fever for a day, two, a week? Thoughts in my head spin and spin, not allowing to think about anything else, insomnia and fatigue, increasing psychosis - these are the signs.

Keeping balance is not easy, but possible. We offer several rules on how not to succumb to the provocations of the surrounding world and remain true to yourself, while maintaining an inner source of confidence:

Calmness is not synonymous with sleepiness! Sleepiness is apathy and reluctance to act, which over time threatens to develop into and detachment from life's problems that have nothing to do with the inner harmony of a person.
In a state of nervousness, concentrate on the ability to see the situation or the life picture as a whole, without detailing - this will allow you not to be sprayed and not cycle on unpleasant little things that pull the balance onto yourself.

3. Do not expect peace from the outside: the world around is dynamic and does not stand still for a single second - it’s ridiculous to expect some kind of stability from it. Life presents various surprises: it is good if they turn out to be exciting, but pleasant, and if the surprise is not so good? They breathed in, breathed out and said to themselves: "I can handle it!" - of course you can! if only simply because circumstances sometimes do not provide other options.

4. A rule that people know about, but do not use: look for advantages in everything. Got fired? - more attention to the family and a chance to find yourself in a different direction. ? - no snoring, no scandals, order in the house, silence and exclusive enjoyment of peace. Do children learn poorly? - Einstein, who received the Nobel Prize, was kicked out of school altogether. Over time, this habit will become stronger and work automatically: before you have time to think, the positive aspects of what is happening are already right there!

5. People are worried: their own, relatives, friends, colleagues ... We must learn to take it for granted: life is such that no one will stay in it forever - everyone is mortal, and everyone’s turn will come in due time. Of course, I would like to come later, but it is written to someone like a family - it does not hurt to be a little fatalist with faith in fate.

6. Do not rush events and the people around us: exhaustion by work and speed of life is the main problem of our century. An exclusive belief in such a necessary resistance to everyone and everything can and is impressive - “You are so strong (strong), no circumstances will break you!”, But the harm from this is much more than good.

Sometimes you need to let go of the circumstances: perhaps some other factor or unexpected turn will arise that will radically change the perception of the situation.

Place of tranquility

This is not about a cemetery - although yes, let's be honest: the most peaceful place on the planet. But while your heart is beating hot in your chest, you should take care of a corner of personal privacy. A cherished place, in which there are no phone calls, a TV with frightening news, sucking the Internet into its bottomless womb - half an hour on a balcony or on a park bench will help to put thoughts and feelings in order, to curb overwhelmed emotions.

Do not ignore your favorite pastime: no matter what happens in this turbulent world, half an hour or an hour can be allocated for a hobby a day. Knitting, embroidery, modeling, modeling, drawing - whatever, if only at these moments you were comfortable, calm and disconnect your brains from existing problems. The place of study is also important in this case: if the children urgently need help with their homework, the cat needs canned food from the refrigerator, a friend remembered that today you have not dissuaded the allotted two hours on the phone, and your husband slaps lids on empty pans - an idea to spend half an hour in my pleasure failed miserably. Decision? To feed all the hungry, to conduct strict instructions with relatives, and to turn off the phones - any person has the right to a few personal minutes of doing what he loves.

Huge shopping malls are not a place to relax. Bright light, oppressive concrete, glass and crowds of people - there can be no question of any comfort and privacy. Have you often noticed fatigue after hypermarkets and boutiques? - here it is, a signal from the body about a serious loss of vitality. A forest, a river, swimming in a pool, in a nearby park - the healing effect of nature will give a feeling of an influx of strength, energy, allowing you to fully relax both your soul and body.

Learn to gradually relax and manage your peace of mind, while remembering: do not struggle with life - you need to live and enjoy life!

January 22, 2014 6:15 pm

Peace, inner peace - one of the foundations of happiness. Inner peace is achieved when the body pulsates not in the rhythm that circumstances impose on us, but in the rhythm that determines the soul that has settled in our body for a limited time. And getting into resonance with mental vibrations is just a thrill. A high that is as difficult to express as to tell how you feel during an orgasm. A high that you should feel yourself, so that you will never forget.

