Every person has pain points. These are those painful things that are associated with various aspects of life, his traumatic experience, personal beliefs and attitudes, attitude towards something. For example, a person tragically lost a child. Now memories of the deceased baby, mentions of him in conversation, personal things that the parent could not throw away or give away become his sore spot.

A sore spot is a memory associated with negative experiences of a person, which still affect her life.

Accordingly, human behavior is determined by the desire (conscious or subconscious) to avoid influencing his weak point. If, for example, a woman is short, then she will tend to walk in high heels. If a man earns little, then he will try to avoid the topic of money.

It is important to note that a person's behavior and the mechanism for avoiding or compensating for a “lack” will be activated if a person takes it for a disadvantage or negative. If someone sings badly, but does not see anything shameful in it, then conversations on this topic or jokes of friends will not have an impact. Thus, the absence of an ear for music or a voice is simply a lack of skill or skill, but not a defect in the understanding of the person himself.

It should be noted that pain points also tend to be gender differentiated. It is known that women are more often complex because of their external data and the degree of their attractiveness to men. Men, in turn, are complex about their masculinity, self-confidence, material security, and success. The severity of the complex is individual for each. With close contact with people or in an emotionally close relationship with a partner, it is impossible to hide your sore spots from your partner. In any case, male complexes are mainly built on the oppressed pride either in the past or in the present.

Self-esteem is a sense of self-esteem associated with excessive attention to oneself.

A proud man is one who is “confident” in himself and demands a demonstration of this confidence from others.

The paradox is that the narcissist in every possible way shows self-admiration, confidence, but, demanding confirmation from the people around him, demonstrates low self-esteem. This is what proud men often “blame” on.

So, a wise woman will always see the weak point of a man and, if necessary, can play with it.
If you have a desire to play with male pride, hurt him a little or as much as possible, the following tips will certainly help.

Decide on motivation

Naturally, a woman will not hurt the male ego without a reason. It means that he was guilty somewhere, did not please with something. I didn’t please so much that I want to punish. But!

Before committing to immediate revenge, you should think about your motivation and the consequences that I assure you will be. Such an analysis should be based on your attitude to the personality of a man and your desire to build a relationship with him.

If a man is dear to you, you love him and want to be together, then the options to hurt his pride will be different than in the case when the woman is not particularly interested in the man and she does not plan to continue the relationship with him.

If a guy is loved, then NEVER use his pain points as revenge. In the case of underestimated male self-esteem, this can lead to a breakdown of the relationship instantly.

The task of the young lady is to help a man cultivate confidence in himself, and not to crush it because of her resentment. The insult will pass, but the male complex will remain. Your beloved "Thank you" for this will not say, and on the part of the lady it is unworthy.

If a woman is not interested in a man and is ready to part with him, then the pressure on the sore spot is what the doctor ordered!

Ignore it

At all times, ignore is considered the most effective way to hurt.

If you want to gently convey to your beloved man: “You shouldn't do this to me, as you did, dear,” then turn on the ignore of his basic needs. NOT SUSTAINABLE POINTS, but other significant needs. Oh, you were rude to me in the morning, then I won't cook and wash my clothes. Or talk to you for 3 days.

If you want to hurt someone who is not close and not loved, then you can ignore it as much as possible. Don't answer phone calls and messages. Do not respond to requests and words in general.

The lack of feedback from a woman will hurt anyone, even the most impenetrable.

But the maximum ignore is fraught, in the main, with parting. If you don't want to keep the guy in your life - go for it! Men do not forget to ignore.

Compare with others

Nobody likes to be compared to others, especially men. Especially if they compare beloved women, hinting at an outright loss in favor of others.

Comparisons with exes or just other men are another of the most effective ways.

Your friend Nikita has a cool haircut, and what is on your head, Lord forgive me ?!

Joke with him in bed

No one will ignore the jokes about his sexuality and ability to satisfy a woman. You can make fun of his masculine strength, penis size, some technical skills.

Does a man know how to forgive? Psychologists with thick bundles of tests answer positively, popular wisdom claims the opposite. But there are also romantics, according to which a man filled with love is ready to endure any trials offered by an inventive lady of the heart. And how are things really? Is there something that men never forgive women, or, with a certain approach, you can endlessly test the patience of the stronger sex?

