Bad character: causes and how it manifests. Bad character traits

“I am a strong person, and it’s not easy with me,” “It’s hard for me to please,” “I’m used to everything happening in my opinion.”  These are phrases of capricious girls spoiled by parental or male attention, who consider themselves the center of the universe. They are used to dominating weak, dependent men or simply have an extremely eccentric, non-caring character. They are very controversial, and they are scandalous or show offense for any trifles. Men are required to obey completely, and when they achieve this, they immediately stop perceiving him as a man. Often they either don’t have girlfriends at all, or they have one, which they also dominate and which merge all their negative. Anyone who is close to such a girl should immediately see not only her greatness and perfection, but also realize her own worthlessness.

The girl immediately warns you that she will break you on the knee and try to put you in a dependent position, and that she has a complex, conflicting character. There really is one, as well as a host of complexes that force her to prove to herself and others that she is the queen and men are trash.

For solid, self-confident men is dual. She respects them as colleagues, mentors, leaders, etc., but in a personal relationship, such a girl will either try to break the character of a man and turn the latter into a “rag,” or break up with a screech and scandal if he does not break. An example of such a girl is given in paragraph 20 of the chapter "Literature review, or twenty-one advice on how to lose a man."

Although there were cases when a girl understood that a man is still stronger and firmer, after which, being afraid to lose (like him), she stopped running around with her imaginary crown and became normal. A similar case is described in Shakespeare's play The Taming of the Shrew.

Often there is a constant mention of their own shortcomings. “I’m unpredictable,” “I’m just unbearable,” “I have a difficult character,” “it’s hard to get along with me,” “I don’t know how to be faithful,” “when I’m right, I’m not silent,” “I am very stubborn” .. Yes, anything, starting from "I do not like to come on time" to "I love spending other people's money." Said once or twice and in a playful conversation, such phrases are a kind of coquetry, flirting, sending "take care of me" or "well, say that I'm not like that, but a good girl." However, with regular serious repetition, they are a kind of warning so that “they don’t complain later”. Very often pronounced with a confident voice, with bravado, which means "Yes, I am. And you have to put up with it! ” The girl is well aware of her complexes, “cockroaches”, eccentricity, conflict, infidelity, rudeness and other vices, but she is proud of these qualities in her soul, otherwise she would have been corrected long ago. Because of them, she had many quarrels with her former young people, and now she is immediately inclined to talk about her vices, so that later she could justify herself “I told you everything right away, no one forced you to continue relations with me” or “and no one promised that it would be easy. " Such girls do not know how to restrain themselves, and do not consider it necessary. To compromise with the young man they were not taught either. Some girls sincerely consider themselves so irresistible that others, in their opinion, should swallow all the nasty things that “princesses” do to them. By the way, they do not differ in tolerance for other people's vices, to put it mildly.

In any case, no indication of their negative side does not give the girl the right to nasty things. Remember this. And no excuses like "I warned you would be so" should not confuse you. If she does you disgusting things, why should you endure? In a conversation, it makes sense to gently pull the girl, for example, with the phrase "found something to be proud of." She will understand that you are not at all enthusiastic about her bravado with your vices.

In rare cases, girls with extremely low self-esteem and depression constantly talk about their negative aspects. These are those who want to get acquainted with a man for a long time, but for various reasons, the relationship either does not start at all, or they leave her after a short time. Such girls can be distinguished by other signs of low self-esteem and depression: low mood, complaints about myself and on others, on their misfortunes, the inability to maintain any conversation other than their failures (when changing the subject, it slides back to the “beloved”). In this case, self-incrimination is nothing but a sign of depression. If you have a kind, responsive character and are not afraid of constant complaints, bad mood, outbursts of irritability for nothing, then you have a chance to help a person, and it is possible that you will become her savior and win her love and devotion.

For example, because he has his own point of view. And if this person sees that pressure is exerted on him, and not a request, he begins to rebel.

If you have seen such a person, you can imagine that it’s hard for him to re-educate himself. And all third-party attempts to remake it - do not bring any success.

Teamwork \u003d\u003d\u003d

Work is a special place when the end result of work depends on the activity of the whole team. This is especially evident in business. When everyone receives a thing, then he does something with it and transfers it to another employee.