By the way, people who are usually called lazy people or lazy people are most often not idlers, but those who feel the charm of inner peace and try to achieve it with simple actions, which are most often unsuccessful.

But what should be done in order to achieve inner peace?

Arm yourself with patience. You start to struggle with yourself. Achievements in this struggle will be necessary, but not immediately.
Calm your spirit. Try to stop thinking. To do this, sit in silence. Try to free your head from thoughts. to free and clear your mind of thoughts. Learn to meditate, that is, to fully focus on one thought, object or inner feeling.
Release tension and anxiety. The first commandment here is not to fuss, either at work or in life. My onea friend formulated even more unexpectedly: "Do not fuss under the client" Another saying, which also sets you in the right mood: "The best is the enemy of the good." Down with perfectionism! Down with the Stakhanovites too! Don't try to do everything at once. As preference players say: "You can't go wrong one by one"
And yes, don't be ashamed to rest often. Relax in some cozy place, even take a nap. Even though it happens at work
Live in the here and now. Don't suffer from things that have gone wrong in the past. Let's go! Don't worry about what will happen. As one of the heroes of “Soldier Švejk” said: “It will be what happened, because something, yes it was.” Therefore, focus on current affairs. And make fewer plans, especially grandiose ones. One great country was not brought to good by grandiose plans.
But don't get hung up on the moment. Use new experiences. Down with any bias! And yes, do not blame anyone for acting differently than you are used to.
Be happy. Make time for activities that make you happy. Satisfy your desires. This is not selfishness! This is reasonable egoism.
Don't run away from yourself. Be yourself and enjoy your individuality.
The most important happiness is in life itself. Be happy with where you are, who you are at the moment and what you are doing.
Be kind and courteous to others. Not for them - for yourself. Kindness warms the heart of the giver.
Strive for beauty. Seeing beauty is an amazing pleasure. Develop the ability to see beauty in everything and everyone.
Evaluate everything that happens calmly and joyfully. Everything that happens around is happening for you.
Fill your inner world. This will save you from many problems in life that would otherwise seem insurmountable.
Be optimistic. Even though we will all die.
Finally, always remember that seeking inner peace is always a process, not a result. Therefore, you will have to work on yourself every day. But is it difficult if the result is great?

The most bitter thing is that most of this advice is completely different from what most of our generation was "programmed" in childhood. That is, they were initially tuned in to life unsuccessful and difficult.

In any incomprehensible situation, calm down, lie down, hug yourself, go and eat sweets. Take care of your nerves :)

Leave mistakes in the past.

Appreciate the present.

Smile at the future)

As soon as you let go of the situation that torments you, the situation will immediately let you go.

Don't lose your temper. It is not known what could happen in your absence.

Come to the tree. Let it teach you calmness.

- What is the secret of your calmness?

“In full acceptance of the inevitable,” the Master replied.

Put things in order in your thoughts - and you will see the world with different eyes.

Do not forget to clean your heart.

What is peace?

No unnecessary thoughts.

What thoughts are unnecessary?

(Wei Te-Han)

Your most important treasure is peace of mind.

Chamomile is soothing.

Control your mood, for if it does not obey, then it commands.

One can find peace only by becoming an observer, calmly gazing at the fleeting course of life. Irwin Yalom

Calmness is stronger than emotions.

Silence is louder than a scream.

And no matter what happens to you - do not take anything to heart. Few things are important for a long time.

Erich Maria Remarque "Arc de Triomphe" ---

Once in the rain, you can learn a useful lesson from this. If it starts raining unexpectedly, you don't want to get wet and so you run down the street to your house. But when you run home, you notice that you got wet anyway. If you decide from the very beginning not to speed up your pace, you will get wet, but you will not fuss. It is also necessary to act in other similar circumstances.

Yamamoto Tsunetomo as Hagakure. Samurai book

Tomorrow will be what it should be

and there will be nothing that should not be -

do not fuss.

If there is no peace within us, it is useless to seek it outside.

Not burdened with worries -
enjoys life.
Finding does not rejoice
losing does not grieve, because he knows
that fate is not permanent.
When we are not bound by things
serenity is fully cognized.
If the body does not rest from stress,
it wears out.
If the spirit is always worried,
it fades.