Why is it harder for men to forgive

The answer lies in the paradoxical structure of male memory. The man evaluates all the misdeeds of those around him according to his internal scale of admissibility and enters into an imaginary diary, while pretending that nothing terrible has happened. When others are already almost sure that he has reconciled or forgiven, the space for recordings suddenly ends and the man puts an end to the relationship. At such a moment, it may seem that some sheer trifle, like an out-of-place word or a sidelong glance, led to the rupture - but who can know for sure how many records of misconduct have already been made before?

How a man reacts to resentment

1. He forgives the culprit, draws certain conclusions and forgets about the misconduct - provided that it will not be repeated. This is possible only if the troublemaker sincerely repents and asks for forgiveness.
2. He does not forgive, but under the pressure of circumstances makes a good face in a bad game. This option is the most difficult: for fear of losing a family, children, job or respect of others, the resentment hides deep inside for a certain time - and the longer negative feelings are suppressed, the more negative energy accumulates.
3. He kind of forgives but the relationship does not intend to continue. Such forgiveness without forgiveness is generally not typical of men, since it is a pronounced cognitive dissonance: if the guilty person is forgiven, why leave?
4. He cannot forgive and leaves for this reason. This happens when the very last point is reached, but the victim will remember for a long time the unrevenged insult and the last word that has not been said.

Fortunately, for women in relationships, there are not many critical mistakes that lead to immediate breakup. For example, if a man in love expresses dissatisfaction, he is not too offended by:

• minor flaws such as a lack of culinary talents and a passion for order, a peculiar taste in clothes or a manner of communication;
• excessive communication of a lady of the heart with her friends, their awareness of some intimate details of life together;
• a woman's passion for communication, constant phone calls or correspondence;
• shopping and spontaneous purchases - provided that they do not cause irreparable damage to the family budget.

Test of strength

Everything would be fine if it were not for the subconscious desire, characteristic of the weaker sex, to constantly test feelings for strength, to look for the boundaries of what is permissible and to test the patience of a man. Science considers this to be a kind of dominance test: a woman is well aware of what provokes her partner's dissatisfaction, but in such a simple way she checks whether the chosen one has lost the status of a leader, whether he has lost interest in her, is it time to look for a replacement?
The danger lies in the fact that every man has his own, individual border. A woman, having got used to her relationship with the stronger sex a little, may draw erroneous conclusions and assume that she already knows what men do not forgive, that all partners have an equal tensile strength and are ready to endure approximately the same psychological pressure. Therefore, at some point, the border of what is permissible is crossed easily and imperceptibly, and the following reaction does not give pleasure to anyone.

16 common mistakes women make

So, men are ready to close their eyes to many things. However, will forgiveness follow this, or will they shake off the dust from the imaginary diary and make another entry into it, thereby bringing the natural end closer? Below we list the main female mistakes and blunders for which the chances of remaining unforgiven are very high.

1. Public criticism

The thing is extremely fragile. Public criticism, ridicule, or discussion of shortcomings in front of outsiders can take a toll on him, especially when it comes to masculinity or intellectual ability. Men react no less painfully when, in a dispute or conflict with others, a woman openly takes the opposite side. For the stronger sex, who is in eternal confrontation with the outside world, this is akin to betrayal, which men forget, but do not forgive.

2. Reproaches and accusations of insolvency

Daily grievances, constant discontent or accusations of incompetence do not have an immediate effect, but they destroy the foundation of a relationship by stone. Unfortunately, women regularly try to educate their partner to change their behavior and correct their behavior. In such an environment, representatives of the stronger sex lose self-confidence, become passive and abandon any ambitions. It is logical that at the same time, the sincerity of the feelings of a woman who allows herself such behavior is also questioned: men run away from such a relationship at the first opportunity.

Deep down, any man wants to believe that he is the best sexual partner in the world, and a woman chose him for this reason as well. However, this faith is even more fragile than male pride - an inadvertently spoken word or deliberate criticism of his masculine strength not only instantly and finally repels a man, but can also lead to serious psychological dysfunction. Humiliation is something that a man will never forgive a woman, because the blow is so deep and painful that even asking for leniency is useless.

