The perfect letter to relatives. Letter to family

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It is foolish to deny the virtues of electronic communications. But they have one significant drawback: they can never convey the warmth that we feel and the joy that we experience when we write this letter.

Of course, traditional mail should not replace our online communication. Letters "the old fashioned way" should be a pleasant hobby.

Think about how great it is when you have one or even several penpals to whom you can write a real letter. Imagine: you open your mailbox and find the message that you have been waiting for. What a joyful feeling this is all the same!

In addition to friendly correspondence, there are seven types of letters that I suggest at least once in my life to write to everyone. Correspondence is a win-win lottery, you will win in it anyway: both as an author and as a recipient. The author learns to express her feelings in words, the recipient receives moral support.

To write at least one letter from each category is a minimum task. The habit of regularly writing letters throughout your life will bring you significant advantages. Well, go ahead!

1. Congratulatory letter

We are proud of ourselves when we achieve our goals. But when others acknowledge our accomplishments, this certainly makes our victory a lot sweeter. We want people to see in us the potential that we see in ourselves.

Congratulatory letters are a good tool in strengthening both personal and professional contacts. A great idea is to regularly send such letters to colleagues and relatives, congratulating them on pleasant events in their lives. However, if someone near you reaches great heights, does something to admire, then this is an excellent occasion to write them not just a small congratulation, but a full congratulatory letter. Maybe your brother just became a marine, and your friend broke all the records in the dash. Or your daughter became a college graduate, the first in your family, by the way.

Let others see what you know about their victories. And be proud of them.

2. A letter to your father

Father is an important figure in the life of any person. For better or worse, in any case, fathers are the first standard of masculinity for a child.

Every boy in the future wants to become an "ideal dad." Our fathers are sometimes so far from this model that we are very upset when we realize how much better they could be. And sometimes the exact opposite happens: they are close to ideal, and we are worried that we will not be able to follow their example.

One way or another, relations with our father in many ways shape our personality. Sometimes our feelings for a parent are so deep and complex that we ourselves cannot fully understand them.

Most of us never found the time to thank our fathers for everything they did for us. The opposite situation is also possible: sometimes we cannot forgive them for the pain that they once caused us. Nevertheless, if we are not aware of our feelings for our fathers, we will never be able to understand how they influenced us, and to some extent we will not be able to fully understand ourselves.

Writing a letter to your father is a great way to reflect on all these issues. You can not send this letter if you have no desire - you do it for yourself. The goal is to better understand your own feelings.

3. Letter of condolences

Of all the letters that you have to write, a letter of condolences will be the most difficult. At such a moment, it is very difficult to find the right words. We are afraid to say something wrong, we feel awkward. For these reasons, we rarely write condolences. We assure ourselves that people already know about our sympathy and support, and the words here are superfluous.

Yes, they are probably aware that you empathize with them. But they all want to hear it from you. People need a reminder of what you think about them the minute they feel hard. Though not for long, but your words will make them a little easier. It really means a lot when someone takes the time to tell you: "I know how hard it is for you, and it hurts me that you suffer."

4. A letter to your future

Someday in your life there will definitely come a moment when you feel that you have changed: you look at many things differently, make other decisions. Feeling it is rather strange, actually. This does not mean that you begin to forget your past or categorically abandon your "young self." It’s just that your previous life is left behind, and it seems to you that “you are up to” and “you are now” are two completely different people.

Such a “borderline” state between the past and the present gives us a great opportunity to reflect on what we are now. Think about what the child you were saying would say that adult that you now see in the mirror?

Now write a letter to yourself in the future. You will not print this letter for several years or even decades. Describe the hopes you have in the person you will be when you read this letter a second time. How do you see your career? Are you married? Do you have any children? Are you true to your favorite habits? What are your goals? What ideals have remained with you throughout all these years?

When you read this letter after many years, you may find that your past goals and ideals have changed dramatically, but you, in fact, do not mind: you have those that suit you much more. Your youthful maximalism and naivety can make you smile and even laugh a little :) Or, on the contrary, once again confronted with your old dreams, you can realize how much you wanted to achieve and how little you achieved in fact.

Such time travels will help you remember your youthful dreams and aspirations, inspire you to new achievements and, if now everything is not going as you once wanted, then there is always a chance to fix it.

5. Love letter

It is not always easy to express your emotions towards other people. Men would much more willingly express their feelings with actions, rather than words. But women are known to love ears. They want words that will be followed by action.