Chuang Tzu ---

If you throw a stick to a dog, it will look at that stick. And if you throw a stick to a lion, then he will, without stopping, look at the thrower. This is a formal phrase that was spoken during disputes in ancient China, if the interlocutor began to cling to the words and ceased to see the main thing.

As I breathe in, I calm my body and mind.
As I exhale, I smile.
Being in the present moment, I know this moment is amazing!

Allow yourself to breathe deeply and do not drive yourself into frames.

Strength belongs to the one who believes in his own strength.

Develop the habit of monitoring your mental-emotional state through self-observation. It is good to regularly ask yourself, "Am I calm at the moment?" - this is a question that is useful to regularly ask yourself. You can also ask: "What is happening inside me at the moment?"

Eckhart Tolle

Freedom is freedom from worry. Once you realize that you cannot influence the results, ignore your desires and fears. Let them come and go. Don't feed them with interest and attention. In reality, things are done with you, not you.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

The calmer and more balanced a person is, the more powerful his potential and the greater will be his success in good and worthy deeds. The equanimity of reason is one of the greatest treasures of wisdom.

The basis of all wisdom is calmness and patience.

Stop your anxiety and then you can see the magnificent pattern ...

When the mind comes to rest, you begin to appreciate the light of the moon and the breath of the wind, and you understand that there is no need for worldly vanity.

Find peace in your soul, and thousands will be saved around you.

In fact, you only want peace and love. You came out of them, you will return to them and you are. Papaji

The most beautiful and healthy people are people who are not annoyed by anything.

The highest degree of human wisdom is the ability to remain calm despite external thunderstorms.

You are not bound by your experiences, but by the fact that you clung to them.

Don't make hasty decisions. Weigh the pros and cons well. Almost every person has a heavenly guide, a second self. Think and ask him, is it worth doing what you have planned or not ?! Learn to observe, see the invisible, anticipate situations.

When you contemplate the mountain forests and streams running along the stones, the heart, clouded with worldly mud, is gradually purified. When you read the ancient canons and look at the paintings of ancient masters, the spirit of worldly vulgarity is little by little dissipated. Hong Zicheng, Taste of Roots.

Wisdom comes with the ability to be calm. Just watch and listen. Nothing else is needed. When you are at rest, when you just look and listen, it activates within you the intelligence free of concepts. Let peace guide your words and deeds.

Eckhart Tolle

We can never achieve peace in the outside world until we achieve it in the inner world.

The essence of balance is not to cling.

The essence of relaxation is not to hold.

The essence of being natural is not to make an effort.

One who is not envious and does not wish anyone evil has attained equanimity. For him, the whole world is filled with happiness.

To make life bloom again, seethe and be filled with exciting joy and happiness, you just need to stop ... Stop and allow yourself to dissolve in pleasure ...

Don't worry about your future, be at ease now and everything will fall into place.

If the water is not muddied, it will settle on its own. If the mirror is not dirty, it will reflect light by itself. The human heart cannot be made pure by one's will. Eliminate what pollutes it, and its purity will manifest itself. You don't need to look for joy outside yourself. Eliminate what is bothering you, and joy will reign in your soul by itself.

Sometimes just leave it alone ...

It's always quiet in the middle of a hurricane. Be this quiet place in the center, even if the whirlwinds are raging around.

You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather.

Only in calm waters are things reflected undistorted.

Only a calm consciousness is suitable for the perception of the world.

When you don't know what to do, wait a while. Keep quiet. Live as you live. The sign will appear sooner or later. The main thing is to know that you are waiting and be ready to face what you are waiting for. Luis Rivera

Don't worry about your future, be at ease now and everything will fall into place.

Calmness robs your enemies of strength. In tranquility there is neither fear nor excessive anger - only reality, cleansed of the distortions and hindrances of emotional outbursts. When you are calm, you are really strong.

Therefore, your opponents will always try with all their might to bring you out of this state - to instill fear, sow doubts, cause anger. The internal state is directly related to breathing. Whatever situation you find yourself in, immediately calm your breathing - the spirit will calm down next.