4. Denial of intimacy

There are thousands of reasons why women refuse partners: education, differences in temperaments, blackmail and even banal everyday fatigue play a role here. In addition, a woman sometimes declares her attitude to intimacy as a marital duty, for the fulfillment of which it is absolutely not necessary to feel any desire. However, the conclusions are always made unambiguous: the man is convinced that he is not able to please the woman, that he no longer suits her as a lover. Unfortunately for a relationship, a replacement is sometimes found very quickly.

5. Comparison with others

Comparisons with other people that are disadvantageous are much more difficult for men than for women, especially when it comes to former partners. A man subconsciously wants to be not only the only one for his lady, but also the smartest, strongest and most successful. Of course, at the same time he understands that he is very far from ideal, but he prefers not to hear about it, especially from the lips of his beloved woman. If the intimate side of the relationship is compared, the reaction intensifies many times, and the consequences become unpredictable.

6. Mercantile spirit

Despite the general cult of money and wealth, the stronger sex is extremely wary of any manifestations of a woman's material interest in a relationship - these are things that men cannot close their eyes to. If a woman shows that her interest is caused by the prosperity of the applicant, the presence of the attributes of a wealthy person, that her priority is to receive various types of benefits, then not only love, but any sympathy from the man will immediately disappear. In addition, a man who has deliberately “bought” a woman’s society will have a corresponding attitude to “buying”.

7. Jealousy and suspicion

Uncontrolled and unreasonable is a good way to create constant tension in the family. Men generally do not like baseless accusations and attempts on personal freedom. If those are also supported by round-the-clock control, secret computer checks, examination of the phone, the contents of pockets and a second-by-second check of the daily schedule with control interrogations - the end of such a relationship is near. Some ladies, playing as scouts, even engage in deliberate provocations, create fake social media accounts and persuade their friends to arrange a “fidelity test” for the man.

8. Manipulation and pressure

According to the point of view imposed by modern media resources, intellectually and spiritually, a woman is a more highly developed being than a man. Some ladies take this as a guide to action and try to control a partner with the help of primitive manipulations - they develop a guilt complex in him, confront him with difficult choices, make him apologize in any situation, feel like an inferior source of all troubles and misfortunes. Wishing to single-handedly own a man, a woman can force him to abandon hobbies, interests, hobbies, and even friendship with old comrades.

9. Insulting his relatives

Men like to classify themselves as belonging to various social groups. In much the same way, they perceive their relatives - as a single family, identifying themselves as a member of it. Therefore, any attacks and ridicule against a second cousin by a man will be perceived by a man as a personal insult. Of course, relatives are not chosen, and sometimes rather tense situations can arise between them, about which the man speaks unflatteringly. However, if he himself, for example, considers it permissible to criticize his own parents, then he never gives a woman such a right.

10. Neglecting children

It just so happened that the upbringing of children in our society is mainly a woman. However, despite the allegedly indifferent attitude of fathers to their own descendants, a man invariably realizes himself as the head and protector of the family, trusting the woman with the most valuable thing that he has. In any truly dangerous situation, he will rush to save the child without hesitation - but can a man forgive a woman if she herself becomes the source of this danger? It is not uncommon for a baby to suffer from the mother's carelessness, irresponsibility or lack of foresight - what kind of man can look at this calmly?

11. Stupidity and narrow-mindedness

The myth that men prefer stupid women has long been debunked. The average self-confident representative of the stronger sex will prefer a wise and far-sighted life partner. They do not like stupid and narrow-minded people, although they do not hesitate to use them - as long as there is enough patience to endure inappropriate actions of a narrow-minded person. Everything becomes much worse if a man who has lost his vigilance turns out to be connected with such a lady with a family, children and a mortgage - feeling himself circled around his finger, he sometimes begins to take revenge, causing trouble for himself and those around him.

12. Lack of ability to forgive

A man prefers to believe that a woman is completely devoted to him and is ready to forgive any mistakes or failures. However, as we know, women do not forget offenses - therefore, regularly reminding a man about the minutes of his weakness at every opportunity is used as an argument for discussion. A man disoriented by such behavior, being sure that he has been forgiven for a long time, does not understand what is happening and soon begins to see in a woman not a partner, but an adversary.