The difficulty lies not only in finding beautiful words, but also in saying them out loud. When we make a wonderful love speech in the mind, very often we do not take into account the environment in which we will “expose” our feelings. The most embarrassing situation is when you are sitting next to a person and desperately trying to remember exactly what words you were going to say to him. To avoid all these incidents, we begin to write a love letter.

Love letters are often associated with the past century. Men from the front wrote letters to their wives and brides, saying how they lacked their warmth, and the girls, in turn, wrote that they love and wait. Such letters went for months, and came only several times a year.

In biographies of great people very often there are wonderful love confessions that they wrote to their wives and lovers.

Again about my love. About the notorious activity. Does love exhaust everything for me? Everything, but only differently. Love is life, this is the main thing. From it unfolds and poems, and deeds, and everything else. Love is the heart of everything. If it stops working, everything else dies, becomes superfluous, unnecessary. But if the heart works, it cannot but manifest in this in everything.
From a letter from Vladimir Mayakovsky to Lila Brik

However, your beloved need not be far away so that you decide to write her a love message. You can address it even to that girl with whom you sleep every night. It will be more original and enjoyable than the standard love confessions we make every day.

Romantic letters are testimonies of your love story. Which may then be read by your grandchildren.

6. Encouraging letter

In the life of everyone there were such moments when you had to fight with doubts and fears, or moments in which you wanted to drop everything and retreat. If you are lucky, then in your life during this joyless time a person appeared who could cheer you up, convince you that everything will be fine, in other words, increase your self-esteem and help move on.

Such support always has a positive effect on a person, especially if the words are supported by encouraging actions (patting on the shoulder, for example). Although there are times when a letter is the best option in order to provide support. And not only because you are physically physically unable to always be present with those you want to cheer up. The letter remains with the recipient for a long time, he can return to it at any time and re-read it. When we listen to fiery motivational speech, we listen to every word and believe that everything will pass and all problems can be solved. But after a while we are left alone, and all our fears and doubts again overtake us.

An encouraging letter tells the recipient that you believe in him and his abilities, that he will cope with all difficulties. Maybe your niece recently went to college and feels not at ease, and she’s also considering expulsion. If you have such an experience, you can help her with advice, encourage her. Perhaps your son broke up with his first love and thinks that this is the end of the world. Let him know that everything is exactly the opposite and this is not the end, but only the beginning.

7. Letter of thanks

Gratitude is one of the brightest feelings. Nothing else can support our personal and professional relationships like it. Appreciation can instantly melt ice between two people.

We all perfectly understand how we need the kindness and help of others. You are very lucky if there are people in your life whom you can thank.

For many, only a kind word helped to become a man again, and gold turned out to be powerless.
Erich Maria Remarque “Shelter of Dreams”

Thank you letters should be written as often as possible. Of course, it’s much easier to send a thank you note by e-mail (and this is certainly better than nothing). But just imagine how touching it is to receive a real handwritten letter. For example, if there is an employee in your office who is diligently and successfully doing his job, you can leave a small note for him in which you will note how much you appreciate his efforts.

We hope that, in addition to such small news, at least once in your life you will write full thank-you letters to the most important people in your life: mother, wife (husband), beloved school teacher, best friend.

Think about everything that they have done for you, and about the changes that they have brought into your life. Remember that there is nothing in the world more than simple human gratitude.

Which of these letters have you tried writing? Share in the comments!

I wrote this letter to my relatives, it was a great success :). They reacted, we correspond, they take trips around villages and archives on their own initiative, in general, everything turned around / turned around. :) Maybe I was lucky also in the fact that they themselves were also to some extent interested in their kind, and my appearance was adequately perceived. I enclosed envelopes with my address for return letters, Russian stamps for the required amount and a printed Tree (general) on which a line was drawn from me to that ancestor, which, according to my assumption, could have been their ancestor.
Ilona

Hello dear Siberina
Julia Mikhailovna.

You do not know me, and I do not know you either. Therefore, I apologize for this letter and for the questions asked in it. I will try to explain why I had all these questions and why I decided to write you a letter. To do this, I’ll talk a little about myself and a little (about 100 years) will delve into the story. In short - the reason for writing you a letter was your rare surname - SIBERIN.

Let me introduce myself in absentia: my name is Ilona Alekseevna Dementieva. I am 35 years old. I live in Latvia, in the city of Jurmala. I have three of my children and one stepson - all boys - aged 4 to 17 years. I work in a company engaged in the construction, rental and sale of houses, and study at the Latvian State University. I’m my mother’s only child.