It’s like on a conveyor belt. Suppose this is a factory. And you work in the sales department of finished products. It depends on you whether what the factory manufactures will be sold, whether the workers of the plant (turners, security guards, storekeepers, drivers, technicals, ...) will receive on time the salary they expected.

External manifestations of the "absence" of the employee at his post \u003d\u003d\u003d

It happens that some employee falls out of the general rhythm of the team. Take a look around. Look closely at those in your group who stand apart. He does not show initiative. There is no interest in his eyes. He speaks monotonously only when he is asked to say something. The workplace is often distracted from fulfilling their duties.

Even if this person could do a lot, even when he needs a lot of money, he will not be able to force himself to turn on at full power.

You can expect anything from such a person, even the fact that he will drop everything and leave his workplace. It doesn’t matter if he works as a lathe operator on a machine tool, as a security guard, or even as a shop manager. The benefit of the law allows the employee to drop everything and leave in the middle of the working day. He will not incur any material and especially criminal liability. In addition to some professions, such as a doctor or fireman.

How the world of submission works

Suppose this happened to you. It is you who have no interest in the job. When your well-being depends only on you. Because, even if you force yourself to go to this work through force, the time will come and you will be replaced by another employee.

And this does not happen because your boss changes, or he begins to treat you worse. You keep going to work. Just every year requirements to performance  workplace tighten. Productivity is the amount of product produced at your workplace. For a turner, this is the number of Parts delivered to the warehouse. For an employee of the sales department - the number of received and paid Orders from customers. The employee is required more and more completed and fully completed actions at his workplace.

And this implies an increase in labor productivity. A good example is the work of accounting. Where up to 10 accountants worked 20 years ago, today it is doing it - one or two! Where 20 employees of the sales department worked - 2-3 remained.

What do you do?

If you are not lucky at this workplace. You do not like the very idea of \u200b\u200bgetting up in the morning and going to this hard labor ... Change your bosses, or become a boss yourself. Why spoil the nerves of yourself and people? The boss is not to blame that you have such a character.

But, with subordinates you will have to teach yourself communication. You may have to go through trainings on "resolving communication problems."

In any case, there are no hopeless situations. The people who inhabit the Earth before us - all this has already passed and we have left the rules of normal communication.

Almost any situation is solvable if you have a successful coach.

Is it possible to become a coach for myself

We know many cases when a person did his own operations on his body. They like to show this in action films. Although today, even a local therapist is prohibited from suturing small wounds. He must call an ambulance and apply a bandage.

Of course, the training specialists will tell you that you yourself cannot bring yourself into working condition, here you need a specialist in psycho-training.

However, if you really want to, although it is impossible, you can do it. And here are some tips - how?

1. The same books can be read in different ways. You can go over your eyes throughout the book and say - okay, I understand everything. Or feel  that nothing is clear and discard this book.
2. The following is the observation of the work of successful people, the result in which you would like to achieve yourself. For example, you saw how quickly the leader approves the work plan of his subordinates for a week. It’s not a sin to ask, which allows you to quickly sign a work plan.
3. All successful, enthusiastic people like to count, write down the results. If a person is very motivated or hurt, he will keep records. The athlete has an achievement diary. A person with high blood pressure regularly measures and records a pressure reading. Get your day-to-week revenue tracking system in place. Inundate yourself or an accountant to do this without gaps.

Conclusions and decision on credentials

If you see that according to your credentials your interlocutors have more time to listen to you carefully, for example, the average amount of time watching your videos has increased from 3 minutes to 5, then you are going in the right direction.

If your income has fallen - quickly get the source of falling income. Do not listen to those who speak of a crisis in the economy.

The crisis is for bad employees to go bankrupt, and good ones to be taken away from bad customers and to increase the number of customers and paid orders.

Bad character makes being in the company of a person uncomfortable, uncomfortable. There is anxiety and tension next to him. He does not like people, he treats them arrogantly, servilely. Almost never compromises, can change his opinion, behavior, decision without any reason. Stubborn, loves to dominate, while not taking responsibility. After communicating with such a person, fatigue and inner emptiness are felt. There are other signs by which you can recognize people with a complex disposition.

Bad Reasons

Each of the needs below is not in itself bad. But in a hyperbolized form, it leaves a negative imprint on the character.