13. Neglect and superiority

A normal man will always strive to become the head of the family, regardless of his career success and social status. By questioning his authority, neglecting his opinion, a woman makes a man doubt his merits and abilities. The situation worsens if a woman's attempt to take a leading role is demonstratively justified by her higher salary, successful career growth or physical performance. Only a few, insecure individuals are able to calmly perceive the constant reminder of female superiority.

14. Betrayal

One should not equate betrayal with betrayal, although such often accompanies it. By accidentally or deliberately discussing family secrets with strangers (with the same lover, for example), ridiculing a man's dreams, hopes or hobbies in conversations with other people, a woman thereby shows that she does not value the trust placed in her, or the relationship in general. There is no doubt whether men forgive a woman's betrayal: any of them instantly moves away, withdraws into themselves, or simply leaves, because without trusting communication and mutual understanding, further coexistence does not make sense.

15. Lies and duplicity

A loss of trust also entails a lie, and regardless of its scale: a man naturally assumes that by regularly deceiving him in trifles, a woman is capable of a big lie associated with infidelity or betrayal. The representative of the stronger sex is also wary of dual behavior: having found that a lady says one thing in his face, and behind his back is quite another, a man will not even try to establish close relationships, since such involve a confidential exchange of thoughts, dreams and experiences.

16. Treason

It's hard to find a more controversial and relationship-damaging mistake. On the one hand, studies by British scientists have shown that 92% of respondents are ready to forgive treason, and on the other, we are talking about European men with suppressed self-identification and artificially reduced levels of masculinity. Domestic representatives of the stronger sex react to treason much more strongly.

It should be noted that the concept of treason is individual for everyone. For some it is enough, and while others are ready to forgive "accidental" physical betrayal, but do not accept spiritual betrayal. In any case, the desire of a man to be the best and the only one in the eyes of his companion suddenly collides with the realization that the woman has found someone better. Realizing that the existing relationship has absolutely no meaning for her, a wounded representative of the stronger sex, if, under the pressure of circumstances, can come to terms with this fact, will never return to the previous openness and trust.

Love forgives everything

The stereotype of the endless generosity and patience of a man in love is rather dangerous, since a woman convinced of its truth may think that everything is allowed for her in a relationship. Undoubtedly, at the initial stages, a man is ready to endure any trials, but who can argue that in a few years in a similar situation he will not get his diary and re-read the entries made long ago?
On the other hand, the situation is not at all so fatal: normal men tend to forgive in response to a sincere and informed request, and the list of really deadly sins is not so long. It is enough to avoid what men never forgive women - and the rest two lovers can always cope with.

... Whenever you are ready to utter a phrase to your chosen one that includes the phrases "you are wrong", "and the neighbor has a better car", "the nail should have been hammered higher", get ready that the answer may be a dejected silence, an image of offended virtue and other types of demarche ...

And all because with one tiny remark, you risk striking a blow to male pride. It would seem that avoiding unwanted moments is as easy as shelling pears - not to say or do anything that could hurt a gentle man's soul. But in practice it turns out that this very soul is truly unlimited, wherever you step, you step on its holy boundaries. Psychologists only nod in agreement - they say, yes, there is such a topic: boys are born triumphants and Caesars, and any doubt about their consistency is interpreted as a premeditated crime. A small nuance: the actions and words of the fair sex are a hundred times more offensive than similar actions on the part of men. Because when a colleague Voldemar says: “Sergo, it's time to put your car in the junk,” he is simply an envious, fool, or his sense of humor is clumsy. But God forbid the girl to quote the same thing: this means that she does not love, does not respect, met another and is looking for a reason for a quarrel. As you can see, it is impossible to give clear instructions such as “do not mention Alexander the Great and Andrei Arshavin with him and don’t wear” it is impossible, because the subject can get mad because of the innocent: “Oh, where did you get these funny sandals? My grandfather loved to flaunt them at the dacha. " Therefore, we will only name the most dangerous moments for male pride and offer "anti-Soviet" - anti-advice that will make it easy to make sure that "wow, but the method works!"