Now a little about my hobbies and history. Once upon a time, about 20 - 25 years ago, I was fascinated by the stories about the ancestors told by my grandparents. But at that time I was too young to somehow seriously engage in researching the history of my Family, my Family. Now that I have the opportunity, finances, time, the Internet, the desire to study the history of my ancestors, it came true and, after several years of searching, turned into such a “Tree” that I am attaching to the letter. Unfortunately, people are not eternal, and both grandfather and grandmother passed away ... Only that little remains that I heard in childhood. There is a memory left. Despite all my efforts and searches, all the same, there are still many “white spots” on this “Tree”. That is why this letter was born - in the hope of filling the gaps in the history of the Family.

  Now I will go a little deeper into the history of the Family in that aspect in which you, maybe (really hope!) Can help in my search.
  I was born in Lithuania in the city of Panevezys in 1968. My mother, Dmitrieva Irina Vsevolodovna, was born during the evacuation from the besieged Leningrad - in the Ufa region in Bashkiria, in 1943. Her parents: mother (my grandmother) - Claudia Ivanovna (in maiden Zakharova) and father (my grandfather) Dmitriev Vsevolod Nilovich. It is about the grandfather that will be discussed further. He is a regular military man, went through the entire war underground, in the Baltic Fleet intelligence, and after the war he also did not leave a military career. He was born in 1917, on October 25, and his whole birthday was celebrated on November 7 - on the anniversary of the Great October Socialist Revolution. So in our family, November 7th was not just an official holiday. He was born in St. Petersburg / Petrograd in the family of a printing worker at the Academy of Sciences. In addition to him, the family had three more children: two older brothers (Mikhail and Alexander) and a younger sister who died in infancy. In 1922, when he was 5 years old, his father (my great-grandfather) - Dmitriev Nil Dmitrievich - died and his mother (my great-grandmother) - Anna Osipovna (according to other sources - Iosifovna) Dmitrieva (in maiden. SIBERINA ) raised three boys alone. Very little is known about her. And it is about her all the questions.
  About Anna Osipovna (this is the only photograph that has survived to this day) very little is known. She was born in 1884 in the "... Yaroslavl province, Yaroslavl district, Osenevsky volost, village of Tarusino ... from peasants .." - such information was found in the records of the marriage of the church / parish book in 1905 of the church in Big Kolomna. She died on April 30, 1942 in Leningrad in a blockade. Grandfather told me very little about her, and in general, grandfather didn’t talk about his parents - he just couldn’t, there weren’t enough words, alas ... At that moment, when I reached a conscious cognitive age of active interest, my grandfather had repeatedly suffered a stroke and it was speech that suffered the most from paralysis. So, alas, my knowledge of the SIBERIAN Family is very scarce. I only know that my great-grandmother, Anna Osipovna, definitely had a sister - Julia Osipovna, who was married to Dobrovolsky and they had a son, Anatoly (the last statement about the son is accepted with the addition - “like”). About Yulia Osipovna SIBERINA is all that is known. Unfortunately, I could not find traces in the historical archives of Moscow, Yaroslavl, and Petersburg. Therefore, the questions - what were the names of the parents (my great-great-grandmother and great-great-grandfather) of Anna and Yulia Osipovny, who they are, where they came from, when they were born, where they lived, whether they still had children and their children had descendants these questions remain open to this day. The only conclusion that can be drawn from the available data is that their father (my great-great-grandfather) was called Osip   (or Joseph - if you follow other sources) SIBERIN. And it's all!!! Alas ... By the way, I repeatedly raised the question of the origin of a seemingly ordinary, but at the same time, very rare surname "Siberin" ... There are several different versions, but they are not confirmed by anything: the surname came from once existing by region, now obsolete household word "Siberia" - i.e. countryman; the surname came from immigrants from Siberia - but then it would be more correct - "Sibirin"; the surname comes from the landlord; the surname comes from the German surname "Sieber", which, as a result of Russification, changed to "Siber-Siberin"; the surname came from the French surname "Cyber" - the consequences of the war of 1812 ... So this question of the origin of the surname puzzled me not only, but also several genealogical historians quite popular in narrow circles.
  Realizing that archival searches did not produce the desired results, I turned to the Internet search resources. But alas !!! Surname SIBERIN so rare that search engines give out only a few people with that name !! One of them - Maria Siberina - could not be found, but in the city of Yaroslavl there are several (!) SIBERINS !! And, since the roots of the origin / birth of my great-grandmother Anna Osipovna go to the Yaroslavl province, I had a little hope for luck. Hence my desire to contact people by the name of SIBERIN / and in the hope that maybe one of them will turn out to be a very distant relative and maybe (really hope!) Will be able to help with the replenishment of my information on the genealogy "Tree". Here, in fact, is the reason for this letter. Do not be surprised if your relatives receive the same letter - I know that letters are best written by hand, but since everyone has different handwriting, so as not to make it difficult for people to understand the features of their handwriting, I decided to write the letter on a computer and print it in the necessary number of copies to send to everyone found in the city of Yaroslavl Siberin, of which there were 5 people and it looks like related to each other.