The most important thing in spiritual life is to keep the heart in peace.

You need to trust life.
You need to trust yourself without fear to its course, because life is infinitely wiser than us.
She still treats you her own way, sometimes quite harsh
but eventually you will realize that she was right.

Be at ease now and everything will fall into place.

Your spirit should not be agitated, an evil word should not escape from your lips; you must remain benevolent, with a heart full of love, not containing secret malice; and even ill-wishers you must embrace loving thoughts, generous thoughts, deep and boundless, cleansed of all anger and hatred. That is how you must act, my disciples.

Only calm water reflects the heavens correctly.

The best indicator of the level of consciousness is the ability to calmly relate to life's difficulties.

They pull the unconscious person down, while the conscious person rises more and more.

Eckhart Tolle.

Sit quietly and you will understand how vain everyday worries are. Be quiet a little and you will understand how empty everyday speech is. Give up everyday troubles, and you will understand how much energy people are wasting in vain. Chen Jiju.

Calmness helps us find a way out of the most difficult situations.

Have patience burst? ... Inflate again!)

3 QUIET SECONDS

It is enough to calmly think for three seconds to understand everything.

But where to get them, these really three calm seconds? We are too excited by our own fantasies to stop even for a moment.

Have you ever seen an oak in a state of stress or a dolphin in a gloomy mood, a frog with low self-esteem, a cat that cannot relax, or a bird burdened with resentment? Learn from them how to put up with the present.
Eckhart Tolle

Do not hurry. Each bud opens in its own time. Don't make the bud become a flower. Do not fold back the petals. They are gentle; you hurt them. Wait and they will open themselves. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Don't worship a bearded man in the sky or an idol in a book. Worship the inhalation and exhalation, the winter breeze caressing your face, the morning crowd of people on the subway, just the feeling of being alive, never knowing what is coming.Notice God in the eyes of a stranger, Providence in ruined and ordinary. Worship the ground you stand on. Make every day a dance, with tears in your eyes, contemplating the divine in any moment, notice the absolute in everything relative, and let people call you crazy. Let them laugh and joke.

Jeff Foster

Higher power is not the ability to conquer others, but the ability to become one with others.

Sri Chinmoy

Try, at least in small ways, not to bring your mind.
Look at the world - just look.
Don't say "like" or "dislike". Don't say anything.
Don't say a word, just watch.
The mind will feel uncomfortable.
Mind would like to say something.
You just say to the mind:
"Shut up, let me see, I'll just watch" ...

6 wise tips from Chen Jiju

1. Sit quietly, and you will understand how vain everyday worries.
2. Be quiet a little and you will understand how empty everyday speech is.
3. Give up everyday troubles, and you will understand how much energy people are wasting in vain.
4. Close your gates and you will understand how burdensome dating is.
5. Have few desires, and you will understand why the diseases of the human race are so numerous.
6. Be more humane, and you will understand how soulless ordinary people are.

Free your mind from thoughts.
Let your heart calm down.
Calmly follow the turmoil of the world
Watch how everything falls into place ...

It's very easy to recognize a happy person. He seems to radiate an aura of calmness and warmth, moves slowly, but always has time, speaks calmly, but everyone understands him. The secret to happy people is simple - it's not stressful.

If you are sitting somewhere in the Himalayas and silence surrounds you - this is the silence of the Himalayas, not yours. You must find your own Himalayas inside ...

Wounds inflicted by thoughts heal longer than any other.

J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

Wisdom comes with the ability to be calm.Just watch and listen. Nothing else is needed. When you are at rest, when you just look and listen, it activates within you the intelligence free of concepts. Let peace guide your words and deeds.

Eckhart Tolle "What Silence Says About"

James allen

When you live in harmony with yourself, you can get along with others.

Eastern wisdom -

You sit - and sit to yourself; go - and go yourself.
The main thing is not to fuss in vain.

Change your attitude towards things that bother you, and you will be safe from them. (Marcus Aurelius)

Bring your attention to the solar plexus. Try to imagine that a small ball of sunshine lights up in you. Let it flare up, get bigger and stronger. Let its rays illuminate you. Let the sun saturate your whole body with its rays.