Indifference

It is also ignorance, it is inattention. Puts a man out of himself only on the condition that he has a trump interest in the young lady and goes out of his way, trying to attract attention to himself. Sometimes the method can be used by young ladies consciously, even in the presence of mutual sympathy - "and so that you don't think a lot about yourself." It was on the indifferent look of the damsel that many celebrity supermen bought into: when a crowd of fans and admirers roared around, one calmly asked "And you, forgive me, who?" On her something and crush, as they say. In a word, the self-esteem of a gentleman always suffers when the situation arises "he has an eye to her, she is sideways to him."

Anti-Council: Realizing that the gentleman favors you, since he has taken the manner of inviting you in and looking with an immodest look, we assume coldness, we make a skeptical face. It is not forbidden to specify at every opportunity: "Sorry, I forgot your name again." We try not to get out of the image of the Snow Queen, when one day he parades past with another.

Indirect criticism

This is generally elementary: respond unflatteringly about any of his interests, doubt the fidelity of his beliefs (the latter is strongly discouraged if a copy of Che Guevara or Vladimir Zhirinovsky is in front of you - he will shoot or spit). The logic is simple: if you said that only infantile idiots can watch this film ten times in a row, and the chosen one was just sitting down to watch it for the ninth time, you can be sure that he will suspect something was wrong and worry. Well, he will be offended, how can it be without it. You can indirectly criticize anything, even socks. For example: “In our school, the mathematics teacher wore these, only in a diamond. Well, Ivan Semyonitch Sapogov ... A sort of drunken intellectual. "

Anti-Council: Seeing that the man is again hovering at the computer and is trying to pass the ninth level, gluing a model of an airplane or drawing tanks, we come closer and ask as dismissively as possible: “How can you do this nonsense? This is for the defective. " We move away, watch the reaction.

Direct criticism

The word is right, even explaining is stupid. Men can say as much as they like that they have nothing against constructive criticism, but even the most obvious impartialness (“wow, how your bald head has widened!”) In the mouth of a lady who is not indifferent to them becomes a terrible, blatant tactlessness. Naturally deliberate.

Anti-Council: We start a heart-to-heart conversation with the subject, call him a loser, remember that he is doing everything he does and "his ears are cold." We admire the effect produced and get used to the response demonstrative silence for three days.

Comparison is not in his favor

Comparing men, of course, is possible. But preferably with the same Macedonian and Arshavin, Apollo, Bruce Willis, etc. And only in one context: your counterpart has the same strategic talent, masculine charisma and a beautiful body, from the back and in the dark can easily be confused. And the comparison is absolutely unacceptable: “But where are you to Bruce Willis! From you Arshavin, like from Soso Pavliashvili - a hockey player! Put the ball down and go fields geraniums! "

Anti-Council: Male pride will whine offended if you arrogantly say in front of your husband: "And our neighbor has a better car than you." It is strictly forbidden to say the same about a neighbor's wife.

Valuable guidance

We accept it as an axiom: a man from the moment of birth knows that "cheerful - you need to speak more cheerful, cheerful - more fun", that nails are hammered in, and screws are screwed in. And God forbid you to climb arm in arm with advice: "Hold the hammer at an angle of 120 degrees!" Because any tseu is regarded the same way: “Why are you holding me for a fool ?! Have I really lived to be 30 (40.50, 100) years old and don't know how to sculpt a snow woman correctly ?! "

Anti-Council: We are waiting for the next joint trip by car, we comfortably sit in the passenger seat, from the depths of which we do not forget to shout: “Vitalik, the movements are smoother, you will tear off the steering wheel now! Do not drive, where are you driving, in a hurry to the cemetery? " We are not surprised if he says that next time you will go only in the trunk, tied up and with a sealed mouth.

Taunts

Anyone who shows us a man who is ready to admit that he does not have a sense of humor is guaranteed an incentive prize. Literally everyone assures that in terms of ironic remarks they are Zhvanets, Zadornovs, Ilfs and Petrovs. However, if the joke is addressed to the gull-entertainer, be sure - he will be offended. Because "I'm not a little boy to tease and laugh at me!"

Anti-Council: We find a photo where the gentleman, then still a student of the eighth grade of high school, decided to let go, therefore, he was captured with a hairdo "square to the ears." We laugh loudly, shouting: "You look like Mireille Mathieu in childhood!" We rush to calm down the sharply frowned citizen and assure us that we didn’t think anything bad.