Perhaps I’ll finish my letter. I apologize once again for disturbing you.

Sincerely, Ilona Dementieva

6.10.2003
  Jurmala.

Uncle Andrey and Aunt Masha are writing to you from Ukraine. More precisely, Mama writes. Dad drinks pepper, prompting, and the children sing "Tape, for tape - give outsets" and send greetings.

We are fine.
  The weather is already winter. Light frost and light snow.
  But the apartment is incredible heat. Fortunately, over the past six months, our wise government has stolen so much Russian gas that we can now live on it for a long time and not save. Angela Merkel told us so bluntly during her visit to Ukraine.

After your last call in early March, when you suggested that we flee to your beloved Penza from the Nazis who seized power in Kiev, much has changed. And believe me, only for the better.

We used to be the usual middle class, but now we have joined the slender ranks of the junta, and we are quite successfully leading the genocide of those who disagree. Although, to be honest, this well-being has come only to world Zionism and the anti-Russian world conspiracy. But since they pay us well, why not get involved? Yes, and we especially have no other choice. Since, compared with the period of Yanukovych’s democratic rule, when everyone could freely express their point of view and vote for anyone they want, now we are forced to put checkmarks for our Poroshenko right in the voting booths by Lithuanian and Swedish consultants. Peter Alekseevich. Pinochet Aloizovich, as we proudly call him his whole family.

Our beloved son Heinrich, the same one you know from the cradle under the name now banned in Ukraine, wanted to sign up as a full-time executioner in the National Guard, but so far it hasn’t worked out. Only those who are ready to eat human are accepted there. Therefore, we began to prepare our future punisher and yesterday ate a Russian-speaking baby for dinner, selected by the Aydar battalion from their parents in the territory of Donbass, controlled by the Ukrainian junta.

Did not like. He turned out to be too bony, you ask your Putin there to bring more buckwheat, Far Eastern salmon and black caviar to the residents of Donetsk, Lugansk and Torez in humanitarian convoys instead of shells, cartridges and machine guns. But tomorrow we’ll try to cook it according to another recipe - the fighter needs to get used to the harsh field kitchen.

The best part is that even before you have adopted your son in the National Guard, our beloved government has already written out two promised slaves to us in advance. True, the slaves are weak, what to take from them - two "nerds", teachers of Russian literature from Slavyansk. We rented them out by hand to cut trees in the Carpathians, so there they complain. But nothing, we think next year to attach them to the company for the procurement of fur stray dogs and cats. There will be much more benefit both to us and to society.

My daughter Jen (Oli, as before, was named after Jen Psaki, you know) things are good too. At school, she is an excellent student, recently won the city Olympics in the subject “Economics of anti-Russian sanctions”. She is fond of the study of ancient Germanic runes and re-read all of Goebbels in the original. Enrolled in a sniper circle. She dreams of going on a winter vacation as part of a volunteer exchange program with the Israeli army and shooting unarmed Palestinians there.

By the way, it will be definitely useful for you to find out - children who speak Russian at the school are sent to sharpen shells for NATO army as punishment for a month.
  I think this is very correct. There is nothing endlessly watching these stupid cartoons about Winnie the Pooh, the crocodile Gena and the three heroes. Yes, and soon we will not need Russian. In the summer, a moat with crocodiles is dug on the border with Russia. So that not a single dog breaks into our paradise country.

I wanted to get a job as a cashier for a new job at a state bank. But did not pass the exam on the history of the Third Reich. Therefore, I ask you to urgently send us Hitler’s book “Mine Kampf”, otherwise they will immediately be sold to us.

My husband was forced to join the Right Sector at the company. Now, at night, he studies the biography of Yarosh, and after working with their entire department, under the guidance of American instructors, they learn to mine bridges on the Volga, organize terrorist attacks in the Moscow metro and are preparing an operation to destroy the Kerch ferry crossing in Crimea.

We have Americans everywhere.
  They come to us to train the Ukrainian army in carpet bombing of Donetsk, Rostov and Kursk. A harem was built right on Khreshchatyk for their NATO generals. By Tyagnybok’s order, girls are caught there right on the streets in Mariupol and Kharkov, but only those who don’t wear a traditional Ukrainian wreath with red and black ribbons are taken there.