The need to have a strong partner nearby

A person refuses to take responsibility, seeks to shift it to the shoulders of others. To do this, he chooses a husband, wife, parents, colleagues, friends. At first, the “assistant” may not understand that they are using it while he will support, help, take responsibility, a manipulator with a bad character will try on the role of the victim. This will be expressed in such scenarios:

• i can’t find a job, therefore I’m not looking for it;
• everyone around me does not understand, therefore I will conflict with everyone;
• i don’t know how to cook (clean up, make money, etc.), so do it for me.

The need to rule over others

It is expressed in the need to dominate over everyone, to control other people's actions. A person seeks to subjugate not only people, but also situations, because everything always strives to take control of everything. He will do everything himself, since he does not trust others, he will double-check everything. He is afraid of everything that he cannot take control of. Uncertainty is his greatest discomfort. Spontaneity is not inherent in him. He feels contempt for weak people.

The need to use and manipulate others

A person with a heavy character can perceive others as a means to achieve their own goals. The problems of the rest are not interesting to him if he is refused help or does not agree with him, takes it with hostility, sometimes sincerely does not understand why he is refused to indulge. He has the art of manipulation. In case of non-receipt of benefits, it considers time spent with a person wasted.

The need for ongoing approval

A man needs his actions to be approved, it is important for him to please everyone. If someone remains unhappy with him, he will feel uncomfortable. Praise is more important than profit. A man can act to his own detriment only if he hears pleasant words addressed to him. He plays the role of a savior, he is often manipulated, but he refuses to admit it, believing that they need him and he does a good deed. But if praise is not received, first the person becomes a victim, starting to feel sorry for himself, and then to the prosecutor, making a claim.

The reason for this behavior lies in low self-esteem. From hostility in turn can become depressed. They tend to suppress feelings, often live the way others want, not understanding their own desires.

The need for admiration, narcissism

Nobody likes these people except themselves. A certain fictional image is created in their head, according to which they are ideal. These people are narcissistic, wear a mask behind which there is nothing significant. Self-esteem is overstated. Daffodils admire themselves and constantly exalt their actions, love to brag, hyperbolize their significance. They are egocentric, the world must revolve around them, if you do not agree with them, you can immediately fall into the category of enemies.

The need to be the best

Man is constantly striving to be better than the rest. He tries to be impeccable in everything from little things to big things. This is the image of the elder who studies best, tries to please all teachers to be praised, and at the same time belittles the merits of others, so that they look brighter against their background. Often this is not about real achievements, but about fictional or bloated ones.

The most important fear is defeat. Even the smallest loss is painful. Most often, such people are workaholics who use work to polish their perfection. They absolutely do not accept criticism, it unsettles them. Vengeance awakens in them, a desire to humiliate others, just to regain leadership.

The need for prestige

Such people are dependent on how they look in the eyes of others. They strive to look successful, this is not always true. They are characterized by snobbery. They are fans of brands, such people will spend the last money on a new iPhone model and at the same time they will eat doshirak. They communicate only with the "chosen ones", whom they consider significant to emphasize their status. To interlocutors whose status is lower than them, they are highly regarded. Often suffer from self-addiction, dependent on social networks.

The need to be "invisible"

These people avoid life, are content with little. Any changes for them are associated with leaving the comfort zone. They do not believe that they can improve anything in their lives. Self-doubt is so developed that a person cannot even admit that he has the resources for development, but he is simply afraid to fulfill his desires. On the one hand, they are calm with them; they do not stick out their “I”. But such a person will not enter society, he will hinder the development of a friend or a second half, stubbornly refuses any innovations and it is difficult to convince him.

Severe personality types

Bad character can be divided into several types.

Aggressive

Main features:

• hostile mood;
• propensity to conflict;
• manifestation of aggression;
• increased demands.

Man inflating conflicts. Trying to control everything around. He says everything directly, believes that his innocence should be recognized by all. He sees the goal and sees no obstacles; he is ready to go over the heads if necessary. Control and power are what he values \u200b\u200bthe most.

Operating

Main features:

• obsession;
• constant criticism;
• desire to suppress the rest.

It is believed that everyone should indulge him. His needs and desires are higher than others. He openly manipulates people, benefiting from acquaintances, communication. They differ from the aggressive type in that they are more plastic, think flexibly, play on other people's weaknesses. The schemer, likes to keep silent, to keep in ignorance, uncertainty always turns in his favor.