Diminutive nicknames

This is a paradox, the author laments, but is forced to state a fact. We women love words like "sun, bunny, kitten, fish." And men hate them to the same extent. If your Busik doesn’t say anything out loud against the “busik”, it’s all the same - secretly gnashing his teeth, he is such a goat.

Anti-Council: We catch our five-year-old nephew, squeeze in our arms, saying: "Oh you, my sweetheart, oh you, my little one!" We are convinced of the above, when the kid breaks free from captivity with a cry: "I am not small, I am big!" You see, and we warned - the goats have this "problem" since childhood.

Sex bummer

Pa-bam! We got almost to the top of the charts. Because a man, although he grimaces, will endure ridicule, play with nodules, but swallow criticism. But everything related to intimacy is terra sancta for him, and hooliganism on this sacred land is more dear to him. It is impossible to list all aspects of sexual relations where male pride is capable of incurring irreparable losses. Because entirely contradictions and inviolable taboos. Judge for yourself: the refusal of closeness to a man offends, he can justify him only if the partner has a through wound in the head. Since she is guided by the rule: "does not want sex with me = does not love = she has another." At the same time, try to tell your boyfriend: "There is only horizontal relationship between us, in principle, it is enough to limit ourselves to communication" close the curtains "and" thank you, everything was great. " God, his indignation will be comparable to the power of the Eyjafjallajokull volcano. Because, it turns out, you see in him only an object of sex pleasures, you don’t care about his feelings, and in general, it’s offensive. Those who agree on no obligation and seem to be without feelings, deep down in their hearts are sure: “She loves me anyway. He's just hiding. "

In addition to the fact that it is undesirable for men to refuse, but it is also impossible to reduce everything only to sex, there is an inexhaustible list of prohibitions. Let's name the most famous: you can't scoff at his dignity (you know what), you can't remember your ex-lovers and conduct a comparative analysis aloud, you can't command at the moment of truth and give instructions. Yes, and to criticize what happened in bed, they say, it happened better - it's generally impossible. If you plan to return to this one. Because men from such resumes become overgrown with complexes and prefer to bypass the roundabout way too frank madam.

Anti-Council: There will be no advice. Because there is bed etiquette, because men are alive and vulnerable. And if, purely from an experiment, "pour a bullet" about his sex capabilities, it means sowing complexes and insecurity in a person. Be sure, your followers will not thank you for this. In a word, at least for the sake of female solidarity, let's leave male pride alone.

Treason

“... there is no shorter word,” sang Grigory Leps. The word is short, but the consequences are a wagon and a small cart. On our scale, cheating, the preference of another man is the absolute leader. Of the consequences: minimum - knocking the soil out from under your feet for a while, maximum - a distorted fate. After all, when you are not needed by the most beloved person, everything else loses its meaning, male pride is not just wounded, it is atomized into atoms. Don't expect anti-advice.

So, you are convinced that male pride extends much wider than from Kaliningrad to Vladivostok? And what to do with its owner, put sirtaki in the center and dance around it? Desirable. And a man also needs support, faith in his strength, approval and praise. Well, and at the same time love and fidelity - there is no way without it.

Male pride is that area of ​​consciousness, touching which you can undermine faith in yourself and completely destroy the priorities set. It does not matter whether the ego of the stronger sex was hurt, intentionally or unintentionally. But if such situations are repeated often, one can speak with a high degree of certainty about the imminent death of the union. Even the calmest men who resignedly obey women sooner or later come to a decision to break off relations. Experienced specialists give their recommendations on how not to hurt a man's ego.

The essence of the concept

Male pride is formed throughout a man's life. A representative of the stronger sex is born to become a conqueror, protector and breadwinner. Nature created him strong and courageous, able to find a worthy partner for procreation, to protect her encroachments of other applicants, and also to provide a woman with a roof over her head and food for food. These functions are priority for any male individual and do not depend on his upbringing and desires. Everything is laid down by nature in the mind of a guy, so the slightest violation of boundaries or ignorance of his main functions on the part of a woman is perceived with hostility.