Last Sunday, the whole family registered with a regional gay club. Now we are looking forward to the agenda for the orgy.

Believe me, everything in Ukraine is now changing for the better, one misfortune was banned by our once beloved radio stations “Chanson” and “Russian Radio”. But now, German war marches, Bender trembits and Conchita Wurst songs spin on all waves around the clock.

Tomorrow we are going to a rally - we will destroy a monument to Pushkin on the Heroes Square of the SS Division “Dead Head”.
  It is a pity, of course, but in its place the statue of a 50-meter bronze serpent that strangles George the Victorious is just ready.

As you know, we have recently held parliamentary elections, the Ukrainian parliament. Groysman was appointed chairman of the Junta. Do not believe that he is a Jew. We all know that he is a cousin of Bormann and a great-nephew of Eichmann’s mother. The true patriots of Great Germany and the united European Union, which they built, starting in 1933.

Television has now changed.
For days on end, they broadcast live reports of how junta troops bombed kindergartens, schools and hospitals with high-precision missiles throughout the South-East of Ukraine.
  Especially in those cities that are temporarily not controlled by the Novorossiya militia.

The most popular was the game television show The Death Star Factory, in which participants, fighters of the Peacemaker battalion, compete in collecting scalps taken from the killed inhabitants of Donbass.

But there are, in secret, temporary shortcomings.
  The people became some kind of soft-skinned, naive. It’s all very pacifists who mumble something about humanism and reconciliation of the fraternal Slavic peoples of Ukraine and Russia.

For example, the patriots from the Azov battalion last month raped all the veterans of the Great Patriotic War in Kherson, Nikolaev and Odessa, who did not have a swastika tattooed on their chest. And in Odessa already twice. So our "pacifists" from the government, "feeling the tragedy of the veterans", decided to punish the heroes from the "Azov" and handed them the usual Iron Crosses, instead of the gold ones. And they deceived with a salary - each militant was given 10 thousand dollars, instead of the promised 20.

It was a completely different matter last year.
  How nice to remember when our whole friendly family, as one, was trained in the Polish and Lithuanian camps for the Maidan! The heart rejoices.

In the mornings - always invigorating tea with butyrate. For lunch, the US State Department emissaries brought in chopped oranges and some delicious cookies, from which hands themselves reached out to pour Molotov cocktails. It was not for nothing that we killed the unarmed Berkut fighters on the streets of Kiev for three months, and from the severed hands of the youngest policemen, we cooked borscht right on the Maidan and fed them groups of chopped-up nationalist fellows.
  These were the best months of our lives. You will not see such romance on your provincial Valdai and Seligers.

Yet. Misha, my dear brother, your dad’s hometown, Dnepropetrovsk, Poroshenko wants to rename Kolomoisk. This is a reward for the fact that Kolomoisky, with the money of the Israeli military, built in Ukraine the most modern network of concentration camps in the world for civilians in the Southeast.

Probably a lot of what we wrote to you, you already know. Indeed, for sure you regularly and carefully watch the most honest and objective Russian television channels “Russia”, “NTV” and Lifenews. You are really lucky with such a beacon of journalism as Dmitry Kiselev. He cuts the womb about Ukraine, without looking back at the leadership and the Russian authorities.
It's nice that you have people who every day convey to the Russians the true state of things in fraternal Ukraine. Despite the intrigues of the Kremlin ill-wishers.

In order not to forget, we congratulate you in advance on the upcoming New Year!
  And then this holiday we will now be banned. Like Christmas, Epiphany and Easter. The main holidays for us now will be only Halloween and Independence Day of America, which we will celebrate three times a year - February 23, May 9 and every Friday the 13th.

Write.
  We are waiting for you in the spring to visit. Be sure to come.
  But when you cross the border, when asked by the Ukrainian border guard about the purpose of the visit, it’s better to say that you are going to an ultra-radical action to burn the effigies of Putin, Kobzon and Fili, who is going to war.

I wish you happiness and health.

Respectfully,
  your relatives, real fascists, Uncle Orest and Aunt Gorpina (the old names Andrei and Maria were changed in our passports by order of Gauleiter Kiev Klitschko)

P.S. Throw out the fat that we sent you last month. If you haven’t eaten yet.
  It became known that it was sold in Kiev stores only after special treatment at the American embassy. What we are injected with there, we don’t know, but it’s verified that its use sharply raises hatred of the Russian Orthodox Church and, in a strange way, obscene words from the Russian language are forgotten.
  All. Always yours! ...