Avoiding

Main features:

• avoids everything from responsibility to conflict;
• secretive;
• doesn’t trust anyone.

A man lives in a shell, does not allow anyone to himself, keeps a distance in communication. Always suspicious, distrusts even close people, waiting for a trick from everything and everyone. Sometimes cynical and aggressive, especially if someone is trying to cross his personal boundaries. Relying on him is difficult, since it is impossible to say what is on the mind of such a person.

In their pure form, types are extremely rare, because various bad traits can manifest themselves in people. The concept of bad character is also subjective. For example, if a person does not do what another person would like, his temper can be called complex. You need to understand that the character becomes complex as a result of education or accumulated experience.

Studying a person’s personality, whether it’s a woman, a man or a child, one can always reveal a bad tendency to behave unseemly due to, for example, mistakes in upbringing and psychological trauma. But even bad heredity can be secured. Consider the main negative traits of a human character.

Authoritarianism

The desire to dominate in everything, ignoring any needs of other people. An explicit or hidden demand for submission and discipline from everyone with whom a person intersects. Someone else's opinion is not taken into account, any disobedience is suppressed without trying to find a mutually beneficial solution. It is believed that this is a typical negative feature of the Russian character.

Aggressiveness

The desire to conflict with others. In early childhood, this is an obligatory negative trait of the character of a child studying ways to protect his interests. For an aggressive adult, provocative, sometimes knowingly false statements, increased tone, and insults are typical. Sometimes attempts are made to influence the opponent physically.

Gambling

The painful desire to achieve the goal, regardless of the size of the risks, ignoring their own and others' logical arguments about the excess of spending over the value of the desired result. It often causes fatal situations, loss of health or significant financial loss.

Greed

Pathological desire for personal material gain in any situation. Getting profit at all costs becomes the only source of positive emotions in life. At the same time, the duration of pleasant sensations from the benefits received is extremely short-lived - because of the uncontrolled constant desire to be enriched even more.

Lethargy

The absence of an emotional reaction to most external stimuli due to a temperament or due to a protective reaction of the body to stress. It is one of the reasons for the impossibility of achieving even simple goals because of the inability or unwillingness to concentrate and make strong-willed efforts.

Carelessness

Negligent fulfillment of obligations due to unwillingness to act according to the rules already known to all or a misunderstanding of the algorithms necessary for the quick and least costly achievement of existing goals. This is often a typical negative trait of a woman who has just escaped from excessive parental care.

Indifference

A real or consciously demonstrated lack of interest in a particular subject, object, event, or duties due to congenital emotional coldness, experienced severe stress, or, instilled in infancy, feelings of superiority over people with a different social status, different faith, nationality, race.

Irresponsibility

A position consciously chosen, imposed during upbringing, or caused by moral immaturity, to reject real awareness of the consequences of one’s own actions, unwillingness to make decisions that affect one’s and others ’quality of life. In difficult everyday situations, active actions are not carried out because of the expectation that the problem will resolve itself.

Facelessness

The absence of individual traits, due to which an individual subject is easily “lost” in the total mass of people like him. In the process of communication, the “gray man” does not cause sympathy because of obsession with uninteresting topics, the team is uninitialized, boring, afraid of innovations and strongly opposes them.

Ruthlessness

Emotional indifference to other people's troubles, inability or unwillingness to condole, sympathize with people in particular and living beings in general, experiencing physical or emotional pain. Sometimes this is intentional inhumanity in actions leading to suffering and even death of objects selected as victims.

Unceremoniousness

A deliberate or unconscious violation of the rules, the sequence of actions taken in a given society in relation to a specific situation. The reason for the intentional swagger may be the desire to provoke a conflict or draw attention to your own person, unconscious - education errors, emotional immaturity.

Talkativeness

A painful need to constantly participate in a dialogue with one or more interlocutors, despite the content of the conversation, the degree of enthusiasm for it by the other participants, the appropriateness of the conversation. The main goal of such an interlocutor is not to obtain new information, but the role of the narrator in contact with someone. At the same time, he can disseminate the information that others would prefer to keep secret.

Windiness

Inability to keep any promises and take into account other people's interests, lack of ability to move for a long time in order to achieve one goal, the desire to constantly change the circle of friends and partners. The lack of principles and clear behavioral boundaries, the rapid fading of interest in a particular occupation, person.