The main types of woman's behavior

There are two ways to hurt a man's pride. This is a deliberate and unconscious provocation on the part of a woman. The first and second options are fundamentally different from each other:

1. Deliberate provocation. This is the style of behavior of a woman who tries to keep everything under her control. She sees everything and understands perfectly well that her remarks or stinging clarifications are unpleasant for a man. By doing this on purpose, the girl achieves the complete destruction of the man as a person, in order to establish her own unspoken rules. A woman mistakenly believes that in this way she can keep her faithful next to her for a long period. A man will consider himself completely dependent on her and will not go anywhere. We'll have to disappoint the lady, because sooner or later the guy will find the strength in himself and will certainly break free from oppression. The only excuse may be a situation when a woman did not value the relationship and specially hurt the male pride in order to part as soon as possible.
2. Unintentional provocation. We are talking about the wrong behavior of a woman who is trying to increase her self-esteem at the expense of her partner. She is confident that she is right and does not notice the moment when she begins to overstep the line of what is permissible. At the same time, the girl sincerely loves the guy and does not understand what exactly is doing wrong. Most often, such a relationship ends in parting, and both partners experience severe disappointment. To prevent this from happening, you should consider the most common mistakes in the behavior of the fair sex.

Mistake number 1. Remarks in case of strangers

To the question of how to infringe on male pride, without even noticing it, there is one answer: to constantly make comments to the guy in the presence of strangers. Some women naively believe that for the best effect and motivation for action, a man needs to be shamed in front of friends or relatives. For example, a guy does not bring a very large salary or forgets (or does not know how) to fix the plumbing in the house. The girl voices her claims so that the partner would feel ashamed, and upon returning home, literally from the doorway, he began to troubleshoot or look for a new job.

It's safe to say that a man will never do this. Even if he considers the remark correct, consent will infringe on his male pride. He will fundamentally and defiantly do the opposite, since strangers learned about his insolvency, and his second half became the initiator of the whole action.

How to avoid such a mistake

Never voice your claims in front of strangers, do not make comments, do not pull back. This behavior looks unworthy, since it offends not only the beloved man, but also all outsiders. Nobody likes to be present at personal "showdowns". A smart decision would be to praise your man or even attribute to him those achievements that do not yet exist. For example, say (if asked about it) that while the salary is small, but the guy is doing everything to increase it. The man simply did not have time for the broken plumbing, he would fix the tap next weekend. Be sure that your faithful will try to justify the trust placed in him and this very minute he will begin to correct the situation.

Mistake # 2. Ignoring a man's decisions

If you constantly challenge or simply ignore the decisions of a representative of the stronger sex, a blow to male pride will be guaranteed. A man always pretends to be the head of the family, and this is normal according to all generally accepted canons. He is obliged to support his family and do the most difficult work. But what if this function is constantly not performed by him, and the woman is forced to pull everything on herself? Even this serious situation does not give a woman the right not to listen to the point of view of her partner. If she neglects his advice and focuses only on her decisions, the guy will stop taking the initiative altogether. He will decide that he is being neglected as a man and will go looking for those women from whom he can get recognition.

Never argue with a man about his point of view or impose your ideas. He sees the situation in his own way and has every right to do so. If the guy's proposal is absurd and there is no way to agree with him, you need to connect all your feminine charm and tactfully offer your version. By loyally explaining all the advantages of your choice, you can get a stunning result. The guy decides that this idea came to him. Do not disappoint him, let him think so, but you can give yourself "excellent" for the wise behavior of a loving partner.

Mistake # 3. Remembering former lovers

The reaction, by which it will be clearly seen that the man's pride has hurt, will follow after the mention of the former lover. This can manifest itself in the form of upset, irritation, and even aggression. Any man at heart is an owner, and it is terribly painful for him to realize that other men loved his woman. Memories that the previous one was good can trigger the onset of inferiority complexes. Talking about how bad it was with your ex will be less painful, but still unpleasant. Constant comparisons will surely lead to a breakup.

You should not voice your memories of something that is long gone, as it looks unconvincing. If it was so good with your ex, why are you still not together? Or did his image become perfect after breaking up? You need to understand that such memories hurt the current partner and irritate his ego. Girls need to put themselves in the shoes of their boyfriend, and it is recommended to return to the past only as needed. It will not work to cause healthy jealousy, you can only harm the current relationship.