Harmony is evenness in everything. If you want to make a scandal, count to 10 and "fire up" the sun.

Calm, only calm :)

Take an interest in what is happening within you, no less than in what surrounds you. If everything is in order in the inner world, then in the outer world everything will fall into place.

Eckhart Tolle ---

A fool and an ignoramus have five signs:
angry for no reason
speak unnecessarily
change for no reason,
intervene in something that does not concern them at all,
and do not know how to distinguish between who wishes them well and who - evil.

Indian proverb ---

What goes out, let go.
What comes, let it come.
You have nothing and never had anything but yourself.

If you could just keep your inner silence free from memories and expectations, you could see a beautiful pattern of events. It is your worry that creates chaos.

Nisargadatta Maharaj ---

There is only one way to happiness, and that is to stop worrying about things that are beyond our will.

Epictetus ---

Having lost our sense of self-importance, we become invulnerable.

To be strong, you have to be like water. There are no obstacles - it flows; dam - it will stop; the dam will break, it will flow again; in a quadrangular vessel, it is quadrangular; in a round - it is round. Because she is so pliable, she is most needed and most powerful.

The world is like a train station, where we are always waiting and hurrying.

When your mind and senses slow down to the beat of your Heart, you spontaneously come into harmony with the cosmic rhythm. You begin to perceive the world with divine eyes, watching how everything happens by itself and in due time. Having discovered that everything is already in tune with the law of the Universe, you come to the understanding that you are not different from the world and its Lord. This is Freedom. Mooji

We worry too much. We take it too seriously. You need to take everything easier. But wisely. No nerves. The main thing is to think. And don't do stupid things.

What you can take calmly no longer controls you ...

There is nowhere to find peace for those who have not found it in themselves.

To be angry and irritated is nothing more than punishing oneself for other people's stupidity.

You are the sky. And the clouds are what happens, comes and goes.

Eckhart Tolle

Live in peace. Come spring, and the flowers bloom themselves.

It is known that the calmer a person looks, the less often other people contradict him and argue with him. And vice versa, if a person defends his point of view with fervor, he is resisted with arguments and fiercely.

Do not rush. Eat at the hour of food, and the hour of the way will come- hit the road.

Paulo Coelho "Alchemist"

To yield is to accept what is. So you are open to life. Resistance is an internal clamp .... So you are completely closed. Whatever you do in a state of internal resistance (which can also be called negativity), it will cause even more external resistance, and the universe will not be on your side, life will not help you. Light cannot enter through closed shutters. When you surrender internally and stop fighting, a new dimension of consciousness opens up. If action is possible ... it will take place ... supported by the creative mind ... with which in a state of inner openness you become one. And then circumstances and people begin to help you, become at one with you. Happy coincidences happen. Everything is in your favor. If action is not possible, you are in the peace and inner peace that come with giving up the struggle.

Eckhart Tolle New Land

Calm down annoying for some reason always even more.Another paradox.Usually after such a callno one even thinks to calm down.

Bernard Werber Cassandra's Mirror

He who humbled himself conquered his enemies.

Silouan the Athonite

The one who keeps God in himself is calm.

When you argue with a fool, he is most likely doing the same thing.

The true strength of a person is not in impulses, but in unbreakable peace.

The highest degree of human wisdom is the ability to adapt to circumstances and remain calm despite external thunderstorms.

Disturbing feelings and thoughts will disappear if you do not pay attention to them. Lama Ole Nydahl

You will never regret what you managed to keep silent about.
--- Eastern wisdom ---

It is worth striving for a state of consciousness in which all events will be perceived neutrally.

Everyone has moments in life when they experience emotional discomfort. It depends on external factors, for example, the situation in which he found himself, or the internal state of his soul.

Experiencing dissatisfaction with his life, a person literally loses peace, cannot concentrate on work and personal relationships, and is faced with a loss of appetite and sleep.

If you are familiar with this state, find out its causes, and ways to find inner harmony with yourself and the world around you.