Love of power

The passionate desire for control over everyone and the expectation of unquestioning submission, the desire for unlimited power, especially over the more educated and skillful. The rapture of one’s own superior position in situations where others are forced to seek help or seek protection, material support.

Suggestibility

In a pathological form, this is a subconscious tendency to perceive external-imposed behavior without one's own conscious comprehension and weighting of the results of one’s actions performed under the influence of someone else’s authority. However, reduced suggestibility can cause learning difficulties.

Vulgarity

Inability to find a balance between originality and vulgarity in communication, when choosing clothes, social landmarks and so on. For example, during a dialogue, the interlocutor communicates in raised tones, manners, does not disdain greasy jokes. When choosing an outfit, he prefers catchy things, and the components are often poorly combined with each other.

Stupidity

Inability or unwillingness to determine logically correct conclusions even from the simplest everyday tasks, a tendency to see a sound grain in pseudoscientific and populist statements, an inability to expose substantiated critical analysis of information from sources independently elevated to authoritative status.

Pride

Confidence in the social, moral, mental insignificance of others, inability to forgive for personal and other people's mistakes, denial of the possibility of the presence of worthy features in other subjects of society. It develops against the background of imbalances in education, personality degradation due to illness, immaturity of the individual, coupled with a high social status.

Rudeness

Reluctance to adhere to the polite format of communication with interlocutors accepted in normal society due to personality deformation due to illness, injury, stress or the frequent need to take a defensive position when encroaching on territory and rights. Typical manifestations: communication in high tones, rudeness, obscene language.

Greed, stinginess

The desire to minimize costs, even to the detriment of health, basic hygiene and common sense. The pathological pursuit of material stability can manifest itself in the form of a refusal to get rid of garbage, trash, and ignoring the legitimate requests of a loved one for the acquisition of basic necessities.

Cruelty

The desire to cause discomfort to living subjects for the sake of personal moral satisfaction. The impact on the victim can be both intangible - in the form of insults and refusal to satisfy some important emotional needs, and physical - through inflicting pain, torment, encroachment on life.

Forgetfulness

Inability to remember some data necessary in everyday life, a combination of actions to achieve a specific goal, an algorithm to start or turn off the device. It occurs due to age-related changes in the brain, information overload. It may be the result of a stressful situation that you want to forget.

Dependence

The desire to take pleasure in performing actions or using a certain substance even if the source of pleasant emotions is detrimental to health, relationships with others, leads to big money expenses, pushes for a crime because of the desire to reach “high”, in the absence of legal access to it.

Envy

Inability to enjoy any personal benefits, achievements, qualities. The tendency to constantly compare the values \u200b\u200bavailable to oneself and others. Moreover, the “crumbs” on the other side always seem larger, tastier and more desirable than their own “placers”. In a pathological form, it deprives one of cheerfulness, the ability to soberly evaluate one’s and others ’merits.

Complexion

Constantly belittling in his own eyes his own natural talents, trained abilities, denying the value of personal achievements, inability to force oneself to declare personal achievements among authoritative persons. It is formed due to overly strict education, psychological trauma or illness of the nervous system.

Tediousness

The habit of teaching everyone everywhere, discussing it many times on the same topic, despite the obvious lack of interest in it for people who are trying to draw into the dialogue. The reason lies in the pathological love of attention and endless conversations on any topic, even if the instigator of the conversation is a complete ignoramus in the topic under discussion.

Anger

An emotional manifestation of strong dissatisfaction with something, a guideline indicating the presence of conditions that are clearly uncomfortable for a person. In the absence of actions that eliminate the cause of the formation of feelings, over time, it can lead to the commission of an offense, so you should not ignore manifestations of anger.

Spoiling

It is a bad habit to demand the fulfillment of your desire as soon as possible, without taking into account the possibilities of the one to whom the claim is made. The refusal to control and restrain one’s own needs, to endure the slightest inconvenience and personally make emotional and physical efforts to achieve what one wants.

Laziness

Lack of desire to strain for personal needs, a tendency to spend leisure time idle days. The behavior traces the desire for comfort due to the work of others, a deep aversion to useful activity, even in minimal volumes. When applying for a job, this negative character trait for a resume should not be indicated.