Mistake # 4. Making fun of men

Wounded male pride arises due to ridicule from a woman. Each representative of the stronger sex has memories from childhood. He was small and did not know how much, he had to comprehend everything gradually. It's about strength, courage, experience. Today the guy wants to feel like a brave defender, and he wants to forget the periods of insolvency forever. That is why it is very painful for him to realize that the woman he loves sees his weaknesses. The man feels humiliated and begins to defend himself. A simple, unobtrusive joke can cause serious conflict (not to mention serious things).

A simple remark in a joking manner can create a situation where male pride is hurt. Psychologists advise what to do for a woman who did not want to offend her lover. You should not focus on the joke or repeat it twice; you need to translate the topic of conversation as correctly as possible. Show with all your appearance that the conversation has a humorous form and in no way pretends to be sarcasm. In order not to offend your man in the future, you need to be extremely attentive to the words. The categorical prohibition lies on the topic of appearance, discussion of his family members, intimate opportunities, favorite hobbies, etc. Jokes on this topic in any form lead to conflicts or even partings.

Mistake # 5. Woman's authoritarian behavior

Very often, the fairer sex forget about their mission and try to completely take the reins of government into their own hands. It so happens that with her commanding ambitions, a woman hurt male pride and did not even notice it. This usual habit of considering exclusively one's own point of view, disregarding the opinion of a partner, suppressing it morally leads to significant exacerbation of relations.

A man seeks to protect his beloved, dreams of being her only salvation in all situations. And she does not even allow him to take care of herself, because she only prefers to decide when and to what extent she needs it.

Do not switch roles, as this will not lead to good. A man will endure the suppression of his ego for the time being: either he will not stand it and leave, or he will turn into a spineless person. Such a development of the situation will definitely not suit the girl, since she does not have enough strength to perform male functions. If you want to see your relationship harmonious, it is worth each of the partners to stay in their positions and not to climb into someone else's territory.

Mistake # 6. Clarifying the relationship

The fair sex is very fond of sorting things out. As a result of multiple conversations, a woman realizes that she has hurt male pride. What to do in a situation when the partner does not want to find out at all who is right and who is wrong? A woman should understand that the psychology of a man is fundamentally different from a woman's logic. The guy is used to acting, not reasoning, and all discussions of personal problems seem ridiculous and meaningless to him. He wants to hear a call for concrete action, not listen to multiple complaints.

What to do in this case?

If a woman is a lover, she needs to constantly be ready for mutual confrontation with a partner. For example, she wants to talk about a topic of interest to her, which concerns the analysis of the past not very good situation. The man is categorically against "wasting time on stupid conversations." The girl begins to insist on the conversation, get nervous, insult or touch the partner's pride. Such clarifications lead to inevitable separation. Therefore, girls should remember that the analysis of events and feelings can be entrusted to a friend or mother, but not to their beloved, since he will not endure a large number of conversations.

Mistake # 7. Manipulation

Male pride is hurt when a guy realizes that he is being manipulated. Each representative of the stronger sex can apply many efforts to obtain a certain result. He tries to look after, help, pay attention to the girl and fulfill all her whims in order to achieve his own goal. Usually this goal is intimate relationships, since (according to the man) sex is proof of a woman's love. He perceives any signs of attention from the girl as a call to action. But when a guy realizes that he was being used, the whole world goes out from under his feet. This painfully affects his pride, as it infringes on his manhood.

Do not humiliate male pride. If there are no plans to develop a serious relationship, the girl should behave accordingly. It is not recommended to accept gifts, ask for help, or behave ambiguously (overly flirtatious, hinting, or flirting). Otherwise, you can provoke resentment or even aggression from the guy and hear a lot of impartial about yourself. The wounded pride of a man will allow him to be very inventive in his revenge, so you should be wary of such actions.

Conclusion

Women who dream of harmonious long-term relationships with the stronger sex need to know how to amuse the male pride of their chosen ones. To do this, you need to understand them, treat them with respect, praise them more often and love them more. No guy will remain indifferent to a girl who appreciates him. But at the same time, do not forget about self-esteem. After all, only equal, tender and sensitive relationships will maintain the fire of love throughout life.