The reasons for the loss of inner peace

Each person has their own reason to worry and worry, but it boils down to one of the following:

Fears and doubts... They overwhelm us every day, but not everyone knows how to deal with them effectively. The reason for this is anything: the fear of losing a loved one, job, property, doubts about one's abilities, fear of failure.
Guilt... It is imposed by people around you who want to manipulate you, or arises from self-flagellation.
Obligations. If you feel that you cannot cope, or have taken on an unbearable burden, then you will surely lose your peace.
Resentment... This destructive feeling leads to depression, obsessive thoughts, and loss of mental balance.
Anger, anger, hatred and envy... These emotions are so strong that they threaten not only the loss of peace, but also sleep, appetite, and efficiency. Find out,

All these reasons will inevitably lead to the fact that a person loses his mental balance, experiences emotional, and not rarely physical, discomfort.

Loss of inner balance, negative attitudes, and destructive thoughts lead to real physical illnesses. Such patterns are studied by science, which we have already talked about earlier.

How to find peace of mind

Awareness of the problem is already the first step towards solving it. The recommendations below will help you find inner harmony and peace.

Recognize your NOT ideal and the right to make mistakes. Excessive ambition and exactingness towards oneself, not only lead to mental balance, but also make a person be in constant stress. Think of the mistakes you make as a life lesson and an opportunity to gain valuable experience.
Live in the here and now. This will help get rid of fictional fears associated with the future. Often a person is worried about what might happen and forgets that it might NOT happen. Focus your attention on the present and solve problems as they arise.
Learn to say NO. Stop shifting onto yourself other people's problems, and your life will become much easier and more harmonious.
Build inner boundaries. The loss of your peace of mind may be due to worrying about the other person, or taking on his responsibilities. Do not let others impose the rules of the game on you, and let us clearly understand the boundaries of what is permitted in communicating with you.
Don't keep all of your experiences to yourself. A great psychological trick to get rid of the loss of your calm is to say out loud what worries you. By expressing your feelings in words, you will come to the conclusion that things are not as bad as you thought. Don't be alone with your worries and problems. Share them with a loved one who will understand and help.
Express your emotions regularly. Do not keep in yourself everything that has accumulated. Throw out negativity and you will feel much better.
Learn to forgive and forget. Sometimes it is not as easy to do as it seems at first glance. If you are unable to cope with the resentment on your own, seek help from a psychologist.
Concentrate on the end result, and perceive temporary difficulties as stepping stones on the way to realizing your goal.

If you are good at self-hypnosis, then practice reading prayers for peace of mind and meditate. But remember that you can find harmony and peace only by eliminating the cause of the loss of balance and changing your stereotypes of thinking.

Each of us has days when, it seems, everything is fine and nothing portends trouble, and then suddenly - once! - and everything becomes bad and gloomy. Outwardly, everything is the same, but inside a volcano begins to rage, and you realize that you are at the very bottom of your soul.

What was the reason for this? Someone's remark? Smell? Sound? It is difficult to determine what exactly made you enter the peak, but only one thing - the peace of mind is broken. Something quite insignificant sent you into a rage, anger, despair, or resentment. And so quickly that you yourself cannot understand how and why you got here.

How to avoid such situations? How to find peace of mind? Is it possible to make sure that the body and soul are always in harmony, and there are no breakdowns? Can. You can become a whole person, and then no small injections or even big blows of fate will throw you off balance.

First lesson

If you constantly experience cases when there is a "last straw" - and it can be escaped milk, and a discharged phone, or a broken heel, then there are those things that, in principle, are not even worth discussing, but they plunged you into into the abyss of pain, then look into your childhood. Most likely, everything started there. Maybe you were ignored or abused. Maybe you were treated contemptuously or, on the contrary, they wanted too much. Childhood traumas are forgotten by the mind, but the subconscious mind remembers them and they, like shrapnel, are looking for a way out. And very often it happens in this way.

We all have these holes. For some, they are small, they can be easily bypassed, for others - just an American canyon left by their entourage - relatives, acquaintances, teachers, friends, neighbors.