Deceit

Conscious systematic uttering to the interlocutors of inaccurate information with a libelous purpose, for their own benefit or to mask personal mistakes in some activity. The pathological form is inherent in self-doubt individuals who try to impress others with fictional stories about themselves.

Hypocrisy

Fake assurances of love, sincere admiration and goodwill towards the interlocutor during a conversation with him. The purpose of such behavior is to fawn and desire to flatter for your own benefit, while hiding the true, perhaps even malicious sentiments in relation to the participant in the dialogue or the subject of the conversation.

Flattering

The tendency to excessive constant praise aloud of alien real and imaginary virtues, virtues, for the sake of their own selfishness. Obviously negative actions, acts of an influential person, specially whitewashed by a flatterer and voiced by him as the only right decision in the situation under consideration, can turn out to be exalted.

Curiosity

In a pathological form, this is the desire to find out information of interest regardless of decency, personal feelings of the respondents and the situation of the situation in which communication takes place. The cause of unhealthy curiosity is the painful desire to keep abreast of even those events that are not related to the interest.

Pettiness

The habit of attaching great importance to their insignificant statements, actions. The widespread sticking out of his imaginary achievements as opposed to the really important and heroic actions of those around him. Attention to ordinary details to the detriment of values, the desire to obtain reports on household expenses up to "one thousandth".

Vengeance

The tendency to focus personal attention on all minor and major troubles, everyday conflicts, far-fetched grievances, so that over time it is imperative to pay a hundredfold to each of the offenders. Moreover, the duration of the time period from the moment of receiving a real or imaginary insult does not matter.

Impudence

Unceremonious behavior in any situation, the desire to achieve the desired with minimal cost and "through the heads" of others. Such behavior is formed with improper upbringing, because of a difficult childhood or, conversely, because of spoilage, reinforcing the habit of always getting what you want at all costs.

Arrogance

The perception of the majority of those around as subjects of a deliberately lower category due to a fictitious difference in social status or a real discrepancy on material, national, racial or other grounds. The reason may be a defensive reaction to the wounding of pride in the past or imbalances in education.

Annoyance

Inability or unwillingness to independently deal with emerging problems, have fun or relax. The reason may lie in emotional immaturity, fear of loneliness, the desire to increase self-esteem due to the active participation in the lives of other people, even if they experience obvious discomfort from it and openly declare it.

Narcissism

Unreasonable and unfounded praise of oneself, self-love under any circumstances, the desire to embellish the results of one’s actions and the actions taken, selfishness, indifference not only to strangers, but also to close people, interest only in personal comfort and benefit.

Negligence

Reluctance to fulfill the undertaken or entrusted obligations in a quality manner, neglect of behavior with people in domestic or professional relationships, insufficient attention to trusted values, inability, due to poor education or personal deformation, to understand the importance of diligence when working on something.

Touchiness

Increased negative reaction to everyday turmoil due to hypertrophic egoism. It is because of him that I want the world to revolve at your feet, and those around, forgetting about their own needs, around the clock and year-round meet expectations: they were polite, generous and caring, striving to ensure someone else's comfort.

Limited

Confidence that a true picture of the world is available only to you, and other explanations of the structure of the universe and the principles of interaction between man and the environment are a complete invention of foolish bumpkins. It arises due to insufficient education, a congenital developmental defect that impedes the adequate assimilation of educational information.

Alarmism

The tendency to accept as reality the imaginary catastrophic consequences of any, even minor incidents in one's own life and the world as a whole. It is a manifestation of a bad education by a reinsurer, an excessively violent imagination or a disorder of the nervous system due to stress, illness.

Vulgarity

The penchant for elaborate outfits, demonstrations of real or ostentatious material security through the acquisition of unnecessary luxury goods. Or, and sometimes coupled with it, the enthusiasm for greasy jokes, obscene jokes, often voiced in an absolutely inappropriate atmosphere for the sake of evoking the feeling of awkwardness among the majority of listeners.

Irritability

A negative reaction to the stimulus, expressed in the excessive manifestation of emotions, the saturation of which does not correspond to the strength of the effect of an unpleasant factor for some reason. The cause of irritability can be external or internal, caused by congestion of the nervous system or depletion of the body by a disease.

Wastefulness

Inability to rationally spend income, including the desire to systematically or constantly make acquisitions for the sake of the process itself, and not with the aim of exploiting the purchased item or thing. It is based on the desire to feel like "the ruler of the world", to correspond to the status of a financially secure person.

Jealousy

Showing discontent or distrust of a subject that has a certain value for the jealous. It is expressed as a suspicion of infidelity or a greater emotional predisposition to another person (not only the spouse, but also the mother, sister, friend can be in the place of the accused - the list can be endless).

Self-eating

The habit of justifiably and unreasonably incriminating oneself in a multitude of sins of various sizes. For example, in insufficient attention to the performance of duties, although in reality at work or in a relationship a person gives all the best. Possible reasons: low self-esteem, actively supporting the environment concerned, perfectionism.

Self confidence

Unreasonable exaltation of their abilities, supposedly allowing you to cope with a specific or any task. It is the cause of bragging and risky actions, often committed with the rejection of safety rules, laws of physics and the arguments of logic. Based on inexperience, depending on the desire to live on the verge of a foul.

Weak will

Lack of ability to perform volitional effort for the sake of the desired goal or to confront the dangerous, illegal temptations, morally degraded individuals. The tendency to obey other people's decisions, even when they require serious sacrifices. Such a negative trait of a man’s character can make him the object of ridicule in the team.

Cowardice

Inability to resist the opponent due to insufficiently developed willpower, exposure to phobia. It can be expressed by fleeing from the place of some events due to an imaginary or real danger to one’s own health, life, despite the fact that other possible participants in the incident are at risk.

Vanity

The desire to receive praise for real and imaginary merits. The desire is primarily to have a positive image, and not be worthy of compliments. Indiscrimination as voiced approvals - flattery is also favorably received. Moreover, there is not always the ability to distinguish it from sincere statements.

Stubbornness

The desire to act only according to one’s own ideas about the fidelity of the chosen path, the rejection of authorities, ignoring well-known rules, purely because of the habit of acting the way he decided. Lack of ability to be flexible in a conflict of interest, unwillingness or inability to take into account the goals and capabilities of others.

Selfishness

Conscious self-love, the desire to live in comfort, regardless of the possible inconveniences resulting from this for others. Their interests are always extolled over the desires of other people, the opinions of the latter on this and other reasons are never taken into account. All decisions are based only on their own benefit.

A few years ago, I don’t remember on what occasion a friend of mine said that the soloists leave Evgeny Havtan because he has a heavy character. I have never been a fan of the Bravo group, and even more so of Eugene Havtan, but these words were put off in my head. I could not evaluate them then, and how can this be done? And recently I accidentally saw a part of the TV show about him and remembered about his "bad character". Reflections on this topic were not long in coming.

For some time now I have been attracted to people who, in the opinion of others, have a bad character. Perhaps this is because I myself often hear such statements addressed to me.

You have a bad character, my friend tells me, you often go for a break. But this did not stop her from working in my company and persuading me to open a joint business with her. Is it weird?

You have a bad character, my daughter tells me, and at the same time she does not get tired of being surprised at my great patience.

You have a bad character, my parents told me, and at the same time always and in everything trusted me. And according to them, they have never been ashamed or scared for me.

Well, back to the TV show, she was the most ordinary, her character talked about the history of the Bravo group or, one could say, about the business that he created.

In short, it all started with the fact that he met Zhanna Aguzarova, wrote songs, assembled a team, and success was not long in coming. She was a bright soloist and her departure, which over the years he could overestimate, then became a ruin for him. They untwisted her, the face of the group was her, and with her departure everything ended at one moment. Eugene Havtan came out of this state for a whole year.

As a consultant, I can say that a business model that was initially built incorrectly could then forever destroy it, of course, if the creator of the group did not have a “bad character”.

Then it will be repeated with him more than once, and apparently all because of a bad character. I will not go into details, I am not a historian of this group, but just a person who likes to be aware and for me this is just one example of an attitude towards people with a bad or can be strong character. In fairness, I note that not one of the former soloists of the Bravo group was more successful than in collaboration with Eugene Havtan.

If a person has the audacity to want something, and even does something, then those around him will surely rush to depreciate everything with the help of a banal assessment of his personality, saying he has a bad character.

Why? Could this desire to make society more homogeneous?