Serious reasons very rarely throw us into such holes. You feel them and therefore prepare yourself. Or dodging. Only little things can be pushed into such a pit. Psychotherapists advise you to create a Personal Salvation card to deal with such pits. What this means: you draw up a registration card for yourself, in which you indicate all the evidence that you are an independent, adult, self-sufficient person. Write in it your age, education, all your regalia, including school certificates of merit, academic degrees, that you know how to drive a car, have children, vote, and so on - what a full-fledged adult has the right to do. When you find yourself on the edge of a mental pit, take out this card and read it. Strengthen yourself in an adult state, realize that childhood has already passed. This will give you some support.

On the back write the addresses and phone numbers of those people who are ready to lend you a helping hand at any moment. This is your Personal Rescue Service. List only those who truly love you for who you are. Those who are not afraid of your inner life and darkness and will do everything possible to pull you out into the light.

Lesson two

Never compare your life with how other people live! You even have no idea how they live, and draw conclusions only on the basis of external factors that they show you. You are trying to compare the incomparable - what you have inside with what they have outside. Believe me, you only think that life is easier and easier for others.

Do not wish someone else's life, live yours. So it will be calmer.

You came into this world like this, not differently. And the Universe wants you to remain yourself, and not try to live someone else's life. Yes, life kicks us like a soccer ball at the FIFA World Cup, try to find your charm in this - enjoy the sharp turns, descents and shaking. Enjoy this journey. This is just your journey - your life.

Lesson three

Our life is very short. And it only depends on you whether to deal with it or deal with death. If you are in a state of mental scatter all the time and at the same time do nothing to get rid of this oppressive feeling, you are not living, you are dealing with your death.

Life very often brings us to the fork in the "Life - Death", and it depends only on us which path to follow.

If you find yourself in a pit, then get out of it as quickly as possible before it turns into a grave.

Lesson four

We live very little in the present. Most live in the past, a small percentage in the future, and those who enjoy the present moment can be counted on one hand. You can endure everything that life has in store for you if you don’t look into the future and constantly replay the past in your thoughts. An important rule in working on how to find peace of mind is to always remember that:

There is no bad life. There are bad points.

And these moments need to be experienced and sent to the past. And never remember again.

This is how they get rid of deadly diseases. Those who have won the battle with cancer say, “I just lived through today and never looked at the calendar. My task was one - to live today. And I did it ”.

This approach is applicable to any situation. Just live NOW. André Dubu put it very well:

“Despair arises from our imagination, which lies as if the future exists, and persistently“ predicts ”millions of moments, thousands of days. It devastates you, and you can no longer live in the present moment. "

Don't waste your fear of the future and don't feel sorry for the past. Live today.

Lesson five

This is perhaps the most fun lesson, which is not at all difficult to complete. We need to go back a little ... to childhood.

Inside, each of us remains a child. We try to look adults and do it successfully until someone or something clicks on our pet peeve and we instantly turn into a frightened, offended toddler.

Take away bad childhood memories - make yourself a second childhood that will be much happier than the first.

Think about what you wanted as a child, but you didn't get it. And give it to yourself right now.

Did you want to have little pink booties? Go and buy. Have you dreamed of a construction vehicle? Go to the store immediately. You wanted, but were afraid to climb a tree? Who is stopping you from doing this right now?

Here are a few more ideas to help you find your peace of mind:

Go to the planetarium and make a wish for a shooting star;
Paint the wallpaper in the bedroom;
Watch cartoons all day;
Pick a bunch of dandelions;
Go for a swing;
Walk in the rain without an umbrella;
Ride your bike through the puddles;
Have a picnic right on the living room floor;
Build a fortress with tables, stools, sheets and blankets;
Draw with chalk on the asphalt;
Type in glasses of water and try to play some melody on them;
Have a pillow fight;
Jump on the bed until you get tired and fall asleep.

What to do is your choice. This list can be supplemented and supplemented. Come up with your own, go back to childhood. Remember that it is never too late to make yourself a happy childhood that depends only on you.

You can talk about how to find peace of mind again and again. But even these five lessons, if you start to put into practice, will add peace and inner harmony to you. Try it. Choose a fulfilling life, not gloomy pits, and you will find the much-awaited peace of mind. Happiness